Friday, January 07, 2011
In the wake of my imminent 2-year Sparkversary at the end of this month, I've become aware of several things that I've gotten a bit misdirected on. It doesn't feel like I've fallen off the proverbial wagon, but just that my healthy two-year track has begun to start making the beginning of what can easily be a U-turn. Yikes! Rather than let that happen, I thought I'd blog about each issue that I need a direction correction on. Each one will begin with this paragraph and lead into the topic of the day.
Prior to these two years on SP, I hadn't blogged. Thus, I'd no idea as to the value that virtual friends would be.
At first, I thought it was nice to have so many nice people around to offer advice, support, and feedback on the journey. But it still seemed like a fairyland with not real people - just others in the ether.
However, it wasn't long before I'd come to understand how invaluable sparkfriends are. And they are very real in many ways. Not only do they provide all of the above-listed benefits, but there are other factors that have helped me.
As many of my friends know, these last few years have seen the loss of many loved ones. When I've read others' blogs, it has helped me to remember that I am not alone in my difficult times. We humans are all on this ship together and all have challenges of our own. NOT to say that misery loves company. That's not at all what I mean. But in my isolation due to loss, sadness and grief, reading others' blogs made me remember to clomp on - even if only baby steps.
I really like that spark site provides unconditional support. We have a common bond that is devoid of the typical societal stereotypes that sometimes barrier friendships. Doesn't matter our age, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, etc. It's very nice to not have to worry about anything but connect through our hearts in helping each other.
I've come to be thankful for particular angels that have emerged out of SP who literally came to my aid during my darkest hours. These are lifelong friendships made. Some friends have dropped off of SP throughout these two years, and I miss them. They also helped me along the way.
So, my direction correction has been one of thinking that virtual friends are not real life friends, to realizing that they are. And that they are sometimes more helpful than those in daily "real" life. I wish all of you lived nearby!
My appreciation to all of those in the past and present who have helped me. Wishing all of us a fabulous 2011.