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Craving Sanity

Monday, March 07, 2011

Well, this morning the scale said 125.8. I weigh exactly what I want to weigh. So why did I spend three days feeling bad, kicking myself, and overreacting to an 800 calorie splurge and subsequent 5 pound gain? I'm not sure. I know better.

When it comes to the scale I think it is not exaggerating to say I am nuts. But I am quite willing to become sane about it. To start, I am going to re-read the Beck chapter on preparing to weigh. Instead of preparing for my weight to be plus or minus 2 pounds, I'll prepare for it to be plus 6 pounds or minus 2 pounds. That should cover my usual swings. AND I'm going to continue paying the closest attention to my lowest weight of each month.

By the way, my 800 calories were not particularly high in sodium (mostly cereal bars), so I do know my upswings could be even higher. However, whenever I reach 3 pounds over my goal weight -- 129 pounds -- I'm going to be extra careful to eat properly. It won't hurt even if it is just an upswing.

I have considered tracking my food and staying off the scale altogether, but I don't think I'm ready for it. For one thing, I don't really know what my maintenance calorie range is for 126 pounds. I'm thinking it is probably around 1425-1725, but I would like to confirm it before I give up the scale. But I do crave sanity almost more than food!!

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    For what it's worth - I use my BMR of 1400 as my calorie range and I know that whatever calories I burn can be added to it for the top of my range. Simplicity is best.

My weight also fluctuates according to the calendar. Even when too old for TOM, our bodies still cycle and the weight will fluctuate.
Of course, binging doesn't help. emoticon

You have maintained for a year or more now, haven't you? Don't let this winter freak you out - in my travels it would seem 5 lbs is about the average weight gain for the winter and I know we will get it off again before next winter.

I can't give up my scale. I don't have to like what I see, but I have to accept and live with it.

Sanity is life!

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PEGGYANNSCH 3/8/2011 7:58AM

    I would keep on tracking your food and getting on the scale

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JHADZHIA 3/8/2011 12:25AM

    Please do remember that how many calories you need to maintain your weight also depends on how many calories you are burning with your exercise as well. Using Spark's Fitness and Nutrition Trackers in tandem as they were meant to be makes this calculation a snap as they do the math which is a very good thing for me.. I certainly have no interest in giving up my tracking, its so very useful..
I actually keep forgetting to weigh in. The scale no longer concerns me as I know exactly what I am doing to myself good or bad and have no excuses for any weight gains.
Good luck with this..

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JUDI_CUTIE 3/7/2011 9:42PM

    I think the scale is a good tool to help you know what is going on, but it is not the thing to FOCUS on because you want to think about things you can control, which is what you are doing (eating right and exercising). The scale sometimes has a mind of its own! (Of course, this morning, the scale had a right to be up three pounds after the way I ate this weekend at a fancy shmancy wedding!)

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WATERMELLEN 3/7/2011 8:40PM

    This "preparing to weigh" is for me as well one of the most difficult aspects of Beck -- and of weight maintenance in general. When I do NOT weigh every day I get quite "delusional" about my so called "weight maintenance" range and permit myself to get well over a 3-5 pound range - was probably 10 pounds over (ticker at 153, actual weight pre-Beck probably closer to 162-163). So I do need to weigh every day . . . but also to become more sane about reasonable weight fluctations.

And I know that the Beck distinction between "lowerst achieveable weight" and "lowest sustainable weight" is one that I've got to tackle . . . over the next weeks and months.

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CONTENTCHRIS 3/7/2011 8:23PM

    Maintain Phase emoticon You out to be jumping for the rafters! You made it! I so look forward to trying to figure out my maintain calories range as well. I would say to count your food or at least ball park it will be needed for a while and then may be graduate to less weigh ins and such. I agree with the over 3 to 5 pounds to buckle down again a little harder to get it back down.. but that is because I allowed myself to keep going until I was over 100 pounds tooo big. emoticon

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JOYINKY 3/7/2011 6:42PM

    I don't plan to ever own a scale again; I weigh at the gym once or twice a month. My sanity comes from focusing on health rather than weight and now, activity rather than food. Not to say I don't have food issues; they just don't take up as much space in my head as they used to. But, Marsha; it took me a lifetime to get here. I haven't not been aware of what I've been eating or not eating since I was 12! Somewhere in there I went through a period where I was obsessed with the scale in a very unhealthy way; doing unhealthy things to control the numbers! A useful tool for many; it is not my friend. You will find your balance; hang in there!

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OLVAJE 3/7/2011 5:09PM

    I am so not even close to where you are so I have no advice except to say that I think you are probably sane even on your insane days and I find you to be quire motivational for me!!! Thanks!!!

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HAPPYSOUL91 3/7/2011 5:03PM

    I would continue tracking your food AND getting on the scale.

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SNOOKUMS19 3/7/2011 4:55PM

    I actually threw out my scale a year ago and am I'm thrilled I did. I do gauge my weight from how my jeans feel and which pair I'm in. I am in my big girl jeans right now but it still feels better than obsessing over that number. Enjoy who you are. You are not a number!

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Better Day

Sunday, March 06, 2011

I'm down a little over 2 pounds from yesterday. I feel better. I had a good eating and exercising day yesterday.

But I really felt just sick about losing control. I need to handle it better. I don't know why I felt like it was a tragedy. It wasn't.

I guess it is just the reality that eating is always going to be a challenge for me. And even when I go 40 days eating almost exactly as I want, I will hit a rough patch. Guess I just need to accept it. It is part of me. I get almost cocky thinking I have this thing licked. And then I fall so far and feel so disappointed. I should neither get cocky nor disappointed. I can live at the weight I want to be. I just need to keep mindful about my eating; remember all the lessons I've learned.

I've said it often, but I mean it more than ever. I don't have to be perfect to succeed -- just determined!!

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SNOOKUMS19 3/7/2011 9:13AM

    This sounds very familiar. It's great perspective. Sometimes I forget this is an addiction. I feel this is like an AA program with an awesome support system. We are lucky to have found it!

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    Celebrate your 39 days! WooHoo!!

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WATERMELLEN 3/6/2011 4:22PM

    "Eating is always going to be a challenge for me": and for me too.

Not something I'm likely ever to "lick"! Although I like that image -- kinda like a slowly dripping jamocha almond fudge double scoop with waffle cone at Baskin Robbins?? Not gonna be licking one of those any time soon either . . . . *sigh*.

Never mind: we are not alone. Success isn't permanent, neither is failure. And when we "fail" there are so many great people around to support us and help us.


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JHADZHIA 3/6/2011 2:03PM

    Congratulations on the weight loss and getting back into the swing of things.. You have taken a better attitude about it today.. Its always frustrating when someone can eat what ever they choose and not micromanage everything in their lifestyle and maintain a good weight, but we can't all be that fortunate, some of us have to actually work at it. My RA makes me slow to lose weight, but quick to gain it.. I do have to be careful and vigilent for the rest of my life if I hope to not regain this weight I slowly lost..
Keep up the determination, you can do this..

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JOYINKY 3/6/2011 12:44PM

    Marsha, Life is full of ups and downs; we all know that. Success is getting up when we're knocked down and you do that! Day 41 was a lesson, a test? If so, you passed with flying colors. You're back up and ready to go!! You are an inspiration! Keep sparkin', keep bloggin'! Joy

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HAPPYSOUL91 3/6/2011 12:38PM

    You said it, now believe it and all will be fine

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2WHEELEDSHARON 3/6/2011 12:30PM

    Eating is my huge challenge as well, ugh! I've been reminding myself of something a sparkfriend said; we're here for progress, not perfection.
Sounds like you've accomplished a lot! Pat yourself on the back!

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MONTY68 3/6/2011 11:20AM

Hi Marsha
I find your last 2 blogs very interesting. The reason I do, is what people that have battled weight problems for most of our lives, is the constant concern of eating so healthy everyday, that if for some reason we ate to much, or something with a lot of calories we feel a sense of failure. I know that for me, everyday I "make sure" that I stay within my range and all foods being healthy. My walking partner has a hard time understanding the need to track, to watch every little thing that I eat. She is my age, has never had a weight problem, doesn't gain weight and eats what she wants. I would say for the most part that she eats healthy 95% of the time. But if there is something she wants, she eats it. She has the awareness and knows that when she eats something that is full of calories. She just limits them. I guess the biggest difference is that food is not her main focus of life. I can only say for me, that eating right and the need to exercise is a great part of daily living. Life is not a automatic for me. For her, day 41 would have been ok, for us, we failed to eat right. I say I am living life, but as I said it is not a automatic part of living, of course it has only been 3+ years out of 71 years of life and I feel as we continue it will be more living it rather then having to think so much about it.
You have done a awesome job on yourself, I see you as successful and a motivator for others. If there was a lesson in day for 41 for you, that is good, but just remember have well you do everyday.

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AMANDAJCD 3/6/2011 11:15AM

    Good call :) I think we're successful when we keep trying, because perfection just ain't gonna happen.

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Don't Feel Like Blogging Today

Saturday, March 05, 2011

The good news is I made it 40 days binge free. And 39 of those days I actually stuck to my pre-planned food intake. I don't ever remember doing that well in my whole life.

The bad news is my streak is broken. I am back on track, doing fine today. I'm just not ready to describe the slip, though. I'm still processing it and trying to decide what happened. There is a lesson here for me to learn, and when I've got it, I may decide to blog about it.

Just to add something positive I ran over 3 miles today and feel like I am totally ready for my 5K race a week from today!

Wishing you happy, healthy, on program, binge free days!! -Marsha

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CONTENTCHRIS 3/6/2011 5:10PM

    40 Days man that is a goal to shoot for. I am lucky to go 3 ! I am always working out a little extra to make up for last nights Still your doing the right lost battle is not the war !

your background pic is very pretty ! Have a great next 40 days... lets just concentrate on today though Ok? What a ya say? emoticon

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SUZYMOBILE 3/6/2011 10:29AM

    Time to forgive yourself and move on, though I wouldn't argue against analyzing what happened either! Obviously I'm not averse to analyzing my own behavior. Okay, did you REALLY binge? Like eat a whole loaf of bread followed by deep-fried hot dogs and Spam, pancakes drenched in butter and maple syrup? What triggered it? Is it because your maintenance plan is too restrictive in some nutrients? Anyway, you'll definitely learn from this, and grow as a result!

The very fact of training for a 5K puts you in a really good place!

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AQUAGIRL08 3/6/2011 9:59AM

    Whenever I used to have days like that, my mother used to tell me that it was God's way of humbling me. It is a "leveling" experience. I would always look back on my own behavior and see if I was getting too big for my britches or too controlling or whatever. I always was. Then I realized that I wasn't perfect, accepted the mistake (a whole lot more humble I might add) and moved on. It sure stung for a while though because I tried so hard to be perfect and couldn't imagine making a mistake. But I did and sometimes it was a big one. What I'm trying to say to you Marsha, is that you are beautiful inside and out. You aren't more beautiful because you don't make mistakes and I'm not either. You are beautiful warts and all. We need to love ourselves as we are now, warts and all.

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SNOOKUMS19 3/6/2011 8:45AM

    I've been keeping up on your blogs and notices you were on track until you starting blogging about writing a book. Look into that. It may be stressing you more than you know. Let your set back be and have a great Sunday!

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FREELADY 3/5/2011 11:08PM

    This makes me feel additional hope for me and my goals. I can see that my own struggles and repeated slip-ups don't exclude me from your kind of success. I can be like you one day, cuz a girl doesn't have to be perfect to be like you.

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MISTYRIVER64 3/5/2011 10:39PM

    The streak isn't broken - it's just reset so that you can do even better this time.

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SLIMLILA 3/5/2011 9:48PM

    Remember to celebrate the success... 40 days nothing to scoff at......

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JHADZHIA 3/5/2011 8:57PM

    Wow! You had a slip!! You are human!! Not perfect!! Who is??
You have done so well for so long Marsha, that one blip is hardly a lifestyle breaking landslide... And running for 3 miles is just plain amamzing!!
I am sure you will figure out the reasons behind the slip up and take steps to correct it..
Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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JOYINKY 3/5/2011 8:10PM

    A St. Patrick's Day 5K! Sounds like fun; I know you're ready for it. I'm not concerned about the other either. Giving up would be a problem. I don't see you ever doing that. Be well, Joy

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WATERMELLEN 3/5/2011 7:45PM

    You are back on track: that's what counts.

"If I eat something I shouldn't have, I haven't blown it. It's not the end of the world. It's just a mistake. Get back on track this minute! Don't keep on eating! That makes no sense. It's a million times better to stop now than to allow myself to eat more." (Beck Card 18).

You did that.

In the grand scheme of things, the slip won't affect your weight -- but as you say, we want to figure these things out and understand them. The Beck Day 34 approach may help . . .


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Appreciating Support - Both Virtual and in Person

Thursday, March 03, 2011

While working out today at the YMCA a younger woman went out of her way to stop by and compliment me on my weight loss and increasing fitness. She told me I had inspired her. It made me feel so good. I really appreciate her taking the time and making the effort. These days compliments are not so common. Most of my friends just think of me as someone who lost weight two years ago. So, I savor the compliment and even replay it in my head!

I am used to getting kind words, support, and goodies from SparkFriends. Thank heavens. Without the SP support, I almost certainly would not be where I am now: extremely healthy, at goal weight, and profoundly grateful to all who have helped me so much.

But I do think person to person support is even more valuable. My local SparkTeam is a great group of people. Tonight we had a very good time together enjoying a healthy meal. This support in person is priceless! Thanks, SparkTeam. Thanks, Cyndi, Theresa, Eileen, Jane, Donna, and Jane's daughter -- hope I didn't forget anyone. Even all the hubbies were good tonight!!

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    WTG! We all know you are awesome - maybe one day you will believe it too!

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AMANDAJCD 3/4/2011 11:00AM

    I'm so sorry we couldn't make the dinner this time around! Hopefully the next -- I'm a sucker for Olive Garden :D

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JANEWATKINS 3/4/2011 10:56AM

    I was so happy to see you at dinner last night! You are truly an inspiration to me, you skinny little thinig!

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HAPPYSOUL91 3/4/2011 10:35AM

    Compliments are a win win to the receiver and the giver. It was nice of the young woman at the Y to say something.

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SNOOKUMS19 3/4/2011 7:49AM

    It is nice to hear a compliment. Enjoy your day!

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JOYINKY 3/4/2011 6:50AM

    I'm glad you have that support;it is important! You certainly have earned it! But, you're right; after awhile people tend to forget you ever really had a challenge to get where you are today. SP will not forget! Be well, Joy

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JHADZHIA 3/3/2011 9:51PM

    Fabulous!! You deserve lots of compliments! It would be so nice to have local support like that, and yes, it would sure be very influential! Interesting how the hubbies behaved :)
Mom is my one-woman support team and I am very grateful for her! My Spark buddies are helping hold it together for me during trying times. So glad to have you all!

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WATERMELLEN 3/3/2011 9:01PM

    So nice to get that recognition! And direct support!

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I Cheated and For The First Time I Don't Feel Bad About It!

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

I calculate that I have been on a diet approximately 11.7 years of my life (one third of the time since 1968 minus eight years I did not diet). I estimate I have tracked my food intake on 4,271 days. I estimate that I stuck to my plan, staying within my range probably 40% of the time. I would say on my typical day I went over by 10%, whether my target was 600 calories, 18 points, 25 exchanges, or 1700 calories. I always thought of myself as someone who was never quite in control. Then I would have those awful, awful days where I just totally broke down and was totally out of control and ate more than I could count and would cry and cry and cry and just feel like such a weakling and horrible failure.

Well, I did something this week I have never done before. I cheated in a whole new way. Never before in my 4200+ days of tracking have I not eaten every bite of food coming to me. This week one day I was actually under my calorie range, not hungry and not interested in eating more food! I won't make a habit of it. I truly want to be healthy and that means eating healthy. But I do believe this experience shows that I am thinking more like a thin person. I am establishing a lifestyle, not dieting. My definition of fullness is changing. I know hunger is not an emergency. And I absolutely love feeling totally in control of what I eat!!

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FREELADY 3/3/2011 11:50PM

    This is very exciting. This gives me a lot of hope about where my path can end up!

It is also encouraging to see your many days of specific choices that have added up to success. I tell myself that if I keep doing these behaviors, like tracking, I will also reap your outcomes such as a healthy weight. Thank you for sharing!

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JHADZHIA 3/3/2011 9:56PM

    This is just incredible!! This is a very big accomplishment!
I am certainly not there yet as I eat everything I am scheduled to have, whether I feel like it or not..
This is why you are so successful and are a thin person!!
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SNOOKUMS19 3/3/2011 7:39AM

    Good for you! You are feeling more in control! Noticing your own cues for hunger. Enjoy the ride! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 3/2/2011 8:57PM

    This is a HUGE breakthrough! I appreciate your candour about what a struggle eating has been -- including the bingeing times -- and what a transformation this cognitive strategy program has also been.

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TBRANCH2 3/2/2011 7:52PM

    Good for you!!! See you tomorrow night at the team dinner!!

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    Totally awesome! Your blog didn't go where I was expecting it to - and I am voting for it!

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MEXGAL1 3/2/2011 6:57PM

    Wow good for you to realize this is your life and lifestyle changes.
Best of everything to you!

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JOYINKY 3/2/2011 4:08PM

    Congratulations on your new lifestyle! WooHoo!

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1AVERY 3/2/2011 2:43PM

    GREAT BLOG!!!! It sounds like you have it all figured out for you. CONGRATS!!!! When we figure out what works for us is the hardest part of the battle. Enjoy your journey now that you know what it takes for you to be on the right track. Teri emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TJCADDO 3/2/2011 2:39PM

    During all this time I know you learned how to read your body signals. Glad that you trusted your own judgement and experimented and saw for yourself that you definitely know what you are doing.

You look so terrific!!! Always take something away when I read your blogs.

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MONTY68 3/2/2011 11:45AM

    Hi Marsha
Awesome blog. Your statement "I am establishing a Lifestyle, not dieting" is so powerful. That is what the final step of our journey creates. Congratulations.

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