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No Gain Holiday

Monday, November 22, 2010

I found a jpeg graphic that sums up my current effort and decided to use it as my profile picture for the next five weeks: No Gain Holiday. I've done it before and can do it again. I do not have to gain weight in order to have a truly joyous holiday season. I'll just make sure than any special treats are really special, worth it, and in very reasonable amounts.

I am finishing my second good eating day in a row after a week of really struggling. I have not figured out why sometimes it isn't even difficult, and other times it just seems impossible. But anyway, I'm back, remotivated, and on track. I appreciate all the wise and kind words of my SparkFriends! We can do this. Yes, we can.

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HAWKEYERANT 11/24/2010 11:37AM

    Love your new picture. It is AWESOME. No gain holiday... we can do this we can do this we can do this. Good luck to you and have a wonderful thanksgiving!

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AQUAGIRL08 11/24/2010 11:27AM

    Yes we can! We're all in this together.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/23/2010 6:30PM

I have the same thing - I believe it is because regardless of age, we still go through our cycles.
So we deal with TOM munchies even when there is really no reason for it.

You can do it Marsha! Love your new pic!

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PARKERB2 11/23/2010 2:22PM

    emoticon Keep up the good work. Yes, we can do it with all our encouragement from our Spark Friends. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

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HAPPYSOUL91 11/23/2010 10:17AM

    glad you are back and good job on completing your 2nd day with success

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JOHAL52 11/23/2010 7:57AM

    I am with you Martha on the "no gain" holiday!! In fact, I hope that by getting back to my original goals, I may even lose :) Thanks for being such an inspiration.

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1ROCKYMAMA 11/23/2010 5:06AM

    Yeah I am so with you. I will do it this year. NO GAIN HOLIDAY!

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MONTY68 11/22/2010 9:37PM

    Hi Marsha
You are exactly right. there is no reason why we would have to gain weight just because it is a holiday. That is why I wrote my blog on the season and challenged Sparkers to make a written commitment. So far over 170 people have responded to it.
I have not gained any weight the last 3 years during the season and I like the way you say it for you.

Thank you for sharing this. I will say I support your challenge emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JHADZHIA 11/22/2010 9:24PM

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Great idea!!

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KALIGIRL 11/22/2010 8:38PM

    We can indeed - love your new 'image'!

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/22/2010 8:21PM

    Yes, we can! Love the concept of "no gain Holiday"... I'm with you!


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WILD4STARS 11/22/2010 8:04PM

    I am going to have to borrow your "No Gain" photo - THANKS !

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Giving It Up

Sunday, November 21, 2010

I have often written that my goal is progress, not perfection. Perhaps I am still trying to convince myself. I can say that my overeating episodes have become smaller, healthier, and far less often. Yet today as I wrote in response to someone's post, I found tears welling up as I admitted that I am far from perfect. Why such an emotional response?

I guess there is still part of me who truly wants to be perfect. I want to eat effortlessly. I want to eat a perfect diet. I want all food thoughts to be positive and helpful. I want to eat without tracking. I want to feel totally relaxed when I make food choices. I want to just automatically eat less if I am served higher calorie foods. I want to never worry about what I eat or the amount I eat.

Well, sometimes you can't have what you want. Perhaps it is time that I give some thought about how I can truly, at my very core, give up perfectionistic thinking.

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WATERMELLEN 11/25/2010 9:10PM

    I cannot eat without tracking: I can only delude myself that I can eat without tracking. And then: deal with the "creeping podge" results: which I am doing right now!!

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AQUAGIRL08 11/24/2010 11:26AM

    A professional once told me that the only way you can eat effortlessly for a meal is to eat the same thing or eat a preplanned meal that you already know what the calorie and food content is including minerals and vitamins etc. If you do that for 2 out of 3 meals per day and for 3 snacks, then you only have to worry about one meal a day. That is pretty much what I aim for on a daily basis. It works too!

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HAWKEYERANT 11/22/2010 4:06PM

    Who doesn't want to be perfect??? I wish I was and sometimes I act like I'm perfect... but god knows I'm far from it.

I think it's hard for us to admit it, that we can't conquer everything, that we can't be perfect people, but it's a good step in the journey to acknowledge and learn. Congrats on realizing what your obstacles are and to keep shrinking those eating episodes down. That's a big deal!

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PARKERB2 11/22/2010 3:05PM

    Have you heard the saying, The Lord is not through with me yet, and I'm a work in progress. That should give us an idea of how much we can still strive to do to make ourselves better. Have a good day.

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SCREWIE 11/22/2010 3:59AM

    If you were perfect you'd be boring, and possibly annoying too :)

Being a normal human being who manages to stick to her goals and making progress (fast or slow, it doesn't matter) by overcoming obstacles is what makes you inspirational and a role model.

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PO_PAZZA 11/21/2010 9:43PM

    Okay, kiddo, we need to talk.

I used to have a little sign on my refrigerator (mainly for my husband's edification), but it helped me not worry about never achieving perfection in myself. Here it is:

Perfectionists take infinite pains. . . . And give them to others.

Now, you don't want to do that, do you?


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KALIGIRL 11/21/2010 7:06PM

    I think we'd all love life to be effortless, but then where would the fun be in that?
Hope the 'shoulda, woulda, couldas' leave your mind and you find your authentic self.
I know you'll think she's the emoticon

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/21/2010 4:22PM

    Welcome to the real world, Marsha!

Life isn't perfect - and neither are we.

Today I had a piece of birthday cake and I ate it with no regrets. Why? Because I have reached my goal weight and life has to go on. This means enjoying life and taking steps to be able to stay at my goal weight. Just like life has ups & downs, so will I and so will my weight.

As the words in a song put it, "you're close enough to perfect, for me!"

Love you,

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/21/2010 2:18PM

    Previous responders have pretty much said it all. But let me postulate one more angle, Marsha. Has it occurred to any of us that we might already BE perfect? We are each the perfect "us"... perfect is not a standard of 100% on every test every day. Perfect is being ourselves with our foibles and doing our best.

And sometimes that means cutting ourselves a break, already! I'm quite certain that tomorrow, you will have picked yourself up and dusted yourself off, and feel better about the Marsha that you are, and not lament that you aren't the one "Penny Pinkclouds" thinks you should be.

You are both a success and an inspiration. And you are worth every healthy choice you make, and for that matter, every "treat" you allow yourself. The future is yours!

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GATOR12 11/21/2010 2:16PM

    YOUR BLOG really opened my eyes. I guess I thought all of us were like me, perfectionists. The responses show me I am doing a great job without being perfect and it isn't something to achieve. I am or want to be a control freak but as Joy said perfection creates it own stress. I will ponder on all this today to see if I can see what it says to me!! Thanks for your thoughts and struggles and for sharing them honestly with all.

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MONTY68 11/21/2010 1:56PM

    Hi Marsha
I had some emotions when I read your blog. Perhaps remembering all the years I tried to be perfect. Where did the idea of perfect come from that actually creates failure in many people as they can't live up to someone's expectations. What I hear you saying is all the things that you want to be able to do, doesn't happen, you are not perfect. I now have several friends here that live life, who are not thinking about what they do but live, my walking partner does not understand the frustrations that people have with the need to be perfect. Her experience in living life is living life. She learned 50 years ago about eating healthy, understands about exercise and just does it. When we have gone to dinner, she chooses what she wants to eat and usually would be a healthy decision. She has maintained her weight for almost 50 years.
Some how, when we are trying to get to a happy weight and to exercise so many times a week, we get that frustration if we don't do all things perfect.
You have been so successful in reaching your happy weight and now you feel frustrated and less than perfect. So, with that in mind and your statement about being perfect, You now have to recreate a new belief about perfect and accept the idea, that it is not necessary to have to be perfect. To give you and example of what is or isn't perfect is a baseball player, Each time he bats, he is expected to get a hit, to really be perfect he would always get a hit, The greatest baseball players are consider a awesome player if he gets 3 out of every 10 times he bats, average of .300, makes MIllions of dollars for "failing 7 out of every 10 bats.
This is long winded , sorry about that, but I feel for your frustration and really want you to believe that you are doing well and know how to make adjustments when you need and not feel you were less then perfect.
To me you are an awesome example on how to succeed.


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WALKINGANNIE 11/21/2010 1:12PM

    I recoognise exactly what you mean Marsha. I have similar tendencies and I think that these are what have got me into trouble before. If I couldn't eat perfectly then why bother to try?

With SP's help, I believe that I'm getting a greater sense of perspective.

Progress and not perfection has to be the best way.

I often think of your idea of positive self-talk. Would we berate someone else in our position if they ate 'off programme' for one or two evenings in a month of healthy choices - or would we think that this was reasonable human behaviour?

I try now to think like a slim person and not like a would-be-perfectionist.

Overcoming the challenges that you face and find difficult makes you who you are - someone worthy of admiration, respect and affection.

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JOYINKY 11/21/2010 12:28PM

    Perfect creates stresses of it's own! I agree with JHADZHIA, 80% is better than perfect!

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JHADZHIA 11/21/2010 12:12PM

    Nobody is perfect Marsha. We are all flawed human beings. That is what makes us unique. Giving up that goal of being perfect in your healthy lifestyle is the best thing you can possibly do. It will take the stress of you, you can relax and just live your life the best you can. That is why the saying, time to stop dieting and start living.
No one has more warts on their healthy lifestyle then me. I continue to indulge in Baked Cheetos Crunchy, and I LOVE them, no excuses, no whining. I will eat anything I please, desserts included (on special occasions meals). But the main thing is I eat healthy every single day, so these indulgences fit in.
I have two big Christmas meals coming up at the club. I will enjoy my dessert :)
Relax and enjoy life, get it right 80% of the time and you are a SUCCESS!
You really are Marsha! Time to accept that!!

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JILLTBNAGART 11/21/2010 12:04PM

    We all want to be perfect. Sadly we all are perfect. We just need to see it and accept it.

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Good Tastes

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Oh, yesterday I added walnuts and raisins to my oatmeal and it tasted totally like a decadent treat to me. Then this afternoon I made pumpkin pudding. I roasted a pumpkin and cooked it down. I made sugar free butterscotch pudding, added pumpkin pie spices and the pumpkin. Yum. A real treat and calorie bargain with some good nutrition.

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AQUAGIRL08 11/24/2010 11:20AM

    That sounds delicious!

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HAWKEYERANT 11/22/2010 4:09PM

    Sounds awesome! I love pumpkin! :)

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JUNEBUG150 11/20/2010 9:24PM

    Sounds delicious!

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/20/2010 6:30PM

    Yum! emoticon

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JOYINKY 11/20/2010 6:04PM

    Yum, all sounds good to me! I love pumpkin and I have raisins in my oatmeal every morning. Save the nuts for snacktime.

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KALIGIRL 11/20/2010 5:00PM

    Both sound yummy!

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WALKINGANNIE 11/20/2010 4:54PM

    Great tips! Thanks Marsha.


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JHADZHIA 11/20/2010 4:34PM

    Pumpkin anything is my favorite :)) Not so healthy and as good sounding as what you did there!! Almost makes me wish I could cook, almost lol.
Enjoy your Saturday!

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MONTY68 11/20/2010 3:28PM

    Hi Marsha
You made my mouth water, everything just seems to indicate healthy food. Thank you for sharing.

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Warning from Shoulder

Friday, November 19, 2010

Last night I couldn't get to sleep and my left shoulder was throbbing. I know me. I'm at high risk for overeating when I am tired. So between needing to take it easy on the shoulder, probably getting less exercise than usual, and my tendency to overindulge when tired, I need to be very careful today.

A reason that I'm extra concerned is that recently I've gone over my calorie range too many times. Part of the way I have just about maintained is that I have consistently done more exercise than the 60 minutes 6 times a week that I have committed to do. According to the fitness seminar I took Tuesday, 60 minutes 6 times a week is probably the maximum I should be doing. I should be cutting back calories to maintain. Injury is a risk of over exercising and my shoulder may be an example -- although that isn't from too much cardio, it's probably too much weight or poor form on upper body machines.

Anyway, I'm going to be careful today, let my shoulder rest, and try really hard these next couple weeks to re-establish a habit of smart portion control and evening eating.

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AQUAGIRL08 11/25/2010 6:34PM

    You are smart to listen to your body and to know when you are at risk for over eating. Rest sounds like a good bet.

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KALIGIRL 11/20/2010 10:05AM

    Glad you're listening to your body.
I can relate to cutting down the calories - was enjoying the extra food that came along with biking to work and now that the bike is up for the winter, having trouble cutting back.
I know we'll do what we need to and be the healthier for it!

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MEXGAL1 11/19/2010 8:34PM

    sounds like you have a good plan. i do hope that your shoulder gets better soon!
Have a nice week end.

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MONTY68 11/19/2010 6:39PM

    Hi Marsha.
Yes, first thing is to take care of the shoulder. As far as portion control, I really believe that you can get back to controlling it. You have been so successful getting to this point, and I can not see you allowing it to get out of control.
Great blog, thank you for sharing.

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WALKINGANNIE 11/19/2010 3:14PM

    Sorry about your shoulder Marsha. I know that you will be sensible as you deal with this.

You do so well at knowing yourself and what works for you. Awareness of potential problems is halfway to dealing with them.

Take care of yourself.

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JOYINKY 11/19/2010 1:17PM

    Yes, priority right now has to be taking care of your shoulder! I have no doubt you have the rest figured out. Maintenance does present challenges of it's own. Great that we have support here for the balancing act. Stepping up my walking has helped me a lot; I don't do hungry well. H_A_L_T
danger triggers: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired and that old stinkin thinkin that eating something will make it better. That only works for Hungry and then only with healthy choices!
Tired is my nemisis too; rest and heal. emoticon

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A*L*P* 11/19/2010 11:38AM

    Take care of that shoulder! Best of luck! Lots of ice (or a frozen bag of peas!!) and rest!!

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EMSJOURNEY 11/19/2010 11:10AM

    knowing is 1/2 the battle! sounds like you've got it all figured out! =)

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LALASLAND 11/19/2010 11:05AM

    emoticonI hope your shoulder feels better today! emoticon

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/19/2010 10:58AM

    This is why I refuse to over-exercise this winter trying to compensate for the shorter walks. I must learn to cut back on the calories to stay in range.

Marsha, you and I need to learn to either cut back or raise our goal weight. This is why I spent this year trying to get off an additional 5 lbs - so I can cut myself some slack if I gain back that 3-5 pounds.

You can and will find your ideal weight and program.

I hope your shoulder feels better today.


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HAWKEYERANT 11/19/2010 10:39AM

    Way to identify when you're at risk for over eating... that is a huge thing. You know yourself, and how careful you need to be. You can overcome today's challenges!!

I am so sorry about your shoulder. Rest sounds like a good idea. Sending healing vibes your way chica!!!

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The Gym Is Like a Vitamin Pill

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

One of the things I heard at the fitness seminar yesterday is that you should consider the gym kind of like you consider your multi-vitamin pill. Just as a pill supplements your good, healthy diet, the gym supplements your good, active lifestyle. I had never thought about it that way. Very interesting!

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AQUAGIRL08 11/19/2010 5:59AM

    I guess you have to schedule it in just like eating breakfast! It has to be part of your daily routine.

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WALKINGANNIE 11/18/2010 3:43PM

    Great idea Marsha!

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/18/2010 3:42PM


I never thought of it that way either!

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HAWKEYERANT 11/18/2010 10:36AM

    Great way to think about exercise! Hope it motivates me even more! :)

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JOYINKY 11/18/2010 7:24AM

    I like that; I know regular gym workouts are critical to my well being. That's where I started this journey. Thanks for the reminder.

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LALASLAND 11/18/2010 7:24AM

    That is a great comparison! I agree! emoticon emoticon

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MONTY68 11/18/2010 6:48AM

    That is an interesting thought
Our gym offers some supplements, like Zumba, balance , yoga and others along with some great equipment. Thanks for sharing this.

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WILD4STARS 11/17/2010 10:05PM

    MMmm... I've got to get better at taking some of my vitamins! Great thought, thanks.

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MEXGAL1 11/17/2010 9:30PM

    Thanks for sharing. great thought.

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LEANJEAN6 11/17/2010 7:37PM

    great to think of exercise like that!!!

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JHADZHIA 11/17/2010 7:25PM

    More like a feel good pill ;) Who needs drugs to feel high when you can get those natural endorphins going at the gym??
Enjoy your evening!

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/17/2010 7:11PM

    Hmm. Have to think about that. I forget which exercise guru said something to the effect that there was a pill to make you slender, it just took 30 minutes to swallow it. emoticon

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JO88BAKO 11/17/2010 7:11PM

    Very interesting. Thank you!!

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