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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

This morning I weighed 125.8, a full .2 below my selected "happy weight" of 126. At 5'6", that is a BMI of 20 and it just feels like the right weight for me. The lowest weight I have been in the last 35 years is 125.6, about 6 weeks ago. The last time I saw that number I thought I was under, so I should eat. I ate too much. So now what?

I suspect to stay around my happy weight, though, I probably need to lose down to 124. It seems like whenever I cut back, I go up just a pound or two when I resume eating maintenance calories. To get to 124 I would need a calorie deficit of just under 7,000 calories.

Weight Watchers gives you 2 pounds above or below your goal weight for a 4 pound fluctuation. A 4 pound fluctuation might be a good goal for me if:
1. I don't weigh on mornings after I eat out due to sodium/water weight
2. I don't weigh in the evenings
3. I don't weigh with clothes on
However, I suspect that I just fluctuate more than the average person and I'm just going to have to live with that knowledge. It could be that when I have been at my happy weight solid for several months, the fluctuations will diminish, but I won't plan on that.

Eventually, I probably want to get where WalkingAnnie is and just give up the scale, judge my success by the way I am eating, working out, and how my clothes fit. But that will be a while. Tracking food would be essential to this method.

Another option is to give up tracking when weight is where I want it, and start tracking whenever weight is up (or hypothetically down, I suppose). That requires frequent weighing. My mom used that method successfully for several years, but then fell off the wagon.

If anyone has experience with truly achieving that final goal weight number and locking it in, please share. That is the knowledge I need right now. Thanks!

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JOHAL52 8/25/2010 9:58PM

    Well, as you know Marsha, my weight has been creeping up for the past several months. I started at 127 and stayed at that for several months. Then around Christmas I stopped tracking my calories and, lo and behold, within a month I was up 2 pounds. Stayed there for another month and then another pound came on.... And so it went. When I saw 134 last week I had a fit.
So now I am tracking my calories every day as well as changing the way I have been eating. If after a month my weight has not gone down, then I will put it down to menopause and not obsess about the scale anymore. Because I am going to eat healthily and if I do and if I exercise consistently and happily, then whatever weight I weigh will be my happy weight

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MONTY68 8/25/2010 1:47PM

    Hi Marsha
I am not sure how to answer this in a helpful way, but I have some ideas about our healthy weight. I will speak about mine. 3 years ago, I choose a goal of 180 and that was because that figure came to my mind because I don't ever remember weighing that. I reached that goal and maintained it for a year and then discovered that that weight was still defined as overweight and decided to go down to 170 and did. I was satisfied with that weight and my goal then was to tighten up the belly area through more exercise. I am still working on that. Over the past year, I have dropped as low as 168 and sort of maintain it but it does go to 169 and even 170. This morning it was 168.8. I then accept the idea that it could be any of the 3 -168,169 and 170 and all are fine. I do know that if I am 168 today and 170 tomorrow AM, it is one of those fluctuations that I don't understand as I would know that I had not eaten 7000 extra calories that day. I see on these blogs , large increases like 3 -5 pounds and question how that could be and that concerns me. In those blogs , all would state they have exercised and were in their calorie range and if they were why the increase. It has to be a just a body thing.
So since I have been successful in maintaining what did I do? I track everything I eat, everyday, I exercise and that is it. I don't exceed my range and the one time I did it was 5o calories, so I have to assume I am in the right range. Most charts I see , have a higher range at my weight then the one I use from Spark. I will continue to use the scale but not everyday. I am making an assumption by tracking, there should not be any surprises. I don't think at this time I would rely on the way my clothes fit, The reason is that during a regular day, my weight could increase 2 -5 pounds and I know that from a evening weigh in. I know it is not from extra calories but the weight of the food and water. My point is , that what I am wearing does not tell me that I am 2-5 pounds heavier, so if I used clothes instead of the scale I might find when my clothes felt tight, could be weeks and the actual increase on the scale would be real. So, I depend on measuring or weighing my food, tracking and knowing I am in range,exercising and walking, weighing myself at least weekly and accepting the idea that it could be 168-169 or 170.
So since I went down to 170 over a year ago, I have never been over 170 and it really has not been difficult staying there. What I do, may not work for others.
A point of interest, is that most of us have picked our"happy" weight. According to a calculation online of what we should weigh, I should be at 155-`160. I have no desire to be that "thin".
Marsha, for you, I think as time goes on and you find that your weight is your "happy" weight, it will be easier for you. You have done such a fantastic job and I know that if adjustments are necessary you will do it smoothly.

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PARKERB2 8/25/2010 1:23PM

    I am not maintaining yet but sounds like it will be as hard if not harder to do that. Keep sharing your methods with us so we can be prepared to maintain when we get there. emoticon

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DONNABRIGHT 8/24/2010 4:26PM

    I'm doing a happy dance for you!

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AQUAGIRL08 8/24/2010 3:43PM

    Congratulations on being at your happy weight Marsha!

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JHADZHIA 8/24/2010 2:25PM

    Congratulations on being your happy weight!
Obsessing over fractions of weight though, is rather unhealthy. Micromanaging like that will lead to anxiety and stress over every little waver on the scale. You must always weigh in at the same time under the same circumstances. I always weigh in once a week, on Mondays, after breakfast, with no clothes on and have been consistently staying the same weight. I am not sure why I chose Mondays, except that it is the biggest challenge day, right after a possible weekend of bad binging. This tells me if I can get though my weekends okay, I must be doing something right. Its a huge boost of confidence that I am doing well at this healthy lifestyle. And I am pretty consistent with healthy eating and I always find the time to exercise. In the end, getting it done, every day, is the key. A lapse here and there is fine as long as long as it doesn't become a habit..
You are doing this well Marsha, you just haven't realized it fully yet!

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PEGGYJEAN13 8/24/2010 1:26PM

    I too flucuate on my weight throughout the day. My rule is to weigh myself in my pajamas when I first get up and that is what I go by. I don't count it as a loss unless I get the same answer several days in a row.

I too live in fear somewhat that my loss is temporary so I track and track.

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KALIGIRL 8/24/2010 1:05PM

    I use an old (potentially unreliable) scale, so as long as I'm in a 5 pound range and my clothes are comfortable, I'm good to go!

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WALKINGANNIE 8/24/2010 12:18PM

    Well done Marsha! You did what you set out to do! (Why doesn't that surprise me?) emoticon

I think that I have been very fortunate to have only varied by 1lb throughout 2010 based on the weigh-ins that I used as my 'official' weight - always in comparable conditions before breakfast on Thursday mornings. I have fluctuated by up to 4-5lb at other times but somehow held steady at Thursday morning weigh-ins!

I think that tracking has been the key for me. Also, my 'home weight' of 120lb chose me - I was quite happy at 126lb but allowed my body to settle into its own balance - after fretting about it when I started maintaining.

You are very focused and much more active than I am and have proved that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to. You are the boss of you now!

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HAPPYSOUL91 8/24/2010 12:15PM

    Well locking it in for me has about an eight pound range. But, believe me when I hit the 8, all bells and whistles go off. Love your list of when you DON'T weigh yourself. I do the same thing and never could understand people weighing themselves with shoes on

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JOYINKY 8/24/2010 10:13AM

    Marsha, We all fluctuate; many times throughout the day. Least fluctuation is if you weigh the same time and with the same clothes on the same scale on the same surface. Fractions of a pound aren't worth worrying about unless they are steadily going up. I can fluctuate 1-3 pounds easily in the course of a day. Today, I only weigh once or twice a month. Was obsessive about weighing and it wasn't a good thing; gave my scale away. Now I weigh once, sometimes twice a month at the gym. In my workout clothes and shoes and that works fine along with measuring once a month too. In between I can tell other ways. Bummer is when you are "feeling trim" and step on the scale and show a gain. Rarely has weighing made me feel good. Now just use it for a "check up". You will find what works for you. Be well. Joy emoticon

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    Don't obsess over a few tenths. Yes, I do it too, but maintaining also means fluctuations are going to occur. It does slow down as your body shifts from diet mode to maintenance mode.

My rule of thumb is to eat when truly hungry - somehow the weight still stays with the 5 lbs SparkPeople gives and I have yet to ever use that 4th pound.

What works for me is to go below my goal weight so that my 4-5 lbs will not take me above where I draw the line. In plain English, my goal had been 120 but I climbed over the winter to 124 twice and decided to drop my goal to 115 and maintain a weight of under 120. It's working.

Good Luck! You can do it!

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RUNNER4LYFE 8/24/2010 9:29AM

    Dont have experience but Im thinking if everytime u try to cut back, and u go up a pound or two, maye thats ur body saying it's happy at that present weight. Like it's saying to stop cutting back the cals and just maintain where ur at now.

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Introducing Slenderella

Sunday, August 22, 2010

I changed my screen name yesterday, you know. If you ever want attention from your SparkFriends, change your name and send out a SparkMail. What a wonderful group of friends! I've had 100% positive response. Thank you, thank you.

I am beginning to feel like a Slenderella. To me, I look like close enough to a Slenderella. Now the dream that I wish to come true is that I consistently eat like a Slenderella. It may never come effortlessly to me, and that is okay. But I dream that my weight will stabilize. I'll pass the scale by without a negative thought, or jump on it confident that my weight is solidly where I want it.

My first day as Slenderella I stayed well within my calorie range. Ate lots of super healthy foods. This morn I was down and only 1.8 pounds over happy weight. Maybe my dream can come true.

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PARKERB2 8/23/2010 3:11PM

    You are so small and look so good! The name suits you. emoticon

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EILEENV3 8/23/2010 12:19PM

    I've only known you as a "Slenderalla" so it's not a stretch for me. Please take my memory as your own.

emoticon on all your success and that by taking a new name you're acknowledging the new reality to your self!

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KALIGIRL 8/22/2010 9:53PM

    Love the new name - it fits you to a tee!

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TBRANCH2 8/22/2010 9:45PM

    Good for you!! Positive is a great frame of mind to be in and to try and stay in!!!
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    emoticon emoticonYou're beautiful!

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JOYINKY 8/22/2010 6:05PM

    You are making it come true and you truly are she!

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WALKINGANNIE 8/22/2010 5:59PM

    You seem to have a renewed sparkle with your new name!

Enjoy being the new you - but remember that we love the old you too!


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HAPPYSOUL91 8/22/2010 5:58PM

    I love your "happy weight" and your name sure fits you much better. You go girl!

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JHADZHIA 8/22/2010 2:14PM

    It will be a reality and soon! You know what to do and are doing it!!
Go Marsha, go!!!

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MONTY68 8/22/2010 1:05PM

    Hi Marsha
I am so glad that you changed your name, that is really who you are. It is amazing what a name change can do. Your dream will come true. You will get back to your happy weight and I truly believe you will start to find it easier.
So, Slenderella , congratulations and just know your dreams will come true.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/22/2010 12:41PM

    emoticon - To dreams coming true, especially when those dreams involve a healthy active and full life! To Marsha / Slenderella! emoticon

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RHONDA_11 8/22/2010 12:13PM

    emoticon emoticonI love your new name! Rhonda

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DONNABRIGHT 8/22/2010 12:06PM

    Oldmom3 had such a sweet connotation related to your granddaughter that I can understand why you chose it. Slenderella is a great name for YOU now as you continue on your journey.

Comment edited on: 8/22/2010 12:06:40 PM

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JUST_TRI_IT 8/22/2010 11:59AM

    Kind of fun to have a name that we want to emulate :) Enjoy the new you!

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AQUAGIRL08 8/22/2010 11:57AM

    Yes, your dream can come true! Remember that we don't always have to be perfect (myself included - lol)! Put forth your very best effort to be healthy and make good food choices for your body. Set yourself up for success and don't let others sidetrack your progress (you are getting so good at that!). You can do this!

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PO_PAZZA 8/22/2010 10:55AM

    Imitation truly is the sincerest form of flattery. After you did it, I changed my Username to one that feels more like me in this decade of my life. I had wanted to do it for a long time but was too lazy to figure out how. Easy.

So. . . Now do we get to reinvent ourselves, as well? If so, I want to become that person who unconsciously makes good food choices all the time, if such a person exists. I suspect she does not. So, let's gird our loins and continue marching forward. We have a great start, and we're not marching alone.


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Warning: Some Frustration Expressed Here

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Thanks for all your support regarding my frazzled day. I think I proved to myself once more that letting it (stress) get to me just makes me less efficient and productive, as well as less likely to achieve my eating and activity goals.

I'm just back from a super Zumba workout this morning and feeling energetic. I'm going to try to do some of the thinking work I need to accomplish while I accomplish the laundry and housework.

I'm a little frustrated that I still haven't gotten back down to my happy weight; I've been over for two full weeks. I got down to just .6 pounds over last Saturday, and today I'm 4.2 pounds over. I guess you could just call it vanity pounds since I'm still at a healthy BMI. However, I know me and I know that if I accept a gain of 4.2 pounds and the eating behavior that goes with that gain, it could very easily become 40.2 pounds. I would like maintenance to be focused on eating healthy and balancing activity and food. But for now I'm still seeing those same numbers on the scale going up, up -- going down -- going up -- going down -- going up, up -- going down, down -- going up. I want so badly to just be normal when it comes to eating. Why is it so hard for me?

Excuse my rant. I'm sure there is not one person who will read this blog who doesn't struggle at some time. Some struggle far more than I. Feeling sorry for myself is not productive.

For a long time -- over a year and a half -- I felt like my food selections and eating behavior was gradually improving. Now I feel like there is still progress I need to make, but right now I'm not making progress. Part of it is trying to incorporate the increased work demands with the reality of prioritizing healthy living. Perhaps I need to be a little patient with myself without giving up my commitment to healthy living.

Thanks to anyone who read this self indulgent blog! It helped to write it. I was thinking of changing my screen name to Slenderella. Maybe that would give me a shot in the arm! -Marsha

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DONNABRIGHT 8/23/2010 10:21AM

    Every day is a struggle with food - I, too, wish I was a "normal eater" if there is such a thing!

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JHADZHIA 8/22/2010 2:13PM

    I love your new nickname, much better than the old one!! In with the new, out with the old. To me you are not old at all! Like everyone said, you have to adjust to your new work hours. This is a major change and disruption in your life. No wonder your body is a little haywire. I say a little, as its not too bad. But going up and down is far better than continuously up. You just have to find ways to squeeze in your healthy lifestyle and nutritious foods! You can do this!!

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JUST_TRI_IT 8/22/2010 12:09PM

    Self indulgent? No. Self reflective? Yes.

It does seem that the journey to get to a healthy weight and the journey to maintain a healthy weight are not quite the same. So, some healthy self reflection is in order. No one person seems to have THE answer to what our "perfect" weight ought to be. I frankly think that many of the charts that doctors put out are shots in the dark at best. They keep changing them over the years. They do their best to help us understand out bodies, but the doctor's don't even know!! As Monty said, it is mysterious! So we each do our best, learning to listen carefully to the body we have. And I think each body might just have a slightly different message to each of us.

Here's to listening carefully!

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HAPPYSOUL91 8/22/2010 8:44AM

    Like your new screen name, it fits with your new attitude and body! Self indulgent blog, I don't think so, it is truthful and you bet I struggle and that is most of the time not sometimes. Scoot over in the line of wanting so badly to just be normal when it comes to eating. I finally decided that normal means all sort of different things to everyone and normal isn't hard but eating anything you want sure is a lot easier and the kid in me would love for that to happen. Simple not easy"

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RHONDA_11 8/21/2010 10:15PM

    I love your new screen name! I think it is a much better fit for you. Patience is hard. You are one of my many inspirational spark friends. emoticon emoticon Rhonda

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    Marsha, I love the new name! That in itself ought to make a difference... just the way you picture yourself will help, I think! emoticon

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AQUAGIRL08 8/21/2010 9:40PM

    Slenderella is a great screen name! Somehow it fits you. Marsha, I think the problem is one of balancing your time with your workouts. Once that is solved, you'll be fine. I know that you can pack a lunch and snacks so that isn't an issue. Time management is the issue. You are going to have to build some breaks into your day - volunteers or no volunteers. You have to eat regularly and healthfully and you need a break to get up and move around. It is nice that you have people who are volunteering their time but that doesn't mean that in turn, you have to abuse yourself and not take care of yourself. Set some guidelines including some breaks and lunchtime and you'll be fine.

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WATERMELLEN 8/21/2010 9:11PM

    Love love love Slenderella: YES!! I remember reading message board posts some time ago about how important it is to choose a POSITIVE handle (and an article quite a long time ago about how people who name their dogs "Rowdy" or whatever end up with -- yup, rowdy dogs!!

Maintaining just IS way way harder than losing: it just is. And the eternal vigilance thing never stops, never never never. Or: at least that's my story and I'm sticking to it!!

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PO_PAZZA 8/21/2010 6:36PM

    So, that's how Slenderella showed up in my life. It fits you better than Oldmom.

I hope your blogging about your frustrations helped you because it certainly helped me. I'm going to similar difficulties, and it's so easy to feel I'm the only one. When I see such an inspirational icon as you voicing the same concerns, it makes me feel like I'm not alone in this. WE ARE NOT ALONE. We must remember that. I sat down at the computer a few minutes ago because what I really wanted to do was stick my arm in the cookie jar. I thought this activity would stall that urge. After reading your blog, it not only stalled it, it stopped it.

So thank you.

PS I'm going to change my user name to the one I use at WW Online if I can figure out how. It's po pazza (which means a little crazy in Italian). That's one of my DH's names for me. Right now, it fits.


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MONTY68 8/21/2010 4:32PM

    Hi Slenderella
I can understand your frustrations and I will say I still don't understand this thing we call our body. I ask what ever happened to that old idea of calories in vs calories out. I have found here on Spark that isn't always true. And I still don't why. I would think it would be oover 14,000 calories in excess this week and we know that can't be true, that is 2,000 a day. AS couple of weeks ago when you dropped the pounds you felt it must be water release and not real weight, but what you gained back, in a week. I could understand, like most of us experienced in the past, we could gain maybe a pound a week and the scale creeping back up. I know, been there and done that.
So, this is different. One thing you said that is probably true is your patience. That may help, if the weight being released now is slower than what you would like to see. but is that the problem? You did say that your intake a couple of weeks ago was higher and you did make an adjustment to your daily quota now, but neither make sense. SO, if we go back in time before you hit your goal and see what is so different than now, Before you started working again, you were extremely active every day. All the things you did and also having your granddaughter a lot of the time. Now it seems with you working, it is difficult to do all that. But, to me it doesn't seem like it would add up to thousands of extra calories. So, and I don't understand why, but stress can create weight gain according to articles but why? So, is it possible that this gain is stress related? I guess I am trying to justify weight gain for you that I really don't understand why it is happening. The great ups and down and up again in such a short period of time doesn't seem right
I have known you a long time now and know how well you you worked the program , making adjustments and always a awesome example of success and you still are. This will get straightened out but it does sound like with a little patience for yourself.
For myself with the 2 1/2 years of maintenance before calling it living life, I was very fortunate that I didn't have any real swings in weight, I have really increased my exercises and walking but also increased calories. When I announced my weight going from 170 to 168, I have seen more of the fluxuation between the 2 numbers, that I am not concerned about, it would be increases past the 170 mark. Do I still track? yes, but the woman I walk with and I have eaten out 4 times, she just doesn't eat a lot, says she just tries to eat what is best for her, I understand and last night again, there was to much food and we both did not eat it all. I don't know if it is because I am so active with Spark that continues to make me aware, I would hope it is that I just eat differently than I use to. Sorry, about all this info, I guess I am saying to you, that you are doing fine, you are aware of what is happening with you and adjustments will be made by you. In my opinion it will become easier each day.

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WALKINGANNIE 8/21/2010 4:18PM

    Marsha, This is why several of our friends are in the At Goal and Maintaining Team. We wouldn't need to be in an AG&M team thinking about how to deal with situations like this if it was all just plain sailing.

At any given time any number of us are struggling with some Spark-related challenges. Sharing them is definitely not self indulgent. We're in this together. We support and encourage each other. We all learn from each others' achievements, frustrations and solutions.

Is there any value in noting that your weight is going up and down - and not up and up? Is it water weight?

I know it's not quite the same, but you might think about looking at some of the SP 'plateau busting' articles in the 'Motivation' section of the articles?

You have come so far and changed so much in your life that there is no going back.

Keep blogging through this and you will work out what is right.

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KALIGIRL 8/21/2010 3:51PM

    Love "Slenderella".
Sorry you're struggling, but I think you're providing valuable insight to us all.
Just as WALKINGANNIE is changing up her food and exercise, you have had to start to adjust to working again. Not only can't you often control the food you will eat, but you can't control the stressors that come along with employment.
I understand your fears after achieving your goal and empathize with your concern of gaining weight.
I also am confident emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/21/2010 2:00PM

    I loved this bit, Marsha: "Perhaps I need to be a little patient with myself without giving up my commitment to healthy living. "

It is so true! Patience with ourselves is harder than patience with others, don't you think?

But I also know just what you mean about accepting a little slip being the first part of a big slide backwards. So, back to the gentle vigilance. And I'm with the others who say it's not self-indulgence: it's self-preservation!

We can do this! We may each of us have weeks like this. But we won't give up. Because we love being fit and healthy, and we're worth it!


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JOYINKY 8/21/2010 1:35PM

    Marsha, We sometimes need to see blogs like this; it's not self-indulgent at all. I've been having the same struggles and when tired find myself slipping into more "stinkin thinkin". As in "well, I'm already over but still under 3000 cal. that's not even enough to gain a pound." Yeah right, we know full well that's not how it works! I've had to come to accept I will never be a normal eater, never to be able to eat without tracking and thinking about it. That's the price I willingly pay for the rewards I have in fitness and in health today. So yes, I'm a few pounds over again after enjoyin a brief stint under goal. Clothes still fit fine, look good, it's all a battle in my head. And the fear of relapse because I have over and over broken that promise to myself in the past. I can blame anything; family, the weather, schedule changes, last night it was a slow cashier--keeping me standing in front of tempting desserts too long! Hogwash! HALT, heed the warning signs: HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, TIRED, then take the needed action. Me? I need to get to bed earlier and quit with the stinkin thinkin!

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SYLVIALYNN2 8/21/2010 1:16PM

    For me, summer has a lot of ups and downs. Sometimes I think it is the heat and humidity. Saw where you went to a breakfast. Eating out adds a lot of sodium to our daily intake and that adds to my weight. Keep tracking and you will do it!

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AMANDAJCD 8/21/2010 1:10PM

    Marsha, you're one determined woman and I have no doubt you will get back to your "happy weight" in no time :) I look at my struggles to get and stay below 150 and eventually reach goal, and I see the same scale bouncing act you're experiencing.

I know with me that it can be traced to my eating, ultimately. And I'm also seeing that my indulgent days have far longer ramifications than I once gave them credit for.

I'm having to rework how I think, and it's aggravating. So I really do get the frustration thing :)

You'll get there! You'll get a grip on how to knock out what's causing this and you'll be right back where you'd like. I know it!

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FIT-AT-50 8/21/2010 1:05PM

    I don't see your blog as self-indulgent. As we read about each others' successes and struggles, it reminds us that we're human too, and that someone else is dealing with the same issues that we are. I truly believe that frustration can be a healthy thing, especially, when it creates the motivation we need to make a little change. You're still healthy and with the proper motivation, you're going to stay that way!


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AMBUDMAN 8/21/2010 12:24PM

    Right now I am feeling the same, we will maintain though I have not doubt!

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HEWIES 8/21/2010 12:20PM

    Right on, Stridergirl. emoticon

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STRIDERGIRL 8/21/2010 12:18PM

  You said it yourself--be patient with yourself and commit to healthy living!! emoticon

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Too Focused and Frazzled

Friday, August 20, 2010

Yesterday I had a 7:30am professional breakfast. A protégé of mine won a big award, Workforce Champion of the Year. She really deserves it. I am very proud of her. BUT I burned fewer calories than in any day since I seriously started SparkPeople last October.

After the breakfast, she and I met with a funder about a new opportunity and my head was spinning about the effort it is going to take and the looming deadline. I then worked all day on my day off -- I didn't finish until after 11pm. Other than helping my hubby get his car out of the shop, I did nothing else but work and grabbing a bite here and there. A volunteer has written a mystery dinner script and wanted a mailing list of our donors for invitations. We didn't have it any one place. Yes, we should have. Yes, her request was reasonable. However, it took me probably 8 hours of sitting and typing to produce what she wanted, consolidating and updating several different lists, and then re-learning how to do mail merge address labels.

This morning I went to meet with the volunteer. I thought I knew where she lives -- I have a friend who lives right nearby, or so I thought. Turns out my friend lives on SuchandSuch Road and this volunteer lives on SuchandSuch Drive. I forgot to take my new cell phone. I tried to mapquest it again, but the only wireless available was password protected. Had to drive home, but then couldn't find her address. Then I remembered it was in the paperwork on the front seat of my car. I grabbed the papers and the address and ran into the house to mapquest it again. I left the consolidated mailing list and all the source documents - her copies and mine - sitting on the hood of the car. When I backed up they flew all over the road. I ran around picking them up, knowing I was late. My hubby was outside doing yard work and yelled as I drove off. I had left some right in the driveway. Ran back, got them, and on my way again.

I got done and back home in time to care for granddaughter while pregnant daughter went to her weekly doctor appointment now. I sure would like to get this grant proposal done before the baby arrives so I can help if needed.

Man, there has to be a better way. I simply have to learn to balance work and the rest of my life. I will not be able to maintain my weight if I don't have time to eat right and exercise. It is very hard to say no to volunteers who are giving their time to the cause. I'm paid, so they expect a lot. I understand that. But I've got to set priorities and set limits. I'll try.

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WINDSURFNERD 8/22/2010 12:40PM

    I hear ya! For me, struggling with work-life balance IS the reason for weight gain. I hope you find the right tools! -naomi

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AQUAGIRL08 8/21/2010 8:43PM

    I hate to say this but maybe you'll have to get up at 5a.m. and exercise then if you're not sure when you'll be able to exercise. I'm sure you'll figure it out. You've got so much energy and you are a very bright woman! Maybe Thursday was just a fluke but just in case it wasn't, have a plan B just in case. That means that you may need to exercise before going to work and that you may need to pack a lunch and snacks.

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DONNABRIGHT 8/21/2010 10:15AM

    What a day - I'm not sure I could go back to a schedule like that - I commend you for your work effort to get all that finished in such a short time. I do hope you have a great weekend.

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HAPPYSOUL91 8/21/2010 9:26AM

    Sorry about your day, some are just like day you are the bug and the next you are the windshield.

You will get it together and put yourself 1st before you start all the stuff is the only way to survive and it won't be easy but you can do it.

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JHADZHIA 8/21/2010 8:24AM

    Wow! Sitting eight hours makes my butt sore just thinking about it!! Hope you were able to take quick breaks in that stretch of time. Like they say, small bits of fitness add up. I hope you can find some me time with this new position.
Enjoy your weekend!

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BESTSUSIEYET 8/20/2010 9:54PM

    UGH! I'm tired just reading about your day -- and I pray for God to show you how to set reasonable boundaries that include rest & exercise & healthy meals for YOU! I know you're well aware of the dangers -- be well, friend!

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WILD4STARS 8/20/2010 8:41PM

    WOW! That's more than anyone should have to put up with. BUT, I know you will have it all under control in short order. It's what you do!

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JOYINKY 8/20/2010 4:28PM

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I hope you have a really great weekend and get some rest!
You certainly deserve it! emoticon

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    Marsha, you're doing GREAT. Just keep going one day at a time, and do what you can do, and that's the best anyone can do! emoticon emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 8/20/2010 2:53PM

    What a day Marsha! Does stress burn calories?

Hope you can take some deep breaths and chill out now.

Take care and stay well.

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Changing It Up

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

I told my hubby I was on the way to the gym, envisioning my usual elliptical or stationery bike workout and then hitting the weight machines. On the way there, I was just not excited about it. The day was so beautiful. The sky so blue. I decided I wanted to walk outside even if it was in the 90's. So I went to Lake Hollingsworth, a popular lake to walk here in Lakeland. It is 3 miles around, beside interesting Florida Southern College, buildings designed by Frank Lloyd Wright. There are so many beautiful birds (herons, ibis, anhinga, etc) and aquatic plants there -- I'd never before noticed a sort of water lily standing erect with blossoms at least a foot above the water. I thought I'd do a ten minute warm up - 5 min outs and possibly turn around then -- and go to the gym. After 5 minutes, I wanted more. I did the whole 3+ miles in just over 35 minutes -- a little jogging thrown in.

Then I drove to the gym, showered, and swam laps for 30 minutes straight, mostly breaststroke and backstroke, but a bit of crawl and sidestroke, too. Yesterday I had been so lazy and tired. Today I really got into a change of cardio. Showered and changed again and went to the grocery store which is another thing I rarely do. So, enjoyed a day of changing it up. Strength training may just have to wait until tomorrow

Sometimes you just go with the impulse and benefit from it!!

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WATERMELLEN 8/21/2010 9:14PM

    Exercising outside -- it's special. And especially if you like bird watching as much as I do!!

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AQUAGIRL08 8/19/2010 8:51AM

    Way to go Marsha! The great thing is that you really enjoyed what you were doing. The pleasure of it combined with the wonderful exercise is a big win/win for you!

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HAPPYSOUL91 8/18/2010 9:55AM

    Good use of cardio and you got the best of both the outdoors and the gym. We need a shot of change in our exercise program and you did it!

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KALIGIRL 8/18/2010 8:39AM

    Sounds like an excellent change of pace!

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PO_PAZZA 8/17/2010 9:33PM

    Your blog is a great reminder to me that it's time to shake things up again. It's so much easier to get in an exercise rut than branch out. Time to branch out. Thank you, Marsha.


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JHADZHIA 8/17/2010 8:31PM

    Awesome! Sounds like fun!
I love changing my routines. I don't have any pretty places to walk close by, which is why I cherish going over to my Mom's once in a while. I get river trail walks and also aquafit from the pool close to where she lives to change it up.
Enjoy your evening, you have earned a rest!!

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BESTSUSIEYET 8/17/2010 7:36PM

    Good for you, Marsha!! I think changing it up is critical -- for our emotional interest levels, and for our physical responses! Glad you had such a good day! Keep up the good work!! emoticon

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    WOW, I would have LOVED to come with you! That sounded GREAT! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JOYINKY 8/17/2010 5:14PM

    Sometimes the best plan is a change of plans! Sounds like a good choice!

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WALKINGANNIE 8/17/2010 5:05PM

    It sounds as if you had a good day Marsha and made a wise decision to go with your impulse. Congratulations on your busy-ness and flexibility.

Variety in physical activity is as important as variety in food and this is something that I will have to pay more attention to.


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MONTY68 8/17/2010 4:59PM

    Hi Marsha
I will start with your last statement and go with the impulse sounds like your body was saying change and you listened to it. What a great blog, Your lake sounds like a great place to walk. That is one thing here we have a lot of wildlife with all our lakes and canals. It just adds to the nature of walking.
You did a great job today and even went to the grocery store, Wow!!!!.
Spark has had several articles on changing routines and the effect it has. I couldn't believe it when an article suggested changing the walking pattern as the body gets use to the same routine. Same with exercise. So yesterday, you really did a great change and your body will react very positive to it. The other part of that is change eliminates the possible boredom of same old , same old anything.
Fantastic ideas and another reason why you are so successful and inspire others.
Thank you.

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