Monday, June 21, 2010
I read the Daily Spark, "Conquering Eating and Other Impulses the Easy Way", a couple days ago. I read a lot of Spark articles, sometimes because I'm just racking up SparkPoints and sometimes to kill time so I'm not eating and sometimes because I really want the information. In this case I started reading just to get the points, but I found myself not just skimming it, but going back to reread it slowly.
Yet I didn't think of it when I gave into an impulse to eat the day before yesterday. But I did think about it when I was trying to digest my impulse eating, learn the lesson, and improve my eating behavior. I went back and reread it.
Here is the core of it:
"...we do have two selves, or at least two different voices in our heads. One is the normal, everyday stream of thinking and impulses that drives our actions. The second, which is much more powerful and stable, allows us to observe those thoughts and impulses. In the phrase, "I like myself,"......"myself" is the Observed; the "I" is the Observer that does the liking.
Unfortunately, our Observers are usually dormant, and the Observed becomes the Unobserved. We then become slaves to our impulses and our often-dysfunctional thoughts, worries, fears, etc. When the Observer kicks in, you realize that you're much more than the sum total of your thoughts and impulses. Then you can rule them, not vice versa.
Read more: http://www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=co
So the writer is saying that when we have an impulse we can use our Observer to recognize it as an impulse, and then decide whether to act on that impulse or not. So simple.
Yesterday I found it surprisingly effective. Last eve I wanted something to eat. I was envisioning the refrigerator and cabinet and what my choices were at the time. When I suddenly thought, "This desire to eat is an impulse." I'm not really hungry. I don't have to act on this impulse. And the impulse left!!
I have a strong feeling that this technique is just what I need to overcome my remaining eating behavior problem. Time will tell whether this is THE technique or one tool in the tool box. I'm observing that I'm getting stronger in my ability to analyze my behaviors and change them to become the person I want to be. Thanks, SparkPeople, for a new tool to help me!!