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Love Yourself as You Are Now Challenge - Polk County SparkTeam

Monday, March 01, 2010

Assignment for today:
1. Write a short summary about what you want to do for yourself in the March Love Yourself as You Are Now Challenge.

I'm at goal weight and I still can't say I feel really good about myself.

Weight - Sometimes I still feel fat. My stomach is pooching out or my floppy triceps continue to wave goodbye long after my hands have quit. You know what I mean. But I know I have a normal BMI. My doctor has told me that I don't need to lose more weight. Weight is not the issue. Feeling good about myself is the issue. For March, I am going to maintain my weight between 127-133 (that is moving my range down 2 pounds, but I weighed 128.8 this morning.)

Fitness - Today I'll see a Wellness Coach at the Lakeland YMCA (Cleveland Heights). I suspect that I am "skinny fat," the right weight but a high percent of body fat. If so, I should get a program to help me build muscle. I think the last 4+ months doing the SparkPeople generated strength training has helped me enough that I will be able to do at least the easiest level at the gym. Fitness Goal for March: find out body fat percentage, get program related to the findings, and do it!! I may have to see the doctor, too, because she has told me no heavy lifting, without defining what heavy is. That could postpone getting started on the program, but I'll start as soon as I can. I will continue to do at least 60 minutes of cardio 6x per week and I'll make sure I get strength training at least 2x per week for core, for upper and for lower body. Currently 10 pound weights are the heaviest I use.

Relationships - I live with a lot of criticism, and much of it I think is undeserved. I simply must be strong enough to decide what is okay, live in accordance with my own values, and discount unfair critics in my life. Goal for March: I'll write down most (or at least many) of the criticisms with my analysis. I'll look for truths in criticisms that I can benefit from, and I will negate those that are unhelpful and unfair. I will develop some positive affirmations to counteract the environment in which I live.

Appearance - I'm going to do something with my hair and try to make it look better. When I am doing lots of cardio, especially when I am doing it several times a day, it makes it difficult, but perhaps not impossible. March: new hair style.

House Order and Cleanliness - I don't feel good about the way I live. It is difficult because my husband enjoys mess, and dirt does not bother him. He regularly does very little to no housework, except for grocery shopping. After meals I often just put the food away when Natalie (3 year old) is with us and then leave the dirty dishes in order to play and have more time with her. For March: I will make my bed at least 5x per week. All dishes will be washed before I go to bed at least 6x per week.

So, for March, I'll do the Love Yourself as You Are Now Challenge daily activities. I'll maintain my weight, start a gym fitness program, get a new hair cut, make my bed, and do better at keeping the kitchen clean. I will reflect on how I feel about myself and look for opportunities to improve my relationship with myself.

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    Great blog Marsha. Thanks for your inspiration coming from your own heart and your own life experience. emoticon

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AQUAGIRL08 3/1/2010 3:22PM

    What a great plan! You've obviously given it a lot of thought and I know that you'll be successful! We can lean on each other for support 'cuz I'm here for you!

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PEGGYANNSCH 3/1/2010 10:52AM

    you look ok to me

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ONTHEGOMO 3/1/2010 10:23AM

    Hey, Old Mom, I think you are OK right now.

How about the thought that you buy into the criticism maybe more than you would have to?? Maybe you are critical of yourself, and/or were exposed to a lot of criticism when you were growing up and internalized it? You can accept what is true and let the rest just go by. I know this because I do it. (most of the time) Finally figured it out. (I just may be older than you??)

Anyway you are doing wonderfully well, and what a sweet granddaughter. Not a bad idea to spend your time with her.



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KALIGIRL 3/1/2010 9:53AM

    This is a very powerful post - written by someone who knows who she is and where she wants to go.
I send applause - especially for your journaling about criticism. What a marvelous thing to do.
Once again, you serve as a role model to the rest of us.

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PERSISTANT123 3/1/2010 9:21AM

    I think that I need to do you Assignment for Today myself.

I can't believe how far I have come since joining SP in January, and it is a good idea to define some things in my life as well.

Thanks for all you do to inspire us Marsha!

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WILD4STARS 3/1/2010 9:09AM

    I love your plan, especially about dealing with criticism. There was a book out several years back called "Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business" and I have on occasion found myself using it as a silent affirmation. I'm betting you'll find that the less you respond to the criticism the less it will show up. Some people feed off of the victim's reaction.

Another great blog, thanks so much!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/1/2010 6:11AM

    It's so helpful that you share yourself like this Marsha. Reading some friends' blogs is like looking at family photographs - I can see some strong resemblances between each of us but notice the individuality that makes people unique.

I certainly recognise your analysis of weight and being 'skinny fat'. My doctor has also told me that I shouldn't lose more weight and am just right where I am now (woo hoo for that) - but my stomach, upper arms and inner thighs remain as problem areas. What makes you different is your persistence in strength training. It's inspirational and I'm trying to learn from your example.

As for relationships - wherever there are people, there are complications. Your approach is sensible and realistic. It's so good - and typically focused of you - that you're aiming to make any criticism as constructive as possible, whether that was the intention or not. It sometimes helps to remember how the critic feels as they see us make effective decisions, look better and increase in strength and confidence?

As for housework... You know what they say. "Behind every successful woman is... and enormous pile of unironed laundry."

Good luck with your March plans.

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He Meant Well

Sunday, February 28, 2010

My hubby is not big on holidays. Thirty years ago, after we'd been married for one month, I gave him a "Monthiversary" present. He just laughed. He told me he does Christmas and birthdays, but no other celebrations. So, I've accepted that.

But this year on Valentine's Day I said I wanted something I hadn't had for quite some time: chocolate. Specifically, I wanted 70% cacao dark chocolate, since I'd read about its antioxidant properties. So I wanted one serving of indulgence with a redeeming quality. I said I was going to drive to the store. He said I didn't need to, that it would probably be half price the next day. Oh, I let him talk me out of it. Later I looked at Publix and at CVS and couldn't find 70% cacao. I thought I'd check out a health food store later.

Hubby went to DisneyWorld with grandkids the next week and brought me home 3 bars of 60% cacao, each with 4 - 110 calorie portions. Almost. Close. He tried. I shared with guests, thoroughly enjoyed it, and thought that was it.

Those who follow my blog know that hubby is the grocery shopper in the family. He took it over after about three months of my maintenance when he figured out I wasn't going back to shopping like I used to. He said he wasn't getting what he needs. He is diabetic and has had a heart attack. Believe me what I buy is far more what he needs. But that is a digression from this story.

Hubby then came home from Publix with 4 bags -- FOUR bags - of Nestle's Special Dark Mildly Sweetened Chocolate Nuggets with Almonds. They were buy one - get one free. He brought home 36 servings of 180 calories each. Admittedly the bag touts antioxidant properties. BUT the fine print says it is 45% cacao. Darn.

If I have a trigger food left it is chocolate. It would be so easy for me to eat a whole bag or two at one sitting. It is yummy. But I intend to resist. I could throw it away or give it away, but I'm down to my target weight (128.8 this morning) and I am going to try to handle it. Wish me luck. He truly did mean well.

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WATERMELLEN 3/2/2010 8:27PM

    I'm a huge fan of the Lindt 85% cocoa individually wrapped squares of chocolate -- about 30 calories each -- and I keep a bag of them in my locker at the gym: have a square (occasionally two) after a workout! Really really really chocolatey: it's spoiled me for "lesser" chocolate.

In addition: chocolate brownie oatmeal (1/3 cup large flake oatmeal, 1 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder, 3/4 c boiling water, nuke for 2 minutes, add Splenda and sprinkle of walnuts.

And: fat free sugar free vanilla yogourt (splenda sweetened) with 1 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder stirred in: very chocolatey.

Unsweetened cocoa powder is teeeming with antioxidants and has 5 tiny little calories per tbsp!!

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KALIGIRL 2/28/2010 4:21PM

    Sorry chocolate is your trigger food -
that makes it tough. emoticon
The Hershey nuggets you mention are actually my treat food. Granted they don't have 70% cacao, but they do have almonds which are good for cholesterol. In addition, it takes 4 nuggets to make a serving, so I treat myself to one @ a time.
(In fact, I'm savoring one now...) emoticon

I'm happy to wish you luck, but have faith you can resist eating the whole bag. (It won't taste good anymore...)

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WILD4STARS 2/28/2010 3:12PM

    Just supports my belief that men should not be allowed in grocery stores unsupervised.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/28/2010 2:47PM

    Is this another dimension of strength training? You're so good at dealing with the physical challenges so I'm sure that you can deal with Temptation Bootcamp?


You'll feel great when you've spaced out your indlugences. Enjoy them when you do decide to eat them though. Savour each mouthful.

Good luck!

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ANNIEONLI 2/28/2010 1:29PM

    Gotta give them cradit when they DO try at least....altho I hear you about it being few & far between - ROFL!!

Thanks for swinging by my blog today...fgiured I'd returna visit & I'm glad I did! WOW and congrats on the target weight! you look wonderful in all your pics too emoticon emoticon

You're an inspiration! emoticon

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PEGGYANNSCH 2/28/2010 1:10PM

    My husband is not for holidays but I buy him something anyway but he doesn't buy me anything but that is ok.

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MONTY68 2/28/2010 12:56PM

    Hi Marsha,
Very interesting blog. Congratulations On the target weight I wish you luck in handling the candy, I know you can. I eat a oz of nuts every day because of the value I get but I have to allow it as part of my daily calories.
Your husband did mean well, but as a man, in my opinion, I felt if that had been me, a sense of guilt would have entered in because I didn't do it on Valentines Day and I would need to make it up big time.
I know that you will handle it in the best way for yourself.


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AQUAGIRL08 2/28/2010 12:35PM

    There is nothing wrong with indulging periodically. You could eat one bar once a week. You'd be set for months! Maybe next time you can go with him and help with the grocery shopping. Show him which chocolate bars you like. Just a thought....

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Saturday, February 27, 2010

Synchronicity is kind of like coincidence, but a little more mysterious, at least I think of it that way. "Events that seem related, but are not obviously caused one by the other," is how the Encarta Dictionary explains it.

Yesterday afternoon I did something I consider important, forward looking, and inspired by my SparkFriends. It's not the kind of thing I do every day; in fact its been decades since I did it. I became a member of the YMCA with all its gym equipment, pool, and classes, and made an appointment with a Wellness Coach for Monday.

When I got home, lo and behold, there it was! A SparkGoodie from none other than my biggest inspiration, Linda RAYLINSTEPHENS. Now hold your breath: it was a gym membership!!! How did she know? Is she psychic? Probably not. Just a bit of synchronicity to Spark up our lives!

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KALIGIRL 2/27/2010 9:40PM

    Amazing & wonderful -
emoticon on joining the Y!

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WATERMELLEN 2/27/2010 8:16PM

    Hurray! Congratulations!! I love my YMCA membership: the Y is my "third place" (after work and home) where I can hang out with friends and take care of myself. I wish you much joy and pleasure with your new Y membership.

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    LOL - I like that, Synchronicity!

Enjoy your membership my wonderful sparkling friend!!


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AQUAGIRL08 2/27/2010 2:48PM

    How cool was that? Which Y do you go to?

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PERSISTANT123 2/27/2010 1:57PM

    Enjoy your time at the Y. I wish there was one closer to me. emoticon

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ANGELBELIEVER 2/27/2010 12:22PM

    Congrats on joining the "Y." I used to go there too and I loved the treadmill the best. Great about the gym membership from your spark friend too. I have been told that coincidences are God's way of remaining anonymous! Enjoy your membership. You deserve this gift to yourself. I go to Curves.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/27/2010 11:11AM

    Perhaps mind-reading is a feature of Co-Leadership!

ns on joining the Y. Hope your meeting with the Wellness Coach is helpful.

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JHADZHIA 2/27/2010 6:43AM

    Hi Marsha,
That was confirmation on what was meant to be! Enjoy! Its nice to go to a place that has a variety of options!
Enjoy your weekend!

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MONTY68 2/27/2010 2:24AM

By definition you are correct, I have read quite a bit on the subject and totally believe in it. what ever it was, congratulations n a great gift


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Challenge Met!

Friday, February 26, 2010

I just finished a 7 mile bike ride. The weather was chilly, but I got warmed up pretty quickly. At the beginning of February I saw a challenge on the message boards and signed up. Many of the people committed to hundreds of miles, but in good SparkPeople tradition, I started small. I committed to ride 50 miles in the month of February. I just completed it. It feels really good to meet a challenge! - Marsha

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AQUAGIRL08 2/26/2010 7:06PM

    Way to go Marsha!!!

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HERE2PERSEVERE 2/26/2010 5:36PM

    emoticon emoticonreaching your goal! emoticon
SPaRk On!

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WALKINGANNIE 2/26/2010 3:46PM

    You're going from strength to strength with your activities Marsha. Well done on finishing another challenge.

I'm delighted that you're the new Co-Leader of At Goal and Maintaining. Thanks so much for taking the role on.


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KALIGIRL 2/26/2010 1:25PM

    emoticon - I'd say 50 miles isn't 'small' (@ least for me).
Thanks for co-leading the team!

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NEWLIBRARIAN 2/26/2010 12:25PM

    Congratulations on reaching your goal. Are you going to set another goal for March?

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PERSISTANT123 2/26/2010 11:48AM

    Congratulations on achieving your goal! emoticon emoticon

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29ANDHOLDINGON 2/26/2010 11:44AM

    That's really great! Keep it up! emoticon

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PSYCHABOO 2/26/2010 11:42AM

    Great job Marsha! Way to complete your goal!! I might actually complete mine. I have two days left and so far so good!!

Have a great weekend!

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TANJERM 2/26/2010 11:42AM

    That is so awesome. Good for you. emoticon emoticon

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The Craziest Thing I Ever Did to Try to Lose Weight

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Today I am so thankful that I can maintain a healthy weight through eating healthy food in reasonable amounts and by being active. But it wasn't always that way. I've previously shared the most dangerous things I've done to lose weight (frozen cigarette puffs) and the most uncomfortable (wearing a too tight belt to bed to rein in midnight refrig raids.) But I have yet to confess the craziest thing I ever did in search of mastery over food.

You may remember I was 31 pounds at one year of age when the doctor put me on my first diet of skim milk. My mother says from birth I acted hungry all the time, so she just fed me. When I was in my mid twenties, I came to the conclusion that my sucking needs weren't met when I was an infant. Okay, it wasn't a conclusion -- more a theory. So, to test out that theory I bought several baby bottles. I filled them with watered down skim milk, usually sweetened with artificial sweetener. Sometimes I used plain water. For a couple months I spent an hour or so in the evening sucking. (I was single and lived alone.) Needless to say, it didn't help.

At one time I thought about writing an article for The Inquirer about being hooked on baby bottles, but I never did it. In the last 35 years, thank heavens, I have had no urge to repeat the experiment.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/26/2010 4:02PM

    This is what makes you such a good choice for Co-Leader. You've been there and gone through the struggle.

Thanks - for this blog and everything else.

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MONTY68 2/26/2010 1:22PM


If I may say so, you are funny but honest, I did try the frozen cigarette to see what difference it made for smoking, nothing so I thawed the other 2 out. I think that your baby bottles idea could make sense. I know that some people insist that need is part of why people smoke. I am not going to experiment with that one.
You are one that has taken this weight thing and healthy living serious and have done a fantastic job. I see the daily comments of your exercise and all that you are doing. You are a an example of what others can do to be successful.
As an afterthought, The title of what article would probably be a success on the café message board. It might be fun to allow others to tell their secrets.
I is a great blog, yours always are and as I said you are a great example on being successful on your journey.

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KALIGIRL 2/26/2010 8:44AM

    Amazing the things we do to gain control. I was never nursed and kidded my mom that I she made me the compulsive talker that I am. (She said I got it from my dad...)
So glad you've found a healthy lifestyle - I'm getting there!

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WATERMELLEN 2/25/2010 10:07PM

    Isn't it great to find SparkPeople after all of our years of struggles? Great blog!

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