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Saturday, May 04, 2013

The ol' Attitude of Gratitude! Today in Spark Coach Spark Guy encourages me to write down three things I can be proud of or grateful for.

This comes at a good time for me. I was just thinking about how hard it is to stay consistent! Man, it is hard! However. . . I have much to be grateful for. Not sure I feel like I can be proud of these things, because they are blessings from God, but none the less, I am jotting them down here.

1. The beautiful weather and all the spring flowers. Oh, it is God's reminder of is love for us. And to think that this beauty is only a taste of what His new Heaven and earth will be one day!

2. The changes in my son. He is growing and maturing and I am TRULY grateful for that.

3. That I have the freedom to do, to go, to be what and where I want. I am so grateful.

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KAYLSLYNN 5/5/2013 3:49PM

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NANCYPAT1 5/5/2013 7:33AM

    Lovely reminder

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 5/4/2013 10:15AM

    so very true I have to make a gratitude list, way to go!!

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    Good post..being Alive and Healthy..Keep on to more Success! emoticon

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Pep Talk

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Spark Guy in my Spark Coach lesson urged me to write out a pep talk to myself and to give myself a pep talk. Then at the end of the video he is humorously giving himself a pep talk in the mirror. It was funny.

My pep talk to myself. This is how I would encourage someone else.. .

I know you're struggling. I know you're feeling hungry because you are stressed or bored or maybe you are angry, but wait! Give yourself a chance to be successful. Give yourself a minute to think. Stop and think! Stop and feel. Think about how you are going to feel at the end of the day when you let this thing pass. It will pass. Every small choice you make is going to get you closer to your goal. You can do this. You have Christ's resurrection power living in you. He rose from the grave and lives in you! You can do this! Put your mind on something else. Put your hands on something else. Move your body away from the thing that feels like it is pulling you. I believe in you.

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KAYLSLYNN 4/25/2013 10:29AM

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IDAHOFLOWER 4/24/2013 7:23PM

    You are looking good. Thanks for the coffee.
It's still cool here. Rose emoticon

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NANCYPAT1 4/24/2013 11:50AM

    Great pep talk - how'd it work for the person intended to SPARK - YOU?

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 4/24/2013 9:36AM

    good pep talk, sometimes we need this!!!

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EVIE4NOW 4/24/2013 9:12AM

  great pep talk.. thank you.

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A Walk through the Cemetery

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Frequently, I will walk through the local cemetery on my walks. My Mother and Dad are both buried there. They died too young, both from different forms of cancer. My Paternal grandparents are buried there as well along with other extended family and friends. It may sound morose, but It is good for me to do this. It reminds me of how truly short life is. How we don't know when our time is up on this earth. It reminds me to make the most of every day and every moment God has given me to live here. It reminds me to be the very best I can be. Love others. To be a godly example. To impact and influence others lives in a positive way. What an opportunity! And it causes me to think about what kind of legacy I want to leave behind when my time has come. What do I want people to remember about me? Yes, it is good for me to walk through the cemetery on occasion.

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GGCHET 4/21/2013 8:23PM

    Yes you are so right. When we are growing up we think our folks will always be there. Once they aren't.......we wish we had that time back.
Yes mam!

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 4/21/2013 3:47PM

    Thankyou it is so very true to have those reminders from time to time

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PATTIE441 4/21/2013 12:45PM

    Wow! Thank you for this. I am very sorry for your losses. I have been struggling with losses of family members, and it is so true how short life is. I am going to really try hard not to only focus on the people I have lost, but focus on the people that are here too! You are beautiful! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Apology Acepted

Saturday, April 20, 2013

I had some good advice from another Sparker the other day (RX_2_RV). She suggested I write the apology I wish I had gotten from the person who told me to keep my "fat clothes". I think this is a great idea. Those words have loomed over me for 10 or so years now. Every time I do well, I fear I will fail. Every time I fail, I hear those words ringing in my ears. I really don't think he meant them to be so powerful in my life. But I think they speak to the fear deep in me that 1.) I can't get there. 2.) If I do, I won't be able to maintain it.

So here goes the apology:

"Dear Sharon,
I am sorry that I spoke those words to you so long ago. I should have said, "Way to go! You are really making changes in your life! What are you doing different that you have come this far?" Instead, I spoke out of my own experience with people in my life who have not been able to maintain their weight loss. Please don't let those words define your efforts to a healthy lifestyle. Get rid of the clothes that are too big! And keep on keeping on."
Sincerely, Yours.

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 4/21/2013 3:54PM

    awesome advice and way to go girl

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PATTIE441 4/21/2013 12:42PM

    Girl! You are awesome! This is a wonderful blog, and I am going to go get rid of mine too! We CAN do it! Let's go!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PLATINUM755 4/20/2013 11:20PM

    Great advice and it really does help! emoticon emoticon

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Too Big

Thursday, April 18, 2013

My Spark Coach is urging me today to visualize how I will feel when I am able to drop off clothes that are too big to the mission (or other charitable organizations).

About 12 yrs ago, I lost all the weight I wanted to through a Diet Center. It came off much faster than now. Really, the two biggest things I remember from that experience are 1. How difficult it was to do and to maintain. And 2. what my father in law said at the time, "You'd better keep your fat clothes". I 'm sure he did not intend to hurt my feelings, but those words still ring in my head today when I think about getting rid of the things that are "too big". I tend to worry about it. I tend to wonder if I will get where I think I want to go and once I get there can I make it last this time, or will I end up needing those "fat clothes" again.

I will visualize dropping them off. Maybe I will put a note in the bag that might encourage the person who may end up with them. And maybe I will write a note with those hurtful words on it and burn it.

I choose to not let my past fears and hurtful words keep me from my today and my future.

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SKDUFORD 4/19/2013 9:38AM

    Great idea to write a letter of apology! I will do this. And check out the group you suggested. Thank you! :)

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RX_2_RV 4/18/2013 11:10AM

    I've had similar experiences with my mom.

You are taking the right approach. One more idea that has helped me get over some of the hurtful things in life is to write the letter of apology you would like to have received from the person who hurt you. It's kind of like "tricking" your brain into thinking that the person actually did apologize. It makes it a lot easier (for me) to let it go, move on, and be happy.

Also, congrats on sticking with spark people! I did Jenny Craig twice and weight watchers once....lost the same 40 pounds each time....ugh!

I have met some really wonderful and supportive people on the spark team "At Goal and Maintaining + Transitioning to Maintenance". They welcome those that are still losing weight but are thinking/planning how they are going to successfully maintain in the future. For me, that is the key...I can lose the weight...but never been able to keep it off for more than a couple years. If the team sounds interesting to you, come check it out.


Congrats on your progress and I wish you much success in the future!


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BRENDA_G50 4/18/2013 10:27AM

    Leave it to the naysayer to undermine your hard work. emoticon

Whether it's intentional or not, those words still get into your head and it hurts. emoticon

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