Monday, September 02, 2013
Your action step for today is to identify the major sources of stress in your life and start thinking of ways to eliminate or lessen those stressors. Although it might seem difficult to cut down on your stressors at first, it will get easier when you begin to realize how much better you feel without them. Additionally, make a list of your favorite calming activities to do when you feel stress coming on, and use it as a reminder when times get tough.
The two major stressors I have in my life are my husband and my work.
And I can't completely eliminate either. Well, not without good conscious.
A little backround about my husband. He is the youngest and only boy in his family. He has a mom, dad and 3 older sisters. Even though he's 32 now he never really grown up. He still has those youngest child tendencies. He plays video games for hours, thinks its funny to make me stress out and doesn't do things because they need to be done, he only does them when told. It's annoying but after 11 years of marriage and 15 years together I know he isn't going to change but what I can change is how I handle him. The fact that he knowingly tries to get under my skin is the most disconcerting.
A little background about me, I'm 31 and the oldest only girl in my family. I have a mom, dad and 2 younger brothers. Somehow our marriage dynamic though stressful sometimes just seems to work.
I'm getting better at growing up and not letting my hubby bother me. I remove myself from those situations and just stop reacting. Usually he lets up. (I could go on and on and write 100 blogs just about my hubby but I digress)
My second stressor is my job. I work as a quality control auditor for a government contractor. Work Instructions change all the time and often time they defy logic. When these changes happen I get really stressed out and my blood pressure sky rockets.
I'm getting better at handling stress. The techniques I most use are; controlled breathing, warm showers, hot tea and of course Dave Matthews music. The best way I find to be proactive about preventing stress is; getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating quality foods. I find also that its great to remove yourself from the situation and think in a year from now, will any of this matter, in 5 years? Those things that will plague me on my death bed, those are the things that matter, not any of these small things.