Sunday, November 06, 2011
Today is my birthday and I'm delighted to have a day where I can just sit and veg out. It's been a busy, busy month ....actually, it's been a busy two months.
Dad died almost two months ago. I've been grieving his passing, but I'm also so aware that his quality of life had gotten so bad that it was a true blessing for him to pass on. Knowing that and having gotten to spend so much time with him the past three years has made losing him much easier than I expected. I know he's not suffering any more.
Last summer, when my son became engaged, we offered to host his wedding at our house in Tennessee in October. We knew my dad's health was declining and there would be a possibility that my dad would die around the same time, but we decided to go ahead and host the wedding anyway. It turned out Dad died about a month before the wedding. His passing was almost like a gift in terms of it's timing. I feel like the month between his funeral and the wedding gave us some time to regroup and be able to change gears to prepare for the wedding.
My son's was a beautiful wedding. Small, but what I would call "casually elegant"....and A LOT OF WORK! There were many pictures taken, but I don't have many my camera to share....I was too busy working to be snapping pictures. Here's one of the arch and decorating my SIL and brother did out on our deck where the actual ceremony was.
We had about 40 people at the wedding and 20 people at the dinner the night before all out our house. I did all the cooking. My brother and SIL did the decorating (thank goodness...I'm terrible at that). Anyway, it was beautiful, and everyone seemed to have a wonderful time.
Immediately after the wedding (and a day of cleaning up from all of that), my focus turned to helping my mom. We had found a great assisted living place 30 minutes from my house in Tennessee that she really liked. It's brand new and very spacious. She was able to get a spot to move in due to some cancellations of people that had been on the waiting list. I have stayed down in Tennessee after the wedding to help her pack, go to doctors appointments and put the house on the market.
My mother is very HIGH MAINTENANCE and I've always had a difficult relationship with her. She has major anxiety problems and all these changes just sent her off the charts. She wanted to move IMMEDIATELY because she didn't want to stay in her house over the winter by herself. I understand her motivation and really understand all that she is going through with losing her husband of 65 years. There is no question that the move and Dad's death are huge adjustments for her......that being said, she just drives me nuts with her anxiety about EVERYTHING. She can truly go into a tizzy about the smallest thing. It made packing her up for the move about twenty times harder than it would have been without her high anxiety issues.
We (my brother and I) actually got her moved on Thursday and put the house on the market the same day. The house needs work....I spent all of Friday just cleaning it up. My brother and I spent all of Saturday doing more things to help get Mom settled in her new place. She still needs her pictures hung and a few other things, but all in all....she's moved. Hooray!!!! Now someone else can be her "go to" person with all her anxiety issues.
I still have a boatload of things to do at her house, AND I need to do things at my house in Tennessee so I can make the lovely 11 hour drive back to Illinois to be with my husband. I've been down here for almost a month and he was only here for two days the weekend of the wedding.
There's a part of me that would like to just stay down here and veg out between now and Thanksgiving...when we will be back here to host our family dinner anyway....but I'm not sure how well that would sit with my husband. I have to think about that one and talk it over with him.
Anyway, this fine sunny Sunday morning on my 59th birthday, I'm just relaxing with a cup of coffee and taking it easy...for the moment!
I know all this work and all these changes have been all for the good...it's just been A LOT in the past two months.
No wonder, I just want to sip my coffee and blog on my birthday!
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Total Burned 1,548
Food and Exercise: Ate almost nothing yesterday while doing my 11 hour drive. I think I was afraid that if I ate, then I would have to be stopping all the time to go to the bathroom. I know it's not good to undereat....it puts me into starvation mode. Not a good thing.
Life and All: I loved the new navigation system on my smartphone. The car I drove down doesn't have those bells and whistles. Speaking of bells and whistles, SP's diet tracker app is great! It has a bar code reader AND I can also enter food by saying out loud what I'm looking for.....and it finds it!!!
Now there is really no excuse not to track.
Same way with entering weight into SP on the phone. No excuses....it's too easy to do!
The weather forecast is sunny and cool for the wedding day! It will be great for a wedding on the deck.
Have a great day Sparkfriends!
Friday, October 14, 2011
Total Burned 1,549
Total Burned 1,610
Food and exercise: Today, I knew I was going to be real busy, so I got up first thing and did 10 minutes on the TM just to get some exercise in. My food has been sort of on the light side because I've been preoccupied with getting things done in advance of my drive down to Tennessee tomorrow for my son's wedding. Tracking has made me more aware of how I'm missing meals.
Life and all: It's been busy, but for the most part, it's been a good kind of busy. My son's wedding is at my house in Tennessee next Saturday. Mom is moving into assisted living 10 days after that. Now, it appears that she may have a buyer for her house. That's great news in this economy, but it also means my brother and I are going to have to get the WHOLE HOUSE emptied out....pronto! We were kind of thinking it would be on the market for a while and we could empty it out over a period of several months.
I feel like I just did something like that last spring when I helped my boys with The Great Decluttering Project. Actually, emptying out my parent's house will probably be easier than what I did last spring.
It's all good... when we get through these next few weeks, I'm hoping the whirlwind will die down a little. One good thing about the emptying out the house project is that it is such a physical job, that I won't have any problem keeping my calorie burn up.
Tomorrow, I'll be driving 11 hours by myself down to Tennessee. What fun! NOT!!
It will give me plenty of time to chill out!
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Total Burned 1,619
Life and all: Started out the day by having a very frustrating conversation with my mom...not fun. Fortunately, I didn't eat over it. My husband helped to get things straightened out. Thank goodness for understanding husbands!
I got a new smartphone and had fun yesterday setting up new apps. It's a whole new world out there!
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