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Monday, May 06, 2013

Well that hurt, but it wasn’t as bad as it could have been... Stepping on the scale this morning, I just said to myself “screw it, whatever it is, is just the beginning of starting over.” So I got on. 193. It was up. Honestly it has been up for awhile, I just kept denying that my tracker set at 184 wasn’t that off. OR I was just going to not update it again until I got below 184 where it has been set for awhile.

Then I remembered, this is not the point of Spark. Sometimes I feel a bit of pressure since I’m a motivator and since I have lost a bunch of weight. Dropping from 270/280 to 180 was great. Then... I hung out at 184 for half a year... Then I had my arm reduction surgery... swelled up a bit. Maintained around 184... then the second revision surgery went bad. Then I got busy/lazy/stressed. Crazy thesis drama ensued. Sold my house. Came up with a lot of excuses to not work out or care what I put in my mouth... So I’m up to 193.

I’m up 10# for not watching myself or working out. Not as bad as it could be. But also not far from where I was. Its just 10#. My stomach is bigger, my arms that I just paid $6k to fix are bigger (now that is enough to irk me!) and my jeans are very vocal about my increased waist. I still don’t look bad though. I feel a little uncomfortable in my some clothes, but I’m still cute. But I’m going for hot. I’m going for beat the men off with a stick hot. I will get there.

I’m finishing up my thesis edits now. Turning it in Friday. Then the serious crazy stressful job hunt begins. Also. Mission HPOA. Fill in the blanks on the acronym ;-)

On the boy front I was just at another wedding with him. He knows a ton of people getting hitched. He seriously needs to stop taking me to weddings when I’m hormonal. It was supposed to be that time of the month... still waiting. So I was either PMSing or pregnant = horrible time to go to a wedding. Honestly its like 99% PMS. Weddings + hormonal girl friend = googly eyes and crying.

We’re doing really good. He keeps helping me move stuff around. I almost have all of my furniture in my bedroom at my parents house. Its still a mess. Haven’t been able to spend any time there to reorganize the stuff. Ugh... and of course I’ve gotten guilt trips from my mom about that.

Friday’s my birthday too. Is it weird that I’ve been so busy I don’t have a wish list or want to do anything? I wouldn’t mind crawling into pajamas with my dogs watching Netflix with TJ but that’s about it. Moving stuff around makes me feel a lot less materialistic. I don’t want any more stuff to move, lol.

Okay, now onto the plan. I’m staying with my friend Mette this week. She’s getting married in two weeks so eating healthy is on the game plan. I brought salad and fruit and center cut bacon and eggs for breakfast. I spent a ton of money on food last week, and I added up the calories... reality check time! I can’t afford $100 and 2000 calories of food! I’ll be fat and broke!

So planning ahead = salads, eggs/bacon, fruit, healthy food = staying under my calorie goal = losing weight!

I can do this. You can do this. We will do this!

  
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MOMMA-MOOSE 5/7/2013 6:51PM

    I'm sure you'll get that off in no time. Good thing you caught yourself early and paid attention before things got out of hand. I remember when I was only 10 lbs up. I knew it, and still did nothing. Now it's more like 25.

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LOLATURTLE 5/7/2013 1:31PM

    UM, what ADARKARA said!!

I applaud you for getting back on the scale and knowing it's time to get back to work. And having a great attitude and game plan about it. Because you are amazing.

And now comes the slapping. " Sometimes I feel a bit of pressure since I’m a motivator and since I have lost a bunch of weight. "
I understand that. I do. But know that you don't owe anyone ANYTHING. You are a motivator because you are YOU. Just be you. emoticon

Having a bunch of life changing and medical stuff totally upend your life and your eating/exercise habits is part of life. You accepted it, took charge, and are on your way back. It's practically the definition of maintenance. YOU GOT THIS!!

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KIKKI-G 5/7/2013 12:42PM

    Its good to know that last month was a fail for more people than just me. I gained 5-7lbs just being redics last month with moving,exams and life, so just know you're not alone. We've got a plan in place and we WILL do this.

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CHODGES83 5/7/2013 11:54AM

    I was lazy/eating un-mindfully last month and man it really hurt me. Turning it around this month! We will do this!

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CAALAN23 5/7/2013 11:43AM

    Sounds like you've had a lot going on too, so no guilty feelings right??? There were positive things happening as well during that time the weight was being sneaky.

You've also got a great plan to kick it back into gear which is another reason I'm guessing you are a motivator.

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BEECHNUT13 5/7/2013 8:09AM

    I haven't been eating that well lately. I want to pick up a journal from the store to write down what I eat, when I workout, the progress I make, and also include my writing schedule.

Also - I left a comment on your page now that you're a doctor and all. And not like Dr. Pepper is a doctor. ;)

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ADARKARA 5/7/2013 8:08AM

    10 measly pounds with all you've been through recently? COME ON. This will be a piece of cake for you (or fruit, whatever floats your boat emoticon ) You can DO this!

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MY_MICHELLE09 5/7/2013 6:21AM

    I so get the hormonal thing + weddings. It sucks!! But, at least you have a guy who's willing to go with you. Mine hates going to weddings and doesn't even want to set a date for ours. lol As for the eating right, it sounds like you have an awesome plan! Good luck sticking to it! And hey. At least the move should burn off a few extra calories. :]

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BRADMILL2922 5/7/2013 1:18AM

    Sounds like you have a good plan in place! All you have to do is execute the plan and you will drop that 10 in no time! Good luck and you CAN do it!

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ADVENTURESEEKER 5/6/2013 11:43PM

    I gained back 33lbs last fall/winter by turning a blind eye to my tracker and somehow thinking I'll just get back down and then my tracker will be right again. It's much more fun owning up AND watching it go back down than pretending.

You can do this!

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SUSIEGKORN 5/6/2013 10:56PM

    I've gained 10 pounds through my surgery/recovery time too added on to the 5 pounds I was up last year and it's not good! I must do something about it NOW! It helped me to read your blog. We've got so much to look forward to, and being healthier means we can enjoy life just a bit more!

When is your graduation day? I'm going to my niece's graduation on May 17 at 3:00 at Mizzou. She's getting her doctorate in Physical Therapy. It'd be so cool if your major graduates at the same time!

Here's to a healthier US!

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Ok...

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Okay... so I'm doing this again. I shouldn't expect to be perfect and be in my calorie range right away day 2. I'm close. I tracked -- so that's better than before.

I'm staying with friends in town from now on, seeing as I'm homeless. Trying not to freak out about life in general. I still have to edit my thesis. I'll turn in my D4 form to the grad school tomorrow, right before I meet with financial aid. Ten years of college, and private undergrad to boot = more than I bargained for. If I go the standard route, my payments are $1100+ a month, so needless to say, I'm gonna try to figure out my options and talk to an advisor for his opinion.

I need a job. That's the realization that's scaring me right now. I need to use this fancy degree I earned and find a job that will pay me well. That's not easy as many people on here know. I won't get into it, and unless you all know of a biochemistry/science-related job in St. Louis -- I'm not really looking for help. I just wanted to vent a little.

I sent myself into a panic attack today thinking about it. Made myself sick. And instead of getting Chinese at Hy-vee I bought a salad and some mixed fruit, and some more mixed fruit for breakfast. Apparently my breakfast today was well over 700 calories. Thought "its not that bad," tracked it, and saw it was. So I'm slowly Sparking again. I need it. I need to feel like I'm accomplishing something good, and working out and feeling better is good.

I mean I already felt better this morning after working out last night. I didn't do a lot, but considering I had no equipment but myself, I didn't do too bad. I'll do it again later after all the fruit and veggies settle out of my stomach.

Today I learned, being a grown-up sucks...


  
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LOLATURTLE 5/1/2013 2:43PM

    Being a grown up can totally suck. Don't panic though! It's just like Sparking - one manageable step at a time.

You're awesome. You'll get there. :)

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TINKSMOM1 5/1/2013 9:34AM

    One day at a time....take care of what you can control, like working out and eating right, edit your thesis....the things that you cant control will work out...deep breaths your gonna be fine! Being a grown up does suck sometimes!

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ICANTODAY 5/1/2013 12:26AM

    Being a grownup definitely has its days that make you wonder why the kid you used to be was in such a hurry to get here...

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STLADEE 4/30/2013 9:34PM

    Breathe and then Breathe again! Things will work out, one step at a time. Even though it all seems so very overwhelming right now!

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FYFE82 4/30/2013 8:41PM

    Sometimes being a grown up does suck.....

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Hello again!

Monday, April 29, 2013

So I've been busy. REALLY busy. Avoiding Spark busy. Looking back at a blog:

Upcoming stuff:
Conference 6th-10th -- DONE
Fly home 10th – get in a car and drive to Milwaukee -- DONE
11th – drive to Sheboygan, WI to meet some of TJ’s family -- DONE
12th – drive to Green Bay for rehearsal dinner for the wedding TJ is in -- DONE
13th – wedding of TJs friends -- DONE
14th – drive back to StL -- DONE
15th—drive back to Columbia -- DONE
16th-19th – furiously try to finish thesis-- DONE
19th – hand copies of thesis to committee members -- DONE
19th-26th—work on paperwork and thesis presentation -- DONE
26th—defend my thesis -- DONE
27-28th—move out of my house -- DONE
29th – close on my house -- DONE

May
3rd – drive to Milwaukee for another wedding
10th—turn in paperwork to grad school and my 28th birthday
17th – hopefully, graduation!
25th – wedding of my friend Mette

So now its almost May. Holy crap. Where did April go?

The last few weeks have been eventful to say the least. Healthy... not as much. I've added some belly pooch. I need to weigh myself, which I will on May 1st or 2nd and update my tracker. I've just avoided it. It was a stress I didn't need. So reality check time. Thesis = done = excuses = GONE!

I crappily threw my thesis together in the last two weeks. I mean I've been working on it, but really getting it together took a lot of work. And as you can see above, I really didn't have the time to spend focusing on it and everything else.

I feel really out of shape, but I am going to get back moving. I need to get my core strength back and lifting back and get me some muscles! Grr... Its going to happen. All of my energy was going into the thesis, and the defense, and those are both over. Its such a relief. Technically I passed. I just have to make some revisions. My defense was on Friday and since then I haven't even opened the copies with edits from my committee members. Two had no edits. One has a lot of edits. And one has some constructive edits. So all in all, not so bad. Its definitely a weight off my shoulders. So soon you all will just have to refer to me as The Doctor. Well... okay, A doctor.

I have my fancy, schmancy velvet hood for graduation on the 18th. That's crazy. I mean, I have to go right? Walk, get a hood, become a Doctor. That's just weird to think that 10 years of college are finally over. I won't be a student again. I've been in school 24 out of 28 years of my life, and now I have to go be this thing called an adult?! Whaaaa?

So now that that's mostly behind me, I want to focus on my fitness again. I was maintaining the mid-180s pretty well. I wasn't calorie restricting because of the arm injury. Oh and btw -- four months later from incision-ripping-open-grossness... its still not closed. Its close. There's only about a 2-3mm by 1mm opening, so I can wear a normal large bandage to cover it, so its almost there. Definitely by the end of May it should be closed. So that whole mess of an irritating disaster should be over. I don't have any exercise restrictions other than my lazy butt resisting movement, so I should be good to go to get working.

Other crazy big news = I sold my house. So as of this morning I am officially homeless. And since i don't have a job yet... I'm slightly screwed. I have really good friends though who are letting me crash at their places. This week is short, so I'm only spending two nights with one friend. Next week I might stay with another friend. And the week after, spend it with the first one again. Depending on how long it takes me to find a job... and how long my boss will pay for me... yea. I'm really trying to not freak out. I thought I had a solid job interview lined up for April, but they literally NEVER called to set it up. I talked to them again through LinkedIN but haven't heard back. So homeless and jobless but happy. Well not jobless. My PI is "letting" me stay in his lab as a post-doc, without a pay raise, for like 3 months. So he's getting an incredibly cheap post-doc, and I'm still getting a paycheck.

So where is all of my stuff? In my parents house. My mom is less than thrilled, but the plan was to move back and save money, so it kind of had to go there anyway. They have a big enough house that it fits, but its tight, and the garage is packed until we move stuff around. Thank god for my boyfriend TJ. He can pack a U Haul! My parents refused to help me move, so my sister and TJ helped me clear everything out. The dang treadmill would not fit out the door. We took the door off, and then had to put it in pieces to get it inside. Its currently still in pieces in my parents garage. I have no idea how the heck we can move it inside. Its just too damn heavy. It rolls, but not on grass... So hopefully A) the move didn't f*ck it up and B) the summer heat in the garage won't f*ck it up. *Fingers crossed*

My nearly official new motivation to get in shape is to a) feel better, but b) look good in a wedding dress next year. I have all sorts of plans for something semi-backless and sleeveless... so I need to get moving.

Basically I'm super happy right now, but I need to turn all of this positive energy back into my Spark. I am going to try to dig through blogs and see what everyone has been up to while I've been MIA, but you should be seeing me more around here again.

  
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KLONG8 4/30/2013 8:38PM

    What an accomplishment! Congrats on the Ph.D! It's been so long since I've been in school to think of the effort this took...well, pretty impressive. And it's certainly undestandable that you let your workouts etc slide a bit. That's the human thing to do.

Good luck as you begin a totally new phase of your life!

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HFAYE81 4/30/2013 4:52PM

    Woohoo! A doctor?? You've got to be feeling good! emoticon

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LOLATURTLE 4/30/2013 2:41PM

    Congratulations! on the PhD especially, but the house and move as well! You had one hell of an impressive month, that's for sure!

I have no doubt you will get back on track and be kicking butt in the fitness and job-hunting departments in no time.

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SDLEE514 4/30/2013 12:17PM

    ha it's a weird feeling indeed to not be a student anymore and be in the "real" world. Congrats on your Doctorate! Looking forward to seeing how everything goes for your and more Sparking :)

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BEECHNUT13 4/30/2013 8:47AM

    Congratulations, Doctor! I totally gained weight while on the job market and working on my dissertation. Didn't magically fall off afterwards, either. At least those fancy robes hide a multitude of 'sins'. ;)

Mine are Slytherin colors (there's a pic of me on my SP page in them)! I might get a patch to pin on sometime. Hahahha...

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SPARK_JO 4/30/2013 1:50AM

    That was a lot on your plate.

Edits are annoying when you wished you'd be over, but it's was give you a manuscript you won't be ashamed of re-reading or handing over to other people (including future employers).

Welcome back to a more "normal" life and I wish you that it'll get all sorted out soon.

You can always join the new 10lbs/10weeks challenge, we're in first week ;)

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CHODGES83 4/29/2013 5:30PM

    Holy crow, lady! Look at all you have accomplished! May is gonna be a breeze!

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Day 1 in DC = Success

Saturday, April 06, 2013

I arrived in DC today to go to the American Association for Cancer Research annual meeting. There wasn't really anything going on today so I got up early, flew out here, and then made it to our hotel by 12:45ish. Since they let us check in early, we threw our stuff upstairs and my co-worker and I headed out.

The cherry blossoms were supposed to peak today through the 8th -- but they really weren't open yet very much. Anyway, we walked from 13th/L near Lincoln Circle-ish (I think?) down to the White House... then down past the Washington Monument... down past the WWII memorial... the reflecting pool... the Lincoln Memorial... and aaaaaaaaaaaalllllll the way down to the Jefferson Memorial past the MLK memorial. We took the scenic cherry blossom route apparently. Then down past the wharf area. Up 7th to Chinatown to eat! Finally back to the Convention Center. Registered. Walked back to the hotel.

Sat around and rested our feet... then I wanted to go to Whole Foods. I needed some fruit. I was craving fruit after my day severely lacking in freggies and water. I packed an empty water bottle with me for the conference, but I didn't plan on walking over 19,000 steps by the end of the day! That's somewhere between 8-9 miles I think. CrAaAaZy! No wonder my calves are sore. And I just have even more walking for the next few days.

Now the AACR conference 2011 was kind of a turning point for me. I was fat. My conference clothes didn't fit. I had lost weight in 2010 and gotten new pants, but for 2011 I had to put on my old fat pants again. I was out of the teens and back into my size 20 Lane Bryant pants. That sucked. That number hurt. So I weighed myself and went to the conference.

Food is super expensive at these things + walking A LOT = I lost weight. Just a few days of eating less and eating healthy options + exercise = losing weight. From then on it clicked.

The last few weeks I've been hella stressed, putting it mildly. I've had to resort to some anti-anxiety meds lately just to be able to be around my boss honestly. I also had an EndNote fiasco of epic proportions, that I caught soon enough to fix but when your 350+ references turn into 169 and magically half of them say 161 "INVALID CITATION!!!" your heart dies a little bit. I was able to fix it, but that was a full on panic attack/crying fit/freak out. I spent the next four hours-five hours fixing it. *thank god for Macs and Time Machine! Then I spent another half hour fixing my poster which my boss kept tweaking. Then I spent 2 hours-ish packing and cleaning. So I went to bed at 1am, got up at 6am the next day to finish packing the car and cleaning the fridge out -- I can't leave a messy kitchen/fridge if I know I'm leaving.

Now here's a true hint of how stressed I was; I got a Brazillian right before I left town and it was RELAXING. Seriously. My head was meeeeeessed up. In other news -- they're not that bad people, or I'm just super weird. I'm probably just super weird ;-)

Friday I drove home to have some puppy therapy with my furbabies. They let me brush them for like an hour. They needed attention bad from their momma. I'm thinking about taking them back with me next week for puppy cuddles; but I probably shouldn't :-/ I ended up seeing my Gma at her home. She's out of it, almost gone, so its hard. We fed her dinner to make sure she ate, and dropped of her laundry (she has really nice stuff so my dad and uncle still make sure she has her laundry dry cleaned or washed by my mom so it isn't stolen -- her stuff got stolen the FIRST day she moved in there, grrr). Then went to bed at like 9pm.

Got up at 5:30 -- to fly to DC today, and haven't stopped moving. Or worked on my thesis. It was SO GORGEOUS outside here today that I just got in some super good exercise minutes (hello 200! Just TODAY!), and some vitamin D!

Tomorrow I'm taking my laptop with me to the conference. If I carry it, I will work on my thesis right? And I will eat the apple and orange and almonds I brought with me to have healthy snacks? Right? I'm planning to anyway. I wouldn't mind using this as a healthy kick-start again. I've been on a carb/sugar/caffeine/pleasegodletmegraduate
/omnomnom bender for the last few weeks. I honestly am NOT looking at a scale until after graduation. I think that's a good thing for me to avoid.

Anyway, its 9PM I'm exhausted, and I'm getting up at 6AM to do it all again tomorrow!

  
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HFAYE81 4/30/2013 12:21PM

    When I went to DC a few years ago, we racked up 6-9 miles a day for 3 days. The first and second day we were dead tired, the last day we were used to it. When I got home? I REALLY missed being in such a pedestrian friendly city!!!

You will make it, just keep pushing!! I hope you can find some stress outlets!

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SDLEE514 4/30/2013 12:13PM

    Holy walking batman! I mean one can expect to do a lot of walking in DC, but that amount is just absurd! Yeah, this year was late for the blossoms. They ended up peaking probably around the 9-10th...we went around that area the weekend of the 13 and while they were still pretty they were mostly past. Sorry I didn't advise where to eat in Chinatown, hope you found some good things!

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CHODGES83 4/22/2013 1:48PM

    I was in DC the 9-13 and the blossoms were amazing! I didn't have a pedometer or hrm with me so I have no accurate idea of many steps/miles we trekked, but I'm sure it was ridiculous!

Hope you had a lovely time!

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JUJUFISH 4/6/2013 9:58PM

    I had the same spa treatment a few days before I defended and had the same reaction! I'm going to say it's another one of those 'signs you're writing your thesis.' I hope your conference gives you a chance to clear your head and reset. Enjoy!

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BLUEROSE73 4/6/2013 9:08PM

    sounds like a beautiful place to visit. I'll have to check it out sometime.

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MKRETIRED 4/6/2013 9:04PM

  One of my favorite places.

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Good food in Washington, D.C. near convention center?

Monday, April 01, 2013

Lordy lordy lordy I am still super busy.

Less than 18 days until I have to give my thesis to my committee. Last week I met my goal of finishing the first draft of my paper manuscript and I e-mailed it to everyone on Friday… no one has given me edits yet… so… that sucks.

TJ came down for the weekend again. We went on Friday night to watch basketball with friends… and fought a bit. Homeskillet is worried that I’m going to turn psycho so he isn’t ready to commit to anything – so I told him that engagement rings and wedding talk needs to be off the table COMPLETELY. It basically took a lot of talking for me to get it through his head that joking about marriage is like me constantly giving him pregnancy scares. And then he drank and made a marriage joke… which led to more pissiness out of me and then MORE talking. Seriously, I need to go punch his ex-girlfriends. They really messed with his head.

Saturday I got some work done, sold some more of my furniture – I literally only have beds and a desk chair to sit on, oh and exercise balls! My house is getting emptier by the day. Its so weird! Closing is officially April 29th, so I’m going to defend my thesis and move out that same weekend. So weird! Still no job interview lined up, but that’s outta my mind for the next month. If anything, I’ll just stay in my lab for a few more months until I find something. And stay with friends… yea… hmm…

But anyway Saturday was a lazy day. It was rainy and gross. I really wanted to go out moving and walk or something, but it was just gross. Which led me to find out my lug of a man can lay in bed all day doing nothing. I was going insane with the inactivity. I need to move. Sunday I tried to get him to go on a walk with me since it was GORGEOUS outside. Nope. He doesn’t do that. I’m seriously going to have to get this guy more active. If he’s going to hang with me, he needs to get off his butt and work out with me. He’s a little torn about it though; he worked out a lot when he was going through a really rough time in his life, so he associates gyms with that bad time. I associate only good things with working out—so its kind of hard to understand. He has said for over five months that he wants to start working out. As someone who has been dying to work out, and is slowly getting back into it, I just want to drag him along with me. Now we all know that will not work at all… you have to want to do it for yourself, so hopefully he’ll come around.

I finished my poster and getting ready for a conference on Sunday. So that’s off my to-do list. Well, almost. I have to edit the poster a bit to get everyone’s changes on it before tomorrow. Also – I’m going to a conference in DC starting next Saturday. I need to find healthy food near the convention center – any DC people have recommendations? Otherwise, my butt’s just going to be in Chinatown every day.

Thesis wise I’m doing well. I think I have about half of my literature review done. Its pretty extensive on some things, a little lighter on others… My paper from last week is being split into two separate chapters, one in vivo one in vitro – so I’m splitting it up and adding a bunch of figures no one but me and GraphPad care about to thicken up the thesis a bit. My goal is to have the in vivo chapter done tomorrow and work my butt to get the in vitro chapter done by Thursday afternoon. Well at least a rough draft of it. My boss is notorious for not reading anything, so I’m going to print him off a copy of the paper – with people’s suggestions if they ever send me them… and a rough draft of my thesis (hopefully a nice THICK stack of paper by then) – and hand it to him as he is getting ready to get on the airplane to DC. He’s going to have his wife and kids with him though, so he’ll probably use that as an excuse to not do anything next week. He was gone all last week, and won’t be back until tomorrow… so I don’t know when he is ever going to read it. Not that I expected him to, but still, he’ll probably try to blame me and say I didn’t give him a draft. *sigh*

SO that’s what I’ve been up to. Still trying to squeeze some fitness in. I just barely got 1000 fitness minutes last month; if it weren’t for that extra day I wouldn’t have!

Next month I should get up near there too. With all of the walking I’m going to be doing at this conference, I should rack up a ton of steps each day.

Upcoming stuff:
Conference 6th-10th
Fly home 10th – get in a car and drive to Milwaukee
11th – drive to Sheboygan, WI to meet some of TJ’s family
12th – drive to Green Bay for rehearsal dinner for the wedding TJ is in
13th – wedding of TJs friends
14th – drive back to StL
15th—drive back to Columbia
16th-19th – furiously try to finish thesis
19th – hand copies of thesis to committee members
19th-26th—work on paperwork and thesis presentation
26th—defend my thesis
27-28th—move out of my house
29th – close on my house
May
3rd – turn in thesis to grad school and drive to Milwaukee for another wedding
10th—turn in paperwork to grad school and my 28th birthday
17th – hopefully, graduation!
25th – wedding of my friend Mette

So yea… if I’m working out – you should be too!

  
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CHODGES83 4/2/2013 1:44PM

    Good Grief! You're superwoman!

Fingers crossed everything goes swimmingly!



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ATTACKFATCAT 4/2/2013 12:05PM

    You are one busy gal! Keep up that motivation to get your thesis done! I am a terrible procrastinator and end up working best under pressure, so I am not exactly a role model for getting stuff done on time, lol. I admire you and your schedule.

I do get where TJ is coming from based on past exes. After having both my ex-husband and the first boyfriend after my divorce cheat on me, I definitely had some trust issues going into my relationship with B. And it took a long time (probably about 8 months) and patience on B's part to work through those issues. I worked on it a lot myself, but we also ended up talking a LOT, even if I felt I was being irrational or silly. And I am grateful he was willing to help me through it. I think you are awesome for being so patient with the issues he's having.

That being said, you definitely had good reason to draw that line on the "marriage jokes." That is really not fair to you for him to freak out but then continue to say things like that. Keep drawing that to his attention...even if he doesn't realize he's saying it, if you continue to draw that line, he will eventually start to notice. In doing that, you can say it in a way that tries to deflate it and doesn't cause a fight. Like instead of accusing him, just ask him to not say it and explain how it makes you feel again. And stick with that line even if he tries to turn it into an argument. You don't have to defend your feelings or validate them. As long as you are making him aware of how it makes you feel...that's all you have to do.

I don't know how long you two have been together. But my therapist said something like it takes a maximum of 6 months for a person's true colors to show through (if they are hiding issues or the fact they are crazy). I understand if he has trust issues to work through, but if he is still waiting for you to turn "psycho" after even a year, then I would be a little concerned that he may never move past that concern. I think at that point, you need to make sure that the future you envision for yourself includes him, all the good parts and the bad. Can you be OK with someone who hates exercise? Can you accept that you may never get married?

I'm NOT saying break up with him. I think there is so much change going on in your life right now that it's a great idea to take marriage talk off the table until you figure out where you are going and what you are doing. Focus on you and getting your life where you want it. Then take stock of whether the relationships in your life are going to compliment you and where you want your life to be.

But take my unsolicited opinion with a grain of salt. My experiences don't equal everyone elses, lol.

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AHTRAP 4/1/2013 11:10PM

    Good job keeping on pace with the thesis writing, especially with all the distractions. Can't imagine doing a thousand mile road trip the week before something like that is due, more power to you getting that accomplished!

Almost making me feel guilty for being a lazy bum...


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BEECHNUT13 4/1/2013 10:58PM

    I have no room at all to talk (my over-three-years unemployed husband and all...), but it seems like you are super awesome responsible successful active woman, and your BF is kind of not. Now, this is judging from one blog post, so I may very well be completely off base. But - consider where you will be in five years, and where he will be, before considering putting talking about marriage on the table again. If you can't imagine marrying him, or he can't imagine marrying you (and thinks it's funny?) you might want to check out now rather than later. You are not getting any younger, or any less successful, so you may want to consider moving things along, lest you get stuck with a trophy husband.

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EMMYLOU010409 4/1/2013 10:45PM

    Get it! Holy cow! :)

I'd say you're handling the relationship well. Communication is important! Keep the dialogue open. And maybe, ah, associate some happier memories with working out for him, eh? :)

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