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2012 Year In Review

Thursday, January 03, 2013

Well I had nine pages of blogs in 2012. Thatís a crazy insane amount Ė but its therapeutic. I just read my 2011 recap and it was so positive. I lost most of my weight in 2011Ö not nearly as much as I would have liked in 2012, but I did gain something else. Acceptance.

2011 may have been my battle against my bulge, but 2012 was the battle against my fat brain. I had a major case of fat brain in 2012. The inner fat voice that told me I was still huge, still a fat girl, still full of problemsÖ one donut away from gaining all the weight back.

I started 2011 at 265 and ended it at 199.

I started 2012 at 199 and ended it at 189. I just weighed myself this morning. So all in all I got down to a low of 179 (for about a day) and spent most of 2012 in the 180s. Just reading that kind of makes me a little insane. The weird part is Ė Iím okay with it. I got nine pounds away from my realistic goal weight (Iím shooting for 170 as a weight I can maintain for life) and really only got sidetracked because I slipped up. Fitness was a priority for me in 2011. I worked hard. I put in the effort.

I did that in 2012 as well, but not to the same extent. After losing that much weight I would plateau for weeks. I would tweak things and work on what I could, but even my body was going ďwhat the heck is wrong with you?!?Ē from the massive weight loss.

I also had to really stop exercising in the last four months of 2012 because I put myself first and finally got the brachioplasty Iíve always wanted. Basically, Iíve always had fat arms. Not like normal people Ė but ungodly fat arms. I get this from my momís side of the family. Iím not being dramatic here when I say that after I lost weight, I also lost my elbows. All of my upper arm skin sagged down over my elbows so badly it was uncomfortable.

So on August 28th, I went in Ė paid the plastic surgeon and had my arms reduced. It was painful, but in a good way. Even battered and bruised and swollen I saw how skinny my arms were. A few months after surgery I still donít have Michelle Obama arms (*swoon) but I have normal arms. On December 11th I went back for a minor revision surgery. There was still a small fat pad on my left elbow I wanted removed. Itís gone Ė my elbow looks way better and the scar even straightened out after the surgery which helps my OCD ;-)

Unfortunately my small revision on the right side didnít go as planned. My armpit incision completely opened up. Like ripped open slowly and painfully after they took the stitches out. I saw the doc last week, and he basically said thereís nothing we can do but wait. So its apparently getting betterÖ its still painfulÖ and I canít really do anything fitness wise. Weíre apparently treating this open skin wound like you would a burn. I have petroleum jelly and clean bandages on it. Plus with my tape allergy and adhesive allergy, I have some interesting bandages jerry rigged to stay up. The problem is this is in my armpit Ė a very flexibly, highly mobile part of your body. Read Ė annoying.

But if I had to do it over again, I would hands down do the surgeriesÖ I might not take the stitches out so soon though ;-)

But back to my 2012 recap. I started the year a size 10 Gap jeanÖ Iím ending the year a size 8 Gap jean. Barely. My food baby and post-surgery pain debacle led to a 6 pound gain. I was just pleased to still be in the 180s (189óis STILL in the 180s) Ė I was afraid it was going to be worse.

So a net loss of 10# for a year of work a dedication may sound like a disappointment, but to me, I still see that as an accomplishment. I didnít GAIN weight. I either maintained or lost weight for the most part. I certainly know more about plateaus though, and coming to terms with my weight. I donít know if Iím ever going to feel 100% amazing about the number on the scale, but I can tell you that it means a heck of a lot less to me now.

The feeling of health and the post-workout endorphins is what I miss right now. I just need to heal up and get back on track. Also the holidays are over, so now that the cookie plague that descends upon the world in December is gone Ė I can focus on my food again. I think this is going to be my key for 2013.

2012 was also the year that I finally came into my own in the dating world. I have horror storiesÖ oh the bad dates! They were plentiful in 2012. The short relationships that would only last a few weeksÖ there were a handfulÖ but luckily in October I hit on this cute tall guyÖ you read that right I HIT ON HIM! Oh the confidence! And guess what Ė it worked. Iím still dating him. Heís my main motivation for 2013 because apparently he wants to put a ring on it ;-)

Iím trying to not rush into anything, or plan a ridiculous wedding on Pinterest, butÖ yeaÖ my mom even started to question our relationship, but considering she married my dad 78 days after meeting him at a New Yearís Eve party 31 years ago Ė she canít say much.

So even though I had my rough patches in 2012 and ONLY lost 10 pounds, Iíd consider 2012 a year of success for myself. Now that Iíve got my brain in the game and almost conquered my inner fat girl voice (I mean I wear mediums nowÖ Iím not fat Ė Iím tall and curvy and happy with myself) Ė 2013 will be the year I keep on keeping on. Iím not setting any crazy goals for 2013 other than A) write my thesis and graduate and B) find a job. Thatís enough pressure there. Iím going to keep my food goals in mind and workout when I get the green light. Iím not going to go any low-carb/keto/paleo nonsense. Iím going to do what works, eating clean and freshÖ and praying for summer to come early so that the farmers market will open again! I have my best weight loss in the spring and summer when the fruit is fresh and the air is warm.

Hereís to 2013 being another good year.

  
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AHTRAP 1/4/2013 3:08PM

    The fat brain is a powerful force, both as motivator, and paradoxically, as demotivator, when it starts telling you that you can't stop being fat. Congrats on shunting it aside, so as to let the rational brain take charge. And congrats on a good year in general.

G'luck on the job thing!

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WISHICOULDFLY 1/3/2013 8:48PM

    Wow. What a thorough job. Body AND mind redesigned. Excellent!

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LOLATURTLE 1/3/2013 12:56PM

    I like that concept, you conquered your "fat brain!" It makes a lot of sense.

Sounds like you had a great year, and great optimism for the new one! emoticon

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Can we stop it with the fat bashing this time of the year?

Thursday, January 03, 2013

One thing I hate about New Years is New Years Resolutions. I hate them. I don't do them. I think they are a horrible idea. Just like dieting, spur of the moment decisions with little to no planning lead to failure... which makes people feel like failures.

Right now there's a lot of people committing to lose weight. That's great. We should support them. What do I hear non-stop though? People who regularly go to the gym complaining about "all the fat people" showing up to use "their" equipment. I can't understand why people feel its okay to bash fat people -- especially at this time of year.

I even had to yell at my boyfriend as we were walking in the mall. My mall just got a new Torrid, directly across from Lane Bryant. He made a stupid comment about making it easy for the fatties to shop. He knows I used to be fat. Hell HE used to be fat. I called him on it, reminded him I used to shop there and his "but now you don't and you're sexy" reply just made me even madder. I basically told him those kind of comments weren't allowed. You know what -- it made me feel better too.

So from now on, if anyone starts complaining about fat people taking over their gym or their space or anything, I'm calling them on it. I hear a lot more fat bashing now that I've lost weight. I hate it. It almost confirms what I used to think people were saying about me. I think we should all stand up and put those irritating people in their place. I haven't lost weight to join some special skinny club. I lost weight to be healthy, and anyone who had a little extra weight (read--basically everyone) shouldn't go around trying to make people feel bad just to feel better about themselves.

I know this is basically all bullying, but I can't stand the fact that January has basically become a fat bashing month for all comics/people who think they are funny/jacka$$es in the world.

*end rant.

  
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KONOHA-NIN 1/7/2013 11:47PM

    Ugh, agreed. I also hate fat bashing (or skinny bashing for that matter). It really sucks that some people have to be so judgmental and mean.

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MONICAKH31 1/7/2013 8:05PM

    I could not agree with you more. It is so disheartening to hear people make comments about a persons weight. We have no idea what is going on in another person's life and the size of a person's waist line, be it smaller or larger, does not determine their character or heart.
Some don't realize that some of those words open up wounds that where made when people were growing up and being bullied. Some don't realize how hard it takes to get the courage to even step foot in a gym. We need to build people up to help them succeed.
I plan on leaving little sticky notes with encouragement throughout the locker room at the gym for the next couple of weeks so they know they have cheerleaders on their side.



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SEXYPEENOSAUR 1/4/2013 5:00PM

    I loved this blog entry and it's exactly how a lot of us feel about the whole thing. Some days it's hard enough dragging my butt into the gym (and I've been going for the last year or so now) thinking what some of the other gym regulars may be saying about me (or others.) I just think why can't we all quit judging, skinny or fat and just be individuals. Okay, enough of my rant!

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ZZTATIZZ 1/4/2013 9:44AM

    I'm glad you spoke up, and your example has inspired me to do the same. :)

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STLADEE 1/3/2013 3:20PM

    Good for you Sara for saying something! I have to say the comments is ONE of the reasons I didn't join the gym when I began my journey last year in DECEMBER b/c I didn't want to be lumped into the group of NYR (new year resolutioners) I don't do resolutions either. That's why I waited until June to join the gym. It does get nerve racking to want to go to the gym and know it will be crowed with NYRs and it will be hard to find the machine but it will be AWEsome to see who will stick with it too!

Anyhoo, I am not at the point where people will make comments about "fat people" to me but best believe if and when they do I will DEF call them on it!

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IAMSHERLOCKED13 1/3/2013 3:15PM

    I've been going crazy about this as well. We should be supporting those people that are trying to change their ways instead of complaining about them taking up your favorite treadmill!

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SPASTASTIC 1/3/2013 2:14PM

    Oh gosh, I just made a blog about this topic too. People can be so mean-spirited!

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CRISSA1669 1/3/2013 1:46PM

    Very true blog! My husband and I were driving home from Costco last night and the 24 hour fitness across from it was PACKED...we have never seen so many cars in the parking lot. New Years is such a set up for all of the Jenny Craig/Weight Watchers/NutraSystem/Dr Oz and whoever and whatever else to tout their food/product/service...Marketeers are amazing...and the stuff really works to get us to spend our money..I know I feel for it in times past. I have had similar experiences as you with the "fat bashing" comments now that I am not considered "fat" anymore(hate even saying that)...I've experienced it on airplanes this past year, at 2 conferences with at least 4 different people (none ofwhich knew I was formerly OBESE), man what a trip. I am very mindful and will speak up when I hear it. I'm all about trying to lose weight, gain health etc...but sadly a lot of people will fall flat, just heard a statistic that said New Years Resolutions only last about 10 days :(...I hope a majority of people will finally decide now's the time and incorporate healthier habits and exercise into the life....but fat bashing.....No WAY!! Thanks for the good blog!

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MISTY_MOUNTAINS 1/3/2013 1:45PM

    You are so right. It drives me crazy that "fat" people are the only people that everyone feels it's okay to still make fun of. I've heard SO many times... "oh, well, we can make fun of them because being fat is a choice." ARGH!! Yes, I totally made a conscious choice to be 250 lbs (eye roll). Good lord, people can be so stupid. All of the "fat bashing" just makes heavy people want to stay at home even more. I know people who are heavy that don't want to go to a gym until they lose at least 20 lbs. Seriously?? How are people supposed to get in shape when they get ridiculed for trying??
I'm with you on the boyfriend thing. I give mine crap all the time for comments... I always tell him I'm a fat girl, and he always says - "you've NEVER been THAT big". Like it matters.

I'm so angry, haha!! Stuff like that drives me nuts!!

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NIKKICOLE83 1/3/2013 1:04PM

    I was just thinking that this morning. It bothered me before because I was much heavier and people assumed that just because they hadn't noticed me before, that I was a Resolutioner and I would be gone by Valentine's Day. It does become stressful trying to find a parking spot at the gym or space in group fitness class with the influx of people, but it is what it is. It will happen every year in every city or town. I think we should try to be kind and give an encouraging smile to those who are trying so that they keep coming back throughout the year.

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LOLATURTLE 1/3/2013 12:52PM

    I feel fortunate that I haven't run in to much of this yet this year, but I agree completely.

I did make an offhand comment about the gym the other day, but it was about people with a lack of courtesy (or who just haven't learned gym etiquette yet). I hope the new people at my gym stay; I just hope they stop hanging their coats on the equipment and put them in the locker room where they belong. emoticon

I hate the fat bashing. You know what else I hate? When people assume I am in Fat Club with them, by which I mean that I want to listen to them complain and/or join in bashing "skinny b*****s". If it's not okay to call overweight people slobby or lazy or disgusting because of body size, what makes it okay to call someone a "bimbo" or a "whore" because of their size or shape? I don't agree and I don't appreciate it and I don't want to hear it.

It makes me sad and mad whenever I see it on Spark People, and maybe I will join you in calling it what it is. I would be really happy to never see or hear the phrase looking like (someone) "needs a sandwich," ever again as long as I live.

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MERAINA 1/3/2013 12:35PM

    Yep
emoticon High Five on this one!

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POISONGIRL999 1/3/2013 12:34PM

    Well said!

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REDDBETSY 1/3/2013 12:29PM

    I love this! I feel the same way!
I agree, call them out on it!
There used to be a move that was used to fight racism in politically delicate situations-- it was called 'disapproving face'. We need to claim this move to use on bosses who make fat jokes. So even if you are in a situation where it would be a bad idea to say WTF, you can still make the disapproving face and let them know that you aren't just going to laugh along.

And you guys have a Torrid? Sweet!

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IAMZBEE 1/3/2013 12:29PM

    Very true. I think my only gripe about the increase in people at the gym after New Year's is... Did they REALLY have to wait until January 1st to start going....??? I mean seriously, what makes January 1st any more special than October 1st??? Aside from sizes.... i never bash and always compliment the large individuals for trying and giving their all. If we're in group class and I see they're struggling, I always try to give them a compliment and tell them that it always gets easier (as I once was in their shoes).

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ADARKARA 1/3/2013 12:26PM

    I concur. emoticon

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PATNSL07 1/3/2013 12:24PM

    So true! Perfectly said! Whenever I see a heavier set person at the gym, running etc. I think good for you, you've gotta start somewhere!!

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LEB0401 1/3/2013 12:22PM

    Very, very good points. emoticon

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Well that suckedÖ *warning, surgery stuff, might be gross for some

Friday, December 28, 2012

Well that suckedÖ That could describe a lot of things in the past week. Well two weeks. I just checked. My last blog was on the 17thÖ

The #1 thing that sucked a$$ is my surgery recovery. I had my left arm near my elbow redone, about six inches or so of it Ė to remove a fat pad/loose skin near my elbow, and a revision on my right armpit area where a piece of skin stuck out like a triangle from the end of the scar.

Well the left arm is fine. It still hurts a little, but thatís to be expected. I had the surgery on the 11th, so Iím only 2.5 weeks post surgery. That sideís scar is also healing really well. No problems. The other side is a completely different story.

So what I didnít realize when I was getting this done is that they would have to completely remove the first armpit scar and give me a new one to fix one tiny end of the scar. Apparently scar tissue is too hard to stitch and isnít very strong, so doctors opt to remove all of the old scar tissue to pull together skin. I still have a little elasticity there since I had plenty of extra arm skin Ė so that wasnít a problem.

I begged to get my stitches out the Friday before Christmas. The armpit stitches were the worst. They itched, they hurt, they were red and irritated and uncomfortableÖ I hated them. For some reason it felt like they were worse this time around. I either was on a lot of drugs four months ago and donít remember Ė or I was in so much pain everywhere I didnít notice.

This time around though, I guess I did too muchÖ My doctor agreed to take out my stitches, but told me to take it easy. Now Iím warning you Ė the next bit will be a bit gross Ė so donít read it if youíre eating or this stuff freaks you out.

When the nurse took out the stitches, the wound opened up a little. She even said, ďHmm, I wonder if he should look at thisÖĒ but never got the doctor. So she sent me home and told me to be careful and to watch for ooze and the color of the stuff on the bandages.

Friday night it didnít look too bad. I put bandages over it and started my baking spree and packed the car to drive home for Christmas. Saturday morning there was some yellow oozeÖ and my wound hurt, and it was a little more open, but I didnít think anything of it.

Saturday night it had really started to hurt, and I complained enough that my doctor sister (who I donít really get along with) offered to look at it. Apparently sometime on Saturday my incision wound opened up. Like kinda ripped itself open. So I wasnít just complaining about painÖ it actually was a problem.

So then my sister explained I needed wet to dry bandages to rip out the dead tissue that was thereÖ its exactly as excruciatingly painful as it sounds. Probably more so Ė because it was effing horrible. And I had to do that several times. It was so bad I put my arm in a sling so I wouldnít move it or bump it as much. *gross warningÖ everytime we pulled it off I started gushing blood for the first few times.

According to my sister this was good because healing, blah, blah, blahÖ what also happened, is that my incision continued to rip until the whole thing was open. Its about four inches long and is about 2.5-3Ē apart in the middle. Its open Ė nasty Ė and painful as all get out.

Add into this the fact that I need to keep it covered in a bandaid/gauze/cover in my armpit. The armpit moves a lot. Plus Iím allergic to adhesives. Bandage adhesive, bandage tape, surgical tape, all of it. Iíve been making due, but my skin just looks awful. I have a lot of reaction rashes around my wound from the bandages I have been using. For the first few days I had a t-shirt wrapped around my neck and my armpit to try to keep the bandages in place. So I had to sleep with what felt like a noose around my neck, trying not to lay on my injured wound side. *Horrible.

So we had a huge party on the 23rd at my parents house. I had a sling on Ė everyone kept asking me what was wrongÖ so I had to go through the story like 20 times, I kid you not. Plus TJ came over, so he met my family Ė and a million other people Ė and it was super stressful.

Christmas Eve and Day were both stressful with my family. Its just a lot to deal with. I got out of some stuff because of my wound and not being able to move without really hurting myself. It definitely threw a wrench in my Christmas plans.

My doctor sister said it was looking better -- and she went home. I ended up having to drive 2 hours to go see my plastic surgeon, waited over an hour for my appt because he was in surgery late, only to have him tell me it will close on its own given enough time. No time frameÖ no real estimates for when its going to stop hurting so badlyÖ but lot of bandage materialÖ

Then I had to drive 2 hours back to my parents. I have a lot of stuff going on in StL these next few days, so there was no point in staying in Columbia.

So thatís it Ė I got a little more Percocet for the pain, and was told to let it go. He doesnít know why this happened, what went wrong, it was just a fluke. Just a very painful, fluke. My doctor sister said he took the stitches out too early, and she would have just left them in for another week, no matter how painful it was to me Ė whatís happening now is way more painful.

So thatís that. I havenít been typing obviously because I havenít wanted to move my arm. Iím barely moving it now + 2 percocet is how Iím blogging today.

And with the holidays and being in a lot of pain, I havenít been counting calories. I havenít been exercising, but I know the important part now is to heal, then I can refocus on everything. I honest to god am trying not to move so it doesnít hurt so bad Ė but its me, so Iím trying to help cook and clean and not just be in the way.

My momís anxiety/depression/agoraphobia is kicking in hardcore since she had people in the house on the 23/24/25Ö She canít handle that much stress. Plus my dad is trying to do major home renovations at the same time Ė driving me and her both nuts. And the house is all torn up from the parties and the serious home renovations that they did the week before the partyÖ Its just a lot. A lot of emotions. Iíve been avoiding it as much as I can by separating myself from the situation and going to go see TJ and stay out of the momma dramaÖ but I havenít gotten off scott free. Sheís been guilt tripping me and I just canít handle it.

So the plan for today = shower ;-) + get myself all dressed up + do some shopping (I need another strapless bra since one isnít going to cut it and shoulder straps suck) + meet TJís parents for dinnerÖ So lots to do and its already lunch.

I hope everyone had a good holidays. With New Yearís coming up Ė I know this is a time we all struggle to not get wasted and eat too much, regret it, and promise to do better next year. I quit making New Years resolutions years ago. Why let a date on a calendar tell you when to start making changes. When you decide = thatís when you should start. Donít wait. Iím going to try to keep making smarter decisions and not let myself go nuts. Hopefully 2013 will get me to my goal weight, but if it doesnít, Iíll just keep working at it. Iíll get there eventually, and you all will to, if we just stick to it.

Iím going nuts not working out right now, so once this sucker heals, Iím getting back in the game.

  
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SUSIEGKORN 12/31/2012 6:16PM

    Hugs, prayers, more hugs and more prayers! I have a feeling that your 2013 is going to your best yeah yet! Happy, HEALTHY New Year!

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SDLEE514 12/31/2012 10:19AM

    yikes!! emoticon I dont know what else to say. I can't imagine going through that plus all the other stressors...I hope things settle down for you.

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PJC19671 12/30/2012 2:29PM

    That is absolutely horrible. I feel for you. I hope you start to feel better soon you have had alot to deal with. I live in Missouri too and I hope I never get that plastic surgeon.

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MISTY_MOUNTAINS 12/30/2012 1:06PM

    Good lord!! I hope it heals sooner than later for you. That sounds just awful... no one should be in pain like that EVER. emoticon emoticon

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EELS4PEELS 12/30/2012 12:46PM

    Good Lord! All I can say is GET YOUR SHOWER GIRL!!! I hope your recovery from here on out goes wonderfully better!

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AHTRAP 12/29/2012 2:10AM

    I'm with you on the New Year's resolutions. I've decided to make st. patty's day resolutions under the influence of green beer instead. Sympathies on the arm pain, hope that self-healing does occur, and sooner rather than later.

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KENDRACARROLL 12/28/2012 11:51PM

    Ouch! Hope you'll heal quickly.

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LOLATURTLE 12/28/2012 6:03PM

    Wow, that is horrible! I'm sorry the surgeon couldn't do anything for it, either. Rest up and heal! I hope you feel better soon! emoticon

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STLADEE 12/28/2012 2:50PM

    emoticon Oh My Chica! I do hope this will pass sooner than later! I can't even imagine the pain you are in!

You are so right I don't set resolutions for the new year I change my mind set when it's time not by a date on the the calendar besides I have to deal with turning a year older too on the 1st that's enought to deal with! LOL

Get better soon!

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REDDBETSY 12/28/2012 1:13PM

    Poor Sara!
I hope that you feel better soon.
Sorry that your family is being difficult.
Good Luck with TJ's family!

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CECISMOMMY09 12/28/2012 12:18PM

    oh my goodness im so sorry you are going through that!!!! I could not imagine!! hope things get better for you soon keep us posted!

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I need some kindling for my Spark

Monday, December 17, 2012

I need some kindling for my Spark

My Spark, like many others, has come and go lately. I did so well when I was losingÖ and I did lose. Iíve lost almost or around 100# depending on just how fat I used to be (I honestly donít know if I ever got to 300, but I know I was close).

So now after losing all of that, youíd think that Iíd feel amazing. And most days I do. Other days though that sneaky inner fat girl voice likes to come out and tell me that Iím worthless or that I look horrible in that top, or that person over there is staring at you for a negative reason. Usually I just tell her to STFU, but sometimes she sneaks in.

Lately I canít get her to shut up. I think itís partly stress from nearing the end of my PhD, trying to find a job when all I hear about is everyone who is over-educated and unemployable, family pressures, and just the holiday season in general Ė but sheís gotten a lot louder.

On the 11th I had my brachioplasty revision. I had some stressful stuff happen in the month beforehand with my family and my grandmother, then I threw a party where I felt like NO ONE helped, and then I spent four days with my mother. I didnít include this in my last blog, but my mom ended up getting mad at me for being ungrateful or whatever set her off this time Ė then she stopped talking to me, cleaned up, changed the sheets, packed up her truck, and just left in the middle of the evening. She canít see well at night and her meds make her a dangerous driver after dark. Did that stop her? Could I change her mind? Nope. And she didnít talk to me until today.

So add in surgery stress and pain and narcotic medication = my diet went off the deep end. Hardcore off the deep end. Iím still getting over the after effects of being on narcotic pain killers *if you know what I mean, so I know Iím carrying extra weight. The swelling isnít so bad right now, so I donít think I have a water weight gain. But regardless I am avoiding my scale until Friday at the earliest. I just donít want to know what my week of depression and pain did.

Now I need my Spark. Iím still a little mopey and I fully admit that. I STILL feel like crap from the surgery. I still am finding excuses to eat junk. I usually start out my day saying I am going to eat the soup I have in the kitchen, or the chicken cesear salad I boughtÖ and then I donít. Then I eat toasted ravioli because that is St. Louis comfort food and follow it up with a bowl of slow churned ice cream. Which is perfect for me since Iím lactose intolerant :-/ -- cue still recovering from narcotics as my excuse Ė nothing is moving :-/

I went to see my plastic surgeon today because Iím starting to feel sick and my incisions still hurt. He said theyíre fine. Theyíre better than fine. He offered me antibiotics but I declined. I just donít want to become too resistant in case I actually need them. Until then I just need to quit b*tching and get some rest.

So why do I feel like crap? Iím trying to figure out if what Iím doing is making me feel badÖ The short answer is YES. I am the reason I feel like crap. Iím eating crap, I feel like crap. Whoída thunk? Am I eating fried foods? Dairy? Caffeinated beverages? Not drinking enough water? Stuffing my face full of sugar? Answer = YES to all of the above. No wonder I feel like sh*t.

I had a great Spark going into my surgery week. Now I just need to recover. My short plan for this is to:
a) Get my diet in order. This means more freggies, more water, NO fried food period. Also, quit it with the sugar. I definitely notice a change in the way I feel after sugar (as I write this Iím rethinking the licorice I have with my diet cocoa right now)
b) Up my water intake. What happened to the person who drank 3L+ a day? She started drinking diet soda again and backslid into carbonated hell.
c) Stop it with the caffeine already! I was off caffeine for almost a year. ThenÖ yeaÖ I allowed it a littleÖ then a little moreÖ then I needed it moreÖ and now waking up is like punching myself in the face with a brick. I used to be able to pop out of bed and wake up without a problem. Today I woke up with a headache, hit snooze six times, and then had no time for breakfast and ended up eating McDonalds. Not good. No Caffeine!
d) Start doing SOMETHING fitness related. My arms are not an excuse. I know I canít use them for about a month or so now so I donít stretch out my new scarsÖ but I have abs, and legs, and glutes that can all get a workout and I can get moving. Anything is better than nothing right? Iím going to start with my stationary bike and watch some Netflix. It worked when I was 250#, so it will still work now.
e) Get back to Sparking. Last time I had my surgery I avoided Spark because I hated how inactive I had to be. But that was three months ago when I was doing 4-5 5ks a week on my treadmill plus strength training. Needless to say, I havenít gotten back to that. I NEED to. Sparking seems to help.

So thatís it. I know I have a Spark in me somewhere. I just need to find some kindling Ė something small to get me going again.

And of course its Christmas time. Luckily for me I donít have to move any furniture or help with the heavy duty cleaning of my parents house because of my arm surgery *this is awesome, Iím usually the slave labor out of all of my sisters. But my parents are having a massive Christmas party on the 23rd. They decided to move to Kentucky near the Lake and retire with a boat and some goats. *not joking! So this is their last Christmas (and mine) in the only house I have ever known them living in. They built it when my mom was pregnant Ė and now 28 years later are getting ready to move to the middle of no where Kentucky.

So now with this giant party, I know Iím going to see a lot of people whom I havenít seen in a few months to a few years. So thereís going to be a lot of *you look amazing, or *holy crap! Right now I donít feel like I deserve it, but I just need to remind myself this may have been the seventh time I have fallen down on my journey, but Iím going to get up again for the eighth time and keep moving. Plus TJ is meeting my entire family *eep and possibly spending Christmas with usÖ and then Iím meeting TJs momÖ so thereís that whole ball of stress induced anxiety. I just know that this is a temporary feelingÖ I need to get my endorphins back and to do that I need some exercise. So for now, Iím going to stop blogging Ė two massive ones in one day (!) and put the roast in the oven for dinner. Then shimmy back here to my office for some Sons of Anarchy on Netflix and my stationary bike. Combined those should be enough to make me feel like Iím moving in the right direction a little closer to a Spark and less of an ember.

  
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SPARK_JO 12/19/2012 1:45AM

    You had a lot on your plate, don't beat yourself up. You've come so far, I have not doubt you'll get back on track.

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KIMCOLLINGS 12/18/2012 3:05PM

    I know you can do it. You've come such a long way and have that determination and strength in you that you need to move forward. It sounds like you have a terrific plan to bring your spark back out. Let that spark take over and take you to new heights! Also....enjoy and really take in the compliments you'll be receiving. We can be too hard on ourselves. You worked hard and deserve every compliment you receive. I think it would also be great if you woke up and complimented yourself before doing anything else each morning. It adds up and builds you up and it's motivating. You're going to get back on track and do better than ever! I'm sure of it! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STRONG_SARAH 12/18/2012 2:50PM

    You can do it. You've been through a lot lately, but you'll come out on top, I know it! Happy Holidays!

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LOLATURTLE 12/18/2012 12:33PM

    I think you have a great plan. Doing exactly what you need to do!! Identify a few things to change, without it being a totally overwhelming amount of pressure. You can do it!! Have some good veggies today, you'll start to feel better ASAP.

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HFAYE81 12/18/2012 10:32AM

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You can do it, we are all with you!!! You are about to earn your pHd, you've come so far with your healthy lifestyle, you have a great guy, you CAN do this!!! As for your mom (do we have the same mom!?!?) and the jerks from the party, you can only control your own actions, and accept the actions of others with serenity. Don't let it get to you!! emoticon emoticon

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LEB0401 12/18/2012 9:18AM

    I can tell that blogging is very therapeutic for you. You sort things out, make plans, create goals. You've already got a plan of action for getting your system back in check, so I know you'll be reporting how much better you're feeling in your next blog.

Wishing you a speedy recovery!

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MISTY_MOUNTAINS 12/18/2012 8:11AM

    You just made something click in my head. The eating crap and feeling like crap.... I feel like total crap lately - guess how I've been eating for the last month??!! You can pull yourself up out of this. You already have a plan!! Good luck with the family introductions, that's a big deal!! It will go great, I'm sure.

While you're getting yourself back on track, just try to remind yourself of how awesome you are and how far you've come. emoticon

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REDDBETSY 12/17/2012 10:18PM

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You have made amazing changes in your body and your life and your health.
And you have been an amazing inspiration to me! I wanted to dress like you and wear your amazing shoes, but I knew it wouldn't work because of my weight. So when you pulled out the wildcard-- and told me about all of the weight you had lost-- I was SO IMPRESSED!

You are a bright beacon of hope.

You can get through this slump!

You have so much to be happy about-- everything will look brighter in a few weeks. Stay the course!!

And Feel Better Soon.

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EELS4PEELS 12/17/2012 8:40PM

    Are you in my mind right now? I mean seriously! You just blogged basically the same thing I was about to do. I've done the same thing. I let the inner Fat Girl creep back up on me. My diet is the worse. On the weekends I indulge like it's the last day on earth. I went months without Diet Coke and then started back and it doesn't taste good, so why do I drink it? My mind is so stupid. I told Cory that I did nothing but eat crap this year and my body can tell. I was so good in 2011. I felt great and then I started eating like I wanted to again telling myself that I deserve it and guess what? I haven't dropped 1 pound this year and I feel awful. But I'm not broken yet and neither are you! I have an appointment with a PLastic Surgeon Wednesday about skin reduction. I'm so incredibly frightened, but I feel like I need this! I have a feeling that this coming year will be a wonderful change for both of us! Feel Better!

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LIVINGLOVINLIFE 12/17/2012 6:57PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon You are sparked!! NOW STOP STRESSING. Every thing will be OK. You have had a lot to deal with lately, grad party, surgery and your mom and now Christmas coming like next week. Please slow down and give your body time to rest and heal. I'm not saying to eat ravioli or churned ice cream or a pot of coffee or a half liter of pop. You know what you need to do nutritionally and you know what you can do physically without causing damage to your surgical scars. Just set back and let others do for awhile. Oh and I hope the get together with TJ and your family and the you meeting his family will go OK. I'm sure it will. Remember to give yourself a pep talk After all you know your best points. emoticon Merry Christmas.

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JANETTEB553 12/17/2012 6:39PM

    Spark spark spark..... I send them to you with love... you can do it, you can get back onboard. Just be nice to yourself and take baby steps for a while.... emoticon you are emoticon

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Last Week or So

Monday, December 17, 2012

So Iíve been busy being not busy. Lately.

Last week started out crappy. I had one of the worst migraines Iíve had in a long time. The weather change and allergies have been affecting a lot of people around here. So after waking up at 5am in pain from the migraine, taking meds, and crawling back to bedÖ I had to get up and ready for a work meeting they rescheduled to include me in.

After that horrible 4 hour meeting (we didnít leave until almost 1PM!) I went back home and crawled back in bed. BUT since I had surgery the next day and my mother was coming down to stay I had to clean. It wasnít much since I had deep cleaned for the party that weekend, but it was enough that I had to actually get up and move and do it.

I guess I should re-cap the weekend before I get to the surgery stuff. I stupidly offered to host the grad student holiday party at my house. And that meant cooking as well. And cleaning. In my stupid head it also seemed like the perfect time to clean and organize my closets. So my office closet was done the week before Ė now my closet, the hall closet, the linen closet, and the closet in the spare room that Iím now renting out is also clean. So then I had to actually clean the rooms.

Iíve been trained to freak out and clean if anyone is coming over, so I had to over do it. TJ was down and busily watching the Army/Navy game while I ran around freaking out. I had to cook a turkey! And surprise, surprise the people who bought it didnít let me get it early enough so it was still frozen that morning. After some more thawing in the sink in the morning, it was still only partially frozen inside when I was getting it ready to put in the oven. *I couldnít find the giblets because it was still so frozen deep inside of the turkey (eep!)

And then I had rolls to make, and stuffing, and mashed potatos, and gravyÖ basically an entire thanksgiving dinner. People were supposed to bring side dishes and dessertsÖ guess what. They didnít. Cue STRESS. I ended up microwaving vegetables and boiling some carrots. And people offered to help, but I didnít really let them. So all in all I made a 20# garlic/herb/butter roasted turkey with lemons and oranges inside, mashed potatoes, garlic mashed potatoes, turkey gravy, brown gravy, sausage/apple stuffing, vegetarian stuffing, yeast rolls, parker house rolls, mixed vegetables, and boiled carrots. By myself. For 23 people. I officially went off the deep end stress wise. I ended up not even really eating. I was so beyond the point of ridiculousness by that point that I just sat on the floor and played with my friends baby. Then I ate a lot of chocolate.

So Sunday I just kind of relaxed on the couch with TJ. And didnít really do much of anything but eat leftovers and some more chocolate.

Then the Monday migraineÖ

Which brings us up to Tuesday. So three months ago I had my bat wing/chicken wing/extra arm skin removed from both arms. They didnít match perfectly so I had one small thing on the right side to fix and a chunk of fat to remove from my left elbow so it looked the same size as my right elbow. I donít know what I was thinking, but I didnít think that it would be as bad as it has been.

Plus my mom was here. Sheís nuts. She hates the fact that I have a roommate, but also tells me Iím not smart with my money which the roommate helps to bring inÖ so cest la vie. I deal. She was more nervous upset than I was about the surgery. She gets over protective and nervous and fidgety, which annoys the crap out of me, which then annoys her because Iím not grateful, which then incites a vicious cycle. Add in a lot of pain meds and a surgery and after three or four days weíre about to kill each other.

This time around I didnít get anesthesia. I just got some valium and a little more dopey meds and locals. So basically I got to watch. This probably grosses out a lot of people, but Iím a scientist and Iím weird. What kind of surprised me was the fact that instead of just removing the small part on the right side that stuck out, my doctor decided to remove my entire right armpit scar and give me a new one that would look better. Apparently I stretched it out too much and he wanted to give me a better looking scar. So now I have a 6Ē scar in my armpit healing instead of just a small 1 or 2Ē one that I was expecting.

The left side I knew would be more extensive. They didnít really wrap me up as well as they did the first time, so I get to see all of the gross stitches and stuff as they are healing. When my mom and I tried to cover everything with gauze since I was still a little bloody, we used standard bandage tape. Turns outÖ Iím allergic. Found that out the next morning when I had giant water blisters everywhere the tape touched my skin.

So thatís been fun. I definitely used my Percocet and valium to help me get through a) recovery and b) that much time with my mother. But now its been a week and Iím still in pain and my stitches are still red. This may or may not be normal so Iím on my way to the doc to get them checked out.

Iíll add more details later, but I just wanted everyone to know what has been up for the last week or so.


  
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STLADEE 12/18/2012 4:16PM

    Whoa Girly! What a weekend to cook such a HUGE meal and then have surgery and whatnot. I hope you feel better soon. I get migraines and know how they can be. UGH!

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KIMCOLLINGS 12/18/2012 3:15PM

    Holy cow. You have been through the wringer. Once you get to the new year I bet you'll be able to breathe a sigh of relief. You won't have the holiday stress, you should be healing nicely, and things should get back closer to normal. Hang in there and get through it and know there's a light at the end of the tunnel and spark when you need to. We're here for ya!

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HFAYE81 12/18/2012 11:41AM

    Yyyyep, we have the same mom.

I'm sorry you busted so much butt on the dinner party. I wouldn't have let anyone help either, but just because I would have been so angry at that point I wouldn't have WANTED their help. They should've brought sides if they wanted to help emoticon

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Your arms will look great after they heal. emoticon
And believe me, I would've watched, too emoticon

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EUEK098 12/17/2012 9:25PM

    emoticon, recovery is no joke, hope you get back on your feet soon.

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MISTY_MOUNTAINS 12/17/2012 4:57PM

    Goodness sakes!! Reading all that stressed ME out, you poor woman!! I hope your arms are okay. emoticon

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CAGMUAHFO2 12/17/2012 4:41PM

    I am so sorry to hear that your having a hard time with recovery this time around. I hope the Dr can give you something to help the healing and also the pain.

I understand completely about spending all that time with your mom. I do not have a good relationship with my mother either.

Hang in there!!

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LOLATURTLE 12/17/2012 4:40PM

    Sounds like a lot!! Get some rest!! I hope everything is okay with the incisions.

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