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Running, no matter what

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Today as I was reading about the wonderfully successful journey of SP'er Emily (see her story here
part of one paragraph really stuck with me. She mentions being made fun of while she was trying to run. Now, I would never do that to anyone out loud, but I confess I had a mental lapse a few weeks ago.

I was driving downtown to go to the post office and do some other errands and was stopped at a traffic light. Across the street I saw a young woman very slowly jog across the intersection and then turn to continue in the same direction I was headed. I had a long red light to watch her go, and I'm ashamed to admit that what I focused on was her weight and her body shape.

I was thinking, "Wow, I'm glad my butt isn't that big because I'd really be embarrassed to run out in public in broad daylight along this really busy four-lane street so close to downtown."

Almost immediately I thought, "I can't believe I even thought that! What is wrong with me? I'm so wimpy I wouldn't even do that at night in this location, wearing black from head to toe."

As the light turned to green, I drove across the intersection and past where the young woman continued to jog, slowly but steadily, and then it hit me. In the short few minutes that I'd seen her, she had already jogged two blocks more the half-block that I could probably make it; she was jogging before I saw her and she was still jogging. What an "oh,..." moment. And yet, I haven't summoned up the courage to start my own real jogging journey, as much as I want to.

Perhaps my goal should be to be honest with myself about what I really want and how much I want it. A positive mind set is a terrible thing to waste, but I need to make sure I have it before I can use it.

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STEPBYSTEP1955 5/30/2014 7:51PM

    For years I avoided exercising in public because of the same reason ... fearing that people are going to look at me and criticize my weight. Then one day I got the courage to do just a wee bit. I gradually increased that wee bit of time to the point where I will exercise anywhere and don't not care who is seeing me. You can do it too. Just take it one step at a time.

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BIGPAWSUP 5/28/2014 8:44PM

    Every day is just one step forward.

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RUNNING4MYLYF 5/28/2014 11:38AM

    It all starts with a single step. I wasn't a runner until 2009 when I found SP for the first time. I began the Couch to 5k program and it was life changing. Good luck to you.

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Two thoughts and change

Thursday, March 27, 2014

When I first started on SP nearly 5 years ago, today was not even a glimmer in my mind. This site would head me in the right direction and before long I'd be back at my college weight (or lower!) I wouldn't feel winded and my flexibility would return. I'd read about this site on a sports message board and thought I'd check it out.

In the hundreds of days since then, I've earned nearly 40,000 spark points, made some awesome friends, gotten and given encouragement by the drop and the bucket. I've shared heartaches of my SP friends as through they were my own, I've commiserated when things weren't going well, and I've tried to spread joy and positive thoughts. In fact, sometimes the very things I read or commented on here on SP stayed with me through my day. I'd find myself thinking about what I'd read and said, and vow silently that those words would be my guide for self-confidence and thankfulness.

And what do I have to show for all this? A loss of minor proportions. Maybe 3 pounds total on a good scale day. I still haven't made the commitment to myself to move forward. I know that involving others is helpful, but I am scared to do that because once I say it, once I ask for help, I'm committed and honestly, I'm afraid (again with that feeling) that I just cannot do it. Enough of that already.

So, two thoughts:
1. I have a ready-made time goal of seeing our DD and SIL in 3 months, and would so love to surprise them -- especially her -- with more stamina for mountain/trail walking and less weight. Let me move forward starting today.
2. I cannot wait any longer to ask for help. I will stop being so weeny/whiney about facing up to my future. Let me clue in DH tonight.

And some change:
Spark points are nice, but if I mostly earn them reading instead of moving what good does it do? My FitBit is connected/synced with my SP account, so I don't have to check it and enter numbers, etc. From this point on, I don't earn points on the site by reading until I've walked or done other exercise for at least 15 min. (That is what's on my goal board anyway. Why should I get points for reading my goals instead of actually trying to accomplish them? Sheesh!)

So, wish me luck and help me stay the course. And Pixie-licious, good luck on your way to days 18 and 19 and 20 and ....)

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CATHYGETSFIT 3/31/2014 3:36AM

    emoticon I know you can do this! I think you have made a good plan. Now go use it. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STEPBYSTEP1955 3/28/2014 9:43PM

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MJ2AHM 3/28/2014 9:32PM

    Thanks for sharing. You can do this. I have struggled myself and some of the first steps is admitting to what is happening and than to make the change. You can do it! I feel like I am cheating myself when all I do is the spark points.

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NHES220 3/27/2014 4:49PM

    Good for you. I actually get more excited about my fitness points than my spark points. Those are ones I am more focused on and having the fitbit synched helps with that. Good luck and you should be able to make some progress in that time.

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COMMIT2BFIT4ME 3/27/2014 10:13AM

    You can do this. My daughter is always at the forefront of my mind too. She is an only child and she really has no one else to share the burden of caring for me as I age. So I vow to take responsibility and take care of myself so we can enjoy our relationship well into my advanced years. I like the idea of not racking up spark points for reading until you get out there and move. I have often thought the same thing myself. Have a great day!

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BIGPAWSUP 3/27/2014 10:01AM

    Awesome. I know you can do this. Get up and get going, you've got a great plan. Run with it!

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What is your weight loss journey?

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Saw this in today's SP email and it gave me pause: SparkPeople's Coach Tanya says: Is your weight loss journey a sprint or a marathon?

My weight loss journey is a step in the right direction. I'd rather not think about the speed right now.

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NHES220 3/18/2014 2:50PM

    Just keep stepping in the right direction and you will get there!

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BIGPAWSUP 3/18/2014 1:56PM

    One day at a time.

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PROPMAN1 3/18/2014 11:23AM

  My job is a marathon....on-going....seemingly never-ending....hard to reach the finish line.

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Big sighs all around today

Thursday, March 06, 2014

Yesterday was not a good eating day for me, and not good in some other ways as well. I've learned that such "not-good-eating" days often lead to a kind of tarnished view of the world the next day and boy, is that true today.

For example, I have kind of high hopes of getting everything accomplished before a bit of vacation, and when that doesn't happen, my vacation suffers. I stew and fret about trying to work on things while I'm not at my office and can't really relax.

I'm feeling those same things today, and the dreary late winter weather does not help improved anything. Sometimes it seems like I'm glued to my chair and my keyboard. And if I stand up or pull my hands away, I sink into more worries about not getting things done.

My job is unlike most everyone else I work with, even colleagues with similar position titles. That makes it easy to feel misunderstood and not too valuable.

If you've been in similar circumstances, I'd like to know what you did. What helped you out of that state of "who cares"? What did you change? What did you do or say or eat differently?

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NHES220 3/6/2014 5:38PM

    It is different for me, I work out of my home office for the most part. What I do is different from most of my co-workers and I just plug along and I try and make sure they understand I'm adding value. Working at home has its perks - no commute time, but it is isolating too. I have to remember to eat healthy and make sure I stop for my meals and snacks and not just eat mindlessly. I also try and get my workouts in. I'm not sure I can give you much advice here. But know that you are adding value in what you do, even though it may be different. You need to make sure you sing your own praises and have confidence in yourself and do not feel put down by others. At the end of their lives, no one ever wishes they spent more time at work. I put in my share of hours, extra time in evenings and weekends as I am salaried and I often travel for work which goes beyond the 9-5. But I make sure I have work-life balance and I have done much better since I started SP and took charge of my health. I encourage you to make yourself a priority because you are worth it.

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JAKENELL 3/6/2014 3:12PM

    I've been feeling down the past few weeks - more medical issues than anything else. I know we both need to snap out of these feelings and start focusing on our health!
I've just about reached the point where I want to scream at the next person who tells me to take it one day at a time - I can't seem to make it through a day with a positive attitude and on track!!!!
Guess it's time we start focusing on those small changes we need to make and consider each a victory and a step forward.
My last few years of working were torture - I hated every minute of a job that I had loved for over 30 years. There had been a lot of changes that I had to live by but couldn't make myself agree were for the best, so I opted for retirement.
Hang in there - we'll help each other!

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ALHOOVER81 3/6/2014 10:16AM

    I have had those kind of days to. I usually would give into temptations, but that did nothing but cause weight gain. I started the 10 day detox diet, I am actually eating real food and not just juicing. We will see how that goes. I wish you luck and just take one day at a time.

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'Tis the season for stories like these

Monday, December 23, 2013

A radio station in our area has done these Christmas Wishes for a long time, and this past Friday they aired the final one for this year. Because it was so well-received after the initial airing early that morning (popular doesn't seem like the right word here) they immediately went to work making it into a video and posting on the website.

Regardless of how we see ourselves and our current state in life, I think that putting ourselves aside is sometimes the right thing, the best thing -- yes, even the only thing -- that we can do. That's the story of this woman and her family. She put her family ahead of everything facing her. I can learn a lot from her.

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CATHYGETSFIT 12/26/2013 2:34PM

    emoticon I saw this on the news the other night. What a great story!

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STEPBYSTEP1955 12/23/2013 8:50PM

    emoticon I saw the news on television this morning and was touched by the caring , attitude of the lady.

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