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Rear View Mirror

Wednesday, June 16, 2010


These days I make every effort to put the past behind me. I canít do anything to change history; I can only use that knowledge to build a better future. But every now and then something happens to bring it all back, and I feel like the beast is standing right outside my door. Thatís usually when I start doing my Igor impression and hobble toward my MasterÖ.The Kitchen.

I need to switch the story line from Hansel and Gretel, eating the house down, to a wizardís magic potion that will soothe the savage beast, counteract the poison, and make me stronger going forward.

I need to make that a pot of tea.

I hope the image sticks.

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    I love tea. It really is a magical potion. emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 6/16/2010 2:00PM

  STRINGS58 is absolutely correct!!!!! You do make more good than bad choices. My bad choices are definitely stress-related!!! I wish that I could be like my friend from the SW, who, when stressed CAN'T EAT, instead of me, who EATS EVERYTHING I CAN GET MY HANDS ON. I am taking your advice re: Not Being So Hard On, you have to take it too. When you find what works on your beast, please share. emoticon

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DESERTDREAMERS 6/16/2010 11:56AM

    I loved the pix! Yep - we all fight that "I'm bored, gotta eat" or whatever our triggers are. Sigh

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FLAME42 6/16/2010 8:33AM

    Your blog could have had my name on it! I so relate to what you said. Heading to the kitchen to make some Honey Lemon Tea....
Think STRINGS58 gave a great comment, food for thought. Hey, that food comes without calories!!

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STRINGS58 6/16/2010 8:16AM

    I did some "stinkin' thinkin'" the other day, having had more carbs and telling myself "left to my own devices, I don't make good choices" == then I got MAD -- I made good choices 8 out of 10 days, and I was assessing myself based on the 2 days, of eating more than those 8, but still not gorging or doing the old habits.

You make many good choices too -- and the kitchen isn't the master as much as the comfort zone. When the feelings you are having no longer consume you, you may not have to bite back!

Sorry if that's a little directive, but I've been there and it is NOT about you being weak or insufficient in some way. This is not a competence issue -- look at how many, many times you have chosen according to your goals! uh, huh!

Pleez enjoy your pot o' tea and all of your choices -- all of them! If you are making choices you don't like, then make a different choice.

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Best Friends

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

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~ Henry Ford

I'm not shy. And when I look at my friends, I recognize that most of us have similar tastes, habits, virtures, and flaws. Birds of a feather. Luckily, I consider my flock a pretty nice group. So I am content. But among them is one who touches my heart in a special way. We have very different personalities but we share similar family 'baggage'. We connect in ways that other people might miss. And there are things we understand that most people can't.

There is something special about hearing a constructive suggestion from someone who has been there, knows how YOU feel, respects you, and cares about you. She's better than MY 'mirror' because she can see my image from most of the angles and she tells me about the parts I miss in my reflection. She knows how to be frank without being cruel. When she tells me her opinion, I take it with a grain of salt, but I'm on a low sodium diet. Because the truth is, she's usually right on target. I trust her. So I use the information to guide me along my journey. And I see myself getting better and stronger every day.

And when she isn't there, I ask myself, what would she say in this situation.

That's a world of difference from where I've been, where people would use 'constructive criticism' to tear you down, or not say anything at all, only to be ambushed later. Maybe it's waiting for the other shoe to drop, but I've been beaten up enough times and almost expect negative intentions. And I try hard not to do it to other people, but every once in a while ... I trip... and I deeply regret it later. So now I distance myself from those people. I call it my 'detox' diet.

Well ... I'm off for a walk. I know she'll be calling this afternoon to check up on my exercise.


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    It's great to have a friend like that who always tells you the truth even if you won't like it. You know that they really love you.

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STRINGS58 6/15/2010 11:01PM

    I have a friend that gets too negative sometimes, and I have to take a break from her "stuff" -- hence I love the concept of needing to take something with a grain of salt, but being on a low sodium diet. It's hard to be supportive when you need to take a break!

My daughter has been the one to coach me to hang in there when I'm hurt, insulted, or at odds with a friend, and she's right that things can even out.

I watch people -- especially people in recovery-- who drop their baggage, and then realize that they need a makeover of their friendships. Some people go with you through everything and some are with you for this part of the journey.

Some of my spark buddies know this part of what has been a very long journey for me.

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FLAME42 6/15/2010 9:39PM

    Friends are sooooo important. They are the people you can share your thoughts with and know they understand and don't judge. I feel blessed to have more than one friend that I feel this way about. Treasure the friendship you develop over the years, they are priceless.

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FRENCHTOSD 6/15/2010 9:35PM

    I feel that way about my Spark Buddies. When I have a question or problem to post here, I get lots of feedback quickly from perspectives different than my own. It's wonderful support for me.

How lucky you are to have this friend you've described.


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GRAMMIE1959 6/15/2010 7:51PM

    Sad but true-I don't have any "friends" just acquaintances so I am so thankful for my Spark Friends. I don't know what I would do w/o all of you.
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FAIRYFANTASY 6/15/2010 6:43PM

    good friends a hard to come by i love my friends who lend an ear and a laugh as needed, thanks for being here to give me a laugh.

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PATRICIAANN46 6/15/2010 1:05PM

  I also have a friend like this. We have known each other since BIRTH and have gone through so many things together. Unfortunately, she lives in the Southwest which is very far away from me distance-wise, but we keep in touch daily via email and phone. She is in very poor health and pretty much confined to her home. What amazes me about her is her positive outlook given what she has had to go through!!!
Like your friend, she is REAL with me. I can always count on total honesty. I don't know what I would do without her.
I am so glad that you have your friend close by. You are very lucky.

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EARTHSEAME 6/15/2010 12:18PM

    Loved your reflections on friendship!

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KATIEJO5 6/15/2010 11:59AM

    Love this! Those friends are few and far between, but what would we do without them?

So glad you have your "better than a mirror" friend!

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LIS193 6/15/2010 10:36AM

    Good friends are precious

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PWKAFED 6/15/2010 10:26AM

    how fortunate you are to have such a good friend! I have a similar friend that I know always has by best interest at heart and I feel blessed to have her in my life.

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Women's Clothing

Monday, June 14, 2010


I realize that most of our manufacturing has gone overseas, but we still have the store buyers making the deals. So can someone tell me why, with such a huge target market, we larger size women get such small interest?

Now, don't get me wrong. I consider fitting into Missy Clothing sizes yet another incentive for losing the weight, but I think feeling good about how you look along the way, encourages people to work even harder.

My other issue is BLACK. When I look at my closets, I see a dark cloud of black clothing. Almost everything I own has black on it as a predominant color. Black may be easier to coordinate, and may make me look slimmer, but it doesn't make me invisible. I'm going to make an effort to re-introduce some color into my wardrobe. I'm not going for fushia or neon green, but I think some softer shades will show off the new me and make me look younger.

Hey, what can I say, I'd like to take off some of the years as well as the pounds.

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FLAME42 6/14/2010 9:54PM

    I guess most of us just feel "safer" in black. I have quite a lot of it in my closet too. Being able to wear a new brighter color does give your mood a lift. Have to agree that so many of the prints for plus sizes are awful.
Just have to let KATIEJO5 know that the petite section may be large however they rarely carry 16 or above sizes in petite. And if you go to the misses or plus sizes they are WAY TOO LONG and really make you look bad.
To GRAMMIE1959- it is amazing how someone could say something so hurtful and not realize how dreadful it was. Those type of comments do stick in our minds, shouldn't but do.

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    I agree about the hideous plus size clothes.

I actually like black and prefer it. I'm a winter and it's my color regardless of my size.

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PATRICIAANN46 6/14/2010 6:34PM

  I don't know how many times I have questioned WHO does the designing for Plus-Size clothing!!!!! I know the colors and patterns I would make this clothing in, but I need a partner who could actually draw the designs. Anyone interested??? It is a business waiting to happen!!!
I took a group of students to a fashion seminar once and on the way home, we stopped at a woman's clothing store so that they could end the day with a short shopping experience. In the store window, there was display of one of the latest fashions. On the way into the store, the bus driver said to me, "There should be a warning label on that outfit for we who are of the Plus Size persuasion." "And, it should read, WARNING: YOU MAY NOT LOOK AS GOOD AS THIS MANNEQUIN!!!"

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SUNSHINEART 6/14/2010 2:15PM

    I hear you my friend.

I guess people think because we are overweight that we are also blind and have no taste.

I don't know anyone that can pull off the flowered moomoo look!!!! emoticon

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KATIEJO5 6/14/2010 12:19PM

    The hideous prints are my hot button! Who would voluntarily put those things on their body?

When you couple being overweight with being 6ft tall, the choices are non-existent! I get really, really irritated by the size of the petite section of the store. Where is the tall section?

I am finally able to wear tall misses sizes. I have to order them online, but the styles are much, much improved!

Someone needs to see this opportunity for a business!

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KMICHA 6/14/2010 11:05AM

    I think they absolutely could design better clothing for larger women. Being overweight does not mean a woman doesn't crave a little style and class. Aren't there any over weight women who design clothing??? Or do they just design with dreams of being a smaller size?

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GRAMMIE1959 6/14/2010 11:01AM

    My family had decided to take a current family picture. Mom, Dad and all 7 kids. As we were preparing for the photo shoot someone asked what color were the others wearing (avoiding color clashes I imagine). My oldest brother said it didn't really matter just so it looked good with Army needed to match the tent Vivian would have to wear....I have never gotten over the hurt of that comment. I refuse to wear green to this day! that was about 150 lbs ago. Now I am wearing size 22-24 and have been able to find some clothes at the Ross stores. So nice to be able to actually shop for clothes! I'm still very large but able to find something that's not sold by the number of people it "sleeps"!

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THEATRE1SM 6/14/2010 9:45AM

    Or when you finally find something "normal" - meaning not a tent or with some god-awful print or color combination - the store promptly stops carrying it! I finally found jeans that complimented my body style, fit nicely and that I could move in - 2 weeks later had saved the money to get another pair and BAM! They are gone. Store associate said they didn't sell well and were pulled to be shipped back emoticon

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KRISTAJOAN 6/14/2010 9:37AM

  Not only that, but why do most stores make you ride the escalator of shame in order to get to the plus-size section? Oh, girl, don't even get me started on socio-economic status and who is really spending their money because department stores just. don't. get. it.

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Slow Start on a Gloomy Day

Sunday, June 13, 2010

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I have this mental thing about cloudy gloomy days.
I thrive in sunshine and even love a good rainstorm. But the dreary in between days, when it takes forever to finally rain, just seem to drag me down. Iím going to need some serious caffeine and Zumba music to get my tushy going today.

Today is definitely a day when it's mind over matter.
But for me...when it comes to exercise, that's most of the time.

Have a great day.

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CALCOUNTER4LIFE 6/14/2010 12:22AM

    I hear you on that!
I try to find the music to match and embrace it or like you use music that is something VERY different than the gloom to focus on.

Sending some sunshine your way for Monday - hopefully!

-VG emoticon

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HVMBRU 6/13/2010 7:36PM

    Love those owls, though! The gloom and doom can be depressive. But then it makes you appreciate the sunshine more!! Take heart - another day is coming.

Thanks for stopping by and reading my blog. You give great replies!


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MYSHARONA6 6/13/2010 3:35PM

    If I get any slower, the mold is going to start to grow on me!!!! We look like we are fogged in today; the good news is that it isn't raining any more!!!! It is a lot colder than yesterday but it feel good. Oh well...remember the tortoise and the hare and be slow but sure!!! Hugs..Sharon emoticon

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FRENCHTOSD 6/13/2010 2:06PM

    Well, it's a Sunday - maybe you can renew your spirit today.

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    I don't do caffeine but here is the zumba!! emoticon

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GRAMMIE1959 6/13/2010 1:15PM

    It's ok. I believe the gloomy days allow our bodies to slow down and rejuvenate!
Notice how GOOD you feel when the sun comes out? You couldn't appreciate the sun without the gloom!

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PATRICIAANN46 6/13/2010 1:01PM

  I wish I could beam you into my garden. I could keep you busy all day. We have had rain off and on and clouds plus humidity for the past 3 days, so I haven't done much outside. Today is going to be different!!!
I am going to take my Australian Terrier (the dog with the injured tendon) with me. They were actually bred to guard children from for me!!! And I can actually see that he feels better when he is useful......just like us. emoticon

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STRINGS58 6/13/2010 9:09AM

    I started out slow today too -- my husband even said I look tired. Any movement is good movement. Did you see the Coach Nicole report on the study that 10 minutes of exercise encourages a metabolic change and that the benefits last for an hour?

the link to the study is:

(sorry it's not active)

I'm looking for at least those 10 minutes today! It's beach day, so there maybe some walking and water aerobics in my future

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ANNIE924 6/13/2010 8:39AM

    I feel the same on gloomy days, but we hare having a bright sunny morning. Hope it lasts the rest of the day.

Thank you for adding me as a spark friend. I love your sense of humor.

Good luck meeting your goals today. emoticon emoticon

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A10TIVTRTL 6/13/2010 8:27AM

    Why do those guys in the photo look so familiar? Wait, it's me and my husband! (Clue: I'm the plumper one). Coffee time!

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PEACHES_3954 6/13/2010 8:22AM

    I'm the same way! We all have those days. Just try and always look for the inner sunshine, it helps more than you think

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Stay Disciplined

Saturday, June 12, 2010

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Sometimes I wonder if I have multiple personalities. On one hand I am loaded with information and good ideas on nutrition, and then on the other, I am a whining kid trying to ditch the vegetables so that I can have more dessert. And I can even give myself a whole arguement on why I can have it. But the bottom line is that I have given myself a goal to aim for (I want to lose 6 pounds by the end of this month) and if I donít stay disciplinedÖ.Iím not going to make it.
But I have to be vigilantÖ.My inner child is very very sneaky emoticon

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FRENCHTOSD 6/12/2010 11:28PM

    Hang in there! The cheat foods aren't really worthit.

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HEART4HOME 6/12/2010 7:28PM

    Cheering for you Sheryl! We are going to reach our end of month goal!!! Lock that inner child in the closet, lol. My inner child loves Doritoes and chocolate. I am an all or nothing girl too so I have been forcing myself to buy single servings which is a pain but it keeps it out of the house. I know what you mean about standing in the store and the battle that is within. If people only knew the conversation going on in my head lol... Have a super wkend. emoticon

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    My other personality want to share some Cherry Garcia with you. LOL.

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KATIEJO5 6/12/2010 2:36PM

    I find myself in front of the pastries- over and over again! I put them in the cart, then put them back, arguing with my brat all the while. The thing that gives me hope is that I haven't made it out of the store with them since I committed to Spark in January! I make myself read the nutrition facts and tell myself, "If this comes home, I will consume every. single. one. of these calories." I tell myself that if I want a cinnamon roll, go to Panera and buy one. I have occasionally done that. Lots of calories, yes, but nothing compared to an 8 pack!
Keep being very firm with that inner child of yours. You will own that goal!

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PATRICIAANN46 6/12/2010 12:41PM

  I guess I have always known that I have a SPLIT-PERSONALITY!!!!! The other night, about 10:30, the dark half (I guess inner child sounds less evil) wanted Reese's Peanut Butter cups........BAD!!! The ONLY thing that stopped her was the fact that she can't drive and the other half has night blindness and THEY live out in the country at least 7 miles from town. Isn't it exhausting??????? And like my mother always says........"Once you have a child, they are with you until one of you dies." How do you kill an evil inner child??? emoticon

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FLAME42 6/12/2010 11:28AM

    Maybe we should hire a babysitter for all those sneaky "inner children". Hey, I guess that is sort of what Sparkpeople is!
I think MYSHARONA6 had a good but scary idea for the grocery store aisle. If we can't get those things in the house those pesky children would have a harder time getting into them.
Afraid I have to take "my inner child" to the birthday parties with me so I can play with the grandchildren, will try very hard to make it behave!!!!

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THECRAZYMANGO 6/12/2010 10:44AM

    Have you tried the low calorie ice cream sandwiches? You can have them without ruining your day. Wal-mart has them and they are 100 calories each. Also, Kemp has the yogurt sandwiches which are 80 calories. After eating the yogurt ones, than having to go back to the other ones because of availability I found I like the yogurt ones better.. haha.

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MYSHARONA6 6/12/2010 9:22AM

    I have that same problem with potato chips...I walk down the isles to check them all out..see the fabulous TWO for a really cheap price. I think they should have an area that is gated and locked for chips and ice cream. There should be a big scale at the entrance gate and someone who is too skinny with the key to the gate. It's like buying some cold remedies that they lock up now. Then they should walk you to the check out and announce on the store speaker who is buying the chips and ice cream and their weight!! Oh my...where did all that come from?????? emoticon

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GRAMMIE1959 6/12/2010 7:48AM

    my inner child wanders to the kitchen at night...maybe she suffers from insomnia? I still log in what the devil child eats. One night it was 3/4 of a pumpkin pie, another time she ate 6 ice cream sandwiches. She is a real brat and doesn't seem to give a hoot about what i need. BTW she hates exercise and veggies. I have to drag her down the street screaming and kicking all the way. She honestly thought veggie dip was made FROM veggies. I constantly remind her of the good things we are missing out on in life. Dang kid emoticon

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PEGGO45 6/12/2010 6:50AM

    I want 7 pounds by 4th of July...... I can relate... I ate a fruit roll up of my son's last night and then wondered why I would do that? no nutritional value in it at all... it should be illegal to use the word fruit in it... more accurate would be sugar roll up.... emoticon

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PEGGO45 6/12/2010 6:50AM

    good luck with your inner child

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ANNIE924 6/12/2010 6:48AM

    Thanks for the warning. I'm going shopping this afternoon, I'll try to leave my inner child at home, she really likes ice cream.

I am making my list now, based on the menu I've planned for the next week. Good luck on reaching your goal for the month. You can do it. emoticon

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