Tuesday, June 15, 2010
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"MY BEST FRIEND IS THE ONE WHO BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN ME."
~ Henry Ford
I'm not shy. And when I look at my friends, I recognize that most of us have similar tastes, habits, virtures, and flaws. Birds of a feather. Luckily, I consider my flock a pretty nice group. So I am content. But among them is one who touches my heart in a special way. We have very different personalities but we share similar family 'baggage'. We connect in ways that other people might miss. And there are things we understand that most people can't.
There is something special about hearing a constructive suggestion from someone who has been there, knows how YOU feel, respects you, and cares about you. She's better than MY 'mirror' because she can see my image from most of the angles and she tells me about the parts I miss in my reflection. She knows how to be frank without being cruel. When she tells me her opinion, I take it with a grain of salt, but I'm on a low sodium diet. Because the truth is, she's usually right on target. I trust her. So I use the information to guide me along my journey. And I see myself getting better and stronger every day.
And when she isn't there, I ask myself, what would she say in this situation.
That's a world of difference from where I've been, where people would use 'constructive criticism' to tear you down, or not say anything at all, only to be ambushed later. Maybe it's waiting for the other shoe to drop, but I've been beaten up enough times and almost expect negative intentions. And I try hard not to do it to other people, but every once in a while ... I trip... and I deeply regret it later. So now I distance myself from those people. I call it my 'detox' diet.
Well ... I'm off for a walk. I know she'll be calling this afternoon to check up on my exercise.
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