Friday, October 02, 2009
DH came home from work yesterday with an e-mail from one of the big wigs in his office, basically ordering the guys to take their wives to the Navy Birthday Ball. LOL Now, it's not that we have never gone before, but when we went a few years ago, there wasn't anyone there we knew and...well...it was kind of lonely just the two of us! I'm glad they are forcing people to be more social and attend. This means that a) DH wants to go and b) we'll actually KNOW people there.
We always attend the Submarine Birthday Ball in April but the Navy Birthday Ball has been passing us by the last few years. Well, not THIS year! My hubby asked me to be his date and I gladly accepted. I have a dress I could wear and another I could wear if I got it altered and found shoes, but this thing is on October 17, so I have barely two weeks to make hair appointments and all of that fun stuff. It really has me on the verge of running to Nordstrom to see what I can find. I'm going to try to resist, though. I think what I'll do is get the one dress fixed and altered (it has issues - missing beadwork and what appears to be a hole) and try to find shoes to go with it because I really LOVE that one.
The cool part is that this gives me more incentive to lose a couple more pounds by October 17! AND...I'm soooooo glad I got my butt in gear after vacation and got myself to the point where I am currently. I can't imagine how I would have responded to my hubby wanting to go to the ball if I was feeling fat and out of shape. Maybe I would have said, "No!" But not now! I feel very princessy. I know I'm no supermodel but I'm feeling quite good in this bod and not at all ashamed or embarrassed to wear a sleeveless, cute little dress to a formal event. Yay!
On a sad note, poor DH might have to buy a new cummerbund and maybe jacket (I think he already bought bigger pants last year). He still has some pounds to go before his formalwear is fitting well. I don't feel too sorry for him because I know he really has had every opportunity to work out and he just hasn't taken it, so now he's paying the price. He would need to lose at least 5 pounds in the next two weeks and...where is he now? Down at the Yardhouse having appetizers and beers with a friend from work. Uh huh. I see a whole new, larger uniform in his future.
Yes, tomorrow I will take that champagne colored dress to have it fixed and altered. They should have plenty of time to work magic and with luck, I'll find beautiful, comfy shoes to wear. If hubby is going to need a new outfit, I guess I can save us a few bucks and stick with one of the dresses I already have!
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
I have long been logging my weekly weights and tracking things on WW. This morning I looked back at my logged weights for the last 4 years. Over that time, the absolute lowest number I ever achieved was 119 in January 2005. However, it was after I had been horribly ill with the flu and hadn't been able to keep any food in myself for days. Not the way to do it!
I like to look back at my milestone weights and think of myself as returning to those days. The most significant of those is my wedding weight. I weighed 125 on my wedding day, so sayeth the chart. That's the number I'd like to see again on October 18. From there, I'm reaching for that post-flu weight, I guess. hahaha
I try to remember what was the lowest weight I have ever been able to easily maintain as an adult. Of course, at what point are we first truly adults? 18? If so, I was 106. 21? Between 21 and 23, I was pretty steadily around 115. It is for that reason that I think 118 is reachable and should be reasonable to maintain if I choose to. But enough obssessing about numbers since I'm still 10 pounds away from thinking about it. After all, it's been almost 5 years since I've been in that realm, anyway, so it's a bit of a stretch to believe I need to concern myself with my finish line at this point.
Back from Neverneverland and trying to focus on today...
I'm going to do my 30 Day Shred as soon as I set the laptop down.
Then a trip to the grocery store. (Fresh veggies - woo hoo!)
Then review some documents for my social club.
Then a swim in my neighbor's pool.
Then make dinner.
Then watch a movie on the couch with my hubby.
That's the plan. I figured out all of my meals and snacks for the day. I have a clear map of what I will do today. Today is all I can worry about. I'll just get one more day under control and then tomorrow I'll worry about tomorrow. And occasionally, I'll think about what I'll look like when I'm 34-28-36!
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The tsunami watch that was issued for Hawaii this morning was cancelled, so I'm a little more relaxed knowing I won't be filing a claim on my homeowner's insurance any time soon. Also, my seasonal gift is all but gone and took a bunch of weight away with it!
My scale is holding at 128.0 right now. I'LL TAKE IT!!! That means I have a good chance at reaching my 127 goal for 10/8. Woo hoo! After we received the tsunami watch, I decided to get my swim out of the way in the morning in case I needed to bottle some water and make preparations to move to higher ground. I only swam for 45 minutes because the water was really cold that early, but it felt pretty good.
I had a great healthy breakfast this morning, a nice snack (a half of an orange), and just finished a salad with my butternut squash soup for lunch. I'm making my Cooking Light recipe for Tex Mex Calzones for dinner tonight. The other attendees are eating dinner before the meeting but I'm driving there from another part of the island so I have to wait with dinner until I come home. I'm sure DH will just play computer games without me here to distract him. I asked him to start dinner while I'm gone but in all likelihood, I'll just wind up making it for us when I get home. DH will subsist on salsa and tortilla chips 'til then.
This is the time that I'm usually in the pool and I feel like doing something, so I may attempt my 30 Day Shred DVD again. I'm terrible at it. I just want to keep the momentum going so when I go back to work, I'm able to keep positive and make the "me time" to keep it up. Better to go in with the workout habit than to try to start it up after work really gets going. I prefer consistency but with my work, I got going and now I'm on hold and should start up again soon. Such a pain but that's the way the place works so I get to be the happy housewife for a little while. I'm looking at it as more workout time!
I would also like to give quiet kudos to my husband who hasn't said anything stupid for a whole week now. I know he was gone on a submarine for over half of that time, but that's beside the point. I don't think it has escaped his notice that I have dropped some pounds and he KNOWS that he has more to lose than I do at this point, so all his stupid negative comments have come to a screeching halt. I don't want to jinx it, but I am grateful to the angels that I haven't had to hear him ragging on my physical condition for a while.
In all honesty, I'm quite happy with the way I look right now. The few pounds I needed to lose from summer vacations are gone and I'm not remotely embarrassed to wear a bikini to the beach. I'm curvy but I look healthy, not fat. Having said that I know that I could still lose another 10 pounds and not look too skinny and that I could go beyond that a bit and still be just fine. At that point, I'll be on the thin end of my range, but if I'm comfy with it, maybe I'll just stay there. I am mentally prepared to do a major "Do I need to lose any more?" assessment when I reach 118. When I see that number, I'm going to step back and decide if I should move into maintenance. I'd be happy with a size 6. I don't need to be a size 0. I know I have a small-med frame and could get as low as the 106-109 range, but I don't think that's necessary nor is it desireable. It will be interesting to see where I end up. I'm trying to figure it out based on what I see in the mirror and my measurements. Here are my goals in those regards:
1) No double chin. It's one of the first places I show weight. It still has a little pudge right there and I want it gone - completely! I hope it's not just old, saggy skin at this point. Ugh!
2) Better shape and definition in my upper arms and back. I have a tiny bit too much pudge in these areas covering my lovely muscles. If I trim that down a little, it will help me look a little less thick.
3) My bra size. I have been a 36 ever since my weight shot way up back in the day. I'm ready to move on to a 34!
4) My waist measurement. It's 29.75". I know I can do better. Is 28" too much to ask for?
5) More toned thighs and booty. These are probably my biggest candidates for shrinkage. I know losing a few more pounds is going to help them look more shapely. I look forward to that.
On a funny note, DH just called me on his lunch break. He worked out at lunch time with his old workout group. He said, "It was good to work out but boyyyy, am I out of shape!" I know when he really gets going with regular workouts, he'll get his weight down and be muscle bound in a hurry. With him, it's only a matter of a couple of months of sweat and leaving the cherries off his hot fudge sundaes. So I ain't cryin' for him, Argentina! But it is nice, for the moment at least, for our roles to be reversed and for him to feel like the unfit half of our pair. Maybe it will give him empathy in the future to not look down his nose at my efforts when he's feeling like God's gift to women again.
Monday, September 28, 2009
I saw this in MAINEROCK's blog and had to share. I may print a copy to hang in my office as an ever-present reminder.
AN ALWYN FAT LOSS RANT
By Alwyn Cosgrove
This week I’ve heard more excuses as to why people are not losing fat than I have ever heard in my life. I have literally heard people tell their trainers, “I’m following the nutrition program exactly, but instead of an egg white omelet for breakfast, I have a muffin and a latte.” Hmmm…not “exactly” the same thing, is it?
So I thought this would be a good time to share some of my ‘wisdom” with those of you still looking for the magic pill.
Having worked with hundreds of individuals over the years and as a trainer, magazine writer, and lecturer to other fitness professionals, I’m amazed at how often I am asked, “What are the secrets to fat loss?”
I can vividly remember doing a photo shoot at our gym with a male client who had lost 85 lbs of fat and now had a nice six-pack to show off for his efforts. My own gym members came up and asked me what his “secret” was. The answer—THERE'S NO SECRET.
They seemed to think that I'd given him the “real” information and had withheld it from them! He's been given the same advice that I give to everyone else. He just chose to follow it a little more closely. Fat loss isn’t under the control of the magic fat loss fairies. It's based on simple changes in behavior.
I thought I would take this opportunity to launch into an Alwyn Cosgrove rant. Those of you who are politically correct and easily offended, stop reading now. And if the rest of you are offended, I'm sure there is a new diet book that will tell you exactly what to do to achieve fat loss nirvana. (Here’s a hint—“You have to eat less, fat boy” tends not to fill up a 300-page diet book). So put down your copy of “Eat Right for Your IQ” and listen up.
To lose fat, eat less calories than you burn. Yes, there are some factors that can make this a little more difficult such as metabolic type, medical disorders, food sensitivities, medications, sleep patterns, etc. However, these are the minutiae—the small details. Even if you adjust or control for every single other variable in your body and your environment, if you consume more calories than you burn, you are going to gain fat.
Here are a few basic truths that no one really wants to hear:
• Think about the foods that you are about to consume. Are they going to bring you closer to your goal? Or will they make you feel like cr@p and take you farther away from what you want? Yeah, I know that when you were younger before you had kids you could eat blah, blah, blah and not gain weight. Too bad. Times have changed.
And I know your friend can eat whatever he or she wants and is in great shape. Yay for them. That stinks for you. But no amount of whining will change the fact that you need to work to get your booty in shape.
• Stop rushing your meals. Eat slowly. This will give your body a chance to actually realize that you've eaten and register that you’re full. It takes 20 minutes for the satiety mechanisms to kick in. Give your body a chance to tell you that it's full before you cram another 500 calories in your pie hole.
• Eat smaller portions. Unfortunately you can’t eat unlimited amounts of the food you would like and still get lean. Sorry. Second helpings? I seriously doubt it. Appetizers, main course, and dessert? You're kidding me.
• Make correct meal choices that contain appropriate servings of protein, carbohydrates, and fats. I love the new “low carb diet” options at most restaurant chains now. A steak with melted cheese on the top. That's not a diet food people. I also saw a low carb buffalo wings option. The difference? No carrots to dip in the blue cheese. Like that's your problem…too many carrots in your diet. A big @$$ bowl of pasta? That's what marathon runners eat the night before the race. If you have a marathon planned tomorrow, go ahead. If not, you don't need the calories.
• “You are what you eat” is a true statement. And it wouldn't surprise me to find out that some of you have eaten a fat b@st@rd or two in your time. Are you a lean serving of protein or a saggy nasty sausage?
• If certain foods are a “trigger” for you and you can’t eat them sensibly, then you have to give them up. I have known very few people who can eat their “trigger” food and not end up blowing their diet. Once you “pop” you can't stop, right? Usually one cookie means the whole bag. You can't be trusted so don't have them in the house.
• You do not need something sweet to finish your meal. This is a conditioned response from your childhood days when cleaning your plate meant ice cream. “Need” something sweet? Do you realize how much you just ate? You don’t need anything. Dessert is not a physiological need for survival. It is just a bad habit. Habits can be broken. You do not need the cheesecake.
• Do not buy junk food. If it is there, you will eat it. If you have a craving for candy and there's none in the house, it's highly unlikely that you'll get up and go to the store. You'll just sit you’re @$$ back down and finish watching American Idol. Oh and buying the junk food “for the kids” is an absolute Bull$h#% excuse. The kids do not need the cheezy poofs either. In my opinion, the childhood obesity epidemic has been caused by parents buying Sh#% for their children. It's essentially child abuse, plain and simple. Depriving your kids of cr@p is a good parenting decision.
• If you screw up a meal, do not, I repeat DO NOT try to adjust the next meal to “make up for it.” All you’ll do is screw up two meals. If you overeat at meal number one, just get back on track. Immediately. Because thinking, “Well, I’ve blown it now so I might as well REALLY blow it” is akin to getting a flat tire as you drive down the freeway, getting out, and totaling your car.
• Cookies, doughnuts, and muffins are cr@p food choices. You can't ever justify eating them on a regular basis. And low carb, fat-free cookies, doughnuts, and muffins are still cr@p. Don't kid yourself.
• Yes, you can eat fast food. It's called grilled chicken sandwiches or a turkey sub, Jarod. Fries? No. And you do not need to “super size” for an extra 50 cents.
Yes, it's hard. Do you want to look great? Nothing tastes as good as lean and buff feels. It's true. This week I've heard, “It's too hard. I want an easier diet.” What that means is, “I'd rather eat cr@ppy foods than look or feel any better. I have made a conscious decision to get fatter because my love for junk food is a more powerful love than my desire to get lean.” It's unfortunate, but you will have to work for the body you want.
Little changes add up. Switching from a glass of orange juice every morning to a cup of green tea will save you 100 calories per day. That adds up to over ten pounds of fat loss per year. Little discrepancies add up too. A Big Mac meal is about 1500 calories. You'll have to walk 15 miles to balance that out.
If you aren't a fat loss expert, hire one. Or follow a plan written by one. I wrote a 16-week all inclusive fat loss program called Afterburn that includes nutrition, cardio, and weight training. Using this approach means you can’t fail. You just need to follow the program. I'm amazed at how many people STILL ask me how they can get single-digit lean. The information is out there people.
This is by no means a complete list, but I think you're probably getting the point. There is no secret to fat loss. At any one time, your body is either getting leaner or it's getting fatter. You just need to adjust the balance. In today's world, it just takes a little effort on your part.
However, if you want to eat whatever you want, you have two choices.
1) Move a lot. A LOT.
2) Gain weight, get fat, accept it, and stop complaining.
And if you want to look great, the keys to fat loss are (from my politically incorrect colleague, Lyle McDonald):
• Change your eating habits so that you're eating less.
• Change your activity patterns so that you're expending more calories.
• Repeat the above two. Keep doing this over a long period of time.
You don't EVER get to go back to your old eating habits unless you want to get fat again. In order to maintain weight loss, you have to maintain at least part of the changes that you made in your eating habits and activity patterns.
It really is that simple. If you are not losing fat, it's YOUR fault. It's not mine, it's not your trainer, it's not your husband, wife, kids, or your boss. It's YOU. There are 168 hours in each week no matter who you are. Maybe you train for three of them. That leaves 165 for you to completely blow it.
If you are not good at self discipline, hire someone who will make you accountable. Until then, realize that the choices are yours.
Getting really lean is not difficult in terms of knowing what to do. It's doing it that makes the difference.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
TOM had its way yesterday but today, the scale said 129.9! Woo hoo! Now I'm just going to speed off and leave those 130s waving at me in my rear view mirror.
DH and I had a very social day yesterday. We met his alumni group at a local sports bar/restaurant to watch a football game and then in the evening, we attended a wine tasting. I enjoyed the wine and did as well as I could with the options available to me food-wise. At the restaurant while watching the game, DH and I ordered a stack of buttermilk pancakes and I ate one large pancake. No butter but I did have syrup. Then at the wine event, I had a small piece of a deli sandwich, a couple of pieces of calamari, and a few bites of my hubby's caesar salad. There were 6 small wine samples which I enjoyed but other than that, my beverages all day were water and either iced tea or coffee with Splenda. I didn't overeat and I made the best choices I could while still enjoying myself a bit. I could have done better (avoiding the calamari and pancake syrup!), but I'm no angel, so I'm moving on.
My next mini-goal is to reach and get under 127.0. I hope to get there by October 8, which is the date of an afternoon event sponsored by my social club. I have a super cute dress in my closet I'd love to wear that day but I just need to shave a couple more pounds off before I'm truly comfortable in it. I mean, I could wear it now with my Spanx, but I'd rather look good in it without that much assistance! Losing 3 pounds in 11 days is a bit of a high bar, but even if I only lose half of that, I would still be making excellent progress. Every little bit helps!
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