Wednesday, April 13, 2011
I read a blog of a dear friend and was praying for her. I didn’t know how to comment on her blog. I got back out this book and God led me to this page and I thought allot of people could probably benefit from me sharing this.
Live for Today—Stay in the present
“I will be happy when ________” - You fill in the blank. How many times have you said these words: “I will be happy when I lose weight”, “I will be happy when I get a new job”, “I will be happy when I get married” ? These and thousands of other such statements, postpone your happiness, which lowers your self-esteem. You are telling yourself that you don’t deserve to be happy until a certain event happens. What you are really saying is that you aren’t good enough right now, today, to be happy. And when the long-awaited event does occur, there will always be another and another. This makes it impossible for you to ever achieve happiness and high self-esteem unless you begin to accept yourself today.
Making outer conditions responsible for your happiness puts you on a roller coaster of emotions. If you feel good only when things go your way, you are left miserable a great deal of the time. As long as your happiness is tied into the achievement of future goals, you will never be satisfied. You will always need more to be happy. And if your need more, then you are telling yourself that you are not good enough. This damages your self-esteem.
While goals, dreams, wishes, and fantasies play a necessary part in your life, even adding to your self-esteem, it is important that you live for right now. You are perfect just as you are at this very moment. Sure, there are things you would like to work on, but you are still a worthwhile, beautiful person just as you are today.
Right now, make a list of five positive characteristics or traits about yourself. Whatever it is, write it down. Keep this list in a safe place and refer to it when you start thinking of all the things you don’t have. Give yourself permission to be happy and have high self-esteem TODAY.
Taken from the book “Why Can’t I Stop Eating?” by Dr. Debbie Danowski.
My eating plan is from this book. (see 9-17 blog for it).
My personal history that helps me relate to this blog… I have spent many many years saying “WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I WILL BE HAPPY”
WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I will go to the lake with my kids
“ “ “ “ I will have a better marriage.
“ “ “ “ I will get out more and not be such a recluse.
I cannot tell you the number of days, weeks, years I spent thinking this way!
ALLOT of wasted time I CAN tell you that!
Sadly… I am not sure WHY I went year after year miserable in my own skin. I can’t tell you WHY I didn’t do something about it??
I spent more time PLANNING on doing something then ACTUALLY doing something!
Can anyone out there relate?
I honestly thought if I didn’t keep saying this or thinking about my weight then I might just become satisfied with being overweight and just NEVER try to do something about it! I felt like I had to keep beating myself up over it to try to SELF –LOATHE MYSELF INTO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT… How twisted is that? How unhealthy is that?
And maybe there is a day we get so disgusted with ourselves that we resolve to finally DO something about it……???? Maybe??
I do remember this… that constant replay in my mind was so tiring.. and it played over and over like a broken record!
I have NOW learned that losing weight doesn’t fix everything…
Losing weight doesn’t make everything that was wrong in my life ok….
Losing weight didn’t make my marriage become magically better!
Losing weight DID help with my confidence so that I stood up for myself in my marriage!
Losing weight DID help me have a better outlook towards my life in general.
Losing weight DID make me realize that looking better is good but FEELING BETTER is really the prize!
Hugs to all of you!
Thanks for reading!
Friday, March 04, 2011
Have you guys seen this on Americans Funniest Videos?.... I just love to watch him!
Such happines and full of life!
Thursday, March 03, 2011
Well this child, MY SON, pictured below (with my grandson):
Innocent.. YEAH right~! LOL
pulled a good one this week!
I get a text from his teacher this morning:
"Sherlyn, did you know Lane brought your husbands' 10K wedding band to school and gave it to Haley ?"
OH MY GOODNESS!!!! NO!!!!! I DIDN'T KNOW THAT!!! BUT my husband is wearing his wedding band.. OH NO!!! Lane must have brought my Deceased Dad's wedding band to school! "
(MY dad died at when I was 18, my mom gave me his wedding band from when they were together; I have had it for years now)
I checked where I keep it and it WAS still in the jewery case! HUMMMM???
My Dh and I figured it it must be his old wedding band he had when we first got married over 22 yrs ago. It was not comfortable and cut into his finger so we bought him a comfort band about 5 yrs into our marriage.
Text from the teacher:
"I told Lane to take it home and give it to you yesterday...and I asked him this morning if he did so and he said he did! "
ME: "No, Mrs. S.. he did NOT give it to me last night!!!"
5 mins later.....
"Sherlyn, I questioned him some more and he said no he had NOT given it to you... that he had taken it WITHOUT permission (no kidding!) and so he hid it under a desk in his room"
Ok... now he is a thief and a lyer! (LOL... yes funny but serious!)
I checked under some furniture in his room.. YEP there it was.. my husband's first wedding band!
OK.. now the punishment! What to do..?? I was really mad at 8:30 am..
Now I am dissapointed... and thinking what to do besides sit down and have a good stern talk... and of course think of a punishment!
HE knows better!!!
THANK GOD little Haley showed the ring to the teacher yesterday evening before she went home from school.. Thank you Lord you intervened!
So... obviously he is in trouble...
boy parenting can be hard!
All for love.... (don't even get me started on that one.... HE IS 10 YRS old!... NOT 16.. NOT 20..
4th GRADE TEN!! 10!!!
Any input is welcome!
My mom was not any help! I told her (she is 80) and she said "DON'T be too hard on him!" He comes by it naturally! WHAT??? I say??? THIEVING ,,,,, LYING NATURALLY!!! WHAT are you talking about..
She said her mother and her had found a diamond ring in the yard at their house... buried... in the dirt....and her mother put it up.
My mom said she took it a few weeks later and gave it to a boy that she had a huge crush on. My mom was 9 and the boy was 15.
My mom said the boy took the ring.. smiled and thanked her nicely..
and when her mother found the ring missing.. she lied too, then fessed up, then her mother marched her over to the boys' house to get the ring.. and he had given it to his girlfriend!
LOL (they never got it back! ) LOL
So thanks allot mom.. YOU are ALLOT of help!!!!!
Update at 5:30 today.. so he gets home from school.. I go over all the details with him and make him tell me the 'story'! He hangs his head in shame.. (so that is good).. he is very nervous... and very quite (alway loud.. so not normal to be QUITE!!) so definitely feeling bad.
I determine he got it out of my jewery box on Monday gave it to her Monday.. brought it back home Monday! (yeah.. the little girl was showing it off to everyone and the teacher saw that.. and got curious) this little girl is in ANOTHER 4th grade class... not EVEN in my son's room!
Anyway.. he has probably been thinking about this since Monday... coz he knew he should not have taken it!
I laid it on good too.. and THICK!! LOL
"Lane.. now let me get this straight... I was shopping in town in the farm supply store for something dad needed and I bought you some farm gloves (he loved them!) and so I was showing my "love" for you... . and let me see... YOU WERE STEALING FROM ME!"
YOU were disrespecting me!"
"Lane, do I have that right?"
"YES mom" he says... "That is right" "MOM, what is my punishment"...
I said "I don't know.. what should it be.. do you think?"
He says "I, don't know??? I am not the PARENT!"
HA ha... kids.. don't you love 'em!"
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