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I'm Tired of The Negativity

Sunday, October 11, 2009

In the past we havenít spent much time with My Mom, well really any of my family cause they are always negative towards me and everything I do. Itís a long story, but has been something Iíve had to deal with all my life. I love my Mom and family very much, it just makes it hard when most of the time I spend with her she is always being negative about everything. Making negative hurtful remarks especially when it comes to me and things I do, like trying to loose weight. I again tried to spend time with her in hopes that maybe Mom would change or at least that we might could spend some good Mother and daughter time together since we haven't had much of that. So yesterday I went and spent the day with my Mom. From 8am - 11pm I was with her. We went out of town for she had an eye appointment and then we went shopping the rest of the time. Off and on all day long my Mom kept making negative comments about my being over weight and especially when we ate dinner and supper together. emoticon She would make comments on how I ate and stuff. She claims to be almost fully vegetarian and doesnít eat much meat hardly at all. Which is fine, I have nothing against Vegetarians and everyone has their own way of eating. It just really hurts when you know you have a weight problem, are doing your best working on it to fix it, and your own family is negative about it no matter what you do. It just was really hard yesterday. Donít get me wrong, I donít mean to sound like Iím on a pitty potty cause Iím not meaning to sound that way at all. Its just it would be nice if my family would be a little supportive sometimes than trying to knock me down all the time. Yes, I have weight to loose, No Iím not perfect at this weight loss thing and its not going to come off over night, but I am trying and working at it. How come it is that people you would think that would be your biggest support are always the ones that are quick to judge you and make negative hurtful remarks about how you eat and on your weight?
Thatís why I am so blessed to have My Spark People family here to help. Each one of you are so very special to me. You all are so very positive and helpful and thatís what I need is positivity. Iíve had to deal with so much negativity all my life and I donít want anything to do with the negativity anymore. Thank you My Spark family for everything! emoticon

  
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1TOBFIT 10/11/2009 11:03PM

    When I read this blog I wanted to give you a big hug !
Like someone else said negative people are huge energy drainers and the last thing you want is to be distracted by thier nonsense.
I would not ever dwell on any negative, condesending things that have been said to you, either recently or from the past. Look at it this way, if what someone says to you doesnt inspire or motivate you, or make you feel good about who you are as a human no matter what size you are, they should NOT GET any of your time and energy.
I have a whole lot more to say but I need to get off my soap box and get back to work....lol
Im adding you as a friend and I look forward to sharing our journey together knowing you can be healthy and fit no matter what someone else says !
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Jackie

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SBOSNAK 10/11/2009 7:31PM

  I never had this problem with my mom, she was overweight also and thats what finally killed her from being over weight her heart gave out. I loved my mom but I never want to get like her. I'm overweight and need to lose alot but this year I want to have victory over the obsession with food . I did ha terrible trouble with my mother in law she was thin and couldn't believe her son would marry me and at that time I was about 15 pounds over weight. Now I'm 50 pounds overweight. But she was rude and said terrible things to me about how fat I was and she didn't spare any mean words..What I did when she came to visit was eat more because she stressed me out so much. The last time she came before her death was have all my christian friends pray with me and pray that I could just love her and forgive her and not be hurt by what she said but just show kindness and not let her ruin my diet and guess what, I had total victory. Jesus was with me all the way. In fact it was a true healing for me. And 6 months later she died and I never saw her again. I have no regrets God is Good all the time.......Try that with your mom. God will give you peace......... emoticon

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SSHYLADY 10/11/2009 7:30PM

    Shelly, I know that the negativity hurts especially when it comes from those that YOU love, but you have to take back the power that you have given them over you. You love them, but you are on this weightloss journey for you, not them and only YOU can achieve it. We are here for you but God must come first. I am almost at my goal weight because of Him and my desire to be healthy. If I can make it, so can you. The wedding dress you see me in can no longer fit me, it swallows me alive! Don't be anything but encouraged from this moment forward sweetie.

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SHOAPIE 10/11/2009 7:03PM

    Negative people are a real drain on you emotionally. You can either grin and bear it or limit your contact with them, which I understand can be really hard when that person is your Mother! She should really be your best supporter! Hang in there and keep coming to your spark "family" for support. emoticon

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CAOMAGIC 10/11/2009 6:49PM

    I have had to deal with my mother not being supportive of my goals and dreams and not really being interested in my life at all, and it HURTS!!! My weight has always been a sore spot for us because my mother didn't have a weight problem until she had medical problems in 2000, and I have been overweight or obese for most of my teenage and adult life.

I have chosen to limit contact with my mom for this reason, but then sometimes I feel guilty for not spending enough time with her. Some of my friends parents have already passed away.

I guess there is no happy solution to this problem.

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WANDAC2013 10/11/2009 6:35PM

    I've had to deal with the negative mother thing also....we are now, for the most part, estranged....so, I know how you feel and I commend you for spending time with your mother....it is so hurtful to have such judgement and negativity come from one's own mother....it's something no one can really understand unless they have been through it....I agree with you that having a SparkFamily is wonderful though!!!! emoticon emoticon

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BEVERLYJEANNE 10/11/2009 6:07PM

    Maybe you should show your family this blog!

Being that they don't seem to have weight issues themselves they may not know how much the negative comments hurt you.

I agree though, it is really hard to be around people who always have negative thoughts and works for you.

Best of luck with your journey to a better and healthier lifestyle. I will never be negative around you! I think you are great and doing a wonderufl job!

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Hold on Tightly To what is Truly Important in Life.....

Monday, September 07, 2009

Hold on to faith, for it is the source of believing that all things are possible.
Hold on to hope; it banishes doubt and enables attitudes to be positive and cheerful.
Hold on to trust; it is at the core of fruitful relationships that are secure and content.
Hold on to love, it is lifeís greatest gift of all, for it shares, cares, and gives meaning to life.
Hold on to family and friends; they are the most important people in your life and make the world a much better place. They are your roots that helped you grow through time and always remain close by.
Hold on to all that you are and all that you have learned, for these things are what make you unique.
Hold on to your dreams; achieve them with hard work and true honesty.
Never take the easy way or surrender to deceit. Remember others on your way, and take time to care for their needs.
Enjoy the beauty around you for the Lord has truly blessed.
Have the courage to see things different and clearly.
Remember that you are a truly unique person and donít let go of the important things and important people that give meaning to your life.
Always remember that in the storms of life that you are not alone.....
Let tomorrow worry for itself and always know God is there to help you every step of the way.

  
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SHELLY-ELLY 10/7/2009 9:37PM

    Thank you I sure will keep you in my prayers..... emoticon

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SBOSNAK 10/7/2009 8:19PM

  I Love this I'm printing it off so I can put it in my office at work.....With God all things are possible even my weight loss. To be honest and true to myself That when I eat something and say its a small portion, when its large I'm only fooling myself. Pray for me I need it,,Thanks

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1HOTMAMA2BE 9/25/2009 1:16PM

    Breathtaking...I have to share with others. Simply awesome!

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SBOSNAK 9/17/2009 9:09PM

  I love what you share..............Thank You

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TEXASFILLY 9/7/2009 2:52AM

    That is simply beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

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For My cup has overflowed

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

I've never made a fortune, and it's probably too late now.
But I don't worry about it that much, I'm happy anyhow.
And as I go along life's way, I'm reaping better than I sowed.
I'm drinking from my saucer, 'Cause my cup has overflowed.
Haven't got a lot of riches, and sometimes the going's rough.
But I've got loving ones all around me, and that makes me rich enough.
I thank God for his blessings, and the mercies He's bestowed.
I'm drinking from my saucer, 'Cause my cup has overflowed.
I remember times when things went wrong, My faith wore somewhat thin.
But all at once the dark clouds broke, and the sun peeped through again.
So Lord, help me not to gripe, about the tough rows I have hoed.
I'm drinking from my saucer, 'Cause my cup has overflowed.
If God gives me strength and courage, When the way grows steep and rough.
I'll not ask for other blessings, I'm already blessed enough.
And may I never be too busy, to help others bear their loads.
Then I'll keep drinking from my saucer, 'Cause my cup has overflowed.
When I think of how many people in this world have it worse than I do.
I realize just how blessed I really am for my cup has over flowed.

  
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1HOTMAMA2BE 9/25/2009 1:22PM

    Wow! We are truly blessed. Thank you.

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LADYHUNTER82 9/5/2009 7:46AM

    How beautiful! Thanks for sharing............ have a beautiful safe weekend.. luv ya!

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SISTERDEAR 9/1/2009 10:56PM

    What a great reminder. Thank You.
Sue

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SHEILARIE1 9/1/2009 10:38PM

    What a great poem. Thanks for sharing. Do you know who the author is? emoticon

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NEWLIBRARIAN 9/1/2009 10:16PM

    What a nice sentiment. I know that my cup has overflowed with blessings but I often chose to dwell on the negative instead. Great reminder.

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Good to know....

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Today, just do what you can. Let God do what you canít.
When life knocks you down on you knees, Remember, thatís the perfect position to pray. When we put our cares in His hands, He puts peace in our hearts.
God is watching over you. I know, cause I asked Him to.........
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BIGDAD1211 8/4/2009 2:09PM

    That was a good word! Thank You!

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OUTDOORGIRL69 8/1/2009 9:43AM

    Amend to that

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Happy 4th of July everyone!

Friday, July 03, 2009

I hope all of you have a wonderful blessed 4th of July weekend!
Be safe!
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CLAYSGAL 7/4/2009 2:33PM

    What goes around, comes around, so Here's hoping yours is as special an blessed as you deserve. emoticon

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