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The Life I Want -vs- The Life I Have

Friday, November 30, 2012

I had posted a question about working from home, but one of the answers I got back was about mindset. Not what I had anticipated...but, it started me thinking...

All of this, the tracking, the activity, the portion control, green pyramid foods, etc. All of this is Mindset.

It's changing the way we do things, forever. Re-learning how we think....Re-programming if you will. I know that weight loss is not truly about the numbers on the scale, it's about what is in our hearts/minds and how we deal with our emotions. Many of us have learned at one point or another, that we can cope with food. Maybe it makes us feel better, maybe it makes us feel full instead of feeling other emotions, maybe it makes us happy, maybe it makes us forget or remember...whatever food "is" for each of us, the lesson is the same. Our mindset needs to change if it has caused us to gain weight and be unhealthy.

It is so strange how we can get these glimmers or moments of clarity and how quickly it can fade away. I don't want this to fade away I am writing it down while it is fresh in my head.

Kristi, you need to change your mindset.

Food will never make you truly happy, it will never truly comfort you, it will not really keep you company, nor is it a real activity. Food is not love, food is not feeding the life cravings you have right now. You want to be happy, you want to be confident, you want to fall in love (not settle for someone because of your weight) and most want a life that you do not have right now. The life you have right now is not making your heart sing, it is not bringing a smile to your face and it is not fulfilling you. Frankly, it is all work right now. There is not much you are enjoying. You know this, Kristi.

It is time to make some changes. Little changes so they stick. Remember what you life is like right now, so when you have the life you want, you don't ever give it up and come back to this place again. Keep it in your rear view mirror, girl!

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SHELLE13 11/30/2012 10:55AM

    I agree Ryder B....It's important that I learn from my past as well so that my "today" can change. =)

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RYDERB 11/30/2012 7:54AM

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But remember that life is right now, TODAY. So make sure to enjoy it, to live it, and appreciate it. It's so easy to take "tomorrow" for granted. To put happiness off until "tomorrow". But that's how life slips away. You're amazing today and getting even better with each new day.

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Love, Life, Family...Up, Down and All Around!

Monday, November 26, 2012

I seemed to have disappeared for a while, about 5 weeks to be exact. Some things have changed over that short amount of time...and I am SO welcoming the end of Mercury Retrograde tomorrow!

Work - I gave notice, sort of and had been working a different full-time job, my old job as a part-time job and free lance. I also had a 3 hour commute each day (only 16 miles one way) in gridlock. Needless to say, I was overwhelmed, had no time for myself and was a bit miserable. I have to hand it to the people who work three jobs...all I wanted was sleep. It did make me realize though that I was eating way too much throughout the day and at night. In those 5 weeks, I have dropped about 9 pounds. The week I quit the new job, I gained 3.

Family - Since I work for family, I kept my family job on a part-time basis, thank goodness! I had something to fall back on. However, I am now on full commission, no safety net and am going to be about $1200 short a month. I need to figure something out soon! However, from a family standpoint, things are much, much better! Now that I don't have this weird tension between my boss and a co-worker. My brother on the other hand...he is still giving my parents grief and is holding visits with their grandson, hostage. Its a horrible situation and I am somewhat removed from it, well...except for the fact that we just had two Thanksgivings to attend to (Thurs and Sat).

Love - This is usually pretty boring here for me as I haven't seriously dated anyone in a long time. I have a hard time accepting myself because of my body, my past, society some respects, some family members...those have all reinforced the thought that I will not find love because of my weight. Dating is difficult because of some past personal trauma, but it's even more difficult because of my weight. About a week ago, I went to a sort of reunion with some friends from grad school. One of my friends lives out of state and he came back to visit and stayed with his family for the holidays. He just got divorced about two months ago and I have thought of him always as a friend. Well...two of our mutual friends told me under their breath that he likes me and of course, I thought they were drinking too much. I've allowed my brain to entertain this thought and now...I am not sure how to feel at all. We haven't talked since and I did send him a text, along with other friends, on Thanksgiving. He didn't reply at all. My brain says...he just got divorced, I know he can be very shallow, it's probably a joke and not to trust what our mutual friends were saying because they are just...wrong. On the other hand, we do get along well, he is kinda a Bill Rancic kind of way and I can usually tell what he is thinking because its written on his face. The latter, I just figure everyone else can too, but maybe thats not true?? I don't know...what I do know about myself is that I am extremely guarded, I don't like to be vulnerable and I don't do well with emotion - I usually eat or drink my emotions away.

Food - The last sentence above leads into this...Given the stuff with my brother, my parents arguing about what is going on with my brother because they are both hurt, the whole "friend" thing, quitting a job, being short financially and the weight has fluctuated. I was doing good...but when I quit, I went up 3.2 lbs. This week I lost one pound. I know how to "feel" but I just don't really know what to do with myself when I don't want to feel what I am feeling. I realized over the holidays that my mom has a really bad relationship with food. She has had lap band, and is down, but never learned to eat healthy. She did eat her emotions and it was a bit surreal to see this in real life, it could have easily been me. Now I know where I learned it, how do I unlearn it? It's not going to be easy, I turn 35 in May and I think I started to learn this when I was about 9. What is it they say? Knowing what the problem is is half of the battle? Well, now I know. Time to change habits.

Career - What I do now, medical sales, I am not super excited about. I do it well (not trying to brag), but my heart is not in it. I really want to do something creative and I want to wake up each morning excited about what I am doing and looking forward to each day. I know that many of us don't get that opportunity. I want that opportunity...I think so much so, that I put myself in financial danger which is not smart. But, it has made my heart happy. Now...I don't have this crazy commute, I am not waking up at 5-6 am and working till midnight, I have time to focus on a career. I want to become a Producer, I know it's far fetched and it is very naive of me to believe I can still have this dream at 35, but it feels like, "Too bad. It's what I want." The only real way for me to get there at this age is to write. I have everything I need, including traumatic life experience, but it has been hard for me to write. Not literally or ability wise, but emotionally. I know it will be cathartic for me to do, but it is also painful and it hurts. I've heard that writing is sometimes a love/hate relationship. For me, I think that's true...

So now, you are all caught up. This has been a difficult, crazy, instructive five weeks. Looking back at 2012 - I think this has been the hardest part of the year...and before this, it wasn't much easier.

For now, I think my main goal for the remainder of 2012, is to get as close to 199 as is possible! Any loss is a loss and I know that the emotional work I do to get there will be much more important than the number on the scale...

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RYDERB 11/29/2012 8:17AM

    Sounds like things have been crazy for you. Just keep taking it one day at a time, and one choice at a time. You can do this and you WILL do this.

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Day 4-7: NYE Challenge

Thursday, October 11, 2012

So...I have been really sick! I have taken 3 days off, and am sort of off today too, working from home. I have only been sick once in the last 5 years, where I really needed time off. I had salmonella poisoning.

Anyhow, I have still been tracking and trying to get as much water, veggies, apples, and salt in my diet as I can. I know the salt seems weird, but my body was draining the fluids so for one day, I had popcorn (salt) and that helped tremendously! I had made my own chicken soup in the crock pot. Thank goodness I had two frozen chicken breasts, some potatoes, carrots, bell peppers and a bay leaf. I also added salt and pepper and a little chili powder. So below is what I have pretty much been eating the last few days.


Drinking this throughout the day:

Chicken Soup made in the crock pot...usually eating this for lunch and/or dinner:

I had the lo-carb cuc sandwich when I was sick of soup...

My throat was sore and cured it with hot tea, but sometimes that hurt. So I had these mini Frozen Greek Yogurts, 100 calories each and had protein too!

When the sick breath was much too much, I had a couple of these left over mints from the bachlorette party. They looked better than they taste!

I am realizing how much work it is to do a photo blog, no wonder the challenges are only ONE week at a time! Duh! So...I think after this week...I am going to write a daily blog of how things went for the day, how I feel with my weight loss progress, mindset and attitude, and anything else I feel like writing. I am just going to make sure I post my calories in my status updates or my blog and that I have a new entry once each day until NYE. If I am so inclined, I will take a photo of my food! LOL!

Hope you all don't get the flu, it's horrible. Stay healthy and eat your apples!


Day 3: NYE Challenge/Sinus Infection

Sunday, October 07, 2012

So I slept like 12 hours last night...I think I have a sinus infection. Explains the tiredness (not achy body), sore throat, ear plugged and stuffiness. I forgot to take my sinus meds last week 2 days in a row...See what happens?! LOL!

Here is my breakfast...this is what I typically make when I make breakfast. It's Frozen Potatoes O'brien (plain potatoes with peppers), 1 egg, 2 egg whites, 1 serving Canadian Bacon, asparagus, mushrooms, zucchini, and a little parmesan on top. Yum!

I did stop and get my OJ...feeling a little better!

Went to the Abbott Kinney Street Festival today and got so many cute things! Got a gorgeous necklace for my grandma for Christmas, got myself 2 necklaces (a brain and a Dopamine necklace that is the carbon make up for it), a cute overnight bag and 2 gluten free cookies! We walking around for over 5 hours! Wow! I added it as 300 minutes of a 26min mile...equalled just over 900 calories! It was hot too and I was a sweat betty! Lunch, I actually found something GF and not too bad on calories!

To say there were strange people at the Festival is an understatement! But, I love diversity and think that there is a spot for everyone in this world! Including...the magician and his shoulder cat!

They also had lots of tempting things...especially these massive cookies! Of course I couldn't eat them, but don't they look good?! Planet Cookie (that's the brand) is supposed to be amazing...That's okay, I found a gf treat later on down the road!

I found...GF cookies! I had one today and it was good! I had to estimate the calories because they don't have them since they are a little mom & pop type shop. But, finally, a cookie! I am going to make my healthy lifestyle work, that does include occasional treats, as long as I exercise and track it!

For dinner, I am having my favorite Pinterest recipe! It's a low carb sandwich. Meaning, no bread, yay GF! Take one cucumber, peel and seed it. Add your favorite Laughing Cow cheese (I have Garlic & Herb Light), a little Grey Poupon (I added this cause it gave it an added kick!) and top with one serving of deli meat, I usually use Hormel Honey Ham, which is also GF. It is really good and cheap, yet pretty filling!

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SHELLE13 10/7/2012 9:46PM

    Thanks, ladies!

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RYDERB 10/7/2012 2:31PM

    Sinus infection? Oh no! I'm so sorry. But breakfast looks fabulous! emoticon

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BRENDALA11 10/7/2012 12:00PM

    Looks delicious

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Day 2: NYE Challenge/Photo Food Journal

Saturday, October 06, 2012

Well...I went to Zumba this morning...I feel like I am getting sick. I was dragging my legs around, they felt like stumps! Oh well! I made it through. I weighed in at WW this morning and knew I was going to gain because the week was terrible, except for yesterday. I gained one pound, I am so happy, it was just one pound! I am back on track now, so next week that pound will be gone forever!

So...for breakfast I had Starbucks Oatmeal with raisins and nuts, no brown sugar because they were out, and a hot tea. I took a pic, but my phone somehow didn't save it! So, I found one online that was similar!

It's 11:22a and I need to re-shower, change and drive to a friends house an hour and a half away. I am going to take a apple, grapes and a string cheese with me so I am not starving when I get there. I still have some hot tea left, thankfully, it feels great on my sore throat!

I went to a friends for lunch and we were going to go to a restaurant nearby. Instead, we ate cut up fruit, veggies, dip and cheese (I couldn't eat the crackers). Also, she made a cake from scratch, which I couldn't eat...but had a taste of the frosting! I had taken pics, but again, I guess I need to double check my phone because some are not keeping if I close the phone too fast! Here is the fruit:

I was starving when I got home...probably because there wasn't too much protein! I was about to grab just anything and then I remember, Ugh! I have to post it! So...I made some Gluten Free Quinoa Pasta with veggies. It was really good and I know that the veggies will help me to feel better. I think I have a sinus infection. Going to bite the bullet tomorrow morning and buy some Orange Juice, even though I never like to drink juice because of the calories!

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RYDERB 10/6/2012 8:26PM

    emoticon It all looks good! I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I hope you get some rest and start feeling better soon.

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