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The Job/Food Link...

Monday, June 25, 2012

I have been thinking a lot...there is a weird connection between my unhappiness with my job and my overeating. I am not happy in my job, my brain wants to eat. I have let it, then I reign back, then I let it...and it goes on and on. What the real problem is here, is not food. It's that I am in a job I don't like and even though I am very good at it, I don't get anything but criticism from my boss...who also happens to be my godfather. Go figure. So, I think not only am I getting negative feedback from my boss, but also my godfather. It is a double whammy. The problem I think is arising because my godbrother now works with us and I think my boss is (unfairly) comparing the two of us. Because I am receiving kudos and accolades from the companies we work for, he is getting angry because no one is saying good things about his son. But, in all fairness, his son is not really working.

So...what is the solution for me. Regardless of all the details, what it comes down to is that I am not happy in this role. I need to find something new. I am interviewing. But, I had someone say something to me that just smacked me in the face. He said, "Well, it's not a matter of if you can do this [job], its a matter of if you WANT to do this job." I think he is right. It's time for me, for ONCE, to do what I want to do...not what I "should" do or what others want me to do.

I just applied for a job that I really want, the pay may be an issue. But, I think even if I have to apply for a second job as a Target Manager, I will do it. I think in the end, even though it's more work, it will make me so much happier! And guess what? That made me happy! And, I didn't eat!

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CARAFAE37 6/25/2012 10:48PM

    I can totally related to how you feel. I graduated about a year ago and I am still stuck in the crappy jobs I had during college. I am so ready for a career!

Anyways, regardless of our jobs we need to push past the crappyness. One good change will lead to another and eventually we'll be in new and better jobs!

Hope you have a great evening! emoticon

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RYDERB 6/25/2012 8:48PM

    Happiness is the key to feeling less stressed no matter how busy your workload might be, I really hope you find something. You deserve to be HAPPY!

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Hi, I'm A Food Addict!

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

According to Merriam Webster, the definition of Addict is "to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively." I have done this all my life. Yesterday, I did so good all day, and got home...and just lost my self-control.

I had an interview in the morning, and I don't think I did as well as I had hoped. I think me thinking about this all day is what built up the anxiety. I ate way too much and most of it in a short time span. I had 2649 calories yesterday, yes I tracked them all! I have used up all of my Weekly Points Allowance last night, so we are talking 49pts here...and I felt horrible after. I think this is only the second time I have ever made myself physically sick from eating.

I woke up feeling horrible, my stomach in knots. It felt like I had to use the bathroom and vomit at the same time. (TMI, I know). But I just want to write this right now, to remember how horrible I made myself feel.

This is not a healthy way to live. I need to learn how to handle my emotions...I feel myself falling back into a little depression again. The two things that were positive from yesterday was 1) I tracked everything 2) I went to Zumba. When I got on the scale this morning, I was up one pound. It's time to get off this roller coaster and stop hurting myself with food. It's not good for me, it's not good for those around me and it's definately not healthy for my poor body that I am forcing to go through all of this self-inflicted pain.

Today, I am promising MYSELF, I will no longer abuse my body. I will no longer eat because I feel bad, good, sad, etc about something. I will use my VOICE to make these feelings heard, by calling friends, blogging, writing in a journal or just writing, even if it is on an App on my phone!

This is the EXACT reason I weigh 220 pounds...I am going to change my life and change my habits. I will always be a food addict, but I will learn to control my addiction one day at a time!

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NIELSENSLADY 6/22/2012 12:08AM

    I'm definitely a food addict. Thanks for sharing your honesty. It's a very hard thing to do.

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    Totally understand. Go you for tracking everything - baby steps. I also tracked everything and did zumba yesterday. We should be proud of that! Best of luck!

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MELLYBEANS0919 6/21/2012 2:00PM

    Emotional eater here too. It's tough.

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XRSIZE18 6/20/2012 6:57PM

    Ughhh! Emotional eating is a HUGE problem for me, too. I definitely still fall victim to it's gooey claws every once in awhile, but I've found that it REALLY helps me to take out the food, put it in front of me and then verbally ask myself out loud, "Will this make me feel better about myself or worse in 3 hours". Doesn't work every time, but it works enough. :)

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WIFEALF 6/20/2012 2:00PM

    i know how you feel some days are hard and we feel so bad after wards,not sure why we do it but i am here to tell you you have a good additure and today is a new day..that is all we can really do...learn from our mistakes and move on....Hang in there.You have come so far...Dont give up...I am here for you...

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TAMARA6905 6/19/2012 12:52PM

    Oh I hate days like that! Good for you for still tracking everything you ate, that says something! I hope today and the rest of the week are better days for you! You can do this! Next time you feel those cravings coming on, get up and walk it off. I tend to eat a lot out of boredom and if I let myself I'd mindlessly eat all day long. So whenever I get the urge to munch, when I know I'm not hungry, I get up and do something instead. I'll clean, read a book, whatever!

Good Luck!!

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Why do I soothe myself with food?!

Thursday, June 14, 2012

I have been doing good, then I will have a bad day. Last week was kinda ify, but I lost 2.2. This week is not looking as good. I am frustrated with myself because I know what I need to do, but I am afraid or something....I am not sure what it is.

I am finding myself mentally giving permission, after a 10 minute argument in my head, to eat things I don't even want. I know a lot of it is because I am unhappy with my job. However, I need to find another way to deal with this frustration. I was going to the gym, but my schedule has been so crazy, not getting home until after midnight sometimes.

I think, what it ultimately comes down to I worth this effort? Yes. I know that is the answer, I now need my actions to follow suit. I know what I need to do, but I guess what I am learning is that old habits are hard to break. Change is not easy and I think this might be my brains way of throwing a temper tantrum. Well, it can throw a fit all it wants, but my heart has to live in this body too! I don't feel comfortable anymore, I am embarassed and feel very unattractive.

I am the only one who can change my life. So let's go brain and heart, you need to be friends for once and all! No more fighting!

Suck it up so we don't have to suck it in anymore! Umph!

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RYDERB 6/15/2012 12:40AM

    I understand how hard it can be. I have a tendency to eat and crave crap when I'm bored or lonely. It's a tough battle, but it's one that we can win. Hang in there!
You're worth fighting for, and emoticon emoticon

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MIDORI_SPARK 6/14/2012 4:54PM

    Awesome pep talk :) You really do understand your problem area (stress over work), which means all that's left to do is fix it, or find other methods of dealing with it! I know you can do it :)

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Two Steps Forward, One Step Back...

Friday, June 01, 2012

Last week, I did phenomenally well! I lost 3.6, I was under my 1500 calories (and points) each and every day, except for one (which I used my WPA for). This week, it started out good and this train wreck just came through! I have had such a tough time doing this...but, I do know why.

One, is unfortunately my cravings are out of control...all I want is chocolate. I know this is a monthly occurrence for me if ya know what I mean. The other is, this week has been so stressful and emotional. I really do need to find another job and I had a really great interview, but I was under-qualified in one area and over-qualified in multiple other areas. So the thought of possibly being able to get out of this job was heaven! Then it was crushed a little...I need to learn how to deal with this constant up and down, but it's not easy.

Today...I just need to breathe. I am going to take a slow day today and work from home. I am going to the gym at 9am and then going to go home and start applying to positions like a mad woman. I need some balance in my life and this job is killing my spirit and now my body. On top of it all, I do work for family and it causes additional strains. Its time to move on for my health and my sanity!

I know now, because last week I did it, that I have to really work at this each and every day. AND...I know that I need to find other outlets for my emotional work roller coaster. Food is not the answer. I know I can do this, now...I just need to do it.

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RYDERB 6/4/2012 11:06PM

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Hang on! I hope you find something new soon!

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I've lost over 131 lbs since 2003! And, I am still at my highest weight!

Friday, May 18, 2012

I have been struggling. I know its no secret at this point. And...after some really hard and stressful, emotional days and weeks, I know exactly why I am not losing. I am simply eating too much. Yes, it's healthy foods. Yes, I am avoiding fast food. Yes, I am exercising. But, none of this does any good with weight loss if you are still overeating. I am overeating.

I took every WW weight record I could find, and believe me, I found a lot! I have some dating back to 2003. I threw the weights, losses and/or gains that were in my weight trackers. Since January 5, 2003, I have lost over 131 pounds and gained over 95 pounds (on record).

Now, you might be thinking, why are you doing this? Why are you going back to this and dwelling on the past? Easy. I am trying to figure out why the heck I am still trying to lose weight!

I have noticed a few patterns...

1) If I know I am going to gain, I didn't WI. Or, I missed 2-3 weeks of meetings, then WI and gain 2-10 pounds!
2) If I lost consecutively, I would stop going to meetings and start over a few months later.
3) I don't think it was really sinking in that this is something I have to do each and every day, even AFTER I lose the weight. Losing a pound or two doesn't mean that I get to "treat" myself to food after my meeting.

I can't believe it's been that much since 2003! The funny thing is there are a lot of 0.2 or 0.8 losses, they really do add up! If I was 131 pounds lighter now, I'd weigh less than 90lbs and be anorexic! What I really need to do is get on track and try my best to stay on track. If I lose, I need to stay on-board and not go crazy with food. If I gain, I need to get back on track immediately and also figure out what I did that week that derailed my progress.

Wow! Still in shock...131! Since I started dieting in 1989, it probably means that if I lost an average of 14.5lbs a year, I have lost over 334lbs since 1989. It's time to end this roller coaster.

No more.

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BOBBBI_97 5/23/2012 2:13PM

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WIFEALF 5/23/2012 1:42PM

    i know how you feel...hang in there...we both can do it

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RYDERB 5/19/2012 4:06AM

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DJ4HEALTH 5/19/2012 12:40AM

    I think that you are learning from your past and that is good. Just remember that you can give yourself some prize but make it something that is not food., emoticon

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TAMMIEANN76 5/18/2012 9:30PM

    Some very important realizations there! Keep moving forward!

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