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Reboot Sabbatical in NYC?

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

I have been thinking a lot lately...there is a lot in my world that is not what I had intended for my life. I have realized that I have allowed a lot of other people to heavily "influence" decisions in my life. A lot of this has to do with why I am still carrying 80+ pounds of weight with me.

I work for family and have for the past 4 years. I am in sales and I am not happy, even though I do well. It is difficult to work for family, I knew that going in. In fact, the day I accepted the job, I called my best friend and cried. I knew then it wasn't what I wanted, but figured I would need to give it a go and make the best of it. Four years later I am miserable and feel trapped with financial obligations. I have gained (and kept) about 15 pounds in 4 months (Oct-Jan) and my stress level is through the roof. I gave my power away by taking this job I didn't want. I started and ended a relationship the second year of working here..which...I became a victim of sexual violence. I'm glad I was smart enough to tell a white lie and get out of the relationship. I now realize what a traumatic experience that was...and that I had surrendered my power once again. I have learned. But, I also know that I used food to cope.

I feel as though I am at a cross roads. I have been thinking of moving to NYC for years, because it was always something I have wanted to do. since I was in high school. Over the last year, I realized that my home will always be Southern California. However, over the last week or so...I know I have to make a change. I can't go on like this anymore, it's not helping me, I'm not happy and I want control of my life again.

I think it is time to take a Reboot Break.



My lease is up on my apartment in August and I am thinking of going to NYC for a few months to focus on getting healthy, meaning...my weight, my emotional health and finding my passion in life. Financially, I think I can swing it if I can find a roommate or something. It would be a little tight, but I could find a part-time job for spending money and groceries. As much as I don't want to, I can move in with my parents (I am 33) for a month in December, and then take my trip to New Zealand and Australia for about 2 weeks. It would give me a new starting point in January to find a job that I love and open up new possibilities for me.

I think this is the right thing to do for my health and well being, but I will be honest...

I'm terrified.

  
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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/15/2011 9:06AM

    How exciting. Wishing you much happiness in your journey to find what works best for you. emoticon

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RYDERB 6/15/2011 8:28AM

    Good for you. Change can be terrifying, but the reward of finding yourself, and finally doing something you've always wanted is worth the risk. You definitely sound like you're ready to take a leap of faith and follow your dreams. emoticon

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Slipping back is so easy!

Thursday, June 09, 2011

So, was it just ONE week of good OP?

That's what it started to feel like this week...But, I tracked everything and am exercising the extra points off that I took in on Sunday and Monday. I under estimated pizza...a take and bake one from Target. I used the average points in the book, but when I went to throw the box away, realized the NI was on the side in very tiny writing, in very light ink. I thought because it was a deli item that it didn't have the NI, not even looking for it. Well... that pizza ended up being 10pts+ per slice!

I got a little depressed after realizing this, since I had been eating it for 2 days, both lunch and dinner. I was discouraged because I thought I did well...when in actuality, I had gone way over. Plus I had used most of my 49 points on Saturday by rewarding myself with food. Note to self: Old habits die hard. Needless to say...Lesson learned.



So, right now, I am in the clear as long as I go to my Zumba class tonight and my kickboxing class tomorrow, and I stay within daily points for both days. I think I am just a little discouraged too because I got on the scale this morning and it's showing I am up 3lbs! I know weight can fluctuate, but discouraging nonetheless. I need to learn to step on the scale ONCE a week, instead of once a day...

I got to remember not to toss the weekend out the window, it is self sabotage!

  
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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/11/2011 6:05PM

    Hang in there. emoticon

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JONICACALDWELL 6/9/2011 5:41PM

    I'm on WW too and what helped this week was earning extra points on the weekends, eating them and saving all Flex points for the week. I hope this helps! Good job too for taking responsibility for the pizza!

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GIGIHEALTHY 6/9/2011 4:19PM

  I slipped myself. I was hungry and instead of waiting until I got home; I stopped at Taco Bell. Now I've blown my calorie intake for the day.

Dinner will definitely be light. Tomorrow is a new day to start all over. Thank God for that! emoticon

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Boy, was my head in the sand!

Saturday, June 04, 2011

This was a difficult week for me, I really tried extremely hard to be OP. And, I was! And, guess what? I am down 2#'s this week! I am so excited! This is a HUGE deal for me, since I have gained about 17 lbs since October 2010. I still continued going to meetings, but was just discouraged over and over again. It wasn't until last week (see previous post about negative comments) that I took my head out of the sand. I think what was happening was this...

I would start out on Saturday (my WI day) with the best intentions, but somehow, by Monday or Tuesday, I was in the red with my WPA. I spent the rest of the week trying to dig myself out of the hole, but never quit got there. Because I was actively trying, I assumed I was OP. I noticed last Sunday, that, geez, Kristi...you are NOT OP. Yes, you are trying, but you seemed to have made up your own plan where -40 WPA was a good week. That is not WW.

So, this week I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and said, "I am sticking to program." After a few days, I realized I COULD do this, this COULD work for me. By Thursday, I started feeling much better about myself and even got to the gym! On Friday, I was feeling even better and worked my way through my first kickboxing class in 6 months! I died the whole time because I have gotten so out of shape, BUT, I finished! That was what was important.

This morning, our leader had told us about a 5k that a member planned for our center this morning before the meeting. I did it! Even though I have done other 5k's before, I never got a charm. So, today I earned my 5k charm! I'm so excited! Also, my WW friend who I haven't see in a while returned. I was so glad to see her!



I am one happy girl! Here is to another good week to getting myself one step closer to my goal!

  
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LO_ML1981 6/5/2011 11:31PM

    emoticon That's WONDERFUL!!

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RYDERB 6/4/2011 4:03PM

    Congratulations! Sounds like you've come a long way in one week! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Round peg? No control?

Thursday, June 02, 2011

I was talking with a friend last night and she was listening to me about my job. It's been a rough go, but it is not the job I had always wanted, nor is it even in the field I had wanted. She was asking me, "What would you like to do?" That is the hardest question for me to answer because I feel like I don't know. I think I do want to work in TV/Film, which is what one of my degrees is in, I also have a Masters in Business. I think I know, but am afraid to go for it because there are going to be so many hurdles to climb, my weight included. The TV/Film industry is not so accepting, even off camera, I found this out first hand as I have worked in the industry for a bit as an undergrad.

What stuck out to me is this...she said, I think you feel like you have no control. You don't have control over your work, over your free time, over your life or over your weight. She also said that I am trying to fit myself into a category, like a round peg in a square hole. She said things are changing now and jobs are not traditional.



Now, don't get me wrong. She was dead on in every single thing she said. However, here was the zinger..."Don't be afraid to be who you are." Man! I am still blown away by that! I am a roung peg with no control because I gave it away. I need to take it back and be the person I am, with control over my weight, my work, my free time AND my life!

Kristi, this is your life! Don't allow others to chose it for you!

  
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RYDERB 6/2/2011 11:19PM

    Wow! You're so right! I'm glad you're taking back your power, control, and your life! emoticon

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/2/2011 3:19PM

    Great blog.

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Hearing negative comments, understanding the impact and moving forward anyways...

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Last night, we went out and I live in Southern California. We were in the Hollywood area and had fun, then were walking back to the parking structure. On our way back, I got two comments made to me, well one was directly made to me and the other was aimed at either me or my friend. But, I think it was me since I am bigger than she is.

The first comment was made by a guy walking with another younger guy and he kinda jokingly asked me to sleep with him, although those weren't the exact words. (I'm being mindful here). This bothered me because I think he just saw me as a big girl that would be desperate or willing to be with anyone because of my weight. This I just brushed off and kept going. It's the second comment that made me feel horrible...

I have been struggling with my weight forever and I know I am not thin. I get that. I thought I looked nice, made sure that my outfit was hiding what I thought needed to be hide and it was simple, jeans, heels and a black top. We walked passed these street people, and I hear a comment, "what about that big girl right there..." and they all started to laugh. It was not pleasant moment, I know being in L.A. I am judged more harshly than in other cities, but c'mon! Street people have the right to make comments and others can join in the laughing because of my weight?! Really?!

This made me upset and what did I really want to do? Eat...and something not good for me. But, I stopped and made myself think on the drive home...why am I upset? First, because people are judging me just on how I look. Second, because I am letting these people that don't mean a thing to me affect how I feel about myself. And, third, because my response was to eat initially, perpetuating a cycle that got me here in the first place. It's udder ridiculousness! So...I decided, am I hungry, I was. I came home and had an Earth grains sandwich thin, with 1 tbsp of peanut butter and a banana. I am proud of that moment, but saddened by the fact that I had let those negative comments into my head.



This is so not easy and every day I am struggling with my weight, body image, self confidence and self worth. I think the image above is very reflective of how I think of myself, but put a size 14/16 girl where the thin girl is and the girl in the reflection is a size 26/28. This is going to be a struggle for me each and every day of my life.

I think I now know that I just need to remind myself to get through one day at a time.

  
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KA_JUN 5/31/2011 8:22PM

    I'm sorry that people chose to be rude and unkind. No need for that. You're worth more than that, so use it as a catalyst to achieve your goals with some mental judo.

Don't worry about them, obviously, they have some of their own issues to work out.

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AMSTER08 5/31/2011 7:31PM

    I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. I have had similar experiences with people commenting and joking about my weight. It's really rude and makes me feel even worse at times with my self-esteem. Way to go to have something to eat, but not over-do it!!! My first instinct when I'm feeling down is to eat as well. It is like stress eating. I used to look at it as comforting and something to get my mind off the real pain. I don't like to judge others because everyone has different life struggles. All you can do is be the most beautiful you that you can be! Society has warped views of real beauty though. Believe in yourself and you can do anything. Don't let others get you down, but continue to reach for your goals and find support from others.
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RYDERB 5/31/2011 7:13PM

    emoticon I'll never understand why some people need to try and make perfect strangers feel bad about themselves. I'm so sorry, you ran across such jerks! emoticon But I'm so glad that you were able to shake it off! You are an amazing, kind, beautiful person. Anyone that doesn't see you for you, is missing out! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BLVINBUTTERFLYS 5/31/2011 2:48PM

    The saying of Ghandi's that Bill posted has been my motto since I pulled my head out of the sand back in March and realized I did not know who was staring back at me in the mirror anymore. You can only LET them hurt you hun, and don't they are not being critical of you, they are being jerks, and their stupidity is not because of what you are or look like, but because of what they are. Keep pushing forward,and you don't have to say it out loud, but the next time you get a remark like that just remind yourself, "I can lose weight, can you keep from being rude?" then just do it!

YOU CAN!
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BILL_CLECKNER 5/29/2011 7:00PM

    “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” Mahatma Gandhi

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DETERMINEDJANET 5/29/2011 4:02PM

    I could have written this with different scenarios! Your words just brought tears to my eyes as I'm saying "I know...others and their words should not do this to me." The photo... a perfect visual.

So... hugs to you today for the hurt that was inflicted and a big high five for not giving into the food as you might have without the strength you found within yourself.

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SHELLE13 5/29/2011 3:13PM

    Thank you both...Jerseyflower, you are right on about the power thing. I do it all too often, giving away my power. Which, is why this incident stuck out so much to me last night. I know you're right and I just need to take it one day at a time. Thanks for the nice words too, it is definitely crazy out here, girls saying they are fat cause they aren't a size zero, but a size 2 and then going on diets where they just don't eat.

Thanks, Crystle...Your experience sounds terrible too...when is America going to realize that things like this don't help, but hurt people? emoticon emoticon

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JERSEYFLOWER 5/29/2011 2:57PM

    It took me a long time to figure out how to respond to you, what to say. I am hurting for you, I really am.

But what it comes back to - what it ALL comes back to - do not give anyone else the power to choose your identity, or define you. That random guy does not have that power. Who the F is he to judge, seriously?

You'll always be bigger than someone else. And someone else will always be richer. Smarter. Prettier. Whatever. You can't play the comparison game.

So that means all you have is you. And your outfit sounds put together. I also checked out your April 2011 photo - and, seriously, it must be an LA thing. You would not stand out as someone to be heckled here in NJ. I am sure you looked good last night!

Brush off the insult as best you can and move on - because it's all you can do. Don't give that guy more power than he deserves.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 5/29/2011 2:37PM

    emoticon I am so sorry that you had that experience. It reminds me of times when I've been moo'ed at and other cruel things.

Way to stay strong, not overeat and love yourself. emoticon

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