Saturday, June 04, 2011
This was a difficult week for me, I really tried extremely hard to be OP. And, I was! And, guess what? I am down 2#'s this week! I am so excited! This is a HUGE deal for me, since I have gained about 17 lbs since October 2010. I still continued going to meetings, but was just discouraged over and over again. It wasn't until last week (see previous post about negative comments) that I took my head out of the sand. I think what was happening was this...
I would start out on Saturday (my WI day) with the best intentions, but somehow, by Monday or Tuesday, I was in the red with my WPA. I spent the rest of the week trying to dig myself out of the hole, but never quit got there. Because I was actively trying, I assumed I was OP. I noticed last Sunday, that, geez, Kristi...you are NOT OP. Yes, you are trying, but you seemed to have made up your own plan where -40 WPA was a good week. That is not WW.
So, this week I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and said, "I am sticking to program." After a few days, I realized I COULD do this, this COULD work for me. By Thursday, I started feeling much better about myself and even got to the gym! On Friday, I was feeling even better and worked my way through my first kickboxing class in 6 months! I died the whole time because I have gotten so out of shape, BUT, I finished! That was what was important.
This morning, our leader had told us about a 5k that a member planned for our center this morning before the meeting. I did it! Even though I have done other 5k's before, I never got a charm. So, today I earned my 5k charm! I'm so excited! Also, my WW friend who I haven't see in a while returned. I was so glad to see her!
I am one happy girl! Here is to another good week to getting myself one step closer to my goal!
Thursday, June 02, 2011
I was talking with a friend last night and she was listening to me about my job. It's been a rough go, but it is not the job I had always wanted, nor is it even in the field I had wanted. She was asking me, "What would you like to do?" That is the hardest question for me to answer because I feel like I don't know. I think I do want to work in TV/Film, which is what one of my degrees is in, I also have a Masters in Business. I think I know, but am afraid to go for it because there are going to be so many hurdles to climb, my weight included. The TV/Film industry is not so accepting, even off camera, I found this out first hand as I have worked in the industry for a bit as an undergrad.
What stuck out to me is this...she said, I think you feel like you have no control. You don't have control over your work, over your free time, over your life or over your weight. She also said that I am trying to fit myself into a category, like a round peg in a square hole. She said things are changing now and jobs are not traditional.
Now, don't get me wrong. She was dead on in every single thing she said. However, here was the zinger..."Don't be afraid to be who you are." Man! I am still blown away by that! I am a roung peg with no control because I gave it away. I need to take it back and be the person I am, with control over my weight, my work, my free time AND my life!
Kristi, this is your life! Don't allow others to chose it for you!
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Last night, we went out and I live in Southern California. We were in the Hollywood area and had fun, then were walking back to the parking structure. On our way back, I got two comments made to me, well one was directly made to me and the other was aimed at either me or my friend. But, I think it was me since I am bigger than she is.
The first comment was made by a guy walking with another younger guy and he kinda jokingly asked me to sleep with him, although those weren't the exact words. (I'm being mindful here). This bothered me because I think he just saw me as a big girl that would be desperate or willing to be with anyone because of my weight. This I just brushed off and kept going. It's the second comment that made me feel horrible...
I have been struggling with my weight forever and I know I am not thin. I get that. I thought I looked nice, made sure that my outfit was hiding what I thought needed to be hide and it was simple, jeans, heels and a black top. We walked passed these street people, and I hear a comment, "what about that big girl right there..." and they all started to laugh. It was not pleasant moment, I know being in L.A. I am judged more harshly than in other cities, but c'mon! Street people have the right to make comments and others can join in the laughing because of my weight?! Really?!
This made me upset and what did I really want to do? Eat...and something not good for me. But, I stopped and made myself think on the drive home...why am I upset? First, because people are judging me just on how I look. Second, because I am letting these people that don't mean a thing to me affect how I feel about myself. And, third, because my response was to eat initially, perpetuating a cycle that got me here in the first place. It's udder ridiculousness! So...I decided, am I hungry, I was. I came home and had an Earth grains sandwich thin, with 1 tbsp of peanut butter and a banana. I am proud of that moment, but saddened by the fact that I had let those negative comments into my head.
This is so not easy and every day I am struggling with my weight, body image, self confidence and self worth. I think the image above is very reflective of how I think of myself, but put a size 14/16 girl where the thin girl is and the girl in the reflection is a size 26/28. This is going to be a struggle for me each and every day of my life.
I think I now know that I just need to remind myself to get through one day at a time.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
This weekend I attended a leadership training. It ended up being more of a personal growth workshop than anything. One thing that they said, really stuck out to me because it was related to my struggle with weight. They told us that often times we tell ourselves a "story" about ourselves. Often we hear it over and over and believe it. In fact, we recruit others to tell us what we want to hear.
Some of the stories that came out of the group was, "I'm not smart enough," "I'm the only one here that doesn't understand," "I don't know who I am," "I'm not a leader..." and so on. What I thought about myself when hearing this is that I tell myself a story too. My story goes something like this, I'm fat, I will always be overweight, I don't understand why this isn't working (knowing full well I didn't stick to program), I will never get thin so I might as well eat, I'm ugly because I'm fat, I'm not worthy of love because I'm fat, other people should be treated better than me because I'm fat, I don't deserve ____ because I'm fat....and the list goes on.
What I am now realizing is that I have received feedback from society that some of these things could be viewed as true. For instance, I am not worthy of love because I'm fat...Well, I have had many men in this world make negative comments about me because of my weight. These comments confirm this statement. However, I know I AM worthy of love, regardless of my weight. I do not love my heavier friends any less, why would I not have a chance at love too? I know that a lot of these stories I am telling myself are somehow working for me on some level, otherwise I wouldn't be doing this over and over, year after year. What I need to figure out is what need is this feeding? What do I get out of it? How can I change this?
Weight loss is so much more than food. I wish more people in this world understood this.
Monday, May 16, 2011
Yesterday, I had intended to do A LOT of work around the house. Well, I did get to the Farmer's Market for strawberries, but when I got home I started watching a movie. Then, fell asleep. Then, was a couch potato the rest of the day. I didn't do anything and I wanted to, but felt compelled to stay on the couch. What was up?
I realized this morning that I didn't want Monday to come. I really dislike my job and have a terrible manager right now that is just horrible. Not only did he ask me why I wasn't married, but he was upset I didn't hug him. He is super inappropriate and I tried to set that straight when we had an argument, or "conversation." I really don't like this guy, not to mention he is a micromanager. It's very frustrating.
What it comes down to is that I need to find a job that I look forward to, not dread every Sunday...I need to be able to work around this guy and just move on. But, I think everything is magnified right now because I am not happy and I am unhappy with my body. It's crazy how ones body image, confidence and self-worth is so intertwined with everything else in ones life.
I need to lose this weight, I need to find a job that I can be successful with and that I can be happy in. I need to start making decision in my life and not letting other things or people guide my life as I have done in the past. Something needs to change because this is not a life I can live much longer...I will just end up quitting and being without work...That's not an option for me.
Time to take life by the horns!
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