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Thursday, June 09, 2011

So, was it just ONE week of good OP?

That's what it started to feel like this week...But, I tracked everything and am exercising the extra points off that I took in on Sunday and Monday. I under estimated pizza...a take and bake one from Target. I used the average points in the book, but when I went to throw the box away, realized the NI was on the side in very tiny writing, in very light ink. I thought because it was a deli item that it didn't have the NI, not even looking for it. Well... that pizza ended up being 10pts+ per slice!

I got a little depressed after realizing this, since I had been eating it for 2 days, both lunch and dinner. I was discouraged because I thought I did well...when in actuality, I had gone way over. Plus I had used most of my 49 points on Saturday by rewarding myself with food. Note to self: Old habits die hard. Needless to say...Lesson learned.

So, right now, I am in the clear as long as I go to my Zumba class tonight and my kickboxing class tomorrow, and I stay within daily points for both days. I think I am just a little discouraged too because I got on the scale this morning and it's showing I am up 3lbs! I know weight can fluctuate, but discouraging nonetheless. I need to learn to step on the scale ONCE a week, instead of once a day...

I got to remember not to toss the weekend out the window, it is self sabotage!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/11/2011 6:05PM

    Hang in there. emoticon

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    I'm on WW too and what helped this week was earning extra points on the weekends, eating them and saving all Flex points for the week. I hope this helps! Good job too for taking responsibility for the pizza!

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GIGIHEALTHY 6/9/2011 4:19PM

  I slipped myself. I was hungry and instead of waiting until I got home; I stopped at Taco Bell. Now I've blown my calorie intake for the day.

Dinner will definitely be light. Tomorrow is a new day to start all over. Thank God for that! emoticon

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Boy, was my head in the sand!

Saturday, June 04, 2011

This was a difficult week for me, I really tried extremely hard to be OP. And, I was! And, guess what? I am down 2#'s this week! I am so excited! This is a HUGE deal for me, since I have gained about 17 lbs since October 2010. I still continued going to meetings, but was just discouraged over and over again. It wasn't until last week (see previous post about negative comments) that I took my head out of the sand. I think what was happening was this...

I would start out on Saturday (my WI day) with the best intentions, but somehow, by Monday or Tuesday, I was in the red with my WPA. I spent the rest of the week trying to dig myself out of the hole, but never quit got there. Because I was actively trying, I assumed I was OP. I noticed last Sunday, that, geez, are NOT OP. Yes, you are trying, but you seemed to have made up your own plan where -40 WPA was a good week. That is not WW.

So, this week I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and said, "I am sticking to program." After a few days, I realized I COULD do this, this COULD work for me. By Thursday, I started feeling much better about myself and even got to the gym! On Friday, I was feeling even better and worked my way through my first kickboxing class in 6 months! I died the whole time because I have gotten so out of shape, BUT, I finished! That was what was important.

This morning, our leader had told us about a 5k that a member planned for our center this morning before the meeting. I did it! Even though I have done other 5k's before, I never got a charm. So, today I earned my 5k charm! I'm so excited! Also, my WW friend who I haven't see in a while returned. I was so glad to see her!

I am one happy girl! Here is to another good week to getting myself one step closer to my goal!

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LO_ML1981 6/5/2011 11:31PM

    emoticon That's WONDERFUL!!

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RYDERB 6/4/2011 4:03PM

    Congratulations! Sounds like you've come a long way in one week! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Round peg? No control?

Thursday, June 02, 2011

I was talking with a friend last night and she was listening to me about my job. It's been a rough go, but it is not the job I had always wanted, nor is it even in the field I had wanted. She was asking me, "What would you like to do?" That is the hardest question for me to answer because I feel like I don't know. I think I do want to work in TV/Film, which is what one of my degrees is in, I also have a Masters in Business. I think I know, but am afraid to go for it because there are going to be so many hurdles to climb, my weight included. The TV/Film industry is not so accepting, even off camera, I found this out first hand as I have worked in the industry for a bit as an undergrad.

What stuck out to me is this...she said, I think you feel like you have no control. You don't have control over your work, over your free time, over your life or over your weight. She also said that I am trying to fit myself into a category, like a round peg in a square hole. She said things are changing now and jobs are not traditional.

Now, don't get me wrong. She was dead on in every single thing she said. However, here was the zinger..."Don't be afraid to be who you are." Man! I am still blown away by that! I am a roung peg with no control because I gave it away. I need to take it back and be the person I am, with control over my weight, my work, my free time AND my life!

Kristi, this is your life! Don't allow others to chose it for you!

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RYDERB 6/2/2011 11:19PM

    Wow! You're so right! I'm glad you're taking back your power, control, and your life! emoticon

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 6/2/2011 3:19PM

    Great blog.

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Hearing negative comments, understanding the impact and moving forward anyways...

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Last night, we went out and I live in Southern California. We were in the Hollywood area and had fun, then were walking back to the parking structure. On our way back, I got two comments made to me, well one was directly made to me and the other was aimed at either me or my friend. But, I think it was me since I am bigger than she is.

The first comment was made by a guy walking with another younger guy and he kinda jokingly asked me to sleep with him, although those weren't the exact words. (I'm being mindful here). This bothered me because I think he just saw me as a big girl that would be desperate or willing to be with anyone because of my weight. This I just brushed off and kept going. It's the second comment that made me feel horrible...

I have been struggling with my weight forever and I know I am not thin. I get that. I thought I looked nice, made sure that my outfit was hiding what I thought needed to be hide and it was simple, jeans, heels and a black top. We walked passed these street people, and I hear a comment, "what about that big girl right there..." and they all started to laugh. It was not pleasant moment, I know being in L.A. I am judged more harshly than in other cities, but c'mon! Street people have the right to make comments and others can join in the laughing because of my weight?! Really?!

This made me upset and what did I really want to do? Eat...and something not good for me. But, I stopped and made myself think on the drive home...why am I upset? First, because people are judging me just on how I look. Second, because I am letting these people that don't mean a thing to me affect how I feel about myself. And, third, because my response was to eat initially, perpetuating a cycle that got me here in the first place. It's udder ridiculousness! So...I decided, am I hungry, I was. I came home and had an Earth grains sandwich thin, with 1 tbsp of peanut butter and a banana. I am proud of that moment, but saddened by the fact that I had let those negative comments into my head.

This is so not easy and every day I am struggling with my weight, body image, self confidence and self worth. I think the image above is very reflective of how I think of myself, but put a size 14/16 girl where the thin girl is and the girl in the reflection is a size 26/28. This is going to be a struggle for me each and every day of my life.

I think I now know that I just need to remind myself to get through one day at a time.

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KA_JUN 5/31/2011 8:22PM

    I'm sorry that people chose to be rude and unkind. No need for that. You're worth more than that, so use it as a catalyst to achieve your goals with some mental judo.

Don't worry about them, obviously, they have some of their own issues to work out.

Fight hard to achieve your personal goals! emoticon

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AMSTER08 5/31/2011 7:31PM

    I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. I have had similar experiences with people commenting and joking about my weight. It's really rude and makes me feel even worse at times with my self-esteem. Way to go to have something to eat, but not over-do it!!! My first instinct when I'm feeling down is to eat as well. It is like stress eating. I used to look at it as comforting and something to get my mind off the real pain. I don't like to judge others because everyone has different life struggles. All you can do is be the most beautiful you that you can be! Society has warped views of real beauty though. Believe in yourself and you can do anything. Don't let others get you down, but continue to reach for your goals and find support from others.

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RYDERB 5/31/2011 7:13PM

    emoticon I'll never understand why some people need to try and make perfect strangers feel bad about themselves. I'm so sorry, you ran across such jerks! emoticon But I'm so glad that you were able to shake it off! You are an amazing, kind, beautiful person. Anyone that doesn't see you for you, is missing out! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    The saying of Ghandi's that Bill posted has been my motto since I pulled my head out of the sand back in March and realized I did not know who was staring back at me in the mirror anymore. You can only LET them hurt you hun, and don't they are not being critical of you, they are being jerks, and their stupidity is not because of what you are or look like, but because of what they are. Keep pushing forward,and you don't have to say it out loud, but the next time you get a remark like that just remind yourself, "I can lose weight, can you keep from being rude?" then just do it!


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BILL_CLECKNER 5/29/2011 7:00PM

    “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” Mahatma Gandhi

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    I could have written this with different scenarios! Your words just brought tears to my eyes as I'm saying "I know...others and their words should not do this to me." The photo... a perfect visual.

So... hugs to you today for the hurt that was inflicted and a big high five for not giving into the food as you might have without the strength you found within yourself.

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SHELLE13 5/29/2011 3:13PM

    Thank you both...Jerseyflower, you are right on about the power thing. I do it all too often, giving away my power. Which, is why this incident stuck out so much to me last night. I know you're right and I just need to take it one day at a time. Thanks for the nice words too, it is definitely crazy out here, girls saying they are fat cause they aren't a size zero, but a size 2 and then going on diets where they just don't eat.

Thanks, Crystle...Your experience sounds terrible too...when is America going to realize that things like this don't help, but hurt people? emoticon emoticon

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JERSEYFLOWER 5/29/2011 2:57PM

    It took me a long time to figure out how to respond to you, what to say. I am hurting for you, I really am.

But what it comes back to - what it ALL comes back to - do not give anyone else the power to choose your identity, or define you. That random guy does not have that power. Who the F is he to judge, seriously?

You'll always be bigger than someone else. And someone else will always be richer. Smarter. Prettier. Whatever. You can't play the comparison game.

So that means all you have is you. And your outfit sounds put together. I also checked out your April 2011 photo - and, seriously, it must be an LA thing. You would not stand out as someone to be heckled here in NJ. I am sure you looked good last night!

Brush off the insult as best you can and move on - because it's all you can do. Don't give that guy more power than he deserves.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 5/29/2011 2:37PM

    emoticon I am so sorry that you had that experience. It reminds me of times when I've been moo'ed at and other cruel things.

Way to stay strong, not overeat and love yourself. emoticon

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What "story" are you telling yourself?

Thursday, May 26, 2011

This weekend I attended a leadership training. It ended up being more of a personal growth workshop than anything. One thing that they said, really stuck out to me because it was related to my struggle with weight. They told us that often times we tell ourselves a "story" about ourselves. Often we hear it over and over and believe it. In fact, we recruit others to tell us what we want to hear.

Some of the stories that came out of the group was, "I'm not smart enough," "I'm the only one here that doesn't understand," "I don't know who I am," "I'm not a leader..." and so on. What I thought about myself when hearing this is that I tell myself a story too. My story goes something like this, I'm fat, I will always be overweight, I don't understand why this isn't working (knowing full well I didn't stick to program), I will never get thin so I might as well eat, I'm ugly because I'm fat, I'm not worthy of love because I'm fat, other people should be treated better than me because I'm fat, I don't deserve ____ because I'm fat....and the list goes on.

What I am now realizing is that I have received feedback from society that some of these things could be viewed as true. For instance, I am not worthy of love because I'm fat...Well, I have had many men in this world make negative comments about me because of my weight. These comments confirm this statement. However, I know I AM worthy of love, regardless of my weight. I do not love my heavier friends any less, why would I not have a chance at love too? I know that a lot of these stories I am telling myself are somehow working for me on some level, otherwise I wouldn't be doing this over and over, year after year. What I need to figure out is what need is this feeding? What do I get out of it? How can I change this?

Weight loss is so much more than food. I wish more people in this world understood this.

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TAMIK1964 5/26/2011 6:33PM

    Great blog and a great reminder to speak the truth to ourselves and own it. Thank you!

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RONDAGAIL1 5/26/2011 4:47PM

    Thank You! This is very close to my story as well. some times it helps to know someone understands. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. I wish I had the answers but alas I am on the same search myself. I have found that when I love who I am others follow. I pray you have a great day! Ronda emoticon

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