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Stress and family

Friday, June 04, 2010

Sometimes, the family causes stress. I am usually very good at avoiding or dealing with stress however, I discover that avoiding stress that involves the behavior of a family member is more difficult because I don't care to avoid family when they have a need. Even a stressful one, especially a stressful one.

A few days passing, a family member asked for my thoughts on a personal issue. I spoke my thoughts and the family member didn't like my thinking and actually argued with my feelings on the issue. The stress of dealing with someone problems is one that I have yet to learn to control. emoticon

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LHLADY517 6/4/2010 2:52PM

    I totally agree. I'm headed into a situation which I know will be stressful but I need to be there. I'm already planning exercise time to help me.

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BEESPARKLE 6/4/2010 2:02PM

    Family, oh, gee. Been there done that.

Love them even if it hurts to tell a tiny fib truth.

I tend to speak my mind anyways. Never mine people asking for advise. I am a prisoner of my own self. For giving advise.

With family. I won't go on.

Lucky family member only argued. It is when they don't speak for months or years. That is what one calls STRESS. . Some families have that.

Comment edited on: 6/4/2010 2:03:18 PM

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ANDREWS_MOM 6/4/2010 1:23PM

    Wishin you peace & comfort! Things will get better!

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    I can really relate to your words!
My family asks for advice and then resents you and what you say.
I've learned to not offer words, just help and support. It's safer for me in the long run.
Stay positive,

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Excuse me, Sir. Your attitude is showing.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

I made a run to the grocery store this afternoon. they were busy and I had a cart load. At the check-out lane, I maintained a pleasant attitude and greeted the cashier politely. I joked with a family member who had shopped with me as we waited for the groceries to be rang up and the cashier made a remark about my comment. The remark was off tone slightly and he excused the remark explaining that he had a bad week. He believed that someone owed him a good time. Who? he didn't say, but SOMEONE owed him a make up for his bad week. He complained about the store he worked for and complained about the pay and the benefits. I was disappointed in hear such. Where was the dedication and support of the place that employed him and pays him a wage weekly?

The grocery store is not the only place I hear these types of derogatory remarks from employees in a workplace. The place where I work seasonally, co-workers speak badly about management and the company in general routinely. It seems to be a common place to do so. When I was working full time, professionally, an employee could be and a couple times were, fired for "bad-mouthing" the company. Whatever would a customer think if they should hear such a thing. The customer doesn't understand that the employee is frustrated because they didn't get a promotion or because they had to work an extra hour during a particularly busy period. They only hear an employee saying how much the company "sucks."

I feel that it has become a habit with some folks. A form of venting that has gotten out of their control. It's company pride, no appreciation for an employment opportunity. At Wal-Mart the other day, I asked an employee if they had a specific brand. The employee snorted and responded, "Did you forget where you are?" Then preceded to tell me the only brands they carried were already on the shelf. I wondered if the employee forgot who I was...a customer. All this negativity in the workplace makes me sad.

Is it really so hard to put on a pleasant smile and greet the world, and the customers, with good humor and a little encouragement?

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SIMPLERICH 1/3/2010 10:42AM

    It is too bad when you run across a growly employee. It can make the whole shopping experience kind of blechy feeling. So many wonderful words here that the spell-checker is loving lol.

But I'm in retail and have been for a while and have encountered it from the other side where I've had employees bringing their bad day to work with them and inflicting it on others. We have a "Fake it until you make it" kind of thing where they are to, on a bad day, find something they will say to customers that is positive, or upbeat and they repeat it for every customer instead of banter or chatting if they have to.

Grouching at customers will get an employee sent home, but it won't get them fired. I'd have to pay unemployment and I'm not doing that lol. Increased unemployment insurance costs go right on the price tag so nobody really wins then. But I do send them home. When I'm a customer I don't want grouchers wrecking my shopping experience and I don't like it from my employees either.

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TAURUSLLY 11/21/2009 9:13PM

    I've read a couple of articles recently that have said how much service has improved since the economy has tanked. I understand how that should be true, but I just haven't seen in played out in real life. Stay positive!

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Lazy Day

Saturday, November 14, 2009

I have a week-end off this week. Did a few tasks, but really am not focused on completing anything. The grandchildren came over and made their usually mess, but I decided not to bother with cleaning it up until next morning. Some days should be lazy and this is going to be one of them.


Too many hours of working...

Sunday, November 08, 2009

I spend 20 hours working at the job and on a project at home yesterday. This day, I spent all day working on the special home project. It seems like I haven't had a week-end in over a month and looks like it may be another month before I can sit back and do nothing again.

I noticed working too much is hurting my general attitude, I have less tolerance and seemed to be on the edge of irritation all the time. Think I need a day off some where. Or maybe, just someone to help me with the home project that it might be done sooner.

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ETAGGEL 11/8/2009 12:03PM

    I would suggest both, you need some time to yourself and everyone can do wih some help


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Halloween Treats

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Along with a piece of candy, I gave out books this year. I was a little concerned that the children wouldn't be interested in books. I was pleasantly surprised. Children still love Clifford the Big red Dog, Scooby Doo, Biscuit, I Spy Books... I'm thinking I might try it again next year.

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DIVAEMY 10/31/2009 11:13PM

    Books - wow that is a really neat idea!

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KELSOMOM 10/31/2009 10:46PM

  I'm giving out applesauce and fruit cups. Kids and parents have all had positive comments. Even the older "kids" are having trouble deciding which one they want more.

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