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RIP, Gym

Friday, January 07, 2011

For the past 7 years, after home and work, the place where I've spent the most time has been my gym. It only takes two minutes to walk from my front door to the gym's front door, and it's open fabulous hours and has a fabulous class schedule. Sadly, it closes its doors permanently as of noon today. It reopens tomorrow in a new location, but that location will be a 10-minute trafficky drive from my place. No more walking to the gym. No more going with my husband and then both of us leaving at different times. No more leaving home only two minutes before my classes are due to start. :(

  
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DRAGONFLY180 1/9/2011 10:20AM

    is it impossible to walk to the new gym? that's be extra cardio! that really sucks, though. 10 minutes isn't too bad. i had to quit my gym, b/c when we moved, the commute was 45 minutes! ugh!

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LIL_EZZY 1/8/2011 5:03PM

    Why were you not consulted on this??? That is a real bummer how annoying it was perfect I wish I had a gym down the road then I might go.

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MEGSFITNESS 1/7/2011 6:28PM

    Oh pout :( that sucks hun :( Whatever will you do?!

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MARATHONER340 1/7/2011 1:37PM

    I had a gym membership a couple minutes from our condo at one time - it was GREAT - but once we moved - I figured it wasn't worth it! I take it you're staying there though. Too bad about the newer inconvenient location! I have no doubt you'll keep up your workout routine regardless!

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CARILOUIE 1/7/2011 1:37PM

    Oh that stinks!
But a 10-minute drive is better than an hour drive...???

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SKYFYRE 1/7/2011 12:28PM

    boo!

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SWEATONCEADAY 1/7/2011 12:25PM

    oh man you were spoiled with that 2 min walk. it sucks it is 10 mins away but why can't you walk or run there?????? when i have the time i love running to the gym, doing my weights and running home. however, that is when i have the time which isn't too often lol.

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STEFANIE822 1/7/2011 10:32AM

    Oh noo!!! Im sorry Susan. I am moving in July to somewhere where there are no Shapes locations and I am seriously dreading it. :( Its crazy how we start to view our gym as our other home after a while!

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FRIZGIRL 1/7/2011 10:22AM

    BOOO That stinks! Hopefully you will still be able to stay motivated and on track!

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SEEHOLZ 1/7/2011 9:57AM

    I know... it sucks, but you are dedicated enough to make it work!

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ELFITZPA 1/7/2011 9:51AM

    That stinks!! I had a similar situation a few years ago - the gym was just around the corner, maybe a 2 minute walk. It was so dead (which of course was awesome for me, bad for them) so they eventually closed and I had to start going to their larger, far busier location a few miles away. I thought that may be the beginning of the end for me but I got used to it after awhile. I'd even run there and back some days. I hope it works out for you too!

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MBSHAZZER 1/7/2011 9:32AM

    Oh man, that really stinks. I don't *love* my gym, but it's close to the house, which is key. Hopefully you find a way to make it work in the new location, or find another one close to home.

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What happened to blog notifications??

Tuesday, January 04, 2011

Did anyone else suddenly stop getting emails about new entries on people's blogs?

  
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5FRUITSNVEGGIES 1/21/2011 11:11PM

    uh, yeah--this has been my complaint for the looooooggggesst time....did you ever find out what this is about?...if you do, let me know!

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THIRTEENREASONS 1/6/2011 9:47PM

    I'm late to post, but they haven't worked for me for a long time. I kept re-subscribing, but still nothing. At least the friend feed thing updates when a blog is posted.

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FRIZGIRL 1/5/2011 12:34PM

    me too... not sure what happened. Maybe it's a Y2K+11 bug

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SKYFYRE 1/4/2011 5:33PM

    haappens every once in a while :(

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DAMIENDUCKS 1/4/2011 2:25PM

    sometimes I get them and sometimes I don't...so every so often I just go thru and re-sign up for them...annoying, I know!

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STEFANIE822 1/4/2011 10:27AM

    Sometimes I get them, sometimes I dont. Its very strange.

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MBSHAZZER 1/4/2011 9:44AM

    Spark was having a problem yesterday.... so your subscriptions might have gotten messed up...

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HEALTHYCHIC 1/4/2011 8:50AM

    My blog subscriptions have never worked right :(. Once in a while i'll get emails but it seems like it always just works when there's a comment on a blog entry, rather than a new blog entry..even when i've signed up for notifications by email. Boo.

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MBSKIT 1/4/2011 8:09AM

    I have found that I have to subscribe again to keep getting them.

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SILLIANGEL 1/4/2011 8:09AM

    I don't get them anymore either. I find myself constantly re-subscribing and it still does nothing. I have to be really persistent about checking my friend feed daily or I miss stuff. Especially since I have like 4 friends with private pages.

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2011 Goals

Friday, December 31, 2010

I have been trying to write this blog all morning, not to mention a few attempts a few days ago. How telling that I'm having writer's block! So stream of consciousness this will be.

First, a brainstorming exercise...here are some of my goals:
*lose weight
*feel good
*continue exercising
*have a plan that is easy to follow
*achieve a healthy realistic weight and maintain it

OK...so now that I've done that I'll flesh it out a little.
I guess my goal is to achieve something toward the top of the healthy BMI range and maintain that. I'd say 145-150 is a good goal.
In terms of feeling good, that means that I can't go through this being overly hungry, and if other physical issues pop up I need to address them. But I don't know what those other issues might be yet...I do know, however, that I must address the potential hunger issue. Here are some ways I can do that:
*drink plenty of water
*eat plenty of vegetables (fiber = feeling full)
*get enough sleep
*settle on a calorie range that is as high as possible while still enabling me to lose weight
In terms of exercising, I think I'm good there, so all I'll say is that I want to keep up the good work!
In terms of having a plan that's easy to follow, this is where I need to really think. You see, most of my weight-loss plans involve a lot of planning. When I do all the planning and follow through and see results I feel great, and sometimes after a while the plans even kind of become automatic and I feel convinced that I am finally figuring out how to turn my program into my permanent lifestyle. However, there's this crazy rush of freedom I feel when I get off my plan...suddenly I can eat whatever I want and fill up my stomach as much as I want. I don't know. I guess a plan is a necessary thing, but I have to keep some flexibility to help try to stay sane.
Sooo....I think I will go back to calorie counting. I was recently given some info (from another Sparker) about an approach that involves taking pictures of meals and describing them, and maybe after a while I will switch over to that, but I think I need to start with calorie counting so that I know how much to eat. I will stick to my plan on days when nothing special is going on (mostly meaning weekdays - avoid teachers' room junkfood!), and I will even stick to my plan on a weekend day when nothing is going on, or a part of a weekend day when nothing is going on. If there is going to be a meal at a restaurant or a party or something that's fine, but a) the rest of the day should involve sticking to the plan and b) at the restaurant or party I should make a relatively healthy choice.
So 2011 starts tomorrow, and I will try to make somewhat good choices, but really counting calories will have to start on Monday, once I'm back at work and will have had a chance to go to the grocery store and prepare some food.
Okay, I'm not feeling overly pumped and excited about this, but hopefully once I start seeing some results I'll get more excited. This will be my first February vacation in seven years that I haven't gone to either Mexico or the Carribbean, so I don't have the immediate goal of the beach like normal, but of course there are a thousand reasons to reach a healthy weight and look good even without a tropical vacation.
OK, I'm off to search for recipes and get my grocery shopping list going...the planning begins!

  
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5FRUITSNVEGGIES 1/21/2011 11:11PM

    it is possible to turn your plan into a permanent lifestyle--because i have really done it...but it still gets tweaked at times and yes, things in life will derail them all the time....

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FRIZGIRL 1/3/2011 11:15AM

    Great plans. Hopefully you will get some excitement and motivation the more you get into it and stick with it!!!

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CARILOUIE 1/2/2011 4:05PM

    I love your plan - you really know what works for you. And I think you're right about counting calories - it's not really that fun, but the results speak for themselves!

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SWEATONCEADAY 1/2/2011 2:31PM

    good luck. i really think counting calories makes you think more about what you put in your mouth. happy new year!

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SEEHOLZ 1/2/2011 12:37PM

    You are the type of person that has a really great metabolism, so your body can process more food than other people- if you go too low, then you will be starving and like you said, it'll backfire. I think trying to take a "relaxed" approach about your weight loss-- maybe loosing less agressively, might keep you less hungry and more happy and give you enough calories for that "treat" or whatnot. Just a thought.

Here's to reaching your permanent goal Susan! emoticon To a happy, healthy New Year!

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TERRIANGEL 1/1/2011 4:02PM

    Isn't calorie counting fun?? emoticon

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DRAGONFLY180 12/31/2010 8:54PM

    good luck on your goals! healthy eating is my biggest challenge also. but we can make this a great year in which we control our food rather than letting it control us! happy 2011!!!

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SKYFYRE 12/31/2010 5:02PM

    Planning is KEY, if we don't have the good stuff in the house it is all toeasy to eat the convienient and not so great stuff! I like your goals! Here is to 2011!! emoticon

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CRYSBROWN1 12/31/2010 4:52PM

    I really like your plan, very well thought out! I often avoid writing out the tough stuff like eating goals, you've definitely inspired me. I wish you a very happy 2011!!

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MEGSFITNESS 12/31/2010 2:27PM

    Spark just put out "how to keep resolutions in 31 days" or some such in the form of the January Calendar. I'm going to use it to try to set/keep some goals for January too.

I'm getting caught up on Spark and one of my goals is to log in every day in January. Hope you had happy holidays!! Once I'm all caught up, I'm going to try to read some backlogs of the WLW blogs.

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MBSHAZZER 12/31/2010 12:15PM

    Susan, it sounds like a plan... and like Cara said... you know what works for you and what doesn't. I know you'll be successful in 2011! Happy new year!

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MARATHONER340 12/31/2010 11:11AM

    I think you've learned a lot along the way of what works and doesn't work for you. I agree you need to keep things realistic and I, too, need to eat at the top end of my calorie range (of course I haven't counted calories in months!). If I feel I'm depriving myself at all - it won't last long. Have a great weekend and happy new year!

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Merry Christmas

Saturday, December 25, 2010

I'm Jewish and I admit it still feels weird for me to say "merry Christmas." But I should get used to it, because ever since I've been with Jess, all my Christmasses have been very merry!

Today I went for my 2nd annual run from Jess' parents house in Foxboro to Gillette Stadium. I did it in my brand new gorgeous North Face teal fleece over my Nike performance turtleneck (both gifts from my awesome MIL) and I was toasty warm! It was 5.15 miles and I was going a pokey 4.8mph average, but hey, at my current weight I'm impressed my legs can even hold me up that long. Hehe. I'm getting fat.

I think I might do the cliche thing and start a new diet as a New Years resolution.

  
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5FRUITSNVEGGIES 1/21/2011 11:09PM

    'merry christmas' has become so commercialized that it does not even feel remotely christian anyway==that's my gripe, and i am catholic.....so it's weird for me to say because to me it means 'i hope you get all the presents you want!'....lol!

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MOUNTALUM 12/29/2010 8:26PM

    4.8mph pace is my norm, but hopefully not for too much longer!

Comment edited on: 12/29/2010 8:26:31 PM

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FRIZGIRL 12/29/2010 1:59PM

    Oh! You should post a picture of you in your fancy running outfit! Congrats on such a great run!

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FITGIRL15 12/27/2010 7:18PM

    Merry Christmas to you, Susan!!! Happy new year! I think I'll join you on a new diet :)

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CARILOUIE 12/27/2010 6:38PM

    Ooooh I love North Face fleece. So toasty!

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DRAGONFLY180 12/27/2010 6:07PM

    my pants have been tight this christmas! i'm back at it hard, though. i don't want to go back to work in too tight dress pants and have to suffer everyday! good luck with your resolution.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 12/27/2010 4:30PM

    My Dad is Jewish so he just says Happy Holidays!

I believe we are honoring the same G_d.

May you have a very Healthy New Year!

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REBECCAMA 12/27/2010 4:25PM

  This was the first year that we celebrated Hanukkah. It was my daughter's idea and since we haven't joined any organized religion yet we said "why not?" so we lit a Menorah and learned a little bit about some of the traditions. It was fun.

Hope you enjoy your Christmases too.


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SEEHOLZ 12/27/2010 11:12AM

    So glad you enjoyed your Christmas, jewish and all! Your gear sounds soooo warm, too.



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MBSHAZZER 12/26/2010 7:37AM

    Susan, sounds like a wonderful day and how nice that you MIL is helping you with your fitness! Sounds like you were toasty warm for your holiday run!

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SKYFYRE 12/26/2010 5:49AM

    Susan, I'll be "dieting" in a HEALTHY way starting the 14th of January. (MY birthday is the 6th and I want to eat cake,...and leftover cake!) Starting tomorrow I will be counting calories to hold steady in the mean time! My pants are tight and that makes me take action! We can do this!!! To getting into our jeans! emoticon

PS Awesome gifts! and you are amazing running on a holiday!

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DADDYTREVOR 12/25/2010 8:19PM

    Best to you, and thanks for the Christmas wishes.

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Random.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

It was actually sunny and not ridiculously cold when I left school today, so on this first day of winter, I went for a late-afternoon run. We FINALLY got our first significant snow yesterday, so I had to watch out for slippery spots at times, but I managed to do an easy and enjoyable 3.07 miles in 36 minutes, which is an average speed of 5.1mph or 11:41 min/mi.

After successfully counting calories five days in a row a couple weeks ago, I have to admit I haven't been counting calories since, and I'm a little afraid to step up onto a scale. I still have such mixed feelings because, physically, I feel really good these days even though I know I am overweight. I have blogged about this a lot before so I won't get into a ton of detail now. But in the meantime I don't have many pants that fit me well these days, and plenty that are too small to even squeeze myself into. I'm still resistant to just giving up and buying all new bigger clothes. Maybe I'll get a renewed sense of motivation to diet again in January, when everyone's dieting, or in the spring. Yeah, I said the practically-taboo word: diet. I have to admit that's what it would be for me. It's trendy to emphasize a "healthy lifestyle" rather than a diet, but I think I'm living a "healthy lifestyle" right now - I exercise very regularly, and I balance healthy eating with moderate treats. For me to lose weight, I really do need to diet and get vigilant-obsessive about food. Okay, I said I wasn't going to get into a lot of detail about it, but I did. Done.

I am leaving in a little bit for Abs Clinic and then Body Pump, but I do want to share one more thing.... I actually have mixed feelings about sharing this because I haven't even told some people in my real life who I'm really close with, this is really personal. But... I'm dying to talk about it, and I think you ladies are the perfect people to share this with because so many of you are in this exact stage of life yourselves... on my birthday this weekend, my husband informed me that he would like to start trying for a baby in fall 2011. Okay, it was actually more like me asking him and him answering, and in fact he insisted he'd made this suggestion before, but I think I'd remember that(!), and I don't. Anyway, I kind of have mixed feelings because I love children but find them exhausting, and I don't know if we'll be financially secure enough by fall - or ever - but people have said that you never are and just have to jump in. Also, I just don't know how in the world we could fit children in given our lifestyle...I just can't imagine a scenario in which it would work. But on the other hand, I am 33 now and can't wait forever, and I think I might experience deep regret if I decide NOT to have children. Plus I know that my husband wants to be a father eventually. Until now, I haven't told anyone except one close friend. I don't want to even tell my mother because I know how badly she wants to be a grandmother and I don't need that kind of pressure when I'm so unsure. Plus with my luck I probably won't have success right away anyway. But anyway, the fall starts 9 months from now, so in some ways I'm kind of thinking that I should spend these next 9 months preparing my mental and physical environment for this huge step. If I/we actually decide to go through with it.

I know everyone has an opinion about this sort of thing, so please feel free to share. Oh, and please don't tell my mom.

  
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5FRUITSNVEGGIES 1/21/2011 11:07PM

    having children is completely exhausting--i am not going to sugar coat it....

my mother told me something a long time ago that i tell everyone--there's never a perfect time to get married, or have kids or buy a house--you just have to do it....

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KENSINGTONC 12/23/2010 12:59PM

    Wow, I could have written this whole blog...especially about the baby stuff. I have really really struggled with the idea of having a baby for years. I love my life, love my relationship, don't want anything to change especially not in the form of sleep deprivation and stress etc... While I do agree that there is never a "good" time, it also needs to be something you're both on board with. I am pregnany now as you know and have struggled with my image and weight even when I'm SUPPOSED to be gaining weight! It's been really hard and only now, 20 weeks in, is it starting to be something better for me. I think it's probably a normal reaction, particularly for women who are body-conscious (like I am) and don't view pregnancy as an excuse to eat like crazy.

So yeah, that's not a very helpful answer, I know. But know that I have been in your exact situation in terms of the mental do-we-or-don't-we anguish and, while I still struggle sometimes, the excitement of this little life we've created is becoming SO much fun.

Liz

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SKYFYRE 12/22/2010 6:50PM

    Ugh. I identify with so much of what you said here about the baby/ kid thing. It is a tough decision, but I bet one you will not regret. You have until your 40 really to have them without too many problems (speaking from a research basis). You will find room in your life for a kid, maybe even more than one, but be ready when you decide to do it! (Ready for the challenge, not the $$$, no one ever has enough $$ LOL!)

Dieting.... You ARE healthy and you have a healthy lifestyle. Reality is: that calorie restriction within a reasonable range is required to lose weight. Reality also says not everyone is meant to be a size 6. Curves are good. Obesity is not. Have you looked at your healthy weight range for your bone structure? Maybe you are trying for something that is possible but makes you miserable. This will be a lifelong challenge for me: finding a balance with what I want to be and what I am capable of. I hope you find your balance.

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TESS6166 12/22/2010 5:17PM

    Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog, I really appreciate it! You look great. As far as children... it's such a personal decision. I don't think that there's ever really a "right" time... I had mine at 33 and 35, it was the right time for me.
Tess

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ELFITZPA 12/22/2010 10:21AM

    I was thinking about your "dieting" comment today and honestly I revert to that mindset anytime I'm a couple pounds over my happy weight. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to admit and accept that yes, you DO have to cut calories to lose weight. It's just life.

As for the baby piece of the puzzle, I've actually been thinking about it a lot lately too since so many of my friends have kids or are pregnant. We're in our 30s at this point and we've talked about starting a family pretty soon after we get married, so it's starting to go from being this really vague notion of wanting kids SOMEDAY to the idea that it's going to be reality. I remember seeing a couple my friends struggle with that same shift even as they were TRYING to get pregnant, so I think it's at least a little normal. But if you have more doubts than positive feelings, I'd certainly at least wait longer. Kids DO change everything and if you're leaning towards it being a bad idea - or a bad time - it's probably best that you don't have kids right now.

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DRAGONFLY180 12/22/2010 10:12AM

    as for dieting, even pro figure fitness people "diet" to lean out before a competition. they drop 5-10 lbs and add more muscle before competition. they don't always look that ripped.

as i turned 30 this year, i had the same sentiments. my hubby is 40, so we really are pushing it. for years, i was just sure i didn't want or need a child to make my life seem whole. but in the past year, i've begun to think about how lonely this life could be w/o children. i still have those selfish fears of spending so much money/time/energy on another person and of being a bad parent possibly. but dh and i are plunging in this fall, as well, when he gets back from his deployment. i hope that having a baby will be more rewarding than it will be difficult or inconveniencing.

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SEEHOLZ 12/21/2010 10:53PM

    As for the dieting, I so hear you! I know EXACTLY what you mean and people who do not have emotional issue with food on the level that I do, just don't get it that its more of a mental mindframe thing... for me that is. That said, I'm still striving to find that middle ground where I feel like I'm making the choie to eat whatever I want and yet I consciously choose to eat less... LOL.. yeah, kind of along the saying of wanting your cake and eating it too. I guess I cannot give up on that - even if others don't think it's going to work out and so far, it hasn't really gotten me to goal, but I think for once in my life, I know how to live in maintenance without being obsessive and that is nothing to just throw away for me, you know? My peace of mind is just more imoportant at the moment....

As for kids.. I had one really, really young and didn't want a 2nd one for years... because I didn't feel as though I could mentally handle it ( let alone financially at first) because neither Dan nor I ware very patient people. Now that I'm 33, I want another baby, but Dan doesn't or is not ready or whatever and it might just not be in the cards. While I agree 100% that you will never really be totally ready, I do think that you have to want a baby more than not want it, if you know what I mean. Just so you know, my son was totally wanted to not an accident. It was an immature decision to want a baby at age 18 by both Dan and I ( we both wanted it...) but we both learned that while our son has improved our life, us as individuals for sure, it takes a lot of giving of yourself and that is something that you need to want intrinsincly. WHile I say that I'm ready for $3, I have all those fears you mentioned-LOL... so I think that part is just there for those type of personalities. But, having a baby for your husband's sake only is NOT the way to go. Whlie you will always love your child and it'll make your life and you a better person, you got to want it for your own reasons, so that there is no risk of any resentments.
All that's my opinion of course-LOL- and might not apply to you.

I would hold off to tell anyone till I figured it out for myself...


Merry Christmas Susan! Thank you so much for your continued friendship, advice and support!!!

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SPARKNMOM 12/21/2010 9:46PM

    Wow :) Lots of exciting times coming your way, I'm sure. I too love children and find them exhausting, but wouldn't change a thing. They are such a joy - even when I want to pull my hair out LOL!!

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MARATHONER340 12/21/2010 9:40PM

    I'll make sure not to tell your Mom next time I run into her. ;) I say "go for it"!! I agree there will never be a RIGHT time. I'm still scared as hell over having kids - as we'll have one in a little over 3 months! (if not sooner!) But hey - a lot of people do it - so if they can - I'm sure we can! It will be an adjustment - and I know it will be a lot of time and energy - and my life will no longer revolve around me (and my workout schedule! ha!). But I think it's still possible to find that balance - and these days guys are much more willing to be part of raising the kids! And since your husband wants to be a Dad - I'm sure he'll help you out! We never actually "tried" to have kids...but...I decided to let fate decide - went off the pill...and although I was still trying to do the "natural planning thing" - I found out that doesn't really work too well! In any case - good luck with your decision!! =)

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BRUIN2 12/21/2010 6:15PM

    Babies are exhausting. But soooooo fun. BUT - they completely change your life.

So. That's my opinion.

Have a fantastic rest of 2010!

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MBSHAZZER 12/21/2010 5:55PM

    OK, you have brought up two really important topics! As far as the "dieting" thing goes, you have to make changes you can live with. If it's a diet, it's not lifelong. My suggestion is to really critically look at what you're eating and maybe pick one or two things you can live without. Maybe it's taking your coffee black to start with - you'd be surprised at how fast the calories add up with milk and sugar if you're drinking more than one cup. Anyway, that's just an example, but you get the idea.

As far as kids go... it is my firm belief that one should not have children unless they are 100% certain they want them. I totally understand where you are coming from about not wanting to regret NOT having kids, but I think it's way worse to regret having them.

As far as pressure from family and friends goes, you have to drown it out. It's not their decision. Neither my brother nor I have kids (bro has a step child) and my mom sometimes just cannot hide the disappointment. But at the end of the day, a child would be MY responsibility, not hers.

Of course, this is a decision that you and Jess have to make, but it IS a big decision and one that should be given careful consideration. I can say as someone who has chosen not to have kids that my life is really, really awesome and I don't regret not having them for one minute.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

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FRIZGIRL 12/21/2010 5:55PM

    LOL, I will definitely not tell your mum. There is so much to talk about here.

First things first. Even though you are technically overweight, I think you are strikingly beautiful, and if you are feeling good, then stay at the weight you are at for a while. However, if you really want to fit into those pants just so you don’t have to buy new ones, I would definitely suggest doing what you said and going on a “diet”. I’m also one of those people who won’t lose weight unless on an actual diet. The problem I have is a healthy lifestyle after… being weekend truckloads of calories where I really don’t maintain a healthy lifestyle. So I would recommend getting into those jeans and then focusing on what YOUR biggest hangup is to maintaining a healthy lifestyle and addressing that issue.

As to having a little one!!!! OMG just want to say how excited I am for you for even THINKING about it? I think 9 months is plenty of time to prepare mentally. You can start socking away money now (for hospital bill, crib, stroller, etc) and trying to live on the budget you know you’ll have once a kid comes around. Someone gave us that piece of advice and it was SO helpful. By the time we started trying we were completely on our budget and had a couple thousand dollars saved up. It takes a lot of the stress out of the financial side knowing you have it under control. As to having a kid in the first place… lol well you know how totally biased I am :) I think you would be a great mum, and you would be due in 18 months-ish. You may not feel ‘ready’ now, but I bet in 9 months you will. It happened like that with Mat and me. We were wanting to but not ready, then 5 months later, we were both ready, and it is so exciting! I wish you the best of luck!!!!!

P.S. Craigslist has TONS of baby stuff for relatively cheap compared to buying things new.


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