Monday, May 02, 2011
I've heard happy thoughts about plans for Mother's Day, and I've also heard the flip side. No mother -- no grandmother, kids pay no attention any longer, gas too high to go anywhere, no time, no money and of course groans about how you'll eat too much!
I lost my Mom years ago, but I cherish the memories of how I used to drive to her home in California (I lived in Las Vegas) and my sister and I would take her out for brunch somewhere along the coast. As she got older we noticed she wasn't really eating her food as much as pushing it around on her plate, and instead of worrying about putting on extra weight, we saw the weight slipping off her frail body, ounce by ounce. But the memories are bright in my mind even today, just to see the shine in her eyes at being taken to a fancy place and looking out over the spectacular California coastline scenery!
Although I stayed with my Grandmother and although she had a couple of her sons at home who had never married, I do not remember that there was any fuss on Mother's Day. For her it was probably a day just like the rest. She would cook huge, delicious meals, we would all sit down together as a family and enjoy them and then it was my job to clean up afterward. More wonderful memories. I'm sure my granddaughter would throw a temper tantrum if she had all the work to do that I had during high school years, but the funny thing is -- I volunteered my services for most of it. I loved rules and discipline.
I don't hear my daughter talk a lot about Mother's Day either, I think the normal thing is to go to a nice restaurant to eat. Times have changed in many parts of the world, and we must adapt and go on. If I tend to reminisce about some good times of the past I try to balance out the facts of today's world with the one fact that keeps me going. I'm alive and I'm fairly healthy!