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Friday, June 04, 2010

emoticon When my husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer we were devastated. The doctors at Mayo did not pull any punches and he was told up front there was no chance for surgery, chemo or anything -- they would keep him comfortable with medication and that was all they could do.

With sad hearts we returned home, neither of us wanting to face the truth. We knew in our hearts that the end was inevitable and within six short months we would no longer be a happy couple. Each day changes became apparent as the scale continued to show the tale, down, down, down. Finally at 110 pounds we decided to no longer have him step on the scale.

Our Scottie, JB, knew something was wrong. She would lay at my husband's side for hours on end. If he layed down for a nap, she would lay beside the bed. We did not trust her to lay on the bed with us any longer for fear she would jump on my husband's stomach and hurt him; but she would lay in a chair watching us, or lay as close to the bed as possible. For a dog that was used to spending many hours each day running and playing outside this had to be a supreme act of love to put it all aside and take up a position of guarding a loved one. Dogs have an inner sense and it was proven each and every day as she kept her vigil.

One Sunday morning was the final day, the last breath, and as tears fell in the final goodbye, I lifted JB and placed her next to my husband, thinking she may wish to say goodbye also. But dogs think differently than humans when it comes to death, and knowing her master was no longer occupying the body on the bed, JB simply turned her head and stared at me. I understood her chore of keeping watch and trying to keep him safe was over, not to be forgotten, but moving on.

It's been several years now since that happened, and I have a new Scottie. I have noticed some of those same traits in her. When I'm sick and stay in bed, she will also lay down somewhere in the bedroom to "keep an eye on me and guard me."

  
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HOWMANYCATS 6/14/2010 11:30AM

    Thank you for sharing your story. I too am amazed at how our dear pets seem to know just what we need, when we need it. I'm sorry to hear of your loss but and glad your JB was able to help.

I am also a 'Scot Mama' of one and a 'Scot Grandma' of two . . . so I may be a little partial when I say that Scotties seem especially attuned to our needs!

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FISHKNEES 6/13/2010 6:32PM

    I have cats that do the same things...They watch over me when I am in bed not feeling well...they watch GM from her doorway, we have taught them not to jump on her bed so they sit outside her door...when she is really restless they come get me to check on her.they are amazing little animals..I love them so much

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PSMITH3841 6/6/2010 10:04AM

    No one will EVER convince me that our pets do not understand our needs...their unadulterated love is there when we need it the most....Thank you for sharing this sad time (I have a lump in my throat the size of Rhode Island) and confirming a pet's love and loyalty to the human it was given the responsibility to care for.... emoticon

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ANNANN63 6/5/2010 12:48PM

    Pets are truly special. I am blessed to have my very special Joey puppy.

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THPEAKY 6/5/2010 10:12AM

    Dogs are definitely a blessing! And I was blessed by the story and sorry for your loss: your husband was blessed to have you!

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IMEOWASWELL 6/5/2010 9:48AM

  That is what you call a true friend. It is ironic that you wrote this blog. Yesterday, I had to say good bye to a good friend after 20 years. My cat. He listened to my sorrow when I lost my husband 20 years ago.

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CATLADY52 6/5/2010 9:47AM

    It can be said many times that 'man's best friend is his dog' and I am sure that is true. Last year when my late husband was going thru chemo, his cat was hovering nearby for the last few days. She now has adopted me as a nightime companion. Just having her in the bed is comforting.

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VITCHY-VICKI 6/5/2010 5:53AM

    emoticonSorry for your Loss Eve but he is in a better place and so glad your first Dog watched over him
Glad you have a new dog and that she is watching over you now.
Thanks for the story and God's Blessings
Vicki

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REENIT 6/5/2010 1:34AM

    I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing. Yes animals are amazing. I recently was having a bit of trouble with my heart so I had a heart cath at the hospital. When I got home, my chihiahia who barks at anything that moves all day long took up post, curled at my feet and was amazingly silent all day. My big guy - layed by my bed. I dont think either of them left the bedroom all day for even a drink of water.

Animals are amazing.

Thanks again for sharing.
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DESERTFLOWER8 6/5/2010 12:19AM

    I am very moved by your story, Scotmama..to the point of tears. Thank you for sharing.

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PAULIGAL 6/4/2010 11:54PM

    Thank you for sharing this story. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. What a good doggy you had...they really do seem to know when we need them the most.

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BLESSED2BEME 6/4/2010 11:53PM

    What a blessing to have such awesome dogs in your life. I had a cat like that who never left my side when I needed her the most. She is in Heaven waiting for me now but I'll never forget how wonderful her instincts were. They love unconditionally and give us so much more than we can give them! Thank you for sharing such a special time in your life with us!

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Why Procrastinate When It Feels So GOOD!

Wednesday, June 02, 2010

emoticon I just got home from the gym and I feel so invigorated, so alive, and deep down so downright good about life! When an hour or so at the gym can make me feel like that, it really makes me wonder what kind of an idiot I must be that I procrastinate on going there each and every day! Hey! I'm not the only one that does it..... I hear people constantly lamenting the fact that they are procrastinators about running, walking, going to the gym, anything and every thing. And when we finally DO get around to DOING IT -- we love it!

Now do we procrastinate about tearing into a pizza when one is set in front of us? Or about chicken and dumplings, BBQ ribs, a juicy steak -- or whatever your big temptation happens to be? Ha! I can see those guilty looks on your faces right now! No hesitation there, right?

As I watched the minutes adding up on the treadmill I realized how much easier it is for me to walk the 20 minutes now than it was when I first started. I love to set it on random and have the machine taking me up and down hills. Then I took a turn on the epileptic, which I do for less time because I'm still getting the feel of it. It is much harder for me to get my time in on that machine than on the treadmill, that's why I know it's important for me to push for each additional minute. The weights come next and for me it's a period of cooldown as well as working those muscles. Stretching is part of it too. And then I hit the pool for more poolside exercises (I used to do pool aerobics) and walking in the pool. In the 55+ area where I go it is considered a "walking" pool, if you want to actually swim you must go to the part that is divided off for laps. I try to get in a lot of arm and leg exercises, helping my flexibility as well as toning up.

Maybe if I do this enough times in a row it will become a habit and my body will want to go, instead of procrastinating! Do you think?

Have a great day everyone! Be a DOer, not a Procrastinator! emoticon

  
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KATRET 6/12/2010 7:41AM

    Exercising does make you feel alive! Good luck - it sounds like you are on the right track

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CATLADY52 6/4/2010 12:01PM

    Things we like to do seldom get procrastinated (if that is a real word), so we have to find ways to like such things. I'm still working on several areas of 'like to do' rather than 'have to do'. Unfortunately there are things I 'like' that end up hurting my body, so I just have to like them at a slower pace. It will work out in the end. emoticon

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REENIT 6/3/2010 10:48AM

    Nice blog and so very true. Sounds like you have a nice well rounded workout. How about writing how you feel when you workout on post it notes and putting them on your mirror or somewhere you would see regularly as a reminder ???

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PSMITH3841 6/3/2010 10:16AM

    True words, my friend....it took me awhile, but I'm now in the "I want to go" mode(but I do admit to an occasional...."nah, not today"), but for the most part, I'm ready to hit the gym as soon as I leave work. Not to mention, steady gym attendance makes for a much better reflection in the mirror....! emoticon

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DESERTFLOWER8 6/3/2010 1:19AM

    YAY SCOTMAMA!!! you rock! way to hit it! emoticon

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CBEVNOW 6/3/2010 1:13AM

    Way to go. I know what you mean,my self i cannot make good chicken and dumplings, but there is a little restaurant abut 5 miles from us ,known for home cooking. All the locals eat there cops, judges ,ministers, and us plain ole people.There specialty on Wed. and Sundays are, you guessed it , chicken and dumplings, and they are out of this world, cooked by, as they say down home cooks.When my children come to visit that is where they want to go eat. Every thing they cook is so good. oh dear I'm making my self hungry. Maybe i will procrastinate and not go there to eat Sunday. LOL Caroline

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IMEOWASWELL 6/3/2010 1:09AM

  You are doing the right things! I am so proud of you. I have been doing aquacises and trying to keep my yard done up. I just did 7 hours of lawn cutting. I think I was a doer today. Keep up the good work!

Always

June

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LOVES_ANIMALS 6/2/2010 11:21PM

    great story and thoughts. very inspiring!

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Triple Digits - time to change my Plan

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

emoticon With Phoenix temps already as high as 106 (yes, it wasn't a typo) I realized last night I need to revise my exercise plan. Walking is my major type of exercise, but Sunday night I waited until 9:00 p.m. for it to get down to 91. Last night it was 10:00 before it was down to 88. I had been watching a movie, but even so -- I don't like to be out there walking around at 9 or 10 at night; it's dark and scary (and maybe unsafe!). So I suppose you could call it my Aha moment or at the very least one of those "Duh!" moments.

This morning I got up and it was a nice cool 69 degrees! Yes!!! Off we went for a brisk 2-mile walk. The sun moves quickly and so does the thermometer, so by the time we finished it was in the mid-70's and my dog was panting and I was dripping wet, not so much the temp itself but the fact that the sun was beating down on us. Still -- I feel good that I got that much exercise in so early. I realize that as the temperatures climb I will be forced to give up walking my dog and I will have to head for the gym. And the walks are as much for my pet as they are for me, we both need the exercise.

Perhaps things will fall into place and I'll be able to get to somewhere cooler in the USA -- for sure I'm not going to enjoy exercising here much longer!

  
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REENIT 6/4/2010 11:13AM

    Great job on changing it up !!!

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MANLEYSANDY 6/2/2010 2:19PM

    I live in AZ too and I joined the gym and use it in the summer months and go back to the outdoors when the weather is more manageable.

I also do exercise DVD's. Leslie Sansone has some wonderful walk routine that are low inpact but you get a good work-out!

Stay cool!


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LIS193 6/2/2010 11:16AM

    First thing in the morning is a great tie to exercise. Good luck!

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VITCHY-VICKI 6/2/2010 7:54AM

    In NE it get's hot too but humidity is the wurst part of it all but I don't complain for I hate winter here.
But getting up early is good then you get it done and feel good about it.
Hope you can keep walking the dog I know the pets love you for it.
Keep cool
Vicki

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PSMITH3841 6/1/2010 9:28PM

    106 WOW! We've been in the 90's here in PA and it's been awful... my brain can't conceive temps of 106...Yikes! emoticon

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DESERTFLOWER8 6/1/2010 7:44PM

    do you have access to a pool? that is how i am going to manage the arizona summer heat..aqua-aerobics till fall..then walking..just a thought...

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LOVES_ANIMALS 6/1/2010 7:06PM

    good for you!

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USFBULL 6/1/2010 4:23PM

    good adjustment, way to keep it going emoticon

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ANNANN63 6/1/2010 3:16PM

    I so understand. I am getting up earlier each week to be able to walk Joey and get my walk in before it is too hot. We are having temps in the 90s and sometimes the high 90s with really high humidity.

Fortunately we are able to get to the dog park in the afternoons (if it isn't raining) and it is OK. I don't want to do a lot physically but the socializing for the dogs and people is really good. The dogs are slowing down a lot and we make sure they have lots of water and spend time in the shade.

In the evenings it is still cool enough to walk before dark.

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MELSY82 6/1/2010 1:08PM

    good job on adjusting, when i lived in AZ I was either 6am or 10pm outdoor workouts, there is just no way around it!!

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What Does a Holiday Mean to YOU?

Monday, May 31, 2010

emoticon With today being Memorial Day it's a good day to remember all of our loved one's who have passed away. Many people use today as a time to put flowers on their graves. Others only think of the holiday as an extra day off from work (with pay) and it doesn't really matter what the holiday is, some treat them all the same. I'm not here to preach to you about what you should do or should be thinking on any given holiday -- that's a personal preference, and I don't like to judge others.

There are holidays that mean nothing to me, at least they mean nothing as far as the reason they were initially created. Sometimes I wonder what they really mean to our government also, because rather than celebrate them on the day the event happened, suddenly most of our holidays are moved to Monday! We all know the reason for that -- a 3-day week-end. Not that we need a 3-day week-end in order to remember our departed, or to remember Veterans or to remember any of the reasons the holiday is recognized. Most of the people want the 3-day week-end to go out and party and have fun! I'm really surprised they haven't moved the 4th of July, Thanksgiving or Christmas!

For me I have no need to have a special day on the calendar to remember my loved ones who have departed. I think of them on an almost daily basis. They are in my heart and in my thoughts. So today, rather than sitting for a few minutes and thinking of them..... I was painting a wall in my entryway. There was no way I could take flowers to anyone's graveside -- there is no one within driving distance. But in my thoughts they receive special attention each and every day, and if it is possible they are observing me from heaven and they see me busily doing something on the day meant to honor them, I think they will know I still love them....I still think of them.....I still miss them.

  
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ANNANN63 6/1/2010 9:46AM

    We have a really lovely Memorial Day service here in our community. Each year we have a fly over with the Missing Man Formation. It brings tears to my eyes it is so beautiful and such a tribute to all we have lost.

I have never been one to visit graves although we did visit when we were in NY a few weeks ago. We may not ever get back there again and I think it was good for DH to see them one more time.

As for holidays in general, I am OK with the long week ends, what I object to is the commercialization that has us seeing Christmas decorations in October. We pass on most of that stuff. DH and I do not exchange gifts for any occasion. Anything we need or want we just get. The stress of trying to "surprise" a partner with gifts four times a year gets worse as the years go by. We have found other ways to express our feelings and enjoy the days.

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LIS193 6/1/2010 8:17AM

    You are so right - it doesn't need a date on the calendar to remember someone.
Most Federal Holiday are a way to give people a 3 day holiday and a lot of them are meaningless to me...
Labor Day, Columbus Day, Presidents Day etc.... what do they actually mean anymore apart from a being a nuisance because the post office and banks are closed?

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A 3-day binge......I mean Holiday Week-End!

Saturday, May 29, 2010

emoticon When was the last time you had this much food spread out in front of you, and all of it tempting? Probably whatever the last holiday was where you were getting together with friends and family. Last night we were not even officially into the week-end yet, but I gathered with three other friends at a local Italian restaurant, launching off the wonderful 3-day binge!

I decided to order a light beer to save myself some calories, smart choice; but then the waiter brings a basket of warm, crusty bread, and liberally pours out the oil and balsamic vinegar into a shallow dish in the center of the table. I felt the willpower oozing out my fingertips as I reached out and broke off one of the tasty morsels and swirled it into the olive oil. Beer and crusty bread, a heady combo! Laughter and small talk was flowing freely, and one bite followed another until I wasn't sure just how many of those tiny little bites I had consumed! I wish I had just ordered my dinner and waited for it to be served instead of literally dipping up FAT with my pieces of bread. Yes, I KNOW olive oil is good for you, but it still has 14 g of fat in it!!

OK, now the other couple gets their appetizer! Artichoke hearts/spinach dip, it sounds innocent and healthy, but what about all the fatty cream and cheese it also contains? I passed on that one little temptation, but don't even bother to pat me on the back! My order of eggplant parmesan soon arrived and with the hearty helping of shredded romano on top I doubt if it was the healthiest choice of the evening either.

Even so, I probably could have gotten by with one of my usual gains of .2 or .4 but then the waiter decided we had been so nice all evening he took it upon himself to bring up a "complimentary" dessert. It was delicious, horribly fattening and tastes like pure sin melting on my lips! Strawberries, luscious and sweet, all wrapped up in a sweet whipped cream, folded lightly into a crust that was most likely 99% butter!

What goes in the lips ends up on the hips! All that joy and bliss = 1 lb. gain! The worst part is that tonight the menu is for BBQ Baby Back Ribs! Another favorite so what will I do. There is a swimming pool, so maybe I can swim 150 laps or so and just work it all off. Well. . . . . . . we'll see how "that one" goes!!

Happy Memorial Day everyone!

  
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ANNANN63 6/1/2010 9:58AM

    I do indulge in treats but I do keep track of the amount I eat and record the calories. If I know I am going to be at a dinner or party, I eat very healthy and lower calorie the rest of the day. I have been able to include the treats and still have only exceeded the calorie allowance about 5 times in 5 months. Food is not my friend and I don't find most food tastes good enough to go over my calorie allowance for them. Even foods that taste wonderful I can eat in reasonable amounts.

The other side of this is that I have a few trigger foods (ice cream, chocolate, chips) that I have to watch very carefully. They don't actually taste all that wonderful, they are just foods I can eat and eat and eat. I overdid potato chips one day while we were on vacation.

Sunday we celebrated DH's birthday with his oldest daughter and her family. I made special chocolate sandwich cookies with a truly fabulous filling and did eat 2 instead of the 1 I planned to eat. I was able to cut out something else and stayed in my calorie range. There are some left and I am avoiding them. If I don't start I will probably not have any problem leaving them alone.

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CATLADY52 5/30/2010 2:25PM

    As others have said, 'Live the life you love, and love the life you live'. Enjoy your dinner (it does sound scrumtious) and the friendship. You have certainly earned it! emoticon emoticon

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DESERTFLOWER8 5/30/2010 1:12PM

    I love the comments all the others have posted here. After all, this IS life, isn't it? Enjoy your weekend of fun, and don't burden yourself with guilt. This is one weekend, not what you do every day of the year. Enjoy!!!

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LIS193 5/30/2010 10:59AM

    Sometimes it's worth it to give in to temptation! Your dinner sounds sooo good.
Eat lightly all day, drink lots of water and enjoy dinner tonight.
Have fun !!
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THPEAKY 5/30/2010 7:29AM

    Y'know sometimes food is just so darn good- I don't want to eat fake food. I'd be with you swimming the laps! Have a wonderful weekend!

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ROSY_TIAMO 5/30/2010 4:09AM

    I really enjoyed sharing all those wonderful tastes with you (you're too funny) We've all been there and done that.......have a safe weekend!

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LUNADRAGON 5/30/2010 12:02AM

    I find that I can forgive myself, and allow for such times as birthdays, potlucks, dinners. I am learning how to make choices, and allow some treats for me too. You know that you don't holiday eat everyday, because that is how the weight goes back on, and you are better than that. I am sure that once the weekend passes, you will be back on target.
Enjoy the Memorial Day weekend, the company, and listen to your body signals regarding what morsels you partake of.
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LOVES_ANIMALS 5/29/2010 11:14PM

    Enjoy yourself and don't deprive yourself. Make up for it a little bit at a time.

Hugs,

Sally

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PSMITH3841 5/29/2010 9:07PM

    I guess we will just do the best we can and start to repair and damage we've done on Tuesday...Just roll with it and enjoy the time with friends and family...Have a great Memorial Day Weekend! emoticon emoticon

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