Tuesday, April 06, 2010
I was talking to a friend the other day about how he felt when he lost his wife to cancer. He had been very depressed and had decided to join a therapy group who had all been through much the same experience as him. As the session drew to a close the person heading up the group said he had an exercise for each and every person. When they went home that night he wanted each of them to remove all their clothing, then stand in front of a full-length mirror.
"Take a good look at your body," he told the group; then make a list of everything you don't like.
The next evening the group assembled again, each person holding a little list in their hand. I asked my friend what his list had contained. He said that first of all at 182 pounds, and he is 5'7" he wanted to lose a bunch of weight, secondly his hair had fallen out on the top of his head due to stress as she was going through her illness -- and he disliked that also. And the third thing he didn't like was his glasses that he had worn since he was young.
OK, many of the people had similar items on their list, I'm sure. So the next step was decided what to do about it, and how to go about doing it. My friend is a very good swimmer and enjoys it, so he began swimming laps. The first time he tried it he could not make it from one end to the other. But he had a high degree of determination, and he wanted to reach his goal. Little by little he improved. For his second problem, he contacted a local business who transplants hairs from another area of your head onto the bald spot -- expensive but effective. And he also had Lasik surgery on his eyes so he could do away with his glasses. He is a striking individual today, and looks years younger than his calendar years!
So when you look in the mirror, study that reflection and figure out how you want to improve it to make it what you want. Next write the goals down and make note of how to achieve them. You can accomplish almost anything. It might help to take a picture of the NOW person and post it on the refrigerator (after all, that's where the food is) and in a month take another, and keep doing it, same type of clothing each time, and see how your progress is doing.
With motivation like that I'll bet you'll be seeing the image you want before you know it. And pick a certain day to take the photo so it's always exactly a month in between. When you're done you can make a collage out of it. It can be like a brag book for YOU!
Sunday, April 04, 2010
We all have a bit of optimism in us, and unfortunately a bit of pessimism too! But the best way to look at things as you go through your day is to tell yourself things could always be worse -- and be thankful for what they are!
You wake up and it's kind of cloudy -- OK, that's good cause it could be raining!
You find out you're out of your favorite cereal -- that's OK, make oatmeal!
You can't find the black slacks you wanted to wear, but so what? You've got about 10 other pairs of slacks to choose from, you're lucky!
You're running 10 minutes late for an appointment. You're starting to get irritated. You can arrive at the appointment irritated and short tempered, or... you can turn on the radio, enjoy the music and arrive in a good mood -- apologize for being late, and then let it go!
You broke your fingernail -- it's not earth shattering! What if you had fallen and broken a hip or an arm?
Each and every day we find situations that we don't like; but if you think about them they could be worse -- way worse! So relax, enjoy the good life that you have and be thankful that things are as good as they are. For every little thing that goes wrong, there are many things that are going right, if you'll only open your eyes and see them!
Hugs! Have a nice day!
Sunday, April 04, 2010
While I'd like to have the energy of that kid in the photo, I'm afraid mine (at 71) falls a little short. But on those days when you do happen to wake up feeling energized by all means, make the most of it.
Today is the day to tackle those jobs you are usually "too tired" to accomplish, or clean out the refrigerator, vacuum all the floors, scrub the tubs! There must be a hundred jobs that I could rattle off that all of us seem to avoid with a variety of excuses -- so today is the day to make a dent in that list. When you've got that high energy roll going the task will get done in no time at all, and you can rev up for the next one on your list. Now is not the time to sit and ponder why your reconciliation with the bank didn't jibe, nor is it the time to sit and figure out your income tax. Today is when you want to tackle the hard jobs that require your energy and have you moving around! Leave those sit-down jobs for another time when you're not feeling quite so revved up!
I started out good this morning, made short order of my bedroom and got all the laundry done. Then I made the mistake of looking at my credit card bill and saw that my figures on Quicken didn't quite jibe with the figure on the statement -- that's all she wrote, mama, cause hours later, when I finally had the thing done to my satisfaction, my energy had all drained away too! Yes, I found where the mistakes were, but it cost me hours of my high-energy, and that's such a waste!
Perhaps tomorrow will be another high energy day and I can finish off my list.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
I remember one particular little home, positioned close to a bubbling stream; it always looked like something that should have been in a magazine advocating country living with all it's charm. Peaceful, quiet, it was the epitome of living the good life if you liked that country flavor.
The home had a curved walkway made out of some type of smooth stones, and on either side, flanking this walkway were bright red geraniums, blooming profusely. Out toward the rear yard I could see a swing hanging from a big branch, well shaded by the tree supporting it. Visions of backyard picnics from my childhood days sprang to mind, and I found myself envying the children growing up there.
There was seldom anyone visible as I drove past the little home, but one chilly evening as I drove past there was a light visible and a thin trail of smoke coming out of the fireplace chimney. It was enough to start my imagination busy dreaming up pine furnishings and rag rugs on the wooden floors, homey, comfy, and very warm and welcoming.
Children of today seldom know the blessings of the "cottage by the stream" type of upbringing, and it is sad, because those are the memories that are so sweet to look back on as we go about our busy city lives.
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