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How to be Happy With Each Day!

Sunday, April 04, 2010

We all have a bit of optimism in us, and unfortunately a bit of pessimism too! But the best way to look at things as you go through your day is to tell yourself things could always be worse -- and be thankful for what they are!

You wake up and it's kind of cloudy -- OK, that's good cause it could be raining!
You find out you're out of your favorite cereal -- that's OK, make oatmeal!
You can't find the black slacks you wanted to wear, but so what? You've got about 10 other pairs of slacks to choose from, you're lucky!
You're running 10 minutes late for an appointment. You're starting to get irritated. You can arrive at the appointment irritated and short tempered, or... you can turn on the radio, enjoy the music and arrive in a good mood -- apologize for being late, and then let it go!
You broke your fingernail -- it's not earth shattering! What if you had fallen and broken a hip or an arm?

Each and every day we find situations that we don't like; but if you think about them they could be worse -- way worse! So relax, enjoy the good life that you have and be thankful that things are as good as they are. For every little thing that goes wrong, there are many things that are going right, if you'll only open your eyes and see them!

Hugs! Have a nice day! emoticon

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ANNANN63 4/5/2010 8:01PM

    Well said.

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VITCHY-VICKI 4/5/2010 8:15AM

    emoticon emoticonI needed that this morning.
So glad your my emoticon
God's Blessings

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DHSPARK 4/5/2010 5:39AM

    Positive all the way...way to go!


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LIS193 4/5/2010 12:49AM

    Great attitude

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IMEOWASWELL 4/4/2010 11:48PM

  You are sooooooo right! We are lucky and most of us are to blind to see it. I am lucky to be where I am and have what I have. Thanks for being my sparks friend!


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TRIGFROST 4/4/2010 11:12PM

    You are right my SparkFriend... emoticon

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Make the Most of Your Energy!

Sunday, April 04, 2010

While I'd like to have the energy of that kid in the photo, I'm afraid mine (at 71) falls a little short. But on those days when you do happen to wake up feeling energized by all means, make the most of it.

Today is the day to tackle those jobs you are usually "too tired" to accomplish, or clean out the refrigerator, vacuum all the floors, scrub the tubs! There must be a hundred jobs that I could rattle off that all of us seem to avoid with a variety of excuses -- so today is the day to make a dent in that list. When you've got that high energy roll going the task will get done in no time at all, and you can rev up for the next one on your list. Now is not the time to sit and ponder why your reconciliation with the bank didn't jibe, nor is it the time to sit and figure out your income tax. Today is when you want to tackle the hard jobs that require your energy and have you moving around! Leave those sit-down jobs for another time when you're not feeling quite so revved up!

I started out good this morning, made short order of my bedroom and got all the laundry done. Then I made the mistake of looking at my credit card bill and saw that my figures on Quicken didn't quite jibe with the figure on the statement -- that's all she wrote, mama, cause hours later, when I finally had the thing done to my satisfaction, my energy had all drained away too! Yes, I found where the mistakes were, but it cost me hours of my high-energy, and that's such a waste!

Perhaps tomorrow will be another high energy day and I can finish off my list.

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FREELADY 4/4/2010 9:13PM

    This is such good advice! I need to be wise using personal resources, as you advise!

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The cottage by the stream

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

I remember one particular little home, positioned close to a bubbling stream; it always looked like something that should have been in a magazine advocating country living with all it's charm. Peaceful, quiet, it was the epitome of living the good life if you liked that country flavor.

The home had a curved walkway made out of some type of smooth stones, and on either side, flanking this walkway were bright red geraniums, blooming profusely. Out toward the rear yard I could see a swing hanging from a big branch, well shaded by the tree supporting it. Visions of backyard picnics from my childhood days sprang to mind, and I found myself envying the children growing up there.

There was seldom anyone visible as I drove past the little home, but one chilly evening as I drove past there was a light visible and a thin trail of smoke coming out of the fireplace chimney. It was enough to start my imagination busy dreaming up pine furnishings and rag rugs on the wooden floors, homey, comfy, and very warm and welcoming.

Children of today seldom know the blessings of the "cottage by the stream" type of upbringing, and it is sad, because those are the memories that are so sweet to look back on as we go about our busy city lives.

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FREELADY 4/1/2010 8:09AM

    Your words are like music! At the same time your words paint a picture in my mind!

Thank you for a peaceful oasis moment in a pressured day!

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MARGOMCP 4/1/2010 7:19AM

    My favorite word is "wholesome" because, for me, it brings up the image of a country kitchen with the smell of fresh-baked bread and gingham curtains blowing inward from the open window, the big, scarred wooden table where the work's done. . .

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LIS193 3/31/2010 10:54PM

    Sounds like my kind of place :)
Isn't it amazing how a place can touch our heart and spark imaginations?

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When I was 21

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Boy Oh Boy! How many of you can remember that far back? It seems like a lifetime ago, and for me, it definitely was! Back then I didn't have to count calories, and I seldom stepped on a scale. If I did happen to step on a scale it was probably because I was in a doctor's office. Weight did not matter to me! It never does when you wear a size 6 and you are super active.

Back in those days 40 was practically "over the hill" and with the active lifestyle that was the only way I knew how to live, who needed to watch what they ate. I can remember that my very favorite dessert back then was pecan pie WITH two scoops of vanilla ice cream on it. I used to go out to lunch sometimes with my husband's boss' wife -- yes, I was already married and had 2 little boys. She would take me to lunch and I'd order that exact dessert. She would sit and look at me with wonder in her eyes. Now I know why.

Years have a way of slipping by and with them the scale did go through a few adjustments. I changed from 105 pounds to 114, then finally at 40 moved to Japan and needed to have a hysterectomy -- now estrogen came into my life and my weight shot up to 124! Good old med's will do it everytime. I thought I was fat, fat, fat!! About that time I got a divorce and eventually remarried, still at 124 pounds at age 50. Then the old clock picked up a little speed as we started our own business and ate every meal in a restaurant! My weight seemed to shoot up overnight, and the rest is history! All I can say in retrospect is "Thank God for Spark People." I'm not at my goal yet, but little by little I can nibbling away at the 162 that I carried around for a number of years.

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GGFIRST 3/31/2010 7:58PM

    So many are in the same boat but we are on our way out of that boat thanks to SP!

I was 99 pounds when I graduated from high school.

In 1978 I had my first child, a beautiful 10 1/2 lb baby girl but that's when the weight problem began.

In 1982 I had my second child, a wonderful 9 lb 10 oz little boy, that's when another 10 pounds stayed with me.

After my divorce in 1996 I weighed about 160 lbs.

In 1999 I actually got down to 120.

Then I went back up to 168, then at some point I was down to 130, then I went back up to 150, then I got down to 130 again.

Got married in 2004 I was 130 lbs and then I started gaining again. Started SP Jan 15th at 168 pounds.

Presently at 157. I won't quit until I reach my goal which is no longer 99 pounds. I'll be happy for 130 again. emoticon

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CATLADY52 3/31/2010 7:05PM

    Too true. emoticon

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VITCHY-VICKI 3/31/2010 8:25AM

    At 21 I was married and had two kids also but I have always been heavy and I have always been on a D all my life so nothing new here. But with SP and you I try hard not to go back to what I weighed when I started SP. If I had to do it all over again I would do things a little different. Love my hubby and kids but would have made better chooses.
emoticon Should say WE can do it together.

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LIS193 3/31/2010 12:23AM

    21 is along time ago... I've always had a weight problem and at 21 I was about the same weight as now. Lost a bit, gained a lot and lost a lot again. It turned out my thyroid was not functioning at all.... Anyway, weight is still a struggle and it will always be. The trick is to keep an eye open and take action when it starts to get out of hand. I have a "panic zone" and unfortunately I'm on the lower edge of it now :( Time to take action! (ok I will after we get home next week)

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GRANNYOF05 3/30/2010 11:24PM

    Ah! Yes! It seems like yesterday.

I gradulated from HS at 102 lbs.
I wore a size 5 dress.

When I got married I was 108 lbs. Still in a size 5 dress.

My first pregnancy I got up to 136 lbs. at 9 mo. pregnant.
Oh my!

My second pregnancy I got up to 140 lbs. at 9 mo. pregnant.

My third and last pregnancy I was 156 lbs. at 9 months pregnant.
After he was born I got back down to 135 lbs.

And then I got down to 125, and I thought I was fat.

Slowly the weight started coming back and the yo yo began.

Boy I wish I was 156 lbs. today

Thanks for the memories.


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Living in the Present

Sunday, March 28, 2010

I think a lot of us could improve our lives and our outlooks if we would try harder to "live in the present." It's kind of like living in the moment, or taking one day at a time. Trying not to reflect too seriously on what may or may not have happened in the past, and trying not to be too concerned about what may or may not happen in the future.

I've met a few individuals who seem so layed back that I think they have the system well under control; but for the majority of us, living in the present is difficult, if not impossible. How do you forget (or put out of your mind) that your husband or wife died "x" number of years ago; or if you have a medical problem, how can you space that out and not worry or wonder about the treatment you will have to undergo?

Perhaps the solution that we are all missing here is one of trust. Trusting to take care of the things we have control of, and accepting the things we cannot control. For those of us who find religion comforting, perhaps simple prayer and trusting in God's will is the only way to make it through problems, and still remain calm and happy.

When I say that it is not healthy to live in the past I am certainly not saying that our fond memories of good times from earlier days and years should be forgotten. The good times should always be in our conscious and unconscious minds, reminding us of what life is all about. It's the bad stuff that we should try to put away in some secret little space. After we have accepted it, thought about it, and have healed with the knowledge of it -- put it away, so it doesn't become "baggage" and rule our lives and behaviors! Think only of the good things, and even there, try not to become so engrossed in the past that you forget the good things that are coming your way each and every day. They may be simple little things, but they are still good.

Today I was thankful that I could sleep as late as I wanted in a wonderfully comfortable bed. I enjoyed my cup of fresh coffee and a piece of toast when I got up. And instead of being annoyed with my Scotty, when she woke me (as she was hunry) I felt thankful that I had a sweet, loving, obedient pet to keep me company. Unconditional love, something everyone covets and few have. I was thankful for my beautiful home and my lovely backyard where I can spend pleasant hours pursuing my hobby of gardening. I was thankful for my good health and although I vent and carry on about my 2 or 3 pound weight gain, I am not in the least ashamed of my shape, and for that I am thankful also.

Make a list of the things you are thankful for each and every day -- and try to live in the present instead of reminiscing about the past, or worrying about the future. Today is a present, treat it like one!

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CHARSHALL 3/30/2010 7:47PM

  Scotmama, I am Charlotte1940. I live in Liberty, MO I have joined the retired group so far, I live with my husband of 47 years and our dog. 3 children all grown and flown, 4 grandchildren and 2 great grands!! This is a very encouraging blog and a beautiful page

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ANNANN63 3/30/2010 6:15PM

    Love the picture and love the message. I have done some work on accepting the past and if I think of something good in the past I enjoy the memory; if I think of something bad in the past, I stop and move my thoughts elsewhere. tI is working most of the time. I am just letting the future unfold. It does make me happier than I was before. Great blog.

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DHSPARK 3/29/2010 5:36PM

    The 'ole Serenity Prayer and living in the moment are great thoughts. We (me) beat ourselves up over past mistakes and worry about what may be coming our way (and I've got the white hairs to prove it!).

We should enjoy each and every day. It's the KISS theory...Keep It Simple Silly (don't like Stupid - ya can't "fix" stupid).

emoticon advice from a wise woman. Thanks, Eve!
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4CINDY2010 3/29/2010 7:17AM

  Wonderful blog, Eve. You have a great insight & I hope you have a terrific day. Your Scotty must be precious! ... oh, also, that photo is gorgeous emoticon

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LIS193 3/29/2010 12:18AM

    Beautiful blog - thank you.
Enjoy your dog, she is a precious companion.

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