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Generosity - Another Virtue

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

emoticon No, I'm not just talking "money" here, but more about the feeling of generosity that comes from the heart. Sometimes it involves TIME; other times it involves giving of yourself, perhaps by giving of your talents, your time, your money, your opinion, it could even be giving a compliment. Generosity is a funny thing, the more you give, the more you get. Sometimes it's just giving of your friendship and befriending people.

Be generous with your smiles, after all they are free! Did you ever notice that when you smile at someone you nearly always get a smile in return? And doesn't it brighten up your day just a bit when you receive a smile from someone? Or a kind word -- that's another way of making another person's day a bit brighter. And it costs you nothing at all.

Unless I'm staying home all day, I try to make it a habit to smile at people as I walk through a store, when I'm working at the Library, or when I'm at the gym. And if it happens to be one of those days when I'm home all day, spread the sunshine by making a phone call to a friend. I think it's important to reach out to some of those people you don't see often, because we never know when our time is up (or theirs either).

As far as being generous with your money -- sure, it's a good idea to help people, but do not "enable" them, there is a big difference. One example is how people are always so worried about what they are going to leave their children. The philosophy that I use is that I try to help them if possible now, while I'm alive. At least then I know where the money is going and what it's being spent on. After you're gone -- who knows?? Better to be loved while you are here than to be a happy memory in someone's mind.

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LOVES_ANIMALS 3/25/2010 1:29PM

    Very nice to share, teach, and encourage all at once!


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PAYDAY10 3/25/2010 2:21AM

  This is a good blog.
One persons smile greeting may be the only face that glows for a person as they wish them a good morning. a Good Day greeting can lift their Spirits. Opening a door for someone leaving a store. Some people will be surprised by your thoughtfulness. You can buy a soda or coffee for the person behind you at the drive up window. You can clean the snow off of the windshield of a co-worker's car next to yours in the parking lot. There are so many opportunities if we simply take advantage of them.

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ANNANN63 3/24/2010 6:19PM

    You have a lovely attitude. If each of us did small things to improve where we live, imagine the consequences.

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LIS193 3/24/2010 11:48AM

    Wonderful blog - thank you for smiling my way
Here's a smile back

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STRONGMELISSA24 3/24/2010 11:11AM

    what a great blog! thanks for sharing!

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ENJOYINGMYLIFE 3/24/2010 12:36AM

  smiling atcha.... btw... congrats on reaching your sparkpoint milestone!
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I'm not SLIM; but I AM HAPPY!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Over the past several days I have not been exactly a 'happy camper' as I watched the scales go to higher and higher numbers. Some of the increase was due to poor choices on my part, some was due to a sore back causing me to not get the amount of exercise I would have liked (and obviously needed). But Friday night I was invited to the home of dear friends and I knew the meal would not be the healthiest because they are not quite as dedicated to the "healthy lifestyle" as I happen to be. So would I not eat the meal they had prepared, pushing it around on my plate and pleading 'that I just wasn't hungry' for some reason??? I decided this was a good time to take one of my splurge days that I allow myself once in a blue moon! Did any of you happen to notice the blue moon last nite?

So I arrive in a happy, "I'm ready for anything" type of mood. Accept the glass of wine I was offered, gave them the special carrots that was my contribution to the meal, told them the sauteed mushrooms were terrific with or without teriyaki in my opinion, a baked potato would be wonderful, and I have my steak a nice pink in the middle! I nibbled on some of their almonds as we all chatted and had a wonderful time. The weather in Phoenix was conducive to sitting on the patio, it was about 75+ degrees, but the sun was going down soon, and we did plan on eating on the patio. Dinner was scrumptious! Even the garlic bread which I realize is a no-no, but this was splurge night! I ate two pieces, and had a light beer that contained only 64 calories! I was in heaven!

We skipped dessert -- wasn't that an angelic decision?? But the host reached in his cupboard and pulled down a bottle of something that had been a gift from recent guests. It said 190 proof on the front of the bottle, and he swore it would kill any virus (and probably anything else too) that might be residing in my innards! Ha! He said I should just "sip" on it. Ya, right! If I'd tried to swallow it down in one big gulp it probably would have been my last gulp ever! So maybe after about 20 minutes of sipping I finally finished it off. Admittedly it really wasn't bad tasting, especially if you like the flavor of lemon, but whoa! it was definitely STRONG!

I ignored my scale this morning, and as I walked by it I could have sworn I heard something like a smothered giggle, but I could have been wrong! I did climb on the scale last night before going to bed and that number was so high I did not even want to think about what the morning number might be. It was enough to bring on nightmares!! And today I ate quite healthy, had a wonderful workout at the gym, and tomorrow I will again face the "scale" and see it is has revenge written all over it or........... just maybe, forgiveness!

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VITCHY-VICKI 3/21/2010 9:02AM

    Glad you had a good time and now your back on track

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ENJOYINGMYLIFE 3/21/2010 12:48AM

  The important thing is that you climbed back on track! Everyone lets go sometimes. But you didn't get stuck! Keep making right choices until your next splurge day, just don't make it too soon! Keep on keepin' on! Eventually the weight will start falling off. Blessings, Cathy


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LIS193 3/21/2010 12:40AM

    Great choice - enjoying an evening with good friends without obsessing about every bite is good now and then.

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FREELADY 3/21/2010 12:24AM

    Please do not let the scale sully your happiness an iota. You had a wonderful day.

Sounds like you ate mindfully and savored every bit. That is an essential component of healthy eating.

You have many ordinary situations ahead where you will be more spartan. The weight is going to come off gradually.

Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed your blog.

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JYCAEGIMA 3/21/2010 12:21AM

  Either way, it sounds like it was a lovely night.

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Independence or....just a loner

Thursday, March 18, 2010

I had lunch with a girlfriend today and as we sat talking our "girl talk" I had one of those "a-ha" moments when I realized there is a very fine line between being independent and being a loner.

I have always thought of a loner as someone who didn't really need a daily hug from anyone; the hermit who could happily function in that log cabin on some remote mountain top seeing other humans on a very infrequent basis. On the other hand, independence was merely being able to stand on your own two feet and not needing or desiring any assistance from anyone else. Wanting to make your decisions on your own with little or no input from other people. Knowing what you want and going after it -- on your own, and in your own way.

The people who are of the "clinging vine" variety, always giving hugs and words of encouragement are like an alien species to the independent type. Who needs a hug, when all we want is to be left alone. We heal on our own, taking comfort in the quiet, analyzing our thoughts, working things through in our own mind. We are a puzzle to the other types, and to them we are as foreign as they are to us.

I suppose each type has their own virtues. Closeness and support by others should and could be a good thing; but many independent types feel pressured by too much attention, it stiffles us, causing frustration and creating a need for space.

I don't know what can be done about it, but I can see that when the clinging vine meets up with the loner sparks are going to fly -- or irritation and frustration are going to run rampant. What are your thoughts? Anyone out there married to an exact opposite? And which are you?

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IMEOWASWELL 3/20/2010 3:13PM

  There is a difference in being independent and being a loner. I am of the type that can do things alone , like travel, dine and just stay at home with a good book. I also enjoy the company of others, but I will not be controlled and will do my own thing even in other company. I consider that independent.
I think if I don't like the attention of others than I do have a problem in how I see myself. I would consider that a loner because the lack of confidence on how I was being judged.
We are social animals and do need others even if it is in short periods of time. Mind you there are people we all dislike.

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ANNANN63 3/19/2010 6:24PM

    I learned to be independent early in life. My mother insisted we learn to take care of ourselves and solve our own problems. I never liked being alone but always preferred it to being with people I did not enjoy. I skipped a lot of opportunities to socialize to stay home with a good book.

I always knew I wanted closeness but did well without it. At age 48 I married and have the closeness I want. My husband is a lot like me and I can be alone and do my own thing to a great degree. He tends to "interrupt" me a lot. I mind in the minute but as soon as I realize how much I enjoy having him around, I don't mind anymore.

A description I read years ago fits me well. I am not really
Tugboat Annie but there are not very many people that are ever going to know that.

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PATIENCE - One of the virtues

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

There are many virtues that are admirable, but I think one of the most beneficial, both to ourselves and to those around us; is patience! You can tell the difference immediately when you are talking with someone who is patient vs those who are impatient. The patient person listens to your story, does not interrupt and you know you have their full attention. On the other hand, the impatient person will sit there drumming their fingers, fidgitting and squirming and you feel they are not interested in what you are saying.

Another time patience comes into play is during heavy traffic. The person who is able to take it into stride, relax and enjoy the music playing on the radio gets home in the same amount of time as the other person. The other person gets himself upset and arrives at his destination in a horrible mood.

The more you are able to adapt yourself to a situation without becoming upset the better off you are both mentally and physically. Stress (which can be an offshoot of impatience) can do a lot of harm to your body. So try to relax, think positively and try to have a good outlook.

PS - I have my dog's photo on here because she is the epitome of Patience!

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CATLADY52 3/20/2010 11:16AM

    That is so true. The old fable of the Tortise and the Hare is never more true than when you are on the road. Slow down and smell the roses. emoticon

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4CINDY2010 3/16/2010 5:43PM

  Very true! Thanks for the blog.
ps... I love your doggie photo!

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ANNANN63 3/16/2010 2:43PM

    So true. Great post.


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The Roller Coaster of Life

Friday, March 12, 2010

You know, if the average person had a chart of how their weight goes up and down it would look like a constant zig-zag. When we finally get our a-ha moment and do what it takes to get healthy and start on that downward trend, we are still zig-zagging, but now it starts to do it with lower and lower numbers. When we "fall off the wagon" so to speak, we do it with higher numbers. But those little variations are always with us, kind of like breaathing, or drinking water, it is just a part of our lives. I realize that if you spoke with a nutritionist it would be explained how sodium plays an important role in this up and down process, and also in the amount of water you drink. Do you get your 8 glasses each day? And if you were to speak with a personal trainer, that person would probably stress to you how important it is to get in enough exercise each day to burn up the calories that you are ingesting.

All that sounds well and good until you climb on the scale in the morning after you know you did not make the very best choices at your dinner (in a restaurant) last night. So maybe that artichoke dip and the tortillas you were dipping in there was loaded with fat -- but it was sooooo good. Yes, I did have a full glass of wine too; but I skipped dessert. OK, let's see what the scale has to say, maybe I got off lucky. We did dance several dances at that little place we went to after dinner. So holding your breath, you step on the scale (does it make you heavier or lighter to hold your breath?) you almost hate to look down to see what number the scale has stopped at. Ah! You are exactly as you were Friday morning when you weighed in. It's a good day after all -- and you ARE going to the gym today too!

Other days you may have other results, up 2 pounds or on good days down 1 to 2. But in all of our lives it is difficult to have a steady drop each and every day. As all of us hit those plateau's that can last several days. Whereas on the other hand, when we lose track of what we eat and how much we exercise, when the scale is headed for those "higher" numbers there is no such thing as a plateau, or at least I've never heard anyone complain that "I've hit a plateau" when they are on one of those gaining sprees. No! During that little lull, if there was one, they simply breath a sigh of relief and thank their lucky stars!

I know I have no bottom line to this blog and there is no definite point other than to say "Don't beat yourself up about the ups and downs you will experience as you are on your way to a healthy lifestyle." It is going to happen sooner or later no matter how diligent your efforts are. Just do the very best you can. And give yourself a little (keyword here is "little") treat every so often to give you the encouragement to keep going. No one should have to give up everything they love completely. So eat the Tom & Jerry ice cream, or the creme brulee or whatever your secret weakness is, but do it sparingly.

See ya'all at the goal line!

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GETFITTER7 3/14/2010 9:34PM

    I agree...last week was my first time away to visit out of state. It was my first restaurant venture since Sparks. Did I do bad? Yes and no...I did bad being over 1,000 calories over my limit...but I got a walk in that I didn't expect. Wine,chocolate,shakes, and pizza...yep I did it ALL that weekend. Yes the scale went up, but then down again. Now I am close to my weigh-in day and I am down 2 pounds from my last entry. I'm holding off till my weigh-in. We will see how I do.
I rather check my weight loss by my body than my weight. How my clothes fit or not gives me a better outlook than worry about the numbers on the scale. May your numbers be low on the scale!!!

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MARENAMOO 3/12/2010 1:41PM

    Absolutely agree. We are not trying to get slim just for the size - we are trying to fit more comfortably into our lives - participate more fully. In my life that means a glass of wine and some dancing, an occasional slice of cake etc. It also means eating those things in the context of a healthy lifestyle - mindful eating, vigorous exercise (dancing). If we deprive ourselves too much then it is not lifestyle it is just a diet. If we give too much power to the scale or to food they control us not the other way around. SO be healthy but live your life.

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