Thursday, March 18, 2010
I had lunch with a girlfriend today and as we sat talking our "girl talk" I had one of those "a-ha" moments when I realized there is a very fine line between being independent and being a loner.
I have always thought of a loner as someone who didn't really need a daily hug from anyone; the hermit who could happily function in that log cabin on some remote mountain top seeing other humans on a very infrequent basis. On the other hand, independence was merely being able to stand on your own two feet and not needing or desiring any assistance from anyone else. Wanting to make your decisions on your own with little or no input from other people. Knowing what you want and going after it -- on your own, and in your own way.
The people who are of the "clinging vine" variety, always giving hugs and words of encouragement are like an alien species to the independent type. Who needs a hug, when all we want is to be left alone. We heal on our own, taking comfort in the quiet, analyzing our thoughts, working things through in our own mind. We are a puzzle to the other types, and to them we are as foreign as they are to us.
I suppose each type has their own virtues. Closeness and support by others should and could be a good thing; but many independent types feel pressured by too much attention, it stiffles us, causing frustration and creating a need for space.
I don't know what can be done about it, but I can see that when the clinging vine meets up with the loner sparks are going to fly -- or irritation and frustration are going to run rampant. What are your thoughts? Anyone out there married to an exact opposite? And which are you?
Friday, March 12, 2010
You know, if the average person had a chart of how their weight goes up and down it would look like a constant zig-zag. When we finally get our a-ha moment and do what it takes to get healthy and start on that downward trend, we are still zig-zagging, but now it starts to do it with lower and lower numbers. When we "fall off the wagon" so to speak, we do it with higher numbers. But those little variations are always with us, kind of like breaathing, or drinking water, it is just a part of our lives. I realize that if you spoke with a nutritionist it would be explained how sodium plays an important role in this up and down process, and also in the amount of water you drink. Do you get your 8 glasses each day? And if you were to speak with a personal trainer, that person would probably stress to you how important it is to get in enough exercise each day to burn up the calories that you are ingesting.
All that sounds well and good until you climb on the scale in the morning after you know you did not make the very best choices at your dinner (in a restaurant) last night. So maybe that artichoke dip and the tortillas you were dipping in there was loaded with fat -- but it was sooooo good. Yes, I did have a full glass of wine too; but I skipped dessert. OK, let's see what the scale has to say, maybe I got off lucky. We did dance several dances at that little place we went to after dinner. So holding your breath, you step on the scale (does it make you heavier or lighter to hold your breath?) you almost hate to look down to see what number the scale has stopped at. Ah! You are exactly as you were Friday morning when you weighed in. It's a good day after all -- and you ARE going to the gym today too!
Other days you may have other results, up 2 pounds or on good days down 1 to 2. But in all of our lives it is difficult to have a steady drop each and every day. As all of us hit those plateau's that can last several days. Whereas on the other hand, when we lose track of what we eat and how much we exercise, when the scale is headed for those "higher" numbers there is no such thing as a plateau, or at least I've never heard anyone complain that "I've hit a plateau" when they are on one of those gaining sprees. No! During that little lull, if there was one, they simply breath a sigh of relief and thank their lucky stars!
I know I have no bottom line to this blog and there is no definite point other than to say "Don't beat yourself up about the ups and downs you will experience as you are on your way to a healthy lifestyle." It is going to happen sooner or later no matter how diligent your efforts are. Just do the very best you can. And give yourself a little (keyword here is "little") treat every so often to give you the encouragement to keep going. No one should have to give up everything they love completely. So eat the Tom & Jerry ice cream, or the creme brulee or whatever your secret weakness is, but do it sparingly.
See ya'all at the goal line!
Monday, March 08, 2010
While it may not be entirely true that computers RUN OUR LIVES, it certainly does seem to be true that they are at the core of it. All week-end I received dire warnings from some pop-up that I had a dreaded disease (virus in computer language)! It wasn't a message from Norton, it was something I'd never heard of, and they wanted money to fix it. Did I want them to fix it? When I would say "no" they would not let me on the Internet. I could receive emails, I could even answer emails; but if I tried to click onto one of my emails such as SparkPeople that would take me to the Internet to view it -- you guessed it, NO GO! Frustrating.
My goal is to get at least 50 Spark Points each and every day. Now I could not access any of my threads/teams/nada! Finally this morning I made my way to the local Library and went online there. And until my problems are solved and my computer is up and healthy again, that may be what I'll have to do.
Even worse, when my computer was running smoothly I had signed up for a site called "Incredimail" because the icons and stuff I could use in emails were so cute! You can only access Incredimail from your own computer. What it does is take the mail from your regular email address and transfer it over to this new place called Incredimail. If you never turn your computer on, then you can access your mail from a different computer by using your regular email address and that works great when I'm out of town. But with this virus thing it doesn't want me going to Incredimail, or Quicken, or anything else I'd like to get into.
It made me wonder when my life changed so that I depend on this little machine suddenly to know if I have any money left in the bank! Or what I'm supposed to be doing on any certain day (you know, the Spark Appointment Reminder?) and gee! I don't even know how to find out what's playing at the movies without my computer! Or check the weather! I'm brain dead, all because my computer has a bug! I guess it's contagious -- because when it's sick, I feel out of sorts too!
Hey! I've having a hard time hugging my friends even!! But don't forget me, I'll still out there somewhere!
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