Saturday, January 23, 2010
Some are leaders, some are followers. It's that simple, and each of us know what we are; what we are most comfortable with. I've always fallen into the leader role even when I didn't mean to. It just seemed to come naturally. So it wasn't a surprise after I joined Spark People I began searching through the various Teams, found a couple that I could relate to, and began making friends. But the teams that I chose didn't really suit me. They were either too big, so you didn't really 'know' anyone -- or they were too busy and it was hard to keep track of what everyone was saying without "living on the computer." I didn't join a health site to increase my computer time, so I decided it was time to form my own teams, teams where all the members could relate to one another, form a cozy group and learn to become friends. Hence I started "Retired Seniors."
To me there is nothing better than to get a comment, a Spark Mail, or a Goodie telling me that a Team Member appreciates some little thing I have done. Not only does it make me feel warm and good, it totally surprises me! After all, I'm just reaching out. I feel that if a member posts something about themselves -- someone should answer (even if it's ME). That is what support is all about -- and Spark People is especially full of that benefit for all of us. There are so many caring/sharing people out there that it amazes me. It is easy to see why this site has such a high success rate. It's because of each and every one of it's members who care and share on a daily basis. Sending a Spark Goodie to a friend doesn't seem like a big thing to do, but sometimes for the person receving it -- it makes his/her whole day! And a comment on a blog or Spark Page is another friendly pat on the back. How about when you read on the message board someone's problem or solution that really hits home? Do you smile or just nod your head in agreement, or do you reach out and say the solution helped you or that you shared that problem, and how you handled it?
Chris Downie had the right idea when he hit on the idea of lots of people reaching out to one another with friendship, encouragement, support, actually almost whatever was needed. It is not part of human nature to be alone. It's no wonder this is the #1 Health/Diet/Motivation site in America -- I'm thinking in maybe the whole world, cause we've got an awfully lot of people for other countries on here too!
And do you know what makes it all so successful -- besides the wonderful staff who are all experts in their field? It's US -- each and every member of SP! So get out there and send a Spark Mail to someone, or a Goodie, leave a comment on a Page or a Blog! Make someone's day and I'll bet someone will make yours!
Hugs to all!
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Here in the Phoenix area we are not accustomed to rain! But with storms coming in from four different areas, it's rain we are getting! There was rain on Monday, rain on Tuesday as I tried to take a 92-year old lady to the Library for books (I kept her dry, but couldn't do the same for myself) on Wed. we had a lovely sunny day! Whew! But now on Thursday it's like someone opened the gates to a dam and the water is gushing out like there is no end to it. All day long I have heard the sound of rain pounding on my patio roof. I look out the front and the sidewalks are shiny wet with rain. No! I did not walk out in the rain to get my mail -- it will still be there tomorrow! And hopefully, the rain will not.
I needed comfort foods today, isn't that what you should do when it rains? Cocoa and popcorn, and a fireplace blazing! I don't have a fireplace so that scene is out but I searched my cupboards for popcorn. No luck, and then I remembered when I thought there were too many calories in popcorn, so I gave my stash to a friend. And cocoa isn't the same without the other stuff. But tonight I knew I didn't want to eat my usual big green salad. So I listened to my body and decided what would really, really taste good was French toast (with sliced bananas). So that's what I had along with a big tall glass of milk. And you know what? I don't even feel like nibbling tonight, so that's a big, big plus!
"Walkin' in the rain, just walkin' in the rain.....what a wonderful.................
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
and how do you respond to them? Can you take them with a grain of salt? Do they depress you, excite you, fill you with anticipation or weigh you down? Are you afraid of them or do you open your arms in welcome? We have probably all responded to those uncertain times, the things that life throws at you in ALL of the manners described above. Some uncertain or unexpected things can be joyful, fun to experience and give us those breathless moments we all long for in life. But most of the unexpected turn of events aren't viewed as happy times at all. The serious illness or death of a loved one. The car breaking down. An accident. Even a bad report card, whether it be ours or our children's. Some are little, some are big, some are little blips while yet others are mountains - too high to be scaled and certainly too big to ignore!
I realize when I was younger I did not take as much time to reminisce as I do today. Perhaps it is a sign of old age, or of more wisdom. When I was young life held many responsibilities, not only to and for myself, but there were children, a husband, pets, and duties......it was the duties that seemed to go on forever. But now, gone are the days when one of my children tells me at 8:00 p.m. that he or she has to bring 2 dozen cupcakes to school tomorrow, or dig out the note from the teacher that he has gotten in trouble yet again. The unexpected events in my life today seem to be filled with phone calls or emails that a dear friend just had a heart attack or that my friend across town has just been diagnosed with cancer.
How does one ever become accustomed to these unexpected and unwanted turn of events that plague us throughout our lives? There is no clear cut answer to a question like that. We all know that we won't live forever, and neither will our loved ones, but it doesn't lessen the pain and heartbreak we experience when one of them is taken from us. And yes, they never do live "long enough." Not long enough to suit us.
I think all I can offer is to live each day as though it is the precious gift that life really is! Take the time to smell the roses, take that nap if you're tired, eat that piece of candy, and tell your friends and loved ones that you care for them. Then perhaps, just perhaps, when you get one of those calls or emails about someone being taken from you, you can smile and remember all the fun times you had together.
I read somewhere that life isn't about how many breaths you take, but about the moments that left you breathless! I want more breathless moments in my life, don't you?
Sunday, January 10, 2010
I blog because I like to write, it's almost like talking to a dear friend. Granted, that would be a friend who had very little to say as it's me, me, me doing all the talking here. But regardless, it is like sitting down and writing an email to a friend, or chatting on the phone.
My Sundays are a time for ME! A time to do what I want, when I want and how I want; and never with any feelings of guilt. I can eat a dish of ice cream (the full fat version) or make a batch of cookies and make myself sick from eating raw cookie dough. I can wear my PJ's all day and lay down and read until my eyes droop closed and I'm napping. Or.... in a burst of energy I can work in my yard and forget all about eating lunch. It's so peaceful and healing to be outside working on trimming shrubs, blowing stray leaves onto the lawn and then sucking them all up into the lawn mower as I cut the grass and clean the yard all at the same time! It is better for me than paying hundreds of dollars to a shrink -- it is my think time and for me, a time for meditation. I can go shopping and 'shop til I drop.' And if you know me at all, you know that is the most unlikely of all the scenarios that I've thus described. And how do I know about all the various ways of spending my Sunday? Because I've tried them all, and for whatever mood I may have been in, I've enjoyed them all equally!
Isn't it time YOU had a little me time? A time to spend on yourself, a time to indulge? You'd be a better person for it, and it would energize you to go back to being everything for that important 'someone' in your life.
it's what life is all about!
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