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Question of the day (ladies only):

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Why is it that you can pluck your eyebrows wrong *just once* and then you spend the rest of your life filling them in with a pencil, but you can pluck the same "witches hair" out of your chin for twenty years and it just keeps growing back????? emoticon

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MONKEYGIRLRAIN 3/22/2010 12:38PM

    wax wax wax! That is my answer... but I have to admit, the witch hair does come back from time to time! Damn.


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CANYOWALII 3/21/2010 8:24PM

    Yeah! Mine sneak up on me and then it practically takes an act of god to pull it out of my chiny chin chin.


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ROOBYBEGONIA 3/21/2010 5:46AM

    I have a very faint blond mustache - I use a Nair made especially for facial hair. It's much more gentle, works really well, goes a long way, and you don't get stubble. I've had my lip hair waxed a couple of times, and I've had a reaction both times. I'm a freckled redhead, and my skin is really sensitive.

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PUDLECRAZY 3/21/2010 4:06AM

    emoticonIt stinks, doesn't it?

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SWIM_2_SLIM 3/20/2010 10:49PM

    Life just isn't fair for a woman!!! lol

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MARY1313 3/20/2010 10:09PM

    LOL! I will join the club. I have the perverbial mustache and my hair is dark red so you can see it. I bleach it, but sometimes I shave it too. ACK!!

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HIPPICHICK1 3/20/2010 9:49PM

    yeah....why *IS* that?

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STARLASUE 3/20/2010 9:48PM

    Oh Dear! I actually do shave! LOL Every day since I was about 35! Too many to pluck. Seriously, I am lucky to be a natural redhead or I'd have a 5 o'clock shadow.

My kids made me promise I'd never let my face hair get out of control like my mom's and other females in the family. They were all dark haired and the face hair was obvious. So after talking with the dermatologist shaving is the cheapest option we came up with.

BTW, it is an old wives tale that it gets coarser and heavier if you shave. Mine has not changed much in the 20 years I have been shaving. But you do need to extra careful about razor burn and nicks - takes practice. Not so attractive on ladies.

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SCOOTER4263 3/20/2010 3:58PM

    LOL Excellent!!

And as for you, Mel ... your turn will come!

Thanks, guys. That was fun.

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WRITERGIRLMEL 3/20/2010 3:28PM

    Because God really does have a sense of humor, and everyone has to be the punchline at some point!

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SHERYLDS 3/20/2010 1:58PM

    see for an interesting blog on this. enjoy

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TEDDYTEDDY 3/20/2010 1:25PM

    Yep, I got one of them wirey chin hairs and it comes out about every 3 weeks or so and drives me crazy.... also have the salt and pepper eybrows and whenever I try to pluck one of the grey ones I always accidentally get a dark one. and then there are the black ones that curl all over the place and when I pluck them I don't have any eyebrows left...guess it comes with age.... emoticon

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SOULCOLLAGESUE 3/20/2010 11:45AM

    That's a good enough question for Wikipedia, lol! (No solutions here.)

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DHSPARK 3/20/2010 11:38AM

    That's a "hairy" topic! I wonder that same thing...LOL! I'm always saying, "I'm going to go 'shave' now (which means plucking)". At least they're turning white so others don't see the hair but I feel it!

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Okay, I'll try the "Revealing Questionnaire"

Friday, March 19, 2010


"Not as easy as you might think! Copy and Paste into your own blog, change the answers to suit you. It's really hard to only use one word answers. "

Where is your cell phone?


Your hair?

Your mother?

Your father?

Your favorite thing?
Silence (wish I'd said Life, too)

Your dream last night?

Favorite drink?
Lemonade (or Scotch....)

What room are you in?

Your hobby?

Your fear?

Where do you want to be in 6 years?

Where were you last night?

Something that you aren't?


Wish list item?
Socks! (C'mon, Sue...Peace?)

Last thing you did?

What are you wearing?

Your pets?


Your life?

Your mood?

Missing someone?

Gin *cough*

Your car?

Something you're not wearing?

Your favorite store?

Your favorite color?

When is the last time you cried?

Where do you go over and over?

Five people who email me regularly?

Favorite place to eat?

Favorite place I'd like to be right now?

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SOULCOLLAGESUE 3/20/2010 11:59AM

    Yes, peace. I already have plenty of socks, lol! Glad you shared, too. It's fun to learn about one another (and the one word leaves just enough mystery *cough* emoticon

I'm not sure who started this. I took mine from SimpleLife4Real and titled it "revealing." Kind of like that game we played as kids...telephone? (whispering a phrase in one another's ear until it came out strange by the last kid).

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This, too, shall pass.

Friday, March 19, 2010

"This, too, shall pass" is right up there with, "Trials are what help us grow as human beings" as things that we know are true, yet are so hard to remember when we're in the midst of it

Looking back over half a century of bone-headed moves, pure rotten luck, and the ineffable tragedy of losing people I loved, I can honestly say that I wouldn't have skipped a single one of them because I *did* grow, and grow straighter and stronger, because of each of these "oddly right" endings. But going through some of them was unmitigated hell.

I used to wish I had a Tomorrow Button, a button I could push to make the current day and its challenges disappear into the past. Now, though, I realize that not only would I be about 104 by now (deferred gratification never being my long suit, that button would have gotten a righteous workout) but I would still be essentially the same person I was at 20.

I was a whole lot better looking then - skinny, lots of hair, gorgeous skin - but I was also self-involved, greedy, short-sighted, reckless and more than a little crazy. (Now that i think about it, those last two may still obtain.) Thirty-odd - some of them very odd *rim shot* - years later, I've gotten my share of mental and emotional scars, but those scars have etched out a person I never would have suspected was possible. Not that I'm wonderful and perfect and all that silly stuff, but I realized that I've learned compassion for others and a willingness to share - stuff, money, strength, ideas, whatever.

When I was 20, I had so much going for me - all the temporal, worldly stuff was going great guns - but I was miserable. Now I have a heckuva lot less in many areas, and a few hefty challenges to lug around daily, but I'm (dare I say it?) *happy*. Both my girls came home to enjoy my birthday with me the other day and although neither one shopped for me (one because of school, the other because of finances) I didn't feel the least little bit overlooked or shorted. All I wanted was my family, and I got that gift.

And I listen for the gentle whoosh of angel wings and I hear them, and they comfort me.

Oh, and yesterday's closing line, "It's all in the playing" is the title of a book by Shirley MacLaine. Should have attributed it. My bad.

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SWIM_2_SLIM 3/20/2010 10:54PM

    We do learn and grow from the hard knocks in life, but you are right. We become the person we are supposed to be. It isn't always easy, but we are right where we are supposed to be!!!

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HIPPICHICK1 3/20/2010 10:17AM

    Why is it that we only learn to BE HERE NOW when we are waaaaaaay past our so-called prime? Hey, maybe our PRIME is NOW!

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PUDLECRAZY 3/20/2010 8:42AM

    After reading Sue's entry and your response, I had to visit your blog. Excellent thoughts - thanks for sharing.

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SHERYLDS 3/19/2010 10:12AM

    Kung Fu Panda Wisdom 'Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, But Today is a Gift, that is why it is called the Present'....Who knew I would learn something watching cartoons with my Godchild. May today give you something to smile about

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GRAVER473 3/19/2010 9:49AM

    It's so true that it's difficult to remember that it will get better. If you ever find said tomorrow button, please let me know where to obtain one! You'll do well, best of luck to you!

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Thursday, March 18, 2010

Tears and laughter.

Two years ago, my mother was dying. I lived with her through the end. All the following year was a nightmare of two houses - both under construction - probate, both daughters off to college, husband with failing health, bank accounts with failing economy.

Then one day, it was all over. I was over losing my mother (as much as one ever is.) The daughters were happy at their respective colleges, and I was (sort of) over the upset of having them move out. The husband was apparently healthy. The estate was settled. The construction was over. (The bank account hadn't recovered, but at least it had stopped losing money.)

Then things slowly, slowly started heading downhill again, gathering momentum. The roof started leaking in mysterious places. We had six (*six*) cars on the insurance policy, and not a one of them was roadworthy. Barn tried to fall down. We began positively hemorrhaging money. And husband took a major turn for the worse and was apparently beyond medical help.

But now, after much maneuvering, husband is properly diagnosed and is once again on the mend. One daughter is graduating this year and will be moving back home (just in case I had plans for her room...) for a year before grad school. My mother's house is being rented out and will bring us a nice steady income.

I realize that the tides will likely turn again some day... good times will fall into a slump, bad ones crawl out of the ditch... but sometimes I wonder if it's all in my approach. Are the good times *really* so different from the bad? Sure, some of the markers - health, finances - are up and/or down, but maybe the rest is "good" or "bad" because of how I squint my eyes when I look at it.

I read an interesting thing the other day - a rating of the fifty states in terms of the happiness of the inhabitants. The state with the highest happiness rating was Louisiana, she of the Katrina devastation, low per capita income and general bad doings. (This was before the Saints SuperBowl win, too.) Makes you wonder if money, houses, even jobs are all that important in the long run. A friend of mine was in New Orleans a year or so ago and returned to tell me that, "Those people still don't have nothin'." Yet they're *happy*.

Maybe it really is all in the playing.

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HIPPICHICK1 3/20/2010 10:25AM

    Sounds like life has thrown you for more than one loop lately. The way I see it is that the Universe (or God or Buddha or Allah...they're all the same to me) never puts more on your plate than you can handle. You handled all of that stuff on the recent past, no? Maybe you could ask for a smaller serving in the future?

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Dear Medical Profession: what are you thinking??

Friday, March 12, 2010

This has been going around in my head for some time now - let me know what you guys think.

When my husband was first diagnosed with hepatitis, our family doctor decided she was out of her depth and sent him to a gastroenterologist. He's asymptomatic, so when the gastroenterologist (henceforth known as Dr. B) offers him a two year drug protocol with heavy-duty side effects and a poor chance of success, he passes on it.

Husband also had small raised dots on his shins and arms - doctor (not Dr. B, but another gastroenterologist in his group) said that he didn't know what it was exactly, but he guaranteed that it wasn't connected with the hepatitis.

Time passes....

His hepatitis starts to catch up to him last summer - he has a major weight loss, massive fatigue, slightly jaundiced, the whole deal. Back we go to Dr. B, who says (and this is close to a direct quote), "I could have cured you five years ago, but I can't cure you now. The most we can do for you is try to manage your symptoms." Dr. B then gave him 4-6 months to live and sent us home. (Please note the language here - not "you could have been cured", but "*I* could have cured you.")

A month or two later (after a couple of nasty events involving brief hospitalizations), we go back to Dr. B who offers the same drug protocol as several years ago, but with a reduced dosage of only one of the drugs, explaining that this would hold off further cirrhotic damage and let DH hold on until later this year when some snazzy new drug combo would be available.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, we have, well, me. I have a history of what I like to think of as social activism - other people have been less complimentary, using terms like "loose cannon." At any rate, I was unwilling to accept the prognosis and through a series of events chronicled here in earlier posts, found a hepatologist (and as many times as I've written that, I still keep writing "herpetologist" ) at Mt Sinai Hospital in NYC. We took the train down there, saw the new doctor (Dr. D) and got an entirely different diagnosis, prognosis, and treatment.

Turns out 1) husband isn't likely to die momnentarily, 2) the new drug won't be available until at least next year (awaiting FDA approval), and 3) the drug treatment recommended by Dr. B would likely have made the cirrhosis *worse* and the virus stronger rather than weaker. Oh, and remember that skin problem? Turns out it's something called lichen planus, and it is 100% associated with hepatitis.

So here's the question: what about all the other people? The ones who don't have a hardhead like me who'll hunt up a specialist, and are lucky enough to have the time and financial wherewithal to drop everything and go to NYC for two days? The ones that are stuck with Dr. B and his friends - after all, he was recommended by the family practitioner and is reputed to be one of the better gastroenterologists in the Syracuse area.

Obviously, this doctor and his buddies should stick to what they know - acid reflux, colonoscopies and the like. (And believe me, I'm not belittling those things.) But why would they present themselves as doctors who not only know the score on liver disease, but know it so well that they can tell someone they'll never see another birthday? Are they so cock-sure of themselves that they don't know what they don't know?

And what about those other people... that's what I keep coming back to. Hepatitis is one of the fastest-growing major health issues in the world, so do those people just go see Dr. B and company, get their poor prognosis and/or drugs of little value, then just go home and die like good patients?

What about those people?

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HIPPICHICK1 3/20/2010 10:44AM

    WOW! Just wow. Dr B. needs his license revoked. What a poor excuse for a doctor.
I'm with you on the social activism thing and I too have been called names for it, like steamroller and $hit disturber, but I don't really care. If my health or the health of a loved one is a stake, then I'll be steamroller, baby....gonna roll all ovah yoooooo!!
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Oh great. I just gave myself an ear worm.

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WRITERGIRLMEL 3/14/2010 11:17AM

    In my opinion, the number one thing patients can do to improve the quality of their own care is to be a "hardhead." The problem is, as you've pointed out so nicely, it really does take resources many people simply don't have to be one. Far too many patients are stuck seeing the only doctor their insurance covers or are unable to seek second opinions because of financial limitations. I'm so glad you were able to be a hardhead. Everyone else: ask questions, do your research, and use your brain. A doctor's word isn't infallible.

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BUTRFNGRZ 3/13/2010 9:03AM

    Thank goodness for people like you who are able to track down the truth! Just keep spreading the word and getting the info out to as many people as you can.

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STARLASUE 3/13/2010 9:02AM

    The sad part is that more people than not blindly follow what their doctor says. They either do not have the smarts or inclination to speak up when something isn't right. We really MUST be our own advocates and advocates for those we love.

Good blog. Sorry you had to have those experiences to write about.

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SHERYLDS 3/13/2010 8:51AM

    We need to remember that the health profession is a business, and the insurance companies have become the executive managers of that corporation. It's a sad state of affairs but reality. Luck is on the side of people like you who have the intelligence to delve further and the will to pursue better answers. Wishing you and your Husband, good health.

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YARELL 3/13/2010 7:05AM

    I too am a patient activist... but it is up to us, not the Dr's. They only do what they do and get away with what they do... (am NOT belittling them at all) because we let them. Most people take what they say as gospel, believe the myth that they aren't suppose to bother the Dr with all those questions... when in fact ethical Dr's want to hear them, they want to hear about all the symptoms, it makes their job easier! Ask them, they will tell you.
They want you to bug and bother them, write down, in detail what you want to go over with them and take it, and someone else with you.
Ask MrsFixit about that! She took pages of questions when she went to Roswell. That way no one forgets something. Amd you can never tell when something is important, like that rash!
Way to go, stepping out and making someone listen. Sounds like you need to NOT got back to Dr B again. He sounds like a demigod, or thinks he is.

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ADEVORES 3/13/2010 6:57AM

    I complete agree with you. I think you should write a letter - similar to this blog and send it to both the family practitioner and the first gastroenterologist you saw. Sounds like they both could use to hear about your experience. And even if it doesn't work on Dr. B, it might give the FP doctor a second thought about where he refers his patients.

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WANDAC2013 3/13/2010 12:53AM shows that we all need to get informed and be willing to stand up for ourselves. No one doctor or group of doctors can know everything about all things are always being learned. You're husband is lucky to have you! And, for all the others....God help them.

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