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Just for fun - quiz from HIPPIECHICK

Thursday, November 18, 2010

. Who used to be your superhero when you were a child?
I don't recall having one. The only superheros I remember were Superman and Mighty Mouse, and I didn't like either one of them.

2. Most hated chore on the chore list?
Unloading the dishwasher.

3. If you were to start your own restaurant, what would it be called?
The Asylum

4. Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?
Betsey Johnson perfume.

5. If you had to only eat three things for the rest of your life, day in and day out, what would they be?
Apples, potatoes and coffee.

6. What are you listening to right now?
Nothing - I'm not a big radio or tv person. But when I"m doing housework, I like NPR.

7. What's the last sporting event you watched?
In person? My daughter's rugby game (they were State Champs!)

8. When was the last time you drove out of town?
Yesterday - where I live, pretty much anything is out of town.

9. Have you been to the movies in the last 5 days?
Nah. It'll come out on the television soon enough, or my other daughter can Torrent it for me.

10. What was the last thing you had to drink?

11. Last food that you ate?
Oatmeal. (Goodness, my life is exciting!)

12. If you were a time traveler and could only go back in time or forward in time, which would you choose?

13. If you could tell your best friend one thing that you canít stand about him/her what would it be?
To stop talking occasionally so other people can slide a word in edgewise! (But I love her anyway.)

14. If you were to be famous what would you like to be known for?
Writing well and being kind.

15. What does your last text message say?
"The weather here is lousy - you still coming here today to finish the siding, or waiting til tomorrow?"

16. How early do you start holiday shopping?
When the mood strikes, which can be anywhere from June to December, or when I see a perfect thing for someone, which I invariably lose by the time the holidays roll around..

17. If you wrote a movie, what would the title be?
Free. Radical.

18. When did you first realize you needed to change your lifestyle food-wise?
I was raised to eat properly, so I didn't have so much of an epiphany as just realizing I needed to quit the nonsense. And I realize this approximately once a week.

19. What color ink do you prefer to write with?
Black. Medium for writing, fine for puzzles and drawing.

20. What was your favorite toy as a child?
The outside world - we lived in what was then the country (Now it's a suburb of Philadelphia.) Indoors, I liked jigsaw puzzles, and I still do! I even collect wooden ones.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/21/2010 11:31PM

    I had to laugh at your buying holiday gifts early and losing them. I have way too many around here that I find occasionally.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/19/2010 10:26PM

    I could totally see a restaurant called The Asylum. Heck, they have a Holy Grail near here in a former Catholic church!

I sense a theme with coffee! LOL!

My best girl friend is the same way, actually, but it suits me fine because I'm on the quiet side!

Writing well and being kind, gee, I like those! And your movie title could really, really work!

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SHERYLDS 11/18/2010 1:56PM

    only 3 things to eat:
chicken (everything else taste like chicken), salmon and Godiva dark chocolate
Hey, I've got my priorities

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HIPPICHICK1 11/18/2010 12:55PM

    Love your answers to #3, #17 and #20.
I like to do the occasional puzzle and actually have one of belly dancers!

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SHERYLP461 11/18/2010 10:46AM

    Good questions!

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Win a few, lose a few, clarify some goals, try to make a few decisions..

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Win: the sunroom, which was added to the house two years ago (more or less) will finally be sided by tomorrow - all the windows closed in, soffits added, all that good stuff. Oh, and I put a door in the frame to the the back stairs, so the cold air from the second floor storage will stop wailing down into the kitchen. I have a big door to add to the front of the house, to seal out the cold there, and Paul (the most recent workman) is bringing a storm/screen combo door to put over the kitchen door, which will, I hope, prevent the little snowdrifts from forming against the kitchen wall when it's windy.

Lose: it's costing twice what the estimate was, and taking twice as long, and it still isn't heated properly (or at all.) That project is yet to be completed, but the plan is to run water heater registers around the baseboards on two walls - should be enough, and not a big project. I just hope we get it done before winter. Something else I hope we get finished is cutting wood for the outside furnace. Oh, and one more thing: I fell over the porch (don't ask) and smacked up my body pretty badly. I suspect tomorrow morning is going to consist of lots of surprise pain and bruising. I don't think anything's broken, but we'll know for sure tomorrow. (You ever notice how everything hurts worse if you're injured because you've been stupid?)

Goals: I've realized that above all else, what I really want is to have the house and the grounds cleaned up and ready for winter. Seriously. I can't stand living in this chaos. Even my Getting Healthy goals are taking a back seat to these projects. The good part is that all this cleaning up and working is using lots of calories and certainly has to count as exercise (and if it doesn't, don't tell me.)

Indecision...I have about 3/4 of an inch of grey roots. To dye my hair, or let it grow out grey? The country woman/hippie part of me says to let nature take its course; the part of me that grew up in a big city and still wants to look good (or as good as I can at this age and weight) says for goodness sakes, dye, pluck and do whatever else we can think of. When I was an extremely buff landscaper, I still wore make-up to work - hey, why not look your best? I can't decide if giving all that up is a healthy moving on or an unhealthy throwing in of the towel.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/15/2010 11:49PM

    You are getting an amazing amount done. I want to get ready for winter too.

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HHOUSE8 11/15/2010 10:08AM

    You have lots of great ideas and support here. Yay for that! One of the 'Happy Hippies' sent me this link a while back:


We use it in our 'Progressive Walking Party' as we walk from member to member's home across the country. When you find your activity and do the math, divide by 2000 and you get your miles. Add those miles to your fitness tracker. :)

As for the hair - such a personal decision, isn't it? If you do it, find a way to have it not be harmful to your body... if there is such a thing.

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HIPPICHICK1 11/15/2010 9:41AM

    Your goal of winterizing IS def. a calorie burner. All you need to do is eat well and you have accomplished two goals in one.

I decided back in June to stop dyeing my hair for one reason:
It's a lot of trouble and seems to need touching up every 3 weeks.

Now we have a new septic system and putting stuff like that down the drain will destroy the much needed bacteria in the tank and ruin the system. So basically unless I go out to the salon for a dye job, I can't dye my hair. I don't have $150 to spend on my hair every month!

P.S. Dark hair dye is still carcinogenic. That should be reason enough for ALL of us to stop dyeing our hair. I didn't know this before but when I found out I was glad that I've only been using dark hair dye for the past 6 years. Before that I'd used henna but it makes gray hair rather orange-looking and that's not a good look for anyone! Unless it's Halloween!!

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    I vote going platinum blonde.... the grey roots will barely show then!

Hope you're not too owie from your bumble.... apply liberal amounts of ice and a judicial amount of Scotch mixed with a couple fingers of ginger ale (not too much though, it may lead to further bumbling!)

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PUDLECRAZY 11/15/2010 7:57AM

    LOL! The hair! I still like to color mine. Teaching preadolescent children demands a lot of energy. When I look in the mirror and see my hair looking shiny and colorful, I feel more umph. I guess it depends on how much you really like the color of your hair gray.

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STARLASUE 11/15/2010 6:57AM

    Not sure about the hair thing. As a redhead mine is going white slowly. It is the snow white my grandmother had and it is rather nice.I think I will let God finish coloring it for me. If I had my dad's gun grey or my other's dull grey, I might decide differently. :-) Aren't Ijust so helpful?

Enjoy your sunroom. May you find healing LIGHT within its walls.

Bright Blessings

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WONDERFUL2BME 11/15/2010 2:00AM

    I let my hair go "natural" for 2 years until I saw pictures of me and thought "oh my god, I just don't feel that old" so I reverted back to coloring and it really does make me feel better! The dyes now days don't seem as toxic as they use to be, so for now, I will be the best I can be!

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ENUFF81020 11/15/2010 12:02AM

    Hi there,

I feel your discomfort. We are doing a ton of jobs around here to be ready for family at Thanksgiving--and given the fact that zI cannot stand for long or do a lot at one time, I am relying on my husband and our kids to do the work, They are working, but not as quickly or with the care at things that I do. I am having to keep my mouth quiet because I need this stuff done--everything from reorganizing cabinets to rebuilding a floor and repairing a couple of lousy ceiling areas and a new toilet and sink and so on... It is a total mess around here-- we are switching around a couple of the kids into different bedrooms too. Everything is chaotic and it is making my skin crawl. I guess the good thing is that I know when this will all be done, lol. At least it had better be ready before our family comes for Thanksgiving!! (And I still need to plan the meal and start getting food organized... lets see, our eight children, my sister and brother-in-law, my brother-in-law, our nephew, his wife and new baby, and my brother, his wife and their three kids. I have a lot to do and this monkeying around is getting old.

We will survive and it will get done, but you and I have to take some deep breaths and be flexible. I am sad that they are going over the estimate in costs that you expected--that is one thing that I am getting away from. When they do that, they kind of have you at their mercy and that seems pretty unfair. I hope that it comes together quickly.

Best wishes on your beautifully remodeled home!!
Gentle hugs,

PS--I went through the hair thing too--and I finally colored it. I must have waited the right amount of time or did it at the right time, because I have gotten a ton of compliments and questions about why I am looking so "cute these days." Ha ha--just me and Clairol get this!!

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BETHGILLIGAN 11/14/2010 8:39PM

    I love sunrooms!! i hear you about getting everything ship shape before winter. You will feel better about you if you are not living in chaos!! I say do the hair!! It obviously meant something to you or you would just let it grow. Do not throw in the towel!! I say fight the age thing till the bitter end!! LOL

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SUZYMOBILE 11/14/2010 8:33PM

    Oh, that sunroom sounds like heaven! We have huge portions of our place without heat, and we put an electric fireplace in the sunroom that works pretty good for the limited amount of time we might want to sit there during the winter.

I think the projects are VERY good for you, and of course the calories count! IMHO there's nothing worse than trying to live amidst chaos.

If you used to enjoy doing your hair, DO it! You looked great in one of your photos where your hair is raven black.

Sending you healing thoughts for any potential bumps and bruises--NO breaks, sprains, or tears, please!

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SHERYLDS 11/14/2010 8:07PM

    Do the hair...You need to feel good about yourself and a little pampering is good therapy . Hope you feel better tomorrow.

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Summary and ... other stuff. New beginning.

Friday, November 12, 2010

I don't really know where to begin, and this being at a loss for words is new for me - as anyone who's read my longer-than-the-blog comments knows.

My husband had more than his share of health challenges but no one expected him to die, least of all, me. Nevertheless, die he did, and I'm still trying to figure out how to proceed from here. It looks like I'm going to be a hay farmer, at least for the time being, since he bought all this.... stuff... with that goal in mind. I don't even know what half of it is - some of the things look more like a cross between a carnival ride and a helicopter crash than actual farm equipment.

Money disasters? Nah, you don't want to hear about them. Everybody's got a money disaster story this year, and some are a lot more interesting than mine.

My house is pretty much destroyed. I spent all of August and September caring for my husband, frequently in hospitals far from home, and October and November being Stuck. I finally figured out that the reason I was Stuck is because some part of me thought that if nothing changed at all, if nobody moved, then maybe time would somehow stand still and I'd get John back. Since that obviously isn't going to happen, now I need to dig in and get the mess cleaned up - not just his things, but the living room and the laundry room and you name it, it's a colossal disaster.

One of the rooms I couldn't bring myself to go into was the kitchen. Cooking and eating together were things John and I enjoyed doing, and doing it alone seemed wrong and just too sad. So I lived on apples with cheese or peanut butter (apple tree out back), microwave popcorn, takeout and Scotch. And I didn't move. For six weeks.

So, somewhere between July and now, I gained ten pounds.

I'm beginning to UnStick. I've taken walks every day recently and have begun to sort through the two laundry baskets full of mail and paperwork. I bought some vegetables. I have good days and bad days, and I don't push myself too hard but I am beginning to push a little bit - I'm afraid if I don't, I'll stick in the quagmire forever.

And I'm starting over, six pounds heavier than when I first started here almost a year ago.

I'm opening a new chapter in my life - new in almost every way, with no husband, no kids at home, no set path - and I'm interested to see what will happen next

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A10TIVTRTL 12/18/2010 9:39AM

    Hippichick is right - don't even think about your weight right now. Keep moving and keep unsticking and yes, any female friends that might help would be a good idea - except JaneDoe, you can leave that comfort food at home! I'd like to for-real live on that road with you, too, Scooter - but at least we do get to connect on Spark Street.

My husband just lost his best friend to an aneursym and he is devastated and depressed. Reading what you said about your own stuck time has helped me understand a little better what he is going through, so thank you for sharing your story.

Take care of yourself, take care of yourself, take care of yourself.

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UUCEEJAY 12/4/2010 7:11PM

    emoticon One day at a time. Give yourself a lot of pats on the back for every little thing you manage to do. Baby steps will lead to bigger steps.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/15/2010 11:45PM

    You have come long way and are starting a new life. We will be here to help in any way we can.

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ENUFF81020 11/15/2010 12:12AM

    Hi there,
I'm late in getting here--but I want to express my sheer awe at your understanding of your feelings and needs and the way you share them. I love the names "Stuck" and "Unstuck." It seems as if you are ready to move on again, starting out gently, but going where you need to go. You have had a lot of activity in your life recently with the illnesses and hospital and John's death--but now, things are slowing down and giving you a chance to put your stamp on things again. As I read this, I believe that you are on your way and all that you need is a bit of help from your friends. Take advantage of any offers you get and don't be afraid to hint or to flat out ask for help. Most people are waiting to be asked, so go for it, with jobs that are too big or too much for you to handle on your own. If you want company, get some and if you want to be alone, do that. You are getting unstuck and you are finding your way. Keep it up!!

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HHOUSE8 11/14/2010 7:20AM

    I followed Hippichick here and am moved by how real and true you write. Sorry for your loss and all that entails. It seems that though this is a massively challenging time, it is the beginning of something....a new life of sorts. There's hope in here. You are awake, aware, reaching out, staying conscious. Remember to forgive yourself when you forget. I'm with hippichick - Call in the troops! I find that people WANT to help each other, we mostly never know what to do though. The more you can muster up the gumption to ask for help, the sooner the path will reveal itself to you.

Take good care....
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PAULA3420 11/13/2010 11:06PM

    I'm sorry I haven't been around much to give my support. Have been missing you and as I read your blog, I saw your determination and inner strength shine through and growing stronger with each step you took.

Do you have friends and/or family that can come and help support you as you get Unstuck?? I know there have been times when I needed and cherished the help from others. If it be for you, I wish it for you.

And, I so agree, the weight will fall off as you move. If, I can ever do anything for you, Please just Shout. emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 11/13/2010 10:24AM

    It's so nice to see you here on Spark and blogging. I'd been thinking about you lately and wondering how you were.

I'm happy to hear that you have chosen to get UnStuck.

May I offer you a suggestion? Call in "the troops." Call in your women friends and get them to help you with all the tasks that are too much for you alone, whether it is doing laundry, cooking a meal or packing up stuff that needs to go. Accept all the help you can get. Then ask the Universe to send you someone to help you with the farming. Don't worry that you can't afford to hire someone. You didn't ask the Universe to send you an employee, you asked for help. Help is free. So ask.

Don't worry about your weight right now. It simply isn't as important as getting UnStuck plus it will probably just drop off of you because you have made a choice to eat well again and walk.

I honestly wish I lived close by, then I could come and cook you dinner and have a scotch with you and give you a hug too.

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CINDYC53 11/13/2010 2:36AM

    So nice to click on your page tonight to check in on you and read this blog. We're all here for you, cheering you on, or just being present if you feel like talking.
I agree with the advice to take care of yourself, in a loving & gentle way. Hopefully that will help with the unsticking.
I liked reading in your last blog about your trip & time with your daughters. When I went through a very sad divorce 10 years ago, my grown daughter was my greatest friend & refuge. I'm glad you have two to lean on.
I'm going to bed - but sending you love & warmest thoughts.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/12/2010 8:55PM

    It makes my heart warm that you're beginning to "unstick"! It reminds me of the exercises I'm doing now, for a frozen shoulder. I have to stretch to the edge of pain if I'm going to be able to move my arm normally again. It hurts to stretch that way, but I feel the circulation and the free movement coming back. I'm so happy that's happening to you, too!

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JANEDOE12345 11/12/2010 5:21PM

    Can we please move to the same road? I would so love to come to your house and hang out. I'll bring the comfort foods!

I am glad to see you back. Other people beat me to it and said it more eloquently, so -- what they said.

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SLIMMERKIWI 11/12/2010 4:00PM

    My Dr has on occasion said that sometimes weigtloss attempts take a back seat to what is going on. I am sure that your husband's death would most certainly fit into that category! If apple and peanut butter was all you felt like eating - so what? You were eating!

You are working things out really well - you are obviously a very strong woman with a good brain capable of nutting things out. Things WILL start to come together (they are already), and you will continue on and your husband would be very proud of you :-)


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JRSWHIMSY 11/12/2010 3:46PM

    I'm really glad to hear from you again, I frequently think of you and wonder how you're doing. One day at a time, one minute at a time, one peanut butter covered apple at a time. Weight comes and goes, you've lost something more tragic. I'm glad you're moving again *hugs*

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BETHGILLIGAN 11/12/2010 3:25PM

    I love reading this blog! And, I love that you are "unsticking"! You are such a brave woman. You have amazed me in so many ways as I've followed your blogs. I hope you have a good support group. You continue in my prayers as you embark on your new life.

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SHERYLDS 11/12/2010 3:17PM

    We missed you....WELCOME BACK emoticon

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PENNYAN45 11/12/2010 1:53PM

    It is good to hear from you again. I'm so glad you're back - and writing a blog. You have been dealing with a lot in your life, and I would say that 10 pounds is the least of it. I wish you well as you begin to take the next steps to get some order back in your house -- and in your life. You are so wise to go easy on yourself and just take things as they come.

I hope you will take really good care of yourself in the days and weeks ahead.

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Home again, home again, jiggedy etc.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Safely home from our trip (although we took one of my daughter's, "This way is only a *little* bit longer and looks like it's so much nicer" routes, so a ~ 6 hour trip was accomplished in only eight hours....)

Daughter #1 and I had a lovely visit with Daughter #2 in Pittsburgh, PA. It was absolutely wonderful to be away from home and every single pressure therein, from grief to firewood. We ate fattening and expensive food, went through the Phipps Conservatory - huge interconnected greenhouse sorts of things with all different plant collections studded with unbelievable Chihuly glasswork here and there - went t a couple thrift stores (I bought a dark blue cashmere 1940s-50s swing coat for $45!), went to a great funny play, and in general hung out and laughed and relaxed. It was tough to leave, although another couple nights on that sofa may well have done me in entirely. We'll all be together again in only a month for Thanksgiving - we're going to do that in Pittsburgh as well.

It was wonderful to come home and see all the lovely supportive comments left for me by my friends here. You all have really been a great help to me, and a great comfort as well.

One day soon I'll be reworking my SparkPage here completely (by my own instinct, as well as SP majority rule, I'm keeping the Scooter name for now). I'm ready to start living more healthfully and finding out where the new paths lead.

And on that note, I'm crawling into bed for a good night's sleep!

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PENNYAN45 10/30/2010 11:02PM

    Welcome home! I am happy that your visit with your daughters was a good time for you.

Thinking of you and wishing you well!


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    Welcome home... you make me all mushy just thinking about how much I look up to you - you are so gosh darn amazing.

Sorry, I know it sucks to be an inspiration but, eh, whatcha gonna do?

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/27/2010 4:32PM

    It sounds like you had a nice visit. I like scenic routes too even if they are longer. LOL. The conservatory sounded wonderful. I am anxious to see what your new sparkpage will be like. emoticon

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SUZYMOBILE 10/27/2010 9:09AM

    We're with you on your journey! You never do know what will come, but I have a feeling it will be good.

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BETHGILLIGAN 10/27/2010 8:40AM

    So glad you had such a good time with the daughters!! You sound good, healthy. You have a lot on your plate but it seems some get aways do you a world of good!!!

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STARLASUE 10/27/2010 6:26AM

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/27/2010 12:22AM

    I am so glad you visited with your daughters. After I found out about my loss, I went to Hawaii with my oldest daughter, son in law, and 2 grandchildren. I was the best thing I could've done. I was able to realize how much I have in my children. I have 5 grown kids and 5 grandkids so plenty of people around.

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HIPPICHICK1 10/26/2010 9:55PM

    You are an inspiration to me! You have such courage as I've never seen before. I'm so happy to hear that your trip went well and was fun and relaxing.
Welcome Home!
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Doing pretty well here

Friday, October 22, 2010

(although, honestly, I was better overall until I looked out the window this morning and discovered the world was all covered with cold white stuff.)

I make little daily forays into normalcy, taking care of all the regular stuff and dealing, somewhat gingerly, with the more difficult things. For those of you who lift weights, and lift heavy, you know how the first four or five lifts go easily, then the next one, the form is a little off or you don't get the full range of motion? Doing emotionally difficult tasks, like cleaning out his drawers and closets, is like that for me. I can do literally a few minutes work at it, then it becomes minutely more difficult, so I stop and go busy myself with something else.

I also have to be careful doing mindless things like washing dishes, because my mind, if not directed, tends to dwell on sad or unpleasant images, (maybe it's part of the chronic depression thing, just magnified - I'm not sure) so I drag my computer into the kitchen and stream Food Channel or NPR or something.

But overall, I can feel myself edging back into what passes for normal. Rather like when one has been through a long illness, I do a little bit more each day, allowing for setbacks and days I can't budge off the sofa.

Mostly, though, I've gotten out of that period where spontaneous misery lurks, and things are looking better. At least early in the day. At night all bets are off, so I tend to go to bed even earlier than I usually might (like, *cough* 7:30.)

Grief is as much a time of self-discovery as anything else I've ever experienced - you just have to be brave and listen to what it's telling you about yourself and your life. And as you learn, the pain ebbs.

I've also discovered that, as awful as this may sound, I can work the Recent Widowhood thing to my advantage. Phone bill late? "My husband used to take care of these things for me [a blatant lie] but now that he's gone...*sniffle*..." and the phone company falls all over itself accepting my payment without even imposing late fees.

Today Daughter #1 and I are off to visit daughter #2 for a couple days, returning her car - with its new transmission - and generally goofing off. Dogs will be groomed while we're gone, which is always a treat to come home to.

And I sincerely hope that all that white stuff is gone by then. It's coming soon to stay, I know, but I'm just not into Dreaming of a White Halloween.

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/24/2010 3:54AM

    Something that helps me while I'm working around the house organizing and such is to listen to audio books on my ipod.

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ENUFF81020 10/23/2010 12:40PM

    There are so many wonderful things in this blog--I particularly like the parts where you are giving yourself permission to have whatever feelings that you have. That is perfect for all of us, but particularly necessary in your life right now.
I can imagine that going through John's things brings a flood of feelings and memories to you. We all have our own "things" that are connected to each of us and do identify us as well. Those things are an extension of who we are and while they can be dear, they will open those floodgates of painful feelings.
As for the snow, I am so with you--I'm not sure I want it for christmas anymore. It is simply not right to have it for Halloween. enjoy your time with your daughters. Take care of yourself!

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SUZYMOBILE 10/23/2010 10:02AM

    I am so amazed and impressed by your journey of self-discovery! I always figured you were an amazing woman. Now I know it! (Love the "recent widow" ploy, too! I may try it just for the hell of it.)


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SLIMMERKIWI 10/22/2010 7:02PM

    I am really pleased that you are able to think things through properly. I really LOVED your comment about taking advantage of "widowhood" - I have done that myself but different scenarios! I actually believe that it helps us to be "normal" when we can think like that :-)

Take care,
Kris xx

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So glad to hear that you are getting back on top of things. Normal can be so luxurious can't it?

Remember, form over load. As soon as you feel your form slipping, put down the burden and walk away. It'll all "weight" for you.

And remember, rest between reps is essential.
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You'll be okay... the fact that you are listening for lessons through the pain guarantees it.

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(drive safe)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/22/2010 2:56PM

    You sound stronger every day. You are getting things done and able to cope better.

It's too soon for snow.

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HIPPICHICK1 10/22/2010 11:58AM

    Glad to hear how you are doing. Keeping your mind occupied with "happy thoughts" does indeed sound difficult. Grief is one of those things we will all experience over and over in our lives. But would we ever not love again to save ourselves from future grief? Nope. Probably not. So tis the circle of life.
Safe travels, my dear one.
P.S. We had a little snow last night too! All gone now, but the rains are coming.

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SHERYLDS 10/22/2010 11:26AM

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BETHGILLIGAN 10/22/2010 9:16AM

    Wow! Your strength amazes me!! It sounds like you are moving along--I think setbacks with days on the sofa is so normal. I don't know you but I feel so proud of you; I admire you. I love your insight that grief is about understanding/discovering ourselves. So true but had never thought of it that way. Take care of yourself!! Have a good weekend.

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