10/22

Monday, October 22, 2007

Today's Goals:
30min cardio
20min upperbody weights
1 serving fruit
2 servings vegtables

This weekend was hard. I had family in town for the weekend. Them by themselves are great. It was being that close to my sister. She was belittling me and telling me I was wrong with every word that came out of my mouth.

I am the one who is almost done with my accounting degree and works for a tax software company. She still had the nerve to tell me that I was wrong when the subject of taxes came up. She does hair for a living! Nothing wrong with that and she is very good at it, but what right does she have to tell me that I don't know about what I have gone to school for.

She kept on me all weekend to the point that I was crying in the bathroom. How can I make myself respect myself more if those around me don't respect me?

  

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FROLIC838 10/22/2007 6:06PM

Limiting exposure to the negative voices in our lives is important, but sometimes hard to do. That is doubly true with family. They are the hardest to deal with because we cannot choose them, nor can we dissociate with them when they are negative. What we can do, however, is choose how we will react to them. As you said, you are the one with the knowledge of taxes. Be confident of that knowledge. I know it is hard, but try to let your sister's negativity flow around you. Surround yourself with friends that reaffirm your worth, your intelligence, and make your soul sing. Hopefully you will be better able to deal with these difficult times when that happens. If your sister continues to be negative, perhaps you need to speak with her about it. Those can be some of the most difficult conversations, but she may not realize what she's doing. I wish you luck as you find the right way to handle the situation for yourself. We're here to support you! Report Inappropriate Comment

NANDINI/PATTI 10/22/2007 4:12PM

Is there any chance that your sister actually tears you down so that she doesn't feel bad about herself??? It's a fairly common trait. Look at the whole situation as her flaws and rise above her. Don't go hiding to cry. You're much better than that. Report Inappropriate Comment

GREGSGIRL71 10/22/2007 1:32PM

Please don't take this the wrong way... but I am sure you have heard the saying " you can't expect others to love you if you can't love yourself." THe same holds true with respect... you have to respect yourself before anyone else can... as long as you allow yourself to be a trash can that is where your sister will continue to dump her trash... She doesn't belittle you because YOU deserve to be belittled... she does it because she can belittle you and make HERSELF feel better in the process... My advice, not that you asked for it, but I say don't take her bait. When she tells you your wrong just say ok. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong... you won't convince her otherwise. Just simple say, sis, I will be glad to show you the correct way of doing it, but I will not be glad to stand here and allow you to try and berate me. End the discussion and walk away. Eventually she will get the hint that you are no longer a dumping ground and she will move on to someone else.... Report Inappropriate Comment

9/08/07

Saturday, September 08, 2007

So I didn't do a single one of my goals. Eat 300 calories more than what my range is. Didn't exercise at all. And I didn't touch the laundry.

I don't know why I can't just do what I know to do. I can do it and I can enjoy life while I do it. Why would someone go to this much trouble just to let themselves down everytime. It make no sense to me. I make mo sense to me. Do what you know to do. Do it for yourself. You are the most important person in your life beccause without you, you don't exist.

It is not that hard of a concept but I can't seem to get it through my head.

  

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XFLUFFERNUTTER 9/17/2007 8:10PM

I feel the same way! I know what needs to be done and every day it's the same! I need a swift kick in the rear or something. Ahh! Report Inappropriate Comment

9/08/07 Daily Goal

Saturday, September 08, 2007

My three goals for today are;
1. keep my calorie intake in check
2. exercise for 10 min
3. get laundry put away