Tuesday, January 08, 2013
"Start a journal. This can be a simple notebook or a computer document. Use it to track your progress and record your successes and learn from your mistakes. When you have a bad day, use it to remember why you chose these goals and how far you've come."
At some point, I will actually start blogging again. I don't have a lot to say recently though. Today was the first day back at school-slightly stressful, but apart from that...meh!
**EDIT** I just hit level 16! WOO!
Monday, January 07, 2013
"Enlist a diverse support system instead of just one buddy. These people should be encouraging or knowledgeable in helpful ways, whether swapping healthy recipes, exercising with enthusiasm or sharing weight loss tips."
Well, I think we all know where I can find a diverse group of supportive individuals who are able to give me help and advice on almost everything and anything to do with reaching goals, don't we!
Sunday, January 06, 2013
"Share your goals with family and friends for invaluable support and assistance. Confiding in them is a powerful motivator for helping you remain consistent and persistent. Some may be willing to modify their own lives to help you giving up soda, or watching the kids while you hit the gym for example."
If I'm honest, my family are not people I would turn to for help in reaching these goals. Both my mother and father are overweight/obese and show no signs of making the decisions to get smaller. They both say that they know what to do, and where they're going wrong, but I have a horrid feeling that it's going to take a serious medical emergency to get them to make the changes. Even me and my little brother, who has made MEGA improvements to his lifestyle and looks WICKED telling them how we feel has little impact. Add to this my dad's latest bug bear with me, that I am not making enough time to go out and find a man and I don't really feel like I want to share with him (We'll come back to that!)
Luckily I have supportive friends to share with, both online and in the non-virtual world. I wanted to say the real world, but actually people on Spark are just as vivid and real to me as people offline. I get just as pleased and proud of my Sparkfriends achievements as I do my offline friends. And because we're all working towards a common goal, I feel I get way more support and love here than offline.
NOW. Back to my dad and me being bitter.
I mentioned in passing to him that I was feeling a bit left out by a friend who had a boyfriend for around a year and still didn't seem to have come out of the honeymoon stage. I said that we didn't spend a lot of time together anymore, and I wished that she would just make a little time for me. Now, I can't repeat a lot of what he said, because it still makes me feel rather mad, but he basically said that unless I got myself a boyfriend, I was going to end up alone, because as my friends paired off and got married, they would all be spending loads of time with their SO rather than me, and I would be left alone and bitter. He said I spent so much time doing other things that I enjoy, that I was sacrificing my future happiness.
I'll just pause to let that sink in for everyone.
I didn't respond then, as it was Boxing Day, and I just didn't need the drama, but these are my counter points:
1-My parents have been divorced for 17 years and my mother has never had a boyfriend since splitting with my dad. She goes on holidays with her friends (two of whom are married) once or twice a year, has a bubbling social life, a ROOM FULL OF SHOES (granted it use to be my bedroom, but there's something I can aspire to-A ROOM FULL OF SHOES) and is very happy and not at all bitter.
2-I'm 25. I have never craved marriage or a boyfriend, not even through my angst filled teenage years. And if I do decide I'd like to settle down....I'm 25. I have loads of time.
3-My father is ridiculous at relationships. The girlfriend he had before his current one was amazing. I loved her, my brother loved her, my mum thought she was great. He messed around on her, and now she's married to a millionaire in Japan. To be lectured on relationships by my father is...urk
Anyway, my point is, this remark really stung and now I am avoiding speaking to my father because of it. I know I should carry grudges but I just need time to be able to speak maturely to my father without bringing it up, or rising to the inevitable 'have you met anyone yet' remark with a biting 'no dad, and my eggs are still ripe' or something along those lines.
I dread to think what will happen when he realises I don't want children.
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