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Boredom - it lives beneath some of the issues

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

If I had a phone that could go anywhere AND have internet connection, I'd be on it all the time. When I sit down at the computer, all these QUESTIONS come to mind....and away I go, surfing around. And I'm really beginning to think I need to join a support group for home-shopping-television-viewers!! My tv has lots of channels and yet sometimes I just can't find anything I want to watch...and voila! there's some ditzy broad trying to sell me clothes that I don't need. What's worse is.... I keep watching. Yup, have bought some things, but only things I want/need/will use.

The main issue above is NOT the device.
It is not addiction to the internet or shoping or television.
The main problem is.... boredom.

Ever since I've been unable to work (late '92, or officially early '93), I just do not have things I can do that hold my interest. I'm a frustrated almost-type-A. To be honest I think this is a huge part of my weight problem. You see I gained 60 pounds within the first 3 months of disability... directly caused by dramatic change in my lifestyle.

My exercise routines are now more time-consuming than they were years ago, but because I cannot move as quickly or lift weights etc etc, I just don't achieve the same results. Ok, and there's that little factor called "aging" too, probably.

Making a conscious effort to combat both boredom and a slowed-down metabolism takes concentration. Years ago, being active just sort of happened. Now? I have to make sure I do things.

So when I write the first paragraphs, I don't mean that is all I do. I mean that if I did not know how easy it would be to do nothing but play with gizmos and watch television.... then doing those things could easily become my lifestyle.

Everyone needs balance within their days, their weeks... their lifestyles. The more we learn here at SP about the many facits of lifestyle, and the more we apply that awareness to our habits!, the more balance we achieve.

I am a work in progress. At times my focus has been getting enough calories or enough protein; at times, increasing cardio has been crucial to my efforts. Each time I achieve some positive change, another waves its proverbial hand and calls out "hey, I'm next!"

Recently, increasing activity has (again) been a focus. Progess is being made. Not just 'exercise', but keeping moving in general! Getting out of the chair and just moving with purpose. Purpose is so important for keeping the mind tuned! And now....

Now I'm including with that 'activity' the concept of reducing the boredom.

Because boredom is at the root of negatives. When bored, I'm just not the best I can be, don't do what I am enjoying. And life is just too short to waste.

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KATIEWELL 4/20/2011 2:34PM

    I knit and sew, when I'm not on the computer, I must keep my fingers and hands busy, boredom sets in quickly

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GOANNA2 4/19/2011 6:53PM

    I hear what you are saying about boredom
Have you read my mind somehow?
Thanks for posting this. It is close to home
and nice to know I am not alone.

We can do it! emoticon

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HEIDIB2935 4/19/2011 10:01AM

    Great thoughts. I have been bored lately too and think that is the root of my issues. Funny how when I'm busy, I find time to excercise and eat right, but when I'm bored it is like my whole life falls apart.

Hang in there! We can do it!

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O'Toole's Law?

Friday, April 15, 2011

Friend of mine used to hear of something that was just a real sad plot in life, and ask:
"Do you know Murphy's Law?"
"Um. Yuh..."
And my friend then asked:
"Well.... THIS is more of an O'Toole's Law situation!....
Do you know O'Toole's Law???"

The person usually then replied:

and then




the listener



"O'Toole's Law is that Murphy* was an optimist!"

* Murphy's Law?
If anything can go wrong, it will.

I sometimes think that much of it is/was based on playing word games with probability?
But according to Murphy and especially according to O'Toole, I shouldn't try to patent the concept because I'm probably wrong. Y'know?

Superstition doesn't play into this journey we're taking, but it sure would be easy to fall for it as an excuse. Important to remember that while giving focus on the positives!


In life, goals change as reality changes

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Life involves change; fact is, that human life withOUT change is pretty much impossible.
Are you the same person you were 20-30 years ago? Are your priorities the same then as now? For me the answers are: no and no!

I have changed. Hopefully, that means 'evolved', rather than 'declined'. My life has changed drastically. As have my goals. Yet I know a woman from years ago who still has the same goals as she did when we were in our 20's. She wanted to be happily married and thin. She's been married 3 times since then, is unhappy in her current marriage...and weighs more than ever. Hmmm... among other issues is the very basic one: inflexible, perhaps even irrational?, goal-setting. Having the same goals throughout the lifespan just doesn't always equate good sense.

Freguently, the degree of change and how it affects our possibilities, probabilities and opportunities is the very basis of PERCEIVED failures. If we keep thinking we are 'failing' because we're trying for something hard or impossible for us... or something we truly do not desire!... then we're setting ourselves up for a whole pile of negative thinking, huh?

If circumstances erase the possibility of attaining some particular goal, or attaining it at the hoped-for or planned upon rate or date: .... then it's time to reevaluate and regroup.

My life has been frought with such changes. The first was when I was 17.5 years old. Hey, life happens, y'know?!? Frankly, I've lost count of the times I've had to switch gears or maybe I should say 'jumped onto another track'!?!

If we do not change when we NEED to change, we may be doomed to struggling toward goals not suited to us any longer. I feel that I am constantly changing in the little ways, though the substance of the person I am inside seems to remain intact for the most part.

As my goals have changed in life and in this journey that I discuss in my blogs or record in my trackers, I sense empowerment of myself as a person. And it seems to me that changing goals is a sign of growth.

Weight? Career? Nutritional balance? Activity Level? In whatever area of life we have set goals, we encounter changes that simply are part of the dynamic flow of being alive. It is important to keep our goals current, in line with who we are, what is possible, and what we now value as important.

Some goal-setting articles:

Are your fitness goals consistent with your reality? (if you're over 60...)
Reevaluate your abilities before you sign up for intense training:

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GAILWINDS1 4/20/2011 2:15PM

    I do hear you-the gap between life and reality is often fraught with difficulty if we are not in touch with ourselves-sort of what you said to me! thanks

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CHAS1949 4/14/2011 3:34AM

    Cool blog! Thanks.

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 4/13/2011 11:41PM

    Thanks for this, Sam....................needed it more than you know.

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RAINBOWSEND11 4/13/2011 9:31PM

    Making goals is good as long as we make them attainable. If we make a goal that is hard to reach, then when we can't make it, depression may set in. We shouldn't let it as long as we give it our all. Small, attainable goals that lead to a larger goal , is more easy to keep at. It's like taking baby steps, one step at a time. As time and reality change then so can our goals but at least we are headed in the right direction.
Great blog Sam.

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When exercising of any kind is hard to DO

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Sometimes disability issues get to me. Ok, the pain part stinks, but I know that when pain makes even basic activity like walking from one room to another difficult: exercise when I hurt, if you can follow this, is hard...but essential.

Today I'm hurting big-time. Day 2 of a weather-change-induced fms flare. My hands and ankles have arthritic bumps: swelling that appears where it is hurthing from the arthritis. Yup, both the fms and arthritis are in rare form today. Sure would be easy to just read all day. While today IS a designated "down day" for the most part, I will do what I did yesterday: be more aware of my need to move somehow!!

Yesterday morning I vowed to walk 10,000 steps, knowing full well that since I hurt it was a huge goal. The weather was fantastic, but I couldn't really enjoy it: walking outdoors would have meant being too far from where I could rest if necessary, so I walked inside. My goal was 10,000 steps and I am still delighted that while I missed the goal I managed 8,045.

Why should I be happy even if I missed a goal?

Because without that goal I would never have walked 1,000 steps.

Today's goal has no numbers. Today I vowed to simply get up and move for at least 10 minutes every hour. Just to MOVE. Stretches. Walking. Anything. But to MOVE.

Knowing how much to push yourself when you know that any movement will worsen pain is a huge hurdle to exercise when you have a chronic pain condition. Over time you learn which pains are 'normal' albeit sharp and often debilitating. And you learn when to rest and when to push through the pain even just a little. It's a tough situation, because it would be sooo easy to just say "gee I'm hurting, so I'm not going to do ANYthing!'!!!

When exercising of any kind is hard to do, one must be honest with oneself internally. Forget the advice or recommendation of the well-intentioned friends or writers of articles and set your own criteria for goal-setting.

When I hurt most I still do some form of exercise. My definition of exercise is quite different from years gone by when there were no physical limitations. And doing my daily stretch routine is easy many days and exhausting on others. But I do the routine because I must. One of my main goals in all exercise is an end-result that luckily some people can't understand: exercising helps me look normal. I have an "invisible disability": chronic pain. When I don't move the muscles, they hurt more and I walk like a person in pain. So the appearance that changes most because of my upping my activity level is not a more svelte figure: it's that I don't limp, that I can pick up a gallon of milk and move it from the grocery refrigerator shelf to the cart without causing anyone to think "what's wrong with HER?" To be able to move in a store or walk in a park and have no one notice me... is actually pretty neat!

Today I'm hurting. I've done one set of stretches and walked around my home in room-to-room circles for 15 minutes two times. Yes, I wish I were outside walking around the block but I can't do that today. Instead, I'll push myself toward reduced limits.

But I will move.
I will up my activity level beyond what my inclination seems to desire.
Because sitting around will just not help me one bit.

ANY movement is better than none!!

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RAINBOWSEND11 4/13/2011 9:27PM

    wrong place

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RAINBOWSEND11 4/12/2011 12:34PM

    You are an amazing woman. Nothing keeps you down and that is really great. Your attitude is positive and caring. You make others get going, because if you can we can.

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GOANNA2 4/12/2011 3:41AM

    You have such a fighting, don't give up attitude Carol.
You are amazing and to do over 8000 steps is fantastic.
You motivate me when my athritis sets in but it is nowhere
as bad as yours. If you can do this with all your pain, then
there's no reason why I can't get my a into g and get moving.

I hope you have a great week with less pain my friend. emoticon

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CHAS1949 4/10/2011 4:03PM

    8000 + steps is amazing with what you are going through!! You rock!! Just be careful. I hope you won't push beyond safety! Each of us has their own set of challenges, but more active for US is the plan. I have a Spark Friend that walks/runs over 25.000 steps....I don't get discouraged because she can do more....I just hope that some day 25,000 sounds easy

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EMMANYC 4/10/2011 1:16PM

    What great attitude and fortitude you have! I don't have chronic pain, but I have some issues that flare up from time to time (e.g., back trouble). That pain has made me appreciate my ability to move and exercise when I don't hurt, but I must admit I'm not as motivated as you are to move when I do hurt. I've got some surgery coming up and I'll need to develop a plan that has me moving - appropriately in light of recovery timeframes.

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

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My opinion on smoking

Thursday, April 07, 2011


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MILLYMOUSE1 4/9/2011 7:50AM

    I am an ex smoker and can't stand the smell of the things. agreeing with Anna there should be a boundary at every building that you can't smoke. On the way home today we had to stop at a tavern as I needed to go to the ladies, there were 2 men and 1 woman sitting on a bench directly outside the door. I had to take a breath in, cover my mouth to enter in through the door.

Not a Happy Bunny emoticon Smoker Ahead grrrrr

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1TRULYBLESSED 4/8/2011 6:25PM

    I was an on-again, off-again social smoker when I was younger; by the grace of God, I never became addicted. My husband told me that, had he seen me smoking back then, he would never have asked me out. Twenty-three years later, I am SO glad I was in my off-again stage when he & I met!!

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CHAS1949 4/8/2011 5:25PM

    I wish it was that easy. My husband smokes and even if he smokes comes in with him on his clothing and breathing. I can't/won't quit my I guess I will be a "2nd hand smoker" until it kills me :(

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GOANNA2 4/8/2011 1:42AM

    I'm with you a hundred percent. emoticon
Australia is going to bring out mandatory plain (no logo)
cigarette packaging and they will jsut have messages
that smoking is bad for your health. I hate waiting at a
bus stop and breathing in sometimes smoke. It is horrible
in apartment buildings too. emoticon

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