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Thursday, May 10, 2012

OK women I have to admit I'm confused. If you want to know how much weight he wants to loose, he'll give you a number. They'll say something like I want to loose 50 lbs. Or I want to get to 145. But I see a trend in women that I am confused by. Ask a woman how much weight she wants to loose and your will more than likely hear what size she wants to get to. My own wife has told me she doesn't want to reach her original goal because she will loose her curves and she doesn't want to loose them for me? Confusion sets in. If we are making this journey to get healthy, why the self sabotage. I know that I love my wife for the person she is on the inside. She is at a healthy weight but is letting up for me, a request I never made.

  
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CAMAEL100 5/18/2012 6:20AM

    That is a great post! Has got all us ladies thinking about our insecurities hasn't it?

I have never had a male weight loss buddy before, I think you were the first. I would never even discuss weight or size with them even with my husband though in fairness he has always accepted me as I am. Of course we can manage to see wrong in that as well!!

I do have a goal size but it because I know what weight I will most likely be at that size and I think that is a healthy size. I think this time I am concentrating on a healthy lifestyle more and that is what is keeping me going and succeeding. I also am 100% sure I need to do this for myself as I know that when I feel like I look good, then I do look good and give off a positive image. When I don't feel good about myself then nothing looks good on me no matter what size!

Your wife shouldn't do it for you because as well as it not being good for her, I suspect that it puts you under a bit of undue pressure as well. Maybe she is using you as an excuse and wants to relax a bit. However as an earlier comment said it is not a matter of relaxing, if it is a lifestyle change then one has to keep it up! But whatever choice she makes she needs to take ownership of it and if she prefers being curvy then that is what she should be.

I think men are more practical when it comes to weight loss but also I think you have less issues with weight like it going up 4 pounds in the space of a week with food not being the reason!!!

I am actually finding it good to get male views as I think it makes me a little more practical as we tend to attach too much self-esteem and emotions to the issue!

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LITTLEBO 5/11/2012 9:34PM

    HMMMM. This was most thought provoking to me. Thank you for the post, Doug.

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JENNIFERLYNN76 5/11/2012 7:32AM

    I can't tell you an exact weight because I don't know. The statistics they have on here do not even seem reasonable for me, but maybe they are. I always thought they were too low, but maybe they aren't. I am confused about what weight I want to be at, to be 100% honest. I want to feel healthy and fit..for me and no one else.

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JSALERNO 5/11/2012 6:21AM

    I HAVE TO SAY THAT IF SHE IS HAPPY WITH THE WEIGHT SHE IS AT THEN THAT'S GREAT. I AM HAPPY WITH THE WEIGHT I'M AT ALSO BUT IT DOESN'T MEAN I'M LETTING UP. AS A MATTER OF FACT I WORK HARDER TO KEEP MYSELF AT THIS WEIGHT.

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SALGUOD2 5/11/2012 3:52AM

    Thanks for the comments ladies. What you have said is my point. I have not asked my wife to stay out a certian figure or shape. Society does this. So are we really losing the weight for ourselves or someone else. I agree also that men don't have it as bad a woman with society perception of how they should look. But if this journey isn't about our health then aren't we doomed to failure again. I believe we have got to want to do this for ourselves.

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LITTLEBO 5/10/2012 10:35PM

    I think if I knew the answer, then I wouldn't have spend the last 45 years yo-yoing....Short answer is "I don't know". But from a very young age, girls/women are pummeled with the whole body image thing...."what size are you/" I don't think boys/men are asked that too often.

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ANNAMARIE1958 5/10/2012 10:24PM

    I'm not to worried about my curves...I have had them my whole life... No one has asked me my weight or my size...... It's NOT the weight or the size it's being healthy..that's why I am here. I look at it this way at my age I look pretty dam good and I'm healthier. Some women has to be that very small size I don't. My DH says I'm fine just the way I am....but I want to lose just a few(5) more lbs to be healthier. I'm not getting any younger!




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NOTHIN2IT 5/10/2012 9:52PM

    Well, I think we women associate a certain size with how good we feel. To me, my perfect size would be a 7 which is what I was in high school but I'm not sure what the weight would be exactly. Above everything, a woman wants to feel attractive for herself and for her husband. Even though you love your wife for what's inside, it's not always easy for a woman to believe that. I refuse to tell my husband how much I weigh because I feel like he would be totally disgusted by it....even though he tells me all the time that he loves me and I'm beautiful. Does it make sense? No...but when do we ever? :) Just continue to support her, whatever she decides. emoticon

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 5/10/2012 9:14PM

    I guess that it just boils down to that thing that men never quite 'get' women and we never quite 'get' you guys - but we certainly love you all the same!! My father always told my brothers that if you want a happy life ' never ask a woman her age or weight'!!!
Have a great weekend.
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FAT_2_FAB 5/10/2012 8:25PM

    I have no idea but if I had to give an answer, I'd probably say a certain size generally encompasses a certain weight. Of course height is a factor in that too, but I'd just about guess it's also about being comfortable in a certain size. When I wore a size 12, I hated it. I already knew I weighed more than I wanted because I had never been a size 12 before and that seemed soooo far from where I wanted to be. I have a goal weight but I also have a goal size and for my height, there's no way I can attain the size I want to be and still weigh a number I'm not comfortable with. I'd be comfortable with a size 2/4 over weighing a certain number. In fact, if I could get down to a size 2/4, I may weigh less than my goal weight. For women, a lot of it just has to do with the pressures society places on you to look a certain way and wear a certain size. You seldom hear that so-and-so celebrity weighs x # of pounds - it's always their dress size. Does that make any sense?

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STARLITE777 5/10/2012 8:13PM

  Dont quiet Know what to say Salguod2. Just accepted it for what it is, most women will not tell you, their weight or how much they want to lose. Once I hit 30 I even stop telling people my age when they ask. (which i dont feel is a polite question.) But I will give them a range so they leave me alone. For me, I guess I feel like they are going to Judge me.

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Have I hit the jackpot

Wednesday, May 09, 2012

If I was in Vegas and hit as many 3's in a row on the slots, as I have on the wheel, I would have hit the jackpot, or atleast some extra. Maybe if you hit 10 3's in a row you get 20 extra points.

  
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CARDAMOMMA 5/10/2012 12:05AM

    Any better luck on the bonus wheel?

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LITTLEBO 5/9/2012 2:39PM

    It IS and addiction, isn't it? Go, wheel, Go!!!!
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MEXGAL1 5/9/2012 10:13AM

    Good Luck!

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RUN_BAKE_BLOG 5/9/2012 7:37AM

    I am the 3 & 5 queen!!

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JENNIFERLYNN76 5/9/2012 7:24AM

    I just love spinning that wheel ha ha

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JSALERNO 5/9/2012 5:45AM

    I know I love it when you get pairs of 2's, 3's, or 5's though. Then one day you'll hit a 20 from no where

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30 day shred

Tuesday, May 08, 2012

I started Jillian Michaels 30 day shred today. Oh what fun it is to get your butt kicked.

  
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CARDAMOMMA 5/10/2012 12:06AM

    I'm doing Chalean Extreme and Turbo Fire. Feel the burn!

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JSALERNO 5/9/2012 5:52AM

    emoticon IF I DIDN'T HAVE KNEE PROBLEMS I'D LIKE TO TRY IT.

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URLEEC 5/8/2012 8:22PM

    I just bought that one today because so many people here like it. Haven't done it yet though. Glad to hear she kicked your butt :)
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JENNIFERLYNN76 5/8/2012 8:00PM

    Isn't she great??? :)

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Day 2 of Tobacco Free

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Well I've just finished week three of my 6 week program to become tobacco free. I'm down to the 2mg gum now and best of all haven't had any tobacco for 2 days. I tried to put the gum where I put the tobacco in my lip put that was working, so I bought some herbal snuff. Works really well. I guess my mind thinks it is tobacco but it isn't. Really helps with the mental part. So within next next three weeks I ween myself off the gum and then I'll be tobacco and nicotine free.

  
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NOTHIN2IT 5/7/2012 12:08AM

    I know that is such a hard thing but you are doing great! Keep up the good work and you will be there in no time!!

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CHOCSUNDAE 5/6/2012 5:41PM

    emoticon to you. As a former smoker, I know how hard it is to get and remain tobacco free. Keep up the good progress.

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BLUEMORNING 5/6/2012 2:17PM

    Congradulations! I don't smoke but I have food cravings that must be like the drug cravings----so far I haven't been able to beat them. Maybe if I read more stories like yours I, too, can find strength! Again, congradulations!

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LITTLEBO 5/6/2012 1:20PM

    YEAH!!!!!! emoticon
Thanks for updating us.

(I was curious on how you were doing with that but didn't want to pry. ) emoticon



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CARDAMOMMA 5/6/2012 12:45PM

    Congratulations Doug! You are such an inspiration.


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KPINSKI82 5/6/2012 11:56AM

    That's really great! Sounds like you have a good plan. Good luck :)

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MEXGAL1 5/6/2012 11:47AM

    Oh, I just love to hear stories like this! I admire you so much for taking charge of your health and getting that nasty stuff out of your system. you are going to feel so much better. and I bet smell better too!
Good for you, keep up the good work.
Sallie

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JAYLYNZ 5/6/2012 11:43AM

    Good for you!! emoticon

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GETSTRONGRRR 5/6/2012 11:42AM

    Good on you.....it does get better. I quit in 2007 after 25 years. I worked out to when the cravings came back....it helped a lot!

Keep at it!

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JSALERNO 5/6/2012 11:27AM

    GREAT

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STARTINGALLOVER 5/6/2012 11:23AM

    Be so proud of yourself-it is probably one of the most difficult things to do - quit smoking and tobacco. (I have never smoked and I see that!) You have come this far! Good job on finding alternatives and moving into a healthier (and less expensive!!) life!!! Great work!! emoticon

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JENNIFERLYNN76 5/6/2012 11:22AM

    CONGRATS!!! That is awesome! Keep up the good work :)

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KNITTINGNAN 5/6/2012 11:19AM

  Congratulations!! Just don't replace the cigarettes with junk food like my Husband did. He hasn't stopped munching since he quit smoking,and always has candy in his mouth with more stashed in his pockets. Our Granddaughters actually think he is Willy Wonka! You should feel so proud of yourself.

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Relay for Life

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

We have our Relay for life this weekend. My wife has put us down to walk from 4 to 8 pm om Saturday. Her work also has a booth they set up there. So I guess while she works the booth me and my youngest daughter will be walking. It is for such a great cause though. Worth every minute.

  
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EGRAMMY 5/6/2012 6:26AM

    emoticonFitBuckeye Fans are so proud of you.

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KPINSKI82 5/5/2012 9:10AM

    Sounds awesome! Have fun today :)

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MEXGAL1 5/3/2012 3:31PM

    good for you! Go for it!

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TINAROG1 5/3/2012 9:43AM

    Sounds like fun and a good cause.

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BALDWINJ_03 5/3/2012 8:46AM

    Thank you from a cancer survivor for participating in such a worthwhile event. emoticon

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CAMAEL100 5/3/2012 5:48AM

    Great to be able to put your fitness to use for a good cause.

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JSALERNO 5/3/2012 4:39AM

    ALWAYS NICE TO GIVE BACK.

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LITTLEBO 5/2/2012 10:17PM

    ..and awesome that your daughter is walking, too.

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JENNIFERLYNN76 5/2/2012 9:40PM

    Have a great time for a great cause :)

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STEELKICKIN 5/2/2012 9:39PM

    Ohhh, yes it is!!! It sounds like a wonderful time with your family and you are helping others as well! God bless!

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-AIRYN- 5/2/2012 9:05PM

    I haven't done it for years but it is for such a great cause!! Great for your family for getting involved!

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COCHESE321 5/2/2012 8:14PM

    Ours is June 3. It will be my 5th and my family's second. I brought the "tradition" with me when I moved back home from Florida 2 years ago. Good for you for participating. And with every step, I remember the people for whom I walk - the survivors and victims alike.

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