Wednesday, January 11, 2012
I'm staying up quite late tonight because I work from home tomorrow, thus don't have to be up early, & because I learned today that my court process (divorce) has been further delayed, this time by the judge. I'm having a hard time with this but can't do anything to make it move faster. I did dig up some documents for my lawyer to bring along to the next hearing, which will be in late March before a trial judge. That's about the only thing I can do.
It didn't cheer me up to find/send the documents, as they reminded me of a very, very miserable time when my husband was getting ready to move out, putting all his energy into crafting a separation agreement under which I would support him financially for 6 months regardless of whether he found a job (after mostly refusing to do any job hunting during all the years of our marriage), & periodically getting enraged with me & yelling when I didn't agree with him.
It was a very, very exploitive relationship, & the judge's refusal to make a recommendation makes me nervous: couldn't she see that he has ripped me off long term & needs to be stopped? The trial judge will be a different person--I so hope he or she puts a swift end to this extended nightmare. (Ex wants to minimize his share of the debt but to be awarded 50% of any equity in the condo, which he didn't lift a finger to help pay for. Fortunately a recent appraisal showed that the mortgage is well underwater, but the current judge has ordered that ex get his own appraisal to make sure we get an accurate figure.)
I would really appreciate prayers about this. It's hard.
On the fitness front, I'm toying with the idea of joining Curves because there's one near my home & I can get membership for $25/month through my health insurance. Is that a good deal? The Curves website doesn't show any actual prices, which is annoying. (Of course I'm easily annoyed at the moment.) I don't want to enter all my contact info & then be subjected to endless promotional calls & e-mails. So if you have been a member, I'd appreciate hearing the scoop!
Sunday, January 01, 2012
Happy new year, Sparkfriends!
Yesterday I drove an hour west to the home of my older sister, C, to spend a couple of days. Another sister (M) had come from California to spend some of the holidays with us & yet another sister (E), much younger, & her little kids. C's daughter & son-in-law joined us for New Year's Eve, along with E & the three little ones. I had brought several word games, & we chose Beyond Balderdash & had a hilarious evening playing it. It involves making up definitions for words or initials that no one has ever heard of, or one-sentence descriptions of movie plots. You vote for the one that seems most credible. I had fun being goofily creative & ended up winning the game--but not by much, because we were very evenly matched.
We also had some great snacks & drinks; I made a passion-fruit cocktail for those who imbibe, & the hummus & fruit & cheeses & other goodies were super-delicious. I think there is a time for feasting--but it should be TRUE feasting, on sumptuous food & drink that's worthy of the occasion. That's how this was.
This morning only C was up when I got up; I took off for a brisk walk down the Prairie Path & then cut across to the road leading to the cemetery where our parents are buried. I noticed that there was lichen & discoloration on their gravestone, so when I got back to C's house we researched how granite markers should be cleaned. C assembled a bucket, rag, brush, scrubbers, & filled a jug with water, & this afternoon M, C & I went to the cemetery together & scrubbed down the stone! It looked great by the time we were done; we took a few photos for our other sibs & said prayers before leaving.
It was a WONDERFUL memory-honoring, sibling-bonding activity to start off the new year! I love exercise with a purpose beyond itself.
In 2012 I am looking forward to losing the rest of this weight (including the feasting pounds), with lots more purposeful exercise &, of course, mostly moderate eating rather than feasting. I'm looking forward to growing stronger, having precious times with my kids, granddaughter, & sibs, working on my poetry craft so I can write some compelling poems, hopefully finding a publisher for my next book, deepening my relationships with my church family, making my home more orderly & beautiful, & working for social justice & the earth's healing.
Looking forward to sparking with you all!
Saturday, December 24, 2011
I forgot to say that this past week or so I've been getting to work early, & often leaving late, to get work done on an urgent project--the 6th edition of our Spanish-English dictionary. It's going well & I'm going to make my deadline, yay! But I'm fully aware that I hardly got in ANY exercise because of the pressure. My body is craving it & next week will be very different, I promise!
Friday, December 23, 2011
I am STANDING at my new stand-up desk posting on my new computer, in my new office! I am not at all a techie, so it feels magical to me that this afternoon I could just bring this gorgeous machine home from the shop (where the contents of my old computer, may it rest in peace, were transferred to it & updated software was installed), figure out EASILY how to plug in the computer & get the wireless keyboard & mouse turned on, & have it WORK! Magic, I tell you!
It's a Mac with a lovely wide screen. I am generally very thrifty, but over the years I've learned not to buy cheap computers or shoes. Macs hardly ever get viruses & hardly ever need repair, so in the long run I think I'm saving time & $$.
Haven't had extended time to test it yet, but I do love my stand-up desk so far! I think I'll get small platforms for the keyboard/mouse & the computer monitor so that they're at optimal height--I'm pretty tall. Other than that, I love the clean verticality of it, & the fact that I don't need to crowd this small room with a chair. And I REALLY love the fact that I'll automatically be more active--my rear is in gear, not planted on a horizontal surface! I can engage my abs while I write or read online. Coolness.
What a blessing it is to reorganize parts of my home at this time of newness in my life, & to be able to get a much-needed new computer. My old one was freezing up multiple times a day; I would have to shut it all the way off, count off at least 10 seconds, then turn it back on & wait for it to start up sloooowwwlllyyyyy so I could sign in & then wait for the desktop to come up. I'm going to have more time now for good stuff like exercising & keeping in touch with people & getting my paperwork organized.
Tomorrow morning I head off for St. Louis to spend Christmas with my son, DIL, & granddaughter. It's kinda goofy how many presents I got for Bea . . . next year, when she's more aware of things & more susceptible to greediness, I'll definitely tone it down. But tomorrow I'll be driving a little Honda hatchback that is loaded down with gifts! I feel like Santa Claus.
I won't forget to weigh in & post before I take off, though! I have no intention of LOOKING like Santa Claus, heehee.
Merry Christmas to all, & may you enjoy time with your dear ones over the holidays. I'm so thankful for my Sparkfriends!
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