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Saturday, December 03, 2011

Today--except for a midday very brisk walk around the neighborhood, with four errands done along the way--I kept my nose to the grindstone & got two freelance projects finished. It was enjoyable work--but now it's over, yay! And because I taught my class this fall & did a lot of freelance work, I CAN TAKE THE WHOLE REST OF DECEMBER OFF!

Not from my regular job, but from the extra work that usually occupies my Saturdays & 2-3 weeknights. It's just wonderful to be like a normal person for a few weeks & look forward to having those times available for other activities . . .

Like Sparking! Maybe I'll actually find time to track my food every single day this week, as I'm supposed to for the 5% challenge!

Also my office move & living-room revamp. My new stand-up desk is set up in the new office space, but I haven't yet been able to move my computer & other things in there to try it out. I also have a new futon frame & folding screen to set up in the living room once my office stuff is removed. Guess what I'll be working on next Saturday!

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SHANSHE 12/4/2011 9:55PM

    YAY for you Ruth! So glad you finished and will have the rest of December off from your extra stuff!

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CTEMPLE 12/4/2011 8:23PM

    It's great tone more comfy!

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BEATLETOT 12/4/2011 10:15AM

    Oh, Ruth, I bet your home is just sooo inviting. I found myself imagining taking up the space on the futon! Enjoy your free time, and your new space!

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CZARINA_TV 12/4/2011 10:14AM

    Congrats Ruth! It sounds like you've worked hard for it too...

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DEBJAE 12/4/2011 9:56AM

    Take full advantage of the free time you're getting!

Sounds like you need the break but have plenty to fill it with1 Enjoy!

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AMYLONGHORN 12/4/2011 9:31AM

    That's awesome that you can take back some time to yourself! Enjoy!!! I take it your "time for additional activities" will be finishing up your office space and living room? It will feel sooooo good to have that all set up!

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MADAMES 12/4/2011 7:36AM

    Sounds like a wonderful break in your routine at a busy time of the year when you can really use that break! Good for you!
:) Evelyn

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COLLINSCJ2012 12/4/2011 12:00AM

    Enjoy your mini vacation.

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Be ready for winter ice!

Monday, November 28, 2011

Hey friends, there's a great deal at Revel Sports online, today only! Order any sports equipment & get 25% off using the coupon code "Cyber" (for Cyber Monday) when you're checking out.

I had been thinking about getting a pair of Yaktrax Pro, for extra security on ice & packed snow, & this discount helped me make up my mind. You may want to get a pair too! They go on over your shoes/boots & give great traction on hard snow/ice, so you could even run over a frozen pond if you wanted. Here's a link:

Yaktrax Walkers are cheaper & the same discount can be applied. They're for less strenuous winter walking.

I'm not getting any personal benefit from plugging this deal, just wanted to share a product that has made my winter life MUCH less stressful.

After Thanksgiving I'm up 1.4 lbs, not bad. I'll work on getting that off by the end of this week. I had a wonderful time with my granddaughter--Bea is 8 months old now & SO energetic! She quickly gets impatient when we hold her, & wiggles to be let down so she can crawl off to her next adventure. But she loves people--is always ready to interact with smiles, waves, & vocalizations. She also loves music, especially Peter & the Wolf!

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CZARINA_TV 12/2/2011 10:55AM

    That's an interesting product... We don't get a whole lot of ice here (people are supposed to keep their sidewalks clear), but we do get a ton of slushy, nasty I-don't-want-to-know-what's-at-the-
bottom-of-this-pond puddles. My husband bought nice warm boots and I probably need to do the same. I keep walking through puddles in my sneakers.

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COLLINSCJ2012 11/28/2011 11:39PM

    Thanks for the link. It doesn't snow that often where I live, but the ice is easy to come by. I can't even get to my car without crawling. Glad you had a good time with your granddaughter.

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RUNNERRACHEL 11/28/2011 9:09PM

    Sounds like you're getting your fitness in, even in icy winter! I don't deal with snow on a regular basis but if I ever have to it's nice to have a recommendation!

Your granddaughter sounds very active and smart! I'm happy to hear you had a good time over Thanksgiving.

I have a couple pounds that have crept up on me so I'll be working on that. 1.4 will be gone before you know it.

Have a wonderful week!

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SHANSHE 11/28/2011 8:48PM

    Thanks for the recommendation and I am sooo glad you enjoyed your granddaughter over Thanksgiving, she sounds like such a doll!

Take care!

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CTEMPLE 11/28/2011 4:31PM

    Great that you had a good time. Well done on the purchase.
I was scared of Peter and the wolf when I was a child!

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EYES_ON_THEPRAZ 11/28/2011 2:03PM

    thanks for the site - i will check it out now!

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JECKIE 11/28/2011 11:55AM

    thank you for this! I've been waiting for a sale to buy these!

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WHENDERFUL 11/28/2011 11:51AM

    I have a pair of these as well...I will second your recommendation! They add some much needed security to those outdoor walks in the winter!

Glad you had a great time with your granddaughter....that's what it's all about! emoticon

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Some resolution & some good news

Monday, November 21, 2011

Thanks, friends, for your kind responses to my previous post. I really appreciate your solidarity!

Saturday I had a good long talk with one of the key church folks. We fully agree on the basic thing that needs to be done; the only difference of opinion has to do with when. She sincerely apologized that no one had let me know that it wouldn't be done by the time I had proposed. We came to a good mutual understanding of where to go from here. It was a relief.

I had my condo reappraised this weekend too. It has lost TONS of value, & my mortgage is now far underwater. I fully sympathize with the many folks who are losing their homes because of the crazy things that happened in the real-estate market . . . but in my special circumstances this news is good. It will make the divorce settlement a lot simpler--my exploitive ex can't plunder my resources any further, because there ARE no resources. I have no interest in selling the condo at this stage (I hope to stay here at least till I retire), I'm not having trouble making my payments, & I expect that over time the value will rise again. So for me it's just a figure on paper, & for the divorce it's helpful.

Last night I worked on the carpet remnant covering the ugly linoleum in the little den off the kitchen. This was ex's daughter's room when she lived with us (about 7-8 months a few years back), & ex had slept there when he stopped sleeping with me. Between them they had ground a lot of dirt into the open area of carpet. It was REALLY therapeutic to scrub it out! In morning light today it looked great; it had already dried & there's no more visible dirt.

I'm going to move my office into that room--it's going to be lovely, with its spring-green walls/carpet & with plants against the south-facing windows. I have ordered a stand-up desk & am super-excited about it! My work requires me to be at the computer almost all day every day (including a lot of evenings & Saturdays, since I do freelance editing as well as my regular job), & all that sitting is not good for me. I got a good discount on the desk from, yay! It will be another symbol of my new, healthier, happier life.


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BABY_GIRL69 11/25/2011 1:32PM

    Its always wonderful to hear some good news!! I pray you are getting some much needed hugs, love & rest while you are in St Louey!!

God bless & love!


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RUNNERRACHEL 11/23/2011 9:17PM

    Glad to hear about the positives! I'm happy you were able to talk to the people at church and that gave you some peace of mind.

Happy to hear that your condo's lower value is working in your favor!

Something to be thankful for right now.


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SHANSHE 11/23/2011 1:41PM

    I'm glad things seem to be looking up and you seem more content this blog than last. Keep hanging in there, it was good to hear from you!

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EYES_ON_THEPRAZ 11/22/2011 2:16PM

    Glad to hear that the property value decrease is actually helpful for you. Sounds like things are really looking up for you - glad you'll have an office all to yourself!

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CZARINA_TV 11/22/2011 9:19AM

    For once underwater is a good thing, huh?

I just caught up on your entries and I'm glad you're still chugging along and taking care of yourself. You deserve good things Ruth and I'm hoping they come your way...

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BEATLETOT 11/22/2011 9:00AM

    I'm happy to read an update post that is so much happier. My heart hurt for you all that you're going through.

Who'd've thought an underwater mortgage would be good news?

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LINDY2202 11/22/2011 4:58AM

    SO glad to read this positive post. Sorry about the loss of value on your condo, but very glad you are getting to stay in it! Sounds like you really love the place! I am glad the work on your carpets ended up like you wanted them to too! New furniture is fun, enjoy your new desk and work/Spark area ;) Have a super great day! emoticon emoticon

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COLLINSCJ2012 11/22/2011 2:36AM

    I am very glad things are turning around for you. Enjoy your new office.

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ALICIA214 11/22/2011 12:24AM

Sounds like you are getting things under control. Good Luck. emoticon

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Processing big stuff

Saturday, November 12, 2011

My weight/fitness work hasn't been consistent or focused lately. I'm dealing with really hard stuff surrounding the divorce--not just my husband's unjust & unreasonable demands, & the real possibility that a judge may "impartially" but unjustly accede to them, but also lack of support that I had thought was there. Nearly two months ago I asked my church's leaders to take an action on my behalf before early November, & it appeared that they had done so, but today I found out that they haven't.

People fail each other for all sorts of reasons, & these are very good people, so I'm not going to demonize them. But unless/until they remedy the situation & let me know they've done so, I'm going to attend church elsewhere. This means I will have to let go of a dearly loved project that I had just begun in the church. It's disappointing but can't be helped. I have to be able to feel safe in my faith community.

I have shed a lot of tears this week, & I'm sure there will be more in the coming days. I'm not eating like a pig & packing on the pounds, but I'm not losing either. It's tempting to eat for comfort. I'm dealing with various physical aches & pains that I'm sure are expressions of my emotional distress. It's not possible yet to get myself reorganized to eat & exercise properly.

I do think that soon I'll be ready to get back in the saddle here at SP. I will want the release of hard exercise & the satisfaction of losing these last few pounds. Without all my church activities, I will have more time! I will receive it as a blessing & try to make good use of it.

Tomorrow evening I'll take my husband's pretrial motion to my sister's & go through it with her, & pray over it. Sometime in the coming week I'll see my lawyer & discuss strategy. Wednesday afternoon I have my regular therapy appointment, & I'm in touch with my sisters & a few other friends who understand the gravity of my situation & are with me unequivocally. I'm grateful not to be alone in this nightmare.

Hugs to you all, & may those you trust never betray you.

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LINDY2202 11/21/2011 5:34AM

    Ruth, I am so sorry you are going through a rough time. I didn't see this blog earlier, but hope in the days that have passed since you wrote it you have received comfort and things are getting better. "Hugs to you all, & may those you trust never betray you. " What a powerful thing you said right there. Once again, I am very sorry you are having such a rough time. I hope things are looking brighter for you. emoticon

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RUNNERRACHEL 11/16/2011 11:47AM

    Sorry to hear about those situations.

You have to take care of you, definitely. I'm sorry to hear that you were let down by those you were counting on for support. Hopefully the situation can be resolved and you will feel supported.

I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through with the unreasonable demands from your ex.

I pray for justice and comfort for you.

Here's to you taking care of yourself and being good to yourself. I hope you feel some relief from this stress and will continue to take care of yourself.


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SASSACAIA 11/14/2011 1:42PM

    Oh, Ruth, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been so unhappy. I know the divorce has been rough, but to have this situation at church on top of it! I'm really sorry.

I hope things resolve for the better, but I'm glad you have loved ones around for support.

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EYES_ON_THEPRAZ 11/14/2011 12:41PM

    emoticonSo sorry to hear about your struggles and pain surrounding all these. Sounds very frustrating to me on top of all those other feelings. I hope the judge is fair to you.

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AMYLONGHORN 11/14/2011 9:12AM

    Sending big hugs your way!! I am soooo sorry for everything you're going through...the divorce is tough, but I am sooo sad for your situation with the folks from church! That is very disappointing that the people you need to support you let you down. I hope they get it together to help you out...please keep us posted and know that we're always here for you no matter what!

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REBECCATKD 11/13/2011 7:12PM

    So sorry to hear your frustations and disappointments. I'm sure you've heard it before, but this too shall pass. I know that doesn't help right now. Just know that your prayers are true, as is your heart, and eventually this will be behind you.

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SHANSHE 11/12/2011 10:07PM

    WOW Ruth, I cannot imagine being betrayed by my church like that and I am sooo sorry you have to go through this!

I AM glad that you have some people there to support you though and I will keep you in my prayers. God knew this would happen, he was not taken by surprise, like you have been, He knows the outcome, and He has your best interest at heart.

Love & Prayers,

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BABY_GIRL69 11/12/2011 6:49PM

    I am so sorry you are going though so much right now Ruth. I pray God help resolve this issue but we know it won't be an easy. Soon it will be over & you will be able to get back to some degree of normalcy. How much? I don't know but it will take some time.

People do let us down but try to focus on that too much. I would if it will help the divorce process if they could still help. People get busy with their lives & forget they are supposed to be helping their sister/brother. You need them so reach out once again be more specific about what it is you need them to do.

I'm praying for you always & God bless!


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KAREN_NY 11/12/2011 6:27PM

    So sorry for your loss, Ruth. The loss of your marriage, and at least it seems a temporary loss of reliability in your church community. Hang in there, get fresh air as often as you can. Give yourself all the space you need in order to deal with it. You have so much grace... you're going to be fine. :)
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BEATLETOT 11/12/2011 6:00PM

    Oh, Ruth, I'm so sorry for all you're going through. The stuff with church must be SO hard. I hope you told them that you will be worshipping elsewhere so they know they need to do right by you. And I hope your new church is a warm, welcoming place.

I think of you and your real-world problems a lot, and I hope your attorney is good and wise. Hugs to you.

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DUTCHDAVE 11/12/2011 5:39PM

    Any divorce even if an amicable one is very hard and I am so sorry that you are going through it. Having been thru more than one I totally understand. Also having been in law enforcement I know a little about being around a judge. The first thing I want to say is try to stay the bigger of the to of you. Dont try to make the other look bad unless that person had real problems such as drugs or drinking or abuse. The judges have heard thousands bad mouth the other and turn off to it. Dont make unreasonable demands, that will make the judge lean more in the other direction and as for the part of bringing in an outsider DONT unless again they are there to prove a bad situation. The judge expects your friends and family to side with you and his to side with him. Good luck and if I can help in any way just contact me

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Green day!

Saturday, November 05, 2011

Happy Move Your Money Day! I applaud the national movement to move personal accounts out of the big banks. Today I read up on a new "green" bank in Chicago called GreenChoice, & I contacted them to start the process of opening checking & savings accounts & transferring my direct deposits & automatic payments. They offer all the benefits of my current bank (Chase), & they use no-fee Star ATMs, which are available at numerous places in my neighborhood. I can earn interest on checking--at a higher rate if I sign up to receive electronic statements; likewise my savings will earn more because I'm willing/able to do my banking electronically.

But the day started out with a long walk! I used a Groupon for a hair appointment at a salon about 3.5 miles north of me; I ended up walking about half the distance & then getting on the L. I asked the stylist to figure out a style that would require minimal product (I feel terrible about all the plastic & chemicals used in personal-care products) & not require blow-drying, yet keep my very fine hair from sticking too close to my head. That's a tall order! But I think she did a great job. It will take me awhile to get used to seeing myself with this sleek new look.

Then I walked ALL the way home, stopping at a grocery to pick up a few items, then at a little Mexican restaurant to carry out a couple of tamales for lunch.

I had thought about going downtown this evening for the Occupy Chicago march, but my time is very limited. I need to do some batch cooking this weekend, plus I have a freelance project that needs to be addressed. I also wanted to take time to peruse GreenChoice's website & decide whether to open an account there. And tomorrow afternoon I'm making a short presentation to my church's youth group, & I need to prepare for that. I decided to focus it on the nefarious doings of the Coca-Cola corporation, encouraging them to boycott. (Of course there are BIG health reasons to avoid soft drinks, but there are also justice reasons. I have a friend who narrowly escaped being killed because he was a union leader at a Coca-Cola bottling plant in Colombia; management hired paramilitary thugs to handle security, & the paramilitaries began to kill the union leaders!)

These are ALL green, anti-establishment things to do, aren't they? Walking & riding the L to/from my appointment, getting a minimalist hairstyle, making yummy vegetarian food from scratch, editing electronically, starting the process of switching to a small ecofriendly bank, preparing this short talk for the youth group. I'd like to go back to Occupy as well, but today is a day to be green right here at home!

P.S. I'm not really losing weight at this point--I knew it would be harder once I went off the meds. But I'm VERY happy not to be gaining! What I'm wanting to lose at this point would take me from a 22.9 BMI to 22.0. I can still do that, & I will eventually! But in the grand scheme of things, making my life more earth-friendly satisfies me even more than this mostly cosmetic weight loss will.

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RUNNERRACHEL 11/23/2011 10:46PM

    Love this blog! All great ideas and you have your heart in the right place. Bravo!


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LINDY2202 11/7/2011 6:45AM

    Great blog Ruth. I have not really been to conscious about being green. I would never ever ever ever litter. I HATE littering, but really haven't done much to be green. I should look into this. Any books on the subject you think I might be interested in? Have a great day Ruth, hope you liked your Spark Goodie! Wish I could give you the real thing. You are such a great Spark friend. emoticon emoticon

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CTEMPLE 11/6/2011 2:22AM

    Dear Ruthie, great news new hair and no gain. Photoplease.
Viva Occupy.
Very busy

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COLLINSCJ2012 11/5/2011 10:38PM

    Sounds like you had a good day and a lot of exercise.

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SHANSHE 11/5/2011 10:21PM

    GREAT job Ruth you are awesome!

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CHIEF_GEEK 11/5/2011 6:02PM

Great Blog today!

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BEATLETOT 11/5/2011 5:51PM

    Good blog! I'm glad you're having a wonderful, fulfilling weekend!

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