Friday, May 27, 2011
I have planned two fun treats for myself this weekend . . . not because I have met a particular goal, but to treat myself with kindness as I walk the painful path of divorce.
1. Tomorrow I'll have my first ever salon facial! There's a special at an Aveda salon about 1.5 miles from me--$25 for a 30-minute facial--& I have a $25 Spafinder certificate, so it's time to use it. I'll walk to the salon as part of my exercise for the day. I'm really looking forward to it.
2. I will take Sunday as an actual whole day of rest instead of squeezing in some freelance work. And sometime in the afternoon, weather permitting, I'm going to take my new tent out into the backyard & practice setting it up. I'd like to get the hang of it so well that if I land in a campground after dark some night this summer, I'll be able to put it up by feel.
There's a third treat too--a cookout at my sister's in the evening of Memorial Day. That will be a reward for spending most of that day marking up my students' projects. (My sister & I will also visit our parents' graves at a cemetery near her home.) I'm going to take along a veggie grilling tray & a bunch of cut-up sweet peppers, mushrooms, onions, & maybe brussels sprouts to roast over the coals alongside the meat my brother-in-law prepares. Yum!
Peace to you on this Memorial Day weekend!
Monday, May 23, 2011
No public transport OR driving this morning . . . I did my 30-Day Shred routine first thing, & partway through I noticed that my back muscles around the left scapula were kinda hurting. I pressed through & finished with stretches, but the pain didn't go away. It got more intense after shower & breakfast, so that leaning over or doing things with either left or right arms was really hurting.
I decided to take a sick day & get a massage at a day spa in my neighborhood. It isn't open till noon, so in the meantime I got myself set up on the sofa with a firm pillow behind me propping a heating pad in place. I watched Au Revoir Les Enfants, my Netflix film that had been languishing on top of my TV, & the heat felt really good. Turned it off after a while--& my back was MUCH better.
I asked for just the "express" 25-minute neck/shoulder/back massage, but my masseuse didn't have anyone immediately after me & gave me more like 45 minutes--so kind of her. She used some wonderful essential oils at the end, along with hot towels. Now I'm fragrant & relaxed & my shoulder blade area is almost back to normal!
Friday, May 20, 2011
I sat down with my lawyer this morning & handed over the case to her. I have some jobs to do--completing the disclosure, hunting down documentation connected to the purchase of my condo--but she is going to do the main work. My boss had told me, "Get a good lawyer & then don't worry about it. That's what you're paying the lawyer to do." Actually the attorney won't worry too much; she reduced her usual retainer for me because "this is not a complicated case." I'm so thankful for that.
I had to get up early this a.m. & skip exercise to get to the lawyer's office--but then I made up for it after my appointment by walking about a mile to the CTA center to pick up my new transport card. (I thought I lost my old one . . . after I requested a new one, I found it just where it should have been, where I had looked several times! Is that a sign of stress or what?) Then I walked nearly a mile to State Street to catch my bus to work.
I think I'm going to set up a new "other goal" for myself here on SP: take public transport to work. I need to break the habit of staying up late & then needing to drive to work to save time in the morning. When I drive, I pollute more, plus I miss the downtime on the train & bus to read, pray, & write. This morning I got some good work done on a new poem.
One more thing: after eating my lunch today, I felt a bit unsatisfied & thought about going downstairs for a candy bar. Then I reminded myself, "Tomorrow is weigh-in day! I want to be able to record the weight I lost this week!" So I restrained myself.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
"Repeated acts of mental cruelty."
I was served papers today at my workplace, by a sheriff! And besides the normal grounds of irreconcilable differences, they include an accusation that I repeatedly inflicted mental cruelty on my husband.
Now I know that I'm dealing with someone who is seriously disturbed. My boss thinks his purpose is to milk me for some money (after he freeloaded for years & left me in nasty debt). All of this scares me, but I am enlisting the help of a good lawyer & the support of my family & my church community.
So I've had to descend from the sublimity of my weekend with Bea & my son & daughter-in-law into some serious soap-opera-level ugliness. Please pray with me, friends, that we'll all have wisdom to respond well to this & that truth & justice will prevail. I am heading for bed & will rest in the arms of God's love.
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