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A Baited Trap

Saturday, June 07, 2014

It occurred to me that temptation functions a bit like bait on a trap or fishing hook. A worm is dangled on a hook. A bit of cheese is placed on the mousetrap. If the bait weren't desirable the trap wouldn't work. I am amazed by my mind's ability to focus in sharply on the bait and put completely out of focus and out of mind the trap into which the bait is leading me. I am aware of the trap but I push thoughts of it aside. For example, one of my weaknesses is Mexican food and specifically the chips and salsa delivered to the table. Are the hot spices and creamy condiments and crunch intensely luring - yes. I am alone on this occasion and I eat all chips every one, loving the salsa, and then the entire meal - enough for three or four people truth be told. Did I enjoy it - of course I did and yet not so much. Enjoyment was diminished by the knowledge that I was wrecking my diet in ways that would take days to recover from. Yes there was awareness of this consequence in the back of my mind but I chose not to dwell on it. After the meal however the discomfort in my stomach which lasted through the night reminded me constantly that I had fallen for the trap. I could have brought two thirds of that meal home and enjoyed it much over a longer period of time. I could have stayed within my calorie range and gotten much more enjoyment out of it this way. The question for me to reflect on is what are the mental conditions and emotional needs that cause me to override my awareness of traps like this and pursue what I know full well doesn't and ultimately can't bring satisfaction. What I desire is a consistent awareness, focus on, and desire for choices that will truly satisfy. I must not let myself get fooled into thinking that the bait is what will satisfy. Bait is a deception. Its purpose is to deceive and lure one into trouble. I want to stay alert to any deception stirring in my mind. I want to choose each moment what will make me feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy and content. To do that I need to stay alert and name the deceptions for what they are, and get on with enjoying life.

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COOP9002 6/7/2014 5:32PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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GODS_TEMPLE 6/7/2014 3:45PM

    Are you getting a lot of exercise in your garden this year? Still using your kettlebell?

When you think of overindulging...think of how much exercise you'll have to do to offset those calories...That will get me every time!
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BEBARB149 6/7/2014 10:13AM

    Perhaps anticipating the trap will help. Remembering that "hunger is the best sauce," looking ahead to a special meal may mean eating something low calorie before leaving for the restaurant. It would only slightly detract from the enjoyment, and might make it easier for you to bring home the bulk of the meal to enjoy in small bits over a couple of days while staying within your calorie range. Also, ask for and drink a glass of water before you dip that first chip.

On the other side of the coin is the fact that an occasional indulgence isn't the end of everything, just a small set back. Finding the middle ground can be a delightful puzzle to solve.

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Rewinding and Moving Forward

Thursday, May 22, 2014

For today's visualization, think about the last time you got off track with your diet. What caused you to get derailed from your good intentions? Imagine rewinding the memory, but taking a different path where you make better choices. Think of this exercise the next time you're in danger of falling off the wagon.

Cause - I'll just go back to yesterday. I was completing a task that was very stressful and which brought back a heavy dose of emotional pain and anger - i.e. preparation of a document for a mediation process to face a person who has mistreated me. I ate handfuls of Hershey Kiss Chocolates as my fingers typed and my mind furiously rehearsed all the things I want and need to say to this person. Then in the evening I attended a special dinner and I ate everything in sight. The wounded part of me says "give me a break." The angry part says I'll take for myself whatever I want. The excuse-maker part of me says the indulgence will just be for this one time, and it doesn't really matter because I'll get started on the diet again tomorrow. This gives my inner judge strong evidence for its belief in my inner weakness and foolishness and based on this evidence it rules that I am not up to the task of managing my life well. The judged and wounded part of me now has the added burden of despair of ever getting back on track and feels trapped in self-defeating patterns. Overall, I am left feeling displeased with myself and with a sense that my life is out of control.

Rewind - I acknowledge the pain that the distasteful task stirs up. I do need to do it. I stop to think how can I care for myself while I do this. I light a candle as a reminder of goodness, God's love and light. I make a cup of coffee. I set a picture of my family beside me. I promise myself a walk in the garden after I get the job done. I will break up twigs, pull weeds, or go to the gym to work off my anger. I vow to take care of myself through my diet and exercise to defeat with good the "enemy" within and without that would destroy me if I let it.

Acknowledge and decide are critical steps... I'll seek to practice them today.

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GODS_TEMPLE 5/23/2014 1:24AM

    I had a really good excuse for blowing my weight loss out of the water this week...a very dear friend committed suicide on Saturday. But would my eating bring her back? NO!

Instead, I am helping her family with things that need to be done to prepare for all the relatives who will be coming from England, Australia, Germany and several States. That is the best thing I can do for her and me right now.
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KING_SLAYER 5/22/2014 3:46PM

    Sounds like a good plan to stem the tide of negative emotions that can lead to eating the wrong things in the wrong quantities!

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CAT-IN-CJ 5/22/2014 10:01AM

    You are SO right. I'm reading a book entitled What Are You Hungry For by Deepak Chopra. While I don't agree with where he's coming from (and going to) spiritually, I have learned to ask myself that question when I feel like I'm heading off my path.

It's great that you can recognize and express your feelings and thoughts - you're definitely on the right path!

You can do it!

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Consistently Inconsistent

Saturday, April 19, 2014

I'm frustrated with myself. I wanted to get back on track this week but I seem to be in one of those ruts in which I am consistently inconsistent. I have some daily spurts of good effort followed by faltering which sabotages the good for an overall inconsistent mixed bag conclusion to the day. The trouble is in the evening. Maybe I am still wishing I was in Spain where supper is served late. Our new friends there called us to the feasting table as late as ten, eleven, and once even at midnight! Well, I'm not in Spain anymore. I can't be eating an early American supper and then indulging another Spanish one before going to bed!!! This has got to stop. Tonight I will shake up the routine. I'm going to read to relax rather than snacking while watching a show. I will track every calorie. I promise.

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FEMISLIM 4/21/2014 8:23PM

    Stay strong

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BEBARB149 4/20/2014 10:22AM

    Habits are easy to form and hard to get rid of. I know. I've given up more habits in my life than I can remember adopting. Maybe try a substitution, a good habit for a bad one. When you feel like eating in the evening, do an exercise, some stretching, take a walk, or just do some deep breathing and see if the craving passes. Good luck.

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GODS_TEMPLE 4/20/2014 12:26AM

    Ask your wife to help...she'll be glad to tell you to stay out of the kitchen! emoticon

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KING_SLAYER 4/19/2014 6:48PM

    Admitting that you have a problem is the first step to overcoming that problem. Now you just have to find ways to keep yourself from wandering into the kitchen and getting some food!

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STEVENK87 4/19/2014 1:13PM

    It happens but emoticon

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DARSHAN130 4/19/2014 11:10AM

    You are not alone.

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GEORGE815 4/19/2014 11:07AM

    Sounds like most of us!

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Coming Home!

Monday, April 14, 2014

I want to use the metaphor of "coming home" as a guide for my return to my ideal weight. I am still adjusting to jet lag from a flight home from Spain. The trip was a tremendous gift of renewal and spiritual blessing. But when I pulled my last clean shirt out of my suitcase I realized I was ready to come home, and not just because I needed to do laundry. It was time to incorporate what I leaned from the journey to Spain and the Canary Islands into the commitments I have made in the place I now call home. I am tempted to kick myself for the multiple accumulated steps I've taken to gain weight instead of maintain it. But now that I think about it, my mind has been focused and stressed about other goals and priorities that became urgent since the beginning of this year. These matters are not an excuse for ignoring the skill I need to perfect in order to manage weight while also pursuing and focusing on other priorities. But it is a way of extending some compassion to myself as I "travel" toward the accomplishment of various objectives in my life. Looking back I see that good things have been accomplished during this time but at the same time a series of little choices over the past several months were made which took me back from being in great shape physically. While focusing on other "travels" I relaxed my exercise and food intake disciplines. Without consistent tracking I drifted away from being alert to little ways in which I was slipping away from my new "home" of living in medium sized shirts and loose fitting smaller waist pants. I am still wearing those new clothes but they are fitting a bit tighter. I am ready to get back to my new physically fit home. I am thankful the return will not be too difficult. I am still forty pounds lighter than when I first started with Spark People. Ten pounds gets me back to the front door of my new healthy home and a few more will get me safely back inside my new home. It will feel good to be back home. I am ready to start the journey back home today.

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GODS_TEMPLE 4/14/2014 5:41PM

    Spain is a great place to visit, but...

When DH and DD went to visit relatives in Spain, they came back talking about all the wonderful food. Of course, they also had a great time visiting all the old home places, but they were both happy to come 'home'!

Welcome back!

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KING_SLAYER 4/14/2014 3:18PM

    Life has a way of interrupting our plans! Luckily you haven't been taken too far from "home" and can clearly see the way back. I'm sure you'll be there in no time!

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    You CAN do it!

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Healthy Despite Disaster

Thursday, January 02, 2014

This is one holiday season we'll never forget. Disasters come in threes they say and we've had three. It could have been much worse.
1. Our daughter walked away from a car wreck on her way home from college sore but uninjured. The car was totaled. She was not the driver. I am thankful she is alive and well.
2. I broke a tooth chomping down on a popcorn kernel. The root of the tooth was not exposed. So a thousand dollars or so should fix it. I am thankful for new dental insurance obtained through the affordable care act which will help cover this cost.
3. The Sunday before Christmas a pipe broke in our house while we were away at church. We came home to several inches of water in every room in the house. We had to move everything out into the garage so that all the carpets could be pulled up and dehumidifiers and blowers brought in to dry out the house. Walls soaked up water and even the ceilings were dripping because there was so much water evaporating. This equipment ran for five days drying out the house while we visited family for the holidays. We are back "home" now but in a hotel while workers repair drywall and begin painting everything. Then new flooring will need to be installed and then all the furniture, wall pictures, clothes, everything will have to be moved back into the house. It could be worse. Some people in our area had flooding from recent storms in which sewage backed up into their homes. At least the water in our house was clean and no furniture was damaged. Still it will take several weeks to get everything put back in place.
SO MY CHALLENGE is to stay focused on healthy disciplines of exercise and diet while completely out of my normal routines. The complimentary hotel breakfast provides few low calorie options. I found a packet of instant oatmeal but added a side of scrambled eggs. Drat - over 600 calories in eggs - I forgot how many calories are in a pile of scrambled eggs since I rarely eat them. I'll try to compensate for that mistake by eating less the rest of the day which will have to be restaurant eating since our house is a torn up dusty mess at the moment. I did exercise this morning at the hotel fitness center. I am determined to stay healthy despite this disaster! I've not been at my best with my diet - I guess I've had a lot to deal with but I'm not going to let that be an excuse to get off track with my health goals.

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FEMISLIM 1/3/2014 8:31AM

    It is well,with you all!!

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GODS_TEMPLE 1/3/2014 5:23AM

    You are so blessed to have free exercise equipment right going out in the snow to get to the gym...

It's always best to look at the bright side of life!

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KING_SLAYER 1/2/2014 2:47PM

    You certainly know how to wrap up a year!! You are right, each of those things could have been much worse, so it's good to try and look at the bright side. Best of luck with the hotel lifestyle, that can be a challenge in itself!

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SUNSHYNECOOKS 1/2/2014 11:12AM

    So, God has proved He is watching over you by: 1. Mercy-your daughter being well; 2. Opportunity-to show faith and thanksgiving with all three happenings; 3. Self-control (discipline) by learning new ways to stick to your goals that you might not have tried or know of before. What an inspiration you are!

Try buying some fruit, raw veggies, cut up in to bite sizes to eat on your good side of your mouth, (you can store in hotel fridge) nuts, (or maybe not for you with tooth issue?) to help with snack time. For breakfast instant Better Oats Steel Cut (sold at Safeway ) to make with hot water in microwave; and there are a few articles here on SparkPeople that help with choosing foods when you eat out!

And just think--brand new flooring and painted walls! As for the tooth you said it: You have insurance to help fix that!

You are off to a great start by having such a positive attitude. Here is to you and yours a joy filled New Year!

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MCFITZ2 1/2/2014 10:55AM

    I am so glad that your daughter is safe. Everything else is repairable or replaceable.
We have also had broken pipe damage. No fun. Very upsetting, but survivable. Use the hotel's recreation facilities to relieve the stress. Best is ahead.. emoticon

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