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Thursday, September 15, 2011
(copied/pasted from the RR thread) I'd never go away. I just might not be all sunshine & roses. Thank you for your words - I am doing my best to deal with everything positively. He's just being such a class-A jerk. The gist of it is, Colin came home from his dad's house on the 5th and told me that he wasn't registered in the school that I thought he was but in a different school, closer to his father's house. No big deal, until I did some research and found out that it is probably one of the worst schools in Alberta. In fact, it was the only school last year to be put on lock down for a gun threat. It has, for the past five years, had a less than 50% graduation rate and, of that percentage, the average exam mark is around 60%. Colin told me not to worry, he only had to try it for one day and then he could make his choice of schools.
My main issue with this, despite everything else, is that he left it for Colin to tell me. I sent him Colin's class schedule on August 21.... he removed him from school on the 31st - no phone call, no email, no text - nothing.
Second situation - the trip to the unknown destination. Turns out it was Peru. Also turns out that "3 weeks" turned into September 28 through to October 26. Okay, I wasn't thrilled but I'm still hopeful that the boys would go, have fun and not flunk out of school. (Should I have blogged this?) Logan(13) and Colin(14) realized that they'd miss almost four full weeks of school and started to rethink wanting to go. Colin is a worrier.... pointed out that taking that much school work with would lead to "not much of a vacation" and Logan quite bluntly stated he didn't want to spend that much time with his stepmother.
Anyway, it turns out I'm a manipulative person because I fed the kids thoughts and lies until they told their father that they would rather not go to Peru. Add to the the fact that I, apparently, scared Colin from going to the school in his neighbourhood and I got a rather scathing email. THAT I will put with a copy of this, in a blog tonight because I can't make this crap up and I don't want to paraphrase....
Here it is:
I cannot continue to be manipulated by you through the boys. We cannot do anything with them without having you influence them as to what they want to do. Even an exciting and potentially once in a lifetime trip to another country. You are convincing them that they will miss too much school and should not go. I heard it in the exchange we had last night. I was going to screw up their entire school year with a 4 week trip. That had obviously been discussed prior to my getting there in those terms. I know you will say you have said nothing to them, that it was their idea, you just talked about it with them, but that is the problem, if they were with us from the time we decided to go until the time we left, we could talk to them about their fears, help them figure out how to make the missing school easier and work through any issues, instead they go to you and you feed their fears and do nothing to encourage them to change. You have no interest in letting them do anything with us, you want them to always remain safe and secure in H****** with you. If that is truly what they want, to remain safe and secure in H***** for the rest of their lives, then I am sorry that I have failed them as a parent.
The 2 week custody needs to change. I am proposing a semester in school custody period (roughly 5 months). Since you have effectively locked Colin into D*** for the semester and are encouraging him to not go on the trip with us, you have effectively requested to have him for the full semester from now until January. We will get the kids in January and have them until the end of the school year. Each household can have 1 weekend a month (if available) to keep in touch and phone calls are always available. We can discuss the weeks around Christmas and Spring break if you would like, I am okay having them just be a part of the semester of school they are in.
The summer months can be either added on to the semester or alternated so it would be 5 months then 1 month alternating then another 5 months.
I know this is not what you want, but I need my life separated from your influence as much as possible. This needs to happen for the good of the kids, we cannot continue to battle over them. You do not have to accept this completely as it is. Feel free to suggest other options or discuss any points in it, but it is not okay to just say no, I can't and won't continue like this.
thanks
Friday, September 02, 2011
========= . THE HEART CHALLENGE . ============
H-HIBERNATE Get 6-8 Hours of sleep per night (Starting bedtime Friday night, ending morning time Monday morning)
E-EAT 4 Freggies a day
A- ATTEMPT A NEW TO YOU STRENGTH MOVE. The important thing is you have to report what the new ST move you attempted on your TEAM THREAD so we all get new ideas to try. Post these new moves either daily or cumulatively on Monday.
R-RACING...Get that heart rate up for 20 minutes (Minimum)
T-TOUCH Reach Out and TOUCH Someone... Spend time with family, with friends, go visit, make a phone call. Your voice is a gift to those that Love you.
1 pt max for each category - 5 pts per day
Complete ALL Phases in a single day receive a 5 point Bonus for that day.
MAX Points 10 points per day/3 days= 30 points
========= . THE TRACKING . ============
Friday, September 2 - HEART Points: __3__ (10 max/day)
__1__ H - HIBERNATE Get 6-8 Hours of sleep per night (1 pt)
__1__ E - EAT 4 Freggies a day (1 pt)
__0__ A - ATTEMPT A NEW TO YOU STRENGTH MOVE. (1 pt)
__0__ R - RACING...Get that heart rate up for 20 minutes (min.) (1 pt)
__1__ T - TOUCH Reach Out and TOUCH Someone... Spend time with family, with friends, go visit, make a phone call. Your voice is a gift to those that Love you. (1 pt.)
____ HEART Bonus pts (5 pts for completion of HEART)
Saturday, September 3 - HEART Points: __3___ (10 max/day)
_1__ H - HIBERNATE Get 6-8 Hours of sleep per night (1 pt)
_1__ E - EAT 4 Freggies a day (1 pt)
_0__ A - ATTEMPT A NEW TO YOU STRENGTH MOVE. (1 pt)
_0__ R - RACING...Get that heart rate up for 20 minutes (min.) (1 pt)
_1__ T - TOUCH Reach Out and TOUCH Someone... Spend time with family, with friends, go visit, make a phone call. Your voice is a gift to those that Love you. (1 pt.)
_____ HEART Bonus pts (5 pts for completion of HEART)
Sunday, September 4 - HEART Points: __4____ (10 max/day)
_1__ H - HIBERNATE Get 6-8 Hours of sleep per night (1 pt)
__1_ E - EAT 4 Freggies a day (1 pt)
__0_ A - ATTEMPT A NEW TO YOU STRENGTH MOVE. (1 pt)
_1__ R - RACING...Get that heart rate up for 20 minutes (min.) (1 pt)
_1__ T - TOUCH Reach Out and TOUCH Someone... Spend time with family, with friends, go visit, make a phone call. Your voice is a gift to those that Love you. (1 pt.)
____ HEART Bonus pts (5 pts for completion of HEART)
Total challenge points - 10
Thursday, September 01, 2011
The rules of Sparkpeople say that we're not allowed to post other people's words, that we should instead putup a link BUT this came to me in an email and there's no link to post. So I'm going to take the chance of posting it, even if it only reaches a couple people before it gets taken down, IF it gets taken down. Here goes:
Have you ever seen a really impressive "before" and "after" photo on a weight loss product?
Well, there's something that the diet industry doesn't want you to know. There is more involved than just the diet product, and it's the same across the board.
Look into the eyes of any person in their "before" picture and you'll see that they are deeply disturbed. The body they have is no longer in sync with the body they are able to accept.
They changed the body that they accept, and became disturbed.
Now look into their eyes in the "after" picture – see the sweet satisfaction? They now live in the body that they decided they could accept. What an amazing feeling that is.
Why are you still living life in your "before" body?
Sure, you have obstacles that get in your way – your schedule, your job, your kids, the weather, your knee injury from college…but ultimately you have the body that you accept.
I'm going to repeat that so it will really sink in.
You have the body that you accept.
Transform from "Before" to "After"
You may not realize it, but you already posses everything you need to transform your body, and it all starts with taking responsibility for the body that you have today.
You are in your current shape because, until this moment, you've been OK with it.
Oh I know you aren't thrilled with it, and you even talk about losing weight and getting fit - but you haven't changed what you'll accept.
Here's how to transform your body in 3 steps:
Step One: Feel Disturbed
It has been said that emotion creates motion. This is essential when it comes to personal transformation. Just like those folks in the "before" pictures, to transform your body you must first decide that you can't live another day in the body you currently have.
Get your emotions stirred up. Make a list of all the reasons that you're ready to lose weight and get fit. Get disturbed.
Step Two: Decide What You Want
Without clarity you'll never get where you want to go. Now that you're disturbed with the body you have, decide what the body you can accept looks like.
Think in concrete and specific terms. Just like the captions under ‘before" and "after" pictures - "Shannon lost 50 lbs," "Matt lost 8 inches from his waist," "Catherine went from a size 20 to a size 4."
Get a clear picture in your mind of what you'll look like in your "after" picture and decide what the caption will read.
Step Three: Take Action
The time spent between your inspiration (now) and taking action determines whether you will succeed or fail. Don't allow yourself to get stuck between inspiration and action - there is always something that you can do immediately.
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I hope this reaches you as it did me.
~p.
Sunday, August 28, 2011
I am, however, randomly subjected to mini exorcisms. Roo doesn't understand the concept: morning sickness is called such for a reason AND it's supposed to go away after the first trimester. HA. *MY* daughter will reject anything, any time and with enough force to make me wish I was never born.
On the plus side, I only have (theoretically) ten more weeks to go.
She must know I'm irked with her today. She's been making my belly dance for the last hour. It's cute. It reminds me that I already love her and I would lay down my life for her. OTOH, she made me miss my workout this morning, therefore, she's grounded until she's 2. Or 35. I'm not sure quite yet.
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
So where was I? Ah yes, Friday we visited Penticton. Vacation tip #1 - NEVER go anywhere without your swimsuit. We got to Skaha Lake and no one had theirs with them, including me. *sigh* two hours later, we came out of Sport Check and I had the most expensive bathing suit I've ever purchased for myself. The lake was worth it though. Hang on, I'll show you:
Saturday, we began our trip back to Calgary. We stopped at the Log Barn in Armstrong:
   
and the D Dutchmen Dairy in Sicamous:
AND the Enchanted Forest:
   Finally, we stopped in Golden for the night.
Now we're back home in Calgary. I did a lot of walking on my vacation. No running or roller-blading at all.... and I didn't track a single calorie.
Today, is a new day with new goals. Like the trains that I saw on my trip, it's time to get on track.
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