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Tuesday, September 16, 2014

It's been over one year since my last blog and I haven't accomplished on solitary thing. I have been so far OFF track, it's ridiculous. I guess all I can see is, "KEEP ON TRUCKING".

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JMARIES51 9/30/2014 11:08PM

    Hi Ruby, So nice to see that you checked back in. We can only do what we can do. Hope you are doing good.

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BLESSEDBEING 9/18/2014 12:56AM

    Yep, Life happens! Hope you'll hang around and harvest some inspiration, connection and motivation with your fellow goddesses and Sparkers! emoticon
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DEBIGENE 9/17/2014 6:10PM

    Ruby, so nice to see you back. You are always a winner to me as you never quit !!! Fall down 7 get up 8 .... you're AWESOME. Please come by the team, we really miss you.

HUGS !!!

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 9/17/2014 11:25AM

    HIya Ruby, welcome back to the fold!! I haven't done much as far as weight loss, but boy have I made progress in other areas of my life...I graduate in December, after this semester, I have two jobs and one of them might grow into a "real" job, I got a puppy that's now a big huge sweet dumb dog....Its great to see you again! Can't wait to hear about all your "doings"!

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RUBYCLAIRE 9/16/2014 11:35PM

    Thanks so much everyone for all of your support!

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MERILYNN1 9/16/2014 11:22PM

    Glad to see you back - missed your positive support - I'll post more if you will - and of course you are still trying - I think you were my first Spark friend and know from the past you are hanging in there! Blessings - Meri emoticon emoticon

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If At First You Don't... KEEP ON PADDLING!!!

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Let it be known that Ruby is still working at trying to get back into a healthy groove. It seems that no matter how many letters I write to myself, nor how often I tell myself, which just happens to be every morning, of every day, of every week, "I will make good food choices. I will exercise today", I come to the end of my work day, and once again my hand slips off my boat, and of course the boat drifts a bit further away. Once again I find myself struggling to reach it in the hopes that I can grab a hold and climb back on board. One more time I'm battling to stay afloat in treacherous waters. I know there are many life preservers all around, some tossed to me by my Spark family and friends, others tossed to me by perfect strangers, and everyone doing their best to help pull me to safety. As I blindly reach out my hand, I lose sight of goals because those gosh darned cheese twists, potato sticks, M & M's, bologna or hot dogs floated into my vision, causing me to miss reaching the life preserver before me.

For those of you who may still be fighting the same battle as I am, remember that as long as you keep your head above water, you will NOT drown. You may take in excess water, much more than you'd like, but keep on treading that water. Keep on doing the dog paddle and keep reaching out to all those hands tossing you life preservers to help you make your way back to, what at times feels like, your elusive boat. All it takes is one preserver to help keep you afloat and head you back into the right direction. Eventually you will reach the boat which YOU will help steer to your shore of a healthy lifestyle.

Keep on reaching, it's right there in front of you. You can see it. The more you continue to dog paddle to stay afloat, the better you become and eventually you will learn how to swim, rather than just staying afloat.

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MSLZZY 7/21/2014 7:09AM

    Lose the snacks. Just refuse to buy them or keep them in the house. Save that money to reward yourself with something healthier. Don't give up now! HUGS!

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KDALLUM 8/19/2013 11:41PM

    Hi Ruby,
This is beautifully written. It comes through loud and clear that you are reaching deep down to your toes for the sincere emotion you expressed. So many of us can relate on so many levels. They teach in Al-anon that laying 'it' out there is not only risky because it gives everyone else a peek inside you, but the act of sharing lets you really look at the issue. You lay it on the table, so to speak.
I have found imagery to be very help and have only recently given a face, if you will, to my health and the detractors I allow to influence me.
Thank you for your courage.

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 8/10/2013 10:47AM

    Yes, that's me, too. I have been Sparking for so long, yet I haven't lost weight. But yesterday I started again, and hopefully THIS will be the time I stick with it long enough to change my life.

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SUGEO1 8/2/2013 10:40AM

    Best thing for me is to just not have it in the house. If I can make sure I have something healthy and low-cal to snack on and there isn't any junk food to grab my attention first, I will be fine, but I already know it's a setup for failure if I have a bag of chips and dip or candy there waiting for me.

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EMJAYKAY 7/22/2013 1:30AM

    Ruby , this is a wonderful post - thank you for writing !
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    Mom - we all have experienced this frustration. If we hadn't we probably wouldn't be on Sparkpeople! So yes, you have your life preserver, you are doggie paddling along and you keep your head above water. The best way to get closer to that boat is to throw the cheese twists, potato sticks, m&ms, bologna and hot dogs overboard. while you're still paddling or hanging on to the dock you will find your load so much lighter if you can toss those away. Remember the feeling you get when you make that one healthy decision and then when you make many. You bubble with excitement and pride. I try to remind myself the very same thing. If you have to do it slowly, eliminate one of those items or just buy a tiny bag to satisfy a craving, then don't buy more - just savor the taste of those and if all else fails remember those foods are full of GMOs and are not doing you any good. You can do this, you know you can.

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DEBIGENE 7/21/2013 7:14PM

    Have faith Ruby, you can do it !!!!

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MOTTAMAMALOU 7/21/2013 6:45PM

    Beautifully written!

My boat sailed a long time ago and I'm trying to get it back! emoticon

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DOGLADY13 7/21/2013 6:09PM

    I do a slow run MWF at the Riverwalk at Boott Mills. 6:30ish. We could meet. We start together. I go my speed. You go yours. We meet again on my return. We end together.

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Wednesday, June 12, 2013


If you are of French decent, or simply enjoy the French language, foods, music & customs, then this is the place to go. An entire week of fun activities from start to finish. Check out the schedule which I've posted below. Don't think you can make all the events, that's okay, mark your calendar, or make yourself a reminder in your cell phone so you don't miss the ones that peak your interest the most. All events are "FREE" except where otherwise noted.

If you are able to come to our great city for any of these events, please make sure you sign our Guest Book. We shall do our best to keep you informed of any other Franco-American events being held throughout the year in the 6 New England states and possibly some events which are held in Canada.

The Franco-American Day Committee is a small non-profit organization located in Lowell, MA. We will never contact you without expression permission. Any information you supply will NEVER be sold or given out without your consent. If you do attend any of the events, please look me up and let me know where you are from, and how you found out about our events.

Hope to see many of you there!

SUNDAY, JUNE 23, 2013

8:30a --- French Mass - Ste. Marguerite d'Youville Parish (Ste. Therese Church, 1340 Lakeview Ave, Dracut, MA
FREE Pancake Breakfast in church hall after Mass - Naming of the Franco-American of the Year 2013 - The public is invited.

3:00p --- Talk, "Like Cajuns - Like Franco-Americans?" a comparison of two sociolinguistic fieldworks given by Dr. Carole Salmon, Franco-American School Auditorium, 357 Pawtucket St., Lowell, MA - Admission is FREE.

MONDAY, JUNE 24, 2013

9:15a --- Memorial ceremony at the "Little Canada Monument Corner of Aiken & Hall streets, Lowell, MA - FREE

10:00a --- Flag raising ceremony - Lowell City Hall (In case of inclement weather it will be held in the mayors reception room) - FREE

7:00p --- Vespers (Evening prayers) in honor of St. Jean Baptiste - Franco-American School Grotto. Cheese and wine social in the cafeteria following the prayers. - FREE

TUESDAY, JUNE 25, 2013

Quebecois Film Festival, St. Rita's Parish Hall, 158 Mammoth Rd, Lowell. Films and times listed below. - FREE


4:30p to 6:30p --- Ham & Bean Supper, Ste. Marguerite d'Youville Parish (Ste. Therese Church, 1340 Lakeview Ave, Dracut, MA -
Adults - $7.00
Seniors - $6.00
Children under 10 - $2.00
Family Plan - $15.00


6:00p --- Learn How To Quadrille, Club Lafayette, 465 Fletcher St. Lowell, MA, No partners needed. FREE

FRIDAY, JUNE 28, 2013

6:30p --- Family Bingo in French, Ste. Marguerite d'Youville Parish (Ste. Therese Church, 1340 Lakeview Ave, Dracut, MA - 1 card $2.00; 3 cards $5.00


6:00p to 8:00p --- La Famille LeBlanc musical entertainment, Senior Center, 276 Broadway St, Lowell. - FREE - I also have raffle tickets, which may also be purchased at any of the events - $1.00 each or 6 for $5.00 (1st prize $500; 2nd prize $250; 3rd prize $100) Raffle drawing held this evening.

SUNDAY, JUNE 30, 2013

2:00p --- Old-Fashioned Game Party, St. Rita's Parish Hall, 158 Mammoth Rd, Lowell. Films and times listed below. - FREE

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 6/21/2013 7:02PM

    It does loook fun. I had no idea that there were franco-american orgs, shame on me!

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MSLZZY 6/12/2013 4:51PM

    I need to move closer! This looks like a lot of fun!

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Sunday, June 02, 2013

My dearest self, Ruby,

It's been a long time since we've REALLY had a nice chat. Well actually, I've been talking, but I almost feel as though you have been purposely ignoring me. I know we've had our differences, but I must confess that your ignoring me has really been causing me an enormous amount of distress. You seem to hear the words, but they go in one ear and out the other, so to speak. You are not digesting them.

What happened, Ruby? We were doing so well, and I know you were pretty excited for a while as you were becoming healthier, but all of a sudden you disappeared. Your old friends "old" friends, chips, potato sticks and mostly cheese twists, manged to get your attention and worked their way back into your life. They have convinced you that "tomorrow is another day" and you can always get back with ME "tomorrow". They have managed to dominate your life once again.

Ruby, I am so very disappointed. I miss all of those good times we spent together going for walks on the bike path, doing cardio and doing strength training, as well as dancing around the house. Remember when we'd go to Hampton Beach and walk from one end to the other, IN THE WATER, just so we'd get more resistance? We were doing that every single day after work. But once the colder weather started to set in and the beach was no longer viable, that's when your "Old" friends saw their opportunity to lead you astray and they've been hanging on ever since.

Have you REALLY noticed, how your old friends have been able to convince you that it's okay to sit in front of the boob tube when you get home after work,? You've allowed them to constantly reach out to you, afterall, you had another tough day so you deserve to vegge out and do absolutely nothing, at least for an hour or so, which then drags into 3, 4, 5 hours until it's time to go to bed. They've been able to convince you that your are tired and that by sitting doing nothing, you'll be resting and getting your zapped strength renewed. And to make matters worse they call out to you to join them in an unhealthy snack of some sort all the while you sit in front of the TV watching shows that you previously taped.

Do you remember what our daughter, Amy-Jean said when we first started getting healthy and going for walks all the time? She said, "It's great to see you getting into these things, Mom. I'm so very proud of you, and be honest, don't you feel better now that you're not sitting in front of the TV with your old friends, cheese twists & potato sticks?" You couldn't help but say, "Most definitely and I love it. I can't believe that I wasn't doing this before".

Ruby, I loved, and now miss, when we used to fix a wonderful salad for lunch, and sometimes chicken and loads of vegetables for dinner. I miss the times we'd sit and track on Spark People what we ate, and all the exercising we did. You have to admit, you were having fun. Don't you miss it, even a little bit? Is there anyway I can talk you into working on our relationship. I know that you love me, and always have, but I need more than just words, I need you to prove to me, by your actions, that you REALLY do love me.

I know there are alot of people who say that it's okay to have a cheat day, but Honey, you and I both know that it doesn't work for you. I know that you never mean to have more than one day of junk food and no exercising, but as soon as you let your old friends back into your life, BANG, that's the end of it. They ALWAYS end up staying for a LONG time. They tend to move in for days, weeks, months, and I've even known them to stay for over a year or two, and sadly you allow it. Believe me when I say, they are NOT looking out for our best interest.

Ruby, PLEASE, I am begging you to not let our relationship flounder any longer. PLEASE, open up and listen to me, I can help you. PLEASE don't continue to shut me out. Love me again as you use to. Maybe it will help you if you post "Before" and "After" pictures of us so we can keep it in the foreground of how things were when you had all those old friends in your life and then how you looked and were beginning to feel after our relationship started getting closer.

Well, Ruby, I do hope that I've been able to give you food for thought, and that you will keep this letter handy to use as a reference. You know I only want what is best for you, for both of us. I hope that my words will help you find your way back to my loving arms. You, Ruby, are a sweet, loving, giving person and now it's time to starting giving to US once again. You always tell people you are "FANTASTIC" whenever they ask, well now it's time to really live up to that and get our life back in the right direction.

I love you, Ruby, more than you realize, and I shall NEVER ever give up on us.

All my love, ALWAYS,

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KDALLUM 8/19/2013 11:49PM

    I'm stunned.

Thank you.

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DOGLADY13 6/3/2013 7:02AM

    We've all been there, Ruby. Welcome back.

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 6/3/2013 12:06AM

    Wonderful blog Ruby, and just what I need to do, too!

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EMJAYKAY 6/2/2013 9:12PM

    Ruby this is such a wonderful & inspiring letter & what a great idea for all of us to do . A very big " Thank you " for sharing .
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ROZOZ68 6/2/2013 3:18PM

    Amazing Letter!!

I also read what everyone commented and I agree that was most heartfelt and inspiring.

Come back to Ruby!

You are worth it! Being healthy is a much better feeling than a couch potato!

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JOHNSONZ 6/2/2013 3:01PM

    Now how awesome is a Heart to Heart with oneself.

Its its going to be - its up to YOU right??
You got a wonderful network of support because I am also in the AMY JEAN network.
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CATHYROSE40 6/2/2013 2:18PM

    Ruby, this letter was inspiring because all I needed to do was insert my name for yours, and I could see myself starting down this same path. You have just pulled me up from that. I can't thank you enough. And I think this Ruby has managed to find its alter-ego and now you two will be happy together again. Encouragement, determination and a swift kick in the butt work wonders.
My best to you Ruby - and thank you!

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MSLZZY 6/2/2013 10:59AM

    I know you can find your way back and away from the OLD friends who have kept you company way too long. Step back into the light of SP and see what a difference there is. HUGS!

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    Awesome letter. One I should be writing to myself, too. I love you, Mom!!! Be healthy to be here for us. And I will do the same!!

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DEBIGENE 6/2/2013 9:38AM

    Such a beautiful and honest letter Ruby !!!

I will walk with you PLEASE come back to YOUR team and be part of us again. We can motivate and encourage each other and challenge each other. You know it takes a village sometimes to get things done and I can always use more motivation and support as well.

Hugs and HOPEs friend.

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Sunday, May 12, 2013

I had a fall this morning, landing on the knee that I injured a few years ago when leaving the motel at Cape Cod. I banged it up pretty badly, but that stand in the way of my having an awesome Mother's Day with my wonderful son, Charlie.

First we took a ride out to the cemetery, parked the car at my parents grave and then walked to visit her, my two Memeres, my 6 aunts and a few cousins, leaving a few flowers for each of them. In our walk, which was a bit tough but I did it, we also passed by an old friend's grave, Cecile Beaudoin so we left her a couple of flowers, too.

When we got back into the car, Charlie put on Wendy Rule singing my Mom's favorite song, La Vie en Rose. The other visitors didn't seem to mind that we were blasting it for they all smiled. For those of you who may not know, St. Joseph's is a French cemetery.

From there we went to a new restaurant, Jon Ryan's Pub. It was quite lovely. I order the pulled pork, but it needed a bit more bar-b-que sauce. When I told the waitress, she didn't hesitate to bring me some extra and it made a huge difference. Charlie ordered a Rueben, but only ate half of it and gave me the rest for me to bring to work tomorrow.

There was however, one sad turn of events today. Shortly after returning home, I got a phone call telling me that my cousin's husband, who had been very sick for a very long time had crossed-over. They had just moved back to New Hampshire because my cousin was no longer well enough to take care of her husband alone.

Well my dear friends, here's hoping that all you beautiful Moms and Memeres, (Grandmothers) including all you Moms who have babies of species other than in human form, had a wonderfully, Happy Mother's Day! I hope your day was filled with all the joys your hearts can hold. (((Hugs)))

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DEBIGENE 5/13/2013 8:15AM

    Time spent with your child/children is what Mother's Day is all about, glad you enjoyed your time together.

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 5/13/2013 1:05AM

    It sounds like a lovely day, and I'm glad you weren't hurt too badly in your fall. Happy Mothers day to you, too!

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    Glad you had a good day with Charlie, Mom. Sorry about your knee and our cousin. Hugs

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