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Tuesday, February 11, 2014

I called my Aunt on the way to work to see if she ate and took her meds. I have called every morning since I got home. It's the only thing I can think of to help. I hate the fact that no one is there for her and my uncle. My aunt said this lady, Pam, who I met, is telling them not to move, she will move and take care of them. Pam's boyfriend has a drug problem and I think she is trying to take advantage of my aunt and uncle who are in their 80's. I am ready to go back down and punch her out! I told Pam the doctor said they need to be in assistant living. Since Pam has no place to live she said she will move into their house and take care of them. I was so upset when my aunt told me! They are so vulnerable! I called my aunt's son and he called Pam then told me she will back off. I have such a hard time with people like that.

Today I once again stayed in my calorie range. I had a big, juicy Honeybell orange from my Florida trip, a super green salad, complete with kale, peppers and onion for lunch, and my gotta have everyday break stone cottage cheese.

I had tilapia, green Chilis and tomato and cheese tortellinis out to cook for dinner, and I got over ruled by my son and husband to go to a local Italian Place -- I think my husband didn't feel like fish. I ended up with lobster ravioli - changed the cream sauce to spicy marinara and had a house salad with balsamic on the side. Still ended up in calorie range.

I came home and baked 2 dozen cookies for the school bake sale. I am not a baker so I am very proud to say they all came out perfect :)

I wanted to try the t25 with my husband. He did it right before i came home from work - I told him I wanted to try it with him today!! So, it didn't happen today. I don't know why he did that. I have to tell everybody "hold on, this is a priority". I used to do this, not sure why I am not right now. I am going to focus on why so I can change it. Best I can guess right now is I am trying to make everybody else happy. If this keeps going they won't be happy because I won't be happy!!

I gotta get my mojo back on the treadmill!

Feel free to whip my butt in the comment section!!



  
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KAYWEB555 2/22/2014 10:04AM

    Great job of looking out for your Aunt & Uncle. There are to many people out there taking advantage of the seniors.
What is T25?
As for butt whipping okay you want it ! Get your butt up on that treadmill and move those feet forward. That is about all I can do on whipping !

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POSITIVE41 2/13/2014 6:46AM

    No butt whipping - you stuck to your nutrition plan despite having some circumstances that would make it easy not to. Yay!

I agree with not wanting that person to take care of your aunt.

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INFLATED 2/12/2014 11:30PM

    I would say, "No" to Pam too. If she were to find cash and valuables or even take a check, she could clean out your aunt and uncles place and bank account. I don't know if the Commission on Aging bonds those they have go to care for the elderly, but they did what DOGLADY13 said. If they have a child, the child should be the one to do this, to sign any paperwork. I would spend some money and do a background check on Pam and her boyfriend.

I hope they don't start doing any friendly visits with your relatives.



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FUSIONFITNESS3 2/12/2014 2:28PM

    You have every reason for suspicion with Pam from my perspective. I can't help but wonder too why a person unrelated to your aunt and uncle would all of a sudden have such an interest in them. Especially, when it appears that she is expecting some of her needs to be met in return. Keep watching out for them. Sounds like you've gotten some great suggestions.

You are wise to be aware of your need to keep balance in your life so that you aren't just reaching out and supporting others. I do believe the balance shifts from time to time but staying aware is the key. Decide what part of what you do for you you will not compromise and stick with it.

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MLH148 2/12/2014 8:58AM

    Good luck with the T25. The infomercials intrigue me.
I'm proud of you for watching out for your Aunt and Uncle. Pam sounds like trouble.

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WATERMELLEN 2/12/2014 7:14AM

    No butt whipping called for, not at all!! You're within calorie range, you're exercising (with some challenges in the path) and you should be patting yourself on the back, really!!

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/12/2014 6:22AM

    Very, very scary with Pam. The right move is no interference from her. Perhaps even check into local police to ensure she stays away from your uncle.

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WONDERGALE 2/11/2014 11:49PM

    I think it's great that you are looking out for your aunt and uncle. As for the t25, why don't you try it by yourself? emoticon

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JAXMOMMY 2/11/2014 11:24PM

    Yikes! I agree with your Spark friend who suggested you or (and) your cousin contacting local organizations in your aunt's area to get her and her husband some help! Pam sounds like a user and I would worry about your aunt & uncle. You know what you need to do and that is take care of you first! Make you your first priority!

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MCFITZ2 2/11/2014 10:56PM

    You have a lot on you "plate".
I am so glad you are reaching out and watching over your aunt and uncle.
You sound like you are doing the best you can. emoticon

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DOGLADY13 2/11/2014 10:07PM

    No butt whipping from me.

I am very alarmed about Pam. You or your cousins should probably get in touch with the Elder Services or Council on Aging that is nearest your aunt and uncle. They may qualify for in home home making or personal care assistance until you can get them into assisted living. You also may be able to get a case manager to look out for them to make sure Pam does not abuse or take advantage of them.

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KATHY98665 2/11/2014 10:03PM

    Good for you for staying on top of concerns with your family. It is frightening to know there are people who prey on the vulnerable.

And bravo for the good food choices you are making! Keep up the good work. emoticon

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I Have Returned...

Monday, February 10, 2014

I got back from Texas last night. It was mentally tough! The Doctor said my Aunt needs to go in assistant living. I noticed my uncle is losing his memory and can't see well at all. That is why my Aunt doesn't want him to drive. Saturday night was very scary. She forgot to take her blood pressure and Parkinson's medication. She had a bad dizzy, shakey scare. She looks so fragile, said this was our last time together. She finally agreed to go to her daughter's. Today she changed her mind:(

Her daughter and son are going to fly to her house this weekend and try again.

My exercise minutes involved a lot of deep house cleaning. She can't do anything so the house was pretty filthy. I brought my bathing suit (the hotel had an indoor pool), but I never got there.

Today I went to work, caught up, came home and made dinner. I BBQd tuna steaks and made a Sparkerecipe -potato casserole and now I am parked on the couch. I am tired out!!

So I am going to hit the hay early and start back fresh tomorow!

Time to get back to my super salads and treadmill HM training!

  
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SABLENESS 2/16/2014 9:59PM

    Coming to good solutions with frail aging elders is so hard. I do hope I remember that when it's me.

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INFLATED 2/12/2014 11:21PM

    This is hard. The Commission on Aging sent someone in twice a month to help Mom with her cleaning and also sent in a nurse or set that up to check on her.

You did your best for them, but if your uncle needs someone to help him with medications, if your aunt is not taking her own, she will not be of help to him. I fear this for many couples, that one cannot remember to help the other if there is a sickness.

We had Mom on a Medicaid Waver (I am not sure of the name) and that meant she wasn't put on a waiting list to get into a nursing home. She got so bad when living with us that she consented to go and signed the papers in front of a Social worker. Once she was in the home, she cried that she wanted to come home with me. She smoked and was on oxygen and couldn't remember if she had a lit cigarette. I threw away all of her cigarettes and didn't buy more for her. It was so hard for me to see her go into a home, but she got off the oxygen while she was there.

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SMITTY4RL 2/12/2014 7:53AM

    Oh gosh, so sorry to hear about this. I hope their situation can be resolved--some assisted care units are really good. I wish your Aunt and Uncle the best (and you, too).

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/12/2014 6:20AM

    Yes, it's tough but I'm gad you could help. Those decisions are not easy but necessary.

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MBTEPP 2/11/2014 8:46PM

    I hear stress talking.

Assisted living is such a big step, but I have seen so many couples grateful after the big move.

Take care of yourself, and soon you will be back in a groove.



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NEW_PARADIGM 2/11/2014 7:56PM

    It sounds like you're handling it all well, considering. Rest is absolutely part of healthy lifestyle balance -- and you've earned some!

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WONDERWISH1 2/11/2014 6:06PM

    Sounds like you have a lot going on. Take care, and don`t give up. emoticon

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IFDEEVARUNS2 2/11/2014 4:15PM

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You need a break!
Perhaps they can got to assisted living together.

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SPEEDYDOG 2/11/2014 1:36PM

    This is a hard situation all the way around. Give yourself a good pat on the back.

Thanks, Bruce

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WATERMELLEN 2/11/2014 8:06AM

    How kind of you to help out in such a practical way with the house cleaning. And: it's all exercise!!

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MWWENSIN 2/11/2014 6:34AM

    I haven't been faced with this issue yet. My parents are old but lucid. My dad is 84 and mom is 82. At least they have a cleaner house. Hopefully, they will realize they need some help. I'll keep praying for you and your family.

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LIZALOT 2/11/2014 5:24AM

    It is hard looking after older family members. The important thing though is to look after yourself, which includes both rest and exercise.
I have my 87-year-old (ex) mother in law staying, as her son couldn't be bothered to take her in. She was getting more and more depressed and not eating. So it's a bit of a strain, but so far things are ok.
I do hope things get better for you.

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SHERYLP461 2/10/2014 11:09PM

    It is so hard when those we love get so frail, I am so glad you were able to visit with her.

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DOGLADY13 2/10/2014 10:25PM

    Glad you are home safe. Not glad that your aunt and uncle are in frail health. It's hard when roles are reversed - for everyone involved.

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FUSIONFITNESS3 2/10/2014 9:54PM

    Yes, that would have been a mentally tough weekend. It's hard to see loved ones unable to make wise choices for themselves and putting themselves into threatening situations.
Sounds like you might be airing out some thoughts on the treadmill this week.

Maria

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USMAWIFE 2/10/2014 9:49PM

    hoping things get better for your family and you can find help to help your aunt and uncle

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Touching Base...

Saturday, February 08, 2014

I haven't forgot you guys!

I had to fly to Dallas for four days to check on my Aunt who has Parkinson's. It has affected her swallowing and she stopped going to therapy for it (doesn't want to ride in the car with my uncle). We got her in to the Doctor yesterday and she is down to 97 pounds. Of course, she got a huge lecture from me! They won't move near a relative (everyone is offering and begging). They are in their 80s and change is hard.

I leave tomorrow so today I am purée ing different soups and putting them in individual freezer containers. Her daughter will fly in Thursday and we will workbon at least getting them into assisted living.

  
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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/10/2014 6:53AM

    Those are tough times. Trying to help oldsters is hard, especially when they are set in their ways. Sometimes they can't give in to what may be more helpful.
Good luck.

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NEW_PARADIGM 2/9/2014 4:08PM

    What a tenuous time for families. It sounds like you're handling it so lovingly! Be sure to make moments to take care of you, too!

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MBTEPP 2/9/2014 3:43PM

    Deanna, what a loving gesture it truly is taking care of two love birds in their 80s. Your efforts will not go unrewarded. I know the delicate nature of influencing the elder generation well. Bless you for your kind and loving efforts. I hope they are both well for a long time to come.

I also hope you get to enjoy some more sunshine.

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POSITIVE41 2/9/2014 7:52AM

    I hope your aunt goes back to therapy. Why doesn't she want to ride in the car with your uncle? I feel like there may be a story there? emoticon

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STRIVERONE 2/9/2014 12:09AM

    I wish your aunt well.

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DOGLADY13 2/8/2014 10:07PM

    Not fun. You are a good and loving niece to help your aunt and uncle.

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FUSIONFITNESS3 2/8/2014 8:40PM

    How wonderful that you are so willing to support family in their time of need. There certainly can be a lot of concerns around aging family members which present their challenges. Hope things go well in planning to get them into assisted living.

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INFLATED 2/8/2014 8:18PM

    You are amazing to help with this. This is such a hard thing for your relatives to give up their independence and for those they depend on. I hope your aunt and uncle will be co-operative with you and your cousin in this.

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ONEKIDSMOM 2/8/2014 10:33AM

    Hang in there, and remember to take care of yourself while you are giving so much to your aging relatives! You are AMAZING! And we'll be here when you have (or make) time for Sparking. Totally understand priorities! Real life trumps the online, every time! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 2/8/2014 10:25AM

    What a wonderful, loving niece you are!

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My son one year later - (Warning: involves anorexia - very descriptive and blunt)...

Monday, February 03, 2014

One year ago today, my nightmare began. A nightmare that would plummet me to a dark, dark place I had never been -- and never want to go to again. I found out my 24 year old son was dying - from anorexia.

It is certainly a year I will never, ever forget. It was a year of begging go to an anorexic hospital, arriving at one in San Diego, walking the floor of an anorexic hospital and seeing the most malnourished, skinniest but still alive possible people ever, and realizing my son was one of them.

A year of begging him to eat, wondering if he had severe kidney damage, trying to stay patient through all his negativity and stupid choices because his brain had totally shrunk due to malnourishment.

A year of planning his viewing and funeral - does he want to be buried or cremated? Taking him to a lawyer to write his will. He's 24 - a mother should not have to think about this! How will I be at his funeral?? I bought a black dress for his funeral.

Staying strong and positive...who else is going to? If I am not, he will give up.
A year of being his advocate...constantly calling his doctors, cornering psychiatrists at hospitals, educating friends and his brother so they "tolerate" him and his eating habits "picking tiny bits of food, cutting food into tiny bits, eating with his fingers and not talking at all while he eats, going to the bathroom - is he throwing up his dinner?". Following him constantly to the bathroom, knowing he was constantly throwing up in the shower...how many showers can he take in one day??

Yes, it was a year of shear hell. A year of reading any book on anorexia I could get my hands on - the ones where the anorexic didn't die at the end. $30,000. on one dropped him the second we moved back east, an apartment in San Diego twice as expensive as home far away from my husband.

But, there were some positives -- a brother in California going through a painful divorce and alienation from his children who tried to help, tons of runs on the beach, a great nutritionist for my son (she was also an anorexic), quality time with my son - car ride to Vegas - with Roxy - included!

And then we came home and it went backward. But, in December, at the brink of death, and a kidney thought to be totally damaged, a psychiatrist in the hospital said something that finally clicked "it's harder to do what you are doing than to let go". And then my son let go.

Today he found out his blood work came back normal...ironically to the exact day one year ago this nightmare began. He still has a long way to go but is so much better than he was.

My point in sharing this with you - this diet thing can go either way. Balance is so important.

Respect your body and yourself. And - watch your children. We are not only their greatest role model, but their greatest advocate. My son was heavy in high school, lost weight by cutting fat and eating half and then kept going when he got to his ideal weight. He is now obsessed with the scale and we are trying to reprogram him. It is a challenge against media posted everywhere!!

Please be aware! I would not wish my 2013 on anyone!!

  
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BUTTERFLYSTEPH 5/2/2014 11:10PM

    emoticon what a nightmare! Thanks for sharing your story and I am so happy to hear that he is doing well!!

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    Thanks so much for the post! emoticon

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SUNNYLIFE72 2/8/2014 11:07AM

  Oh my. What a powerful post. Thank you for sharing your world with us. I'm sorry to hear that you, your son and your family are going through this. He is so fortunate to have you for a Mom - so vested in understanding him and helping him with the healing process. It's so hard to sit by and watch someone, especially a loved one, make bad choices.
I've glad he's turned a corner in a positive way. Sometimes, it's the smallest comment, action or insight that finally makes the connection! Sending prayers your way. I'm glad you've continued to take care of yourself during this difficult year.

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MESEATURTLE 2/7/2014 12:32AM

    Hugs ... Really tight hugs
I wish him abundance of health . Beyond every tunnel is a bright light .

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COFFEELS 2/6/2014 12:38AM

    I am so glad to hear that something finally clicked with him. emoticon

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INFLATED 2/5/2014 12:32PM

    " And then my son let go." When I read this, I thought the worst. I am glad he is making some improvements and that his kidney is okay.

I know this has been a trial and struggle for your whole family. He may be on the road to recovery or he may relapse. Just know that your Spark friends are here for you and don't hold it in. I hope 2014 will be a year of progress for your son. Hugs and prayers.

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SHARON10002 2/4/2014 10:49PM

    Oh my gosh! I admire your strength, and courage to post this blog. You have been to hell and back in 2013, but I am so very glad to read that the psychiatrist was able to make the breakthrough, and that his blood work has come back normal.
What a harrowing experience this was for you. I will keep your son, you, and your family in my prayers.

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FUSIONFITNESS3 2/4/2014 8:24PM

    emoticon It has been quite a year for you. So glad to hear that today the situation has improved. Thankful that you found a psychiatrist who could break through with your son. Praying your son continues to make progress as he continues to have to work on reforming his thinking and patterns. Also praying you'll never have to repeat a year like 2013 again. emoticon

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CHEMCHIC2006 2/4/2014 2:50PM

    What an amazing post. So glad your son is still with you and your family. What a horrible battle to fight.. and you are so incredibly strong. Keep looking up!
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MBTEPP 2/4/2014 12:24PM

    I am so glad that this one year anniversary is full of hope and recovery. I am happy that you are no longer living in the dark hole. Some day you may get to a place where you do not have to ever worry of repeating this year. Your son should take this experience and build a life from the strength of surviving. He is a survivor and so are you. Blessing, and the best for the new year.

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WONDERGALE 2/4/2014 10:50AM

    Thanks for sharing. I'm so glad your son is better. emoticon

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SHERYLP461 2/4/2014 8:58AM

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I actually purged when I was in school. don't know why I started and don't know why I stopped. I a so happy to hear your son is on his way to health, stay strong and continue to love him as I know you do.

sheryl

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SUZIEQUE77 2/4/2014 8:49AM

    Thank you for sharing this. I am glad he is doing better. I hope you and your family have a great 2014!

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JERIBERI1 2/4/2014 7:42AM

    Anorexia is so hard. I suffered in my early 20s. At 5'6", I quit weighing when I dropped below 100 lbs. I knew it was wrong, but still I wanted to lose weight. I had to buy girl's size 12 clothes. I knew one day when I ate a half banana in the middle of the night, sitting on my bed in just my underpants, in the dark, and I couldn't finish the banana. I knew I would die if I didn't eat. I just cried. It was hard, and I didn't seek help. The mindset stays with you, because there is always food around. Food is the enemy, and food is your life source. I was almost 50 years old before I finally developed a healthy relationship with food.

I wish your son all the best, with continued healing of his mind and body. Sending you love and strength to help him.
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KRISZTA11 2/4/2014 7:02AM

    Thank you for sharing, I have been wondering how you and your son are doing. I'm glad he is doing better and I wish you a much better and happier 2014.
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STEPHLOKI 2/4/2014 6:46AM

    Gosh, you have been through hell! So glad to hear things finally have clicked for your son. As you know it will be a long way to recovery and lots of ups & downs, but the nutritionist who knows what he is going through from experience is a great asset!

You are a wonderful Mum to go through all that with him!

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LIZALOT 2/4/2014 2:43AM

    he's very lucky to have a wonderful mum like you. and i think he probably knows that now!
may this year be a thousand times better.

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STRIVERONE 2/4/2014 2:37AM

    I'm glad to hear things are still progressing well for your son. I hope 2014 is a banner year for your whole family.

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SHAMROCKY2K 2/3/2014 11:54PM

    It just shows how strong you are. I hope YOU keep well. Keep journaling. Good to hear the positive as I recall your struggles throughout the year. emoticon

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JAXMOMMY 2/3/2014 10:23PM

    It can go either way. There is not alot out there about males with anorexia either. It is often missed. I remember when he was first hospitalized and I don't think you knew what was going on at that point. I can't even imagine your fear over the past year! So glad things are getting so much better for him. I know it will still be a long haul, probably a lifetime battle for him, which means you too. But, I also know you are strong and so is he as apples don't fall too far from trees! Peace to all of you!

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EMMACORY 2/3/2014 10:20PM

    Your son is blessed to have you for his Mom. I will pray for him and your family. emoticon emoticon

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MWWENSIN 2/3/2014 9:45PM

    I'm glad things are going better for you and your family. Small steps are best at first. I know it was a struggle, but there's hope while he's still here. Having my own much older brother commit suicide, i can feel some of your pain. Having my wife give me a scare by bleeding out half her blood after surgery and having her life flighted back was scary for me. She got fixed up we recovered - I then ran my first marathon with her at the finish. Life is full of roller coasters with twists and turns we do not expect and cannot fully prepare for. There is no instruction manual. It's important to be as strong as you can, but also to accept help from whoever you can. You will find help from those you least expect. You will become stronger by what you went through. Hope this is a much better year for you, but you must be mindful that there can be relapses too. However, celebrate the successes too. We don't know where our life leads - we just hope it continues in a good state for as long as possible. I'll keep praying for you but I'm thrilled for you your family and your son.

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DOGLADY13 2/3/2014 9:33PM

    I don't know how to respond, but know that I wish health, happiness and stability for your son, for you and for the rest of your family.

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FRENCHTOSD 2/3/2014 9:28PM

    I'm so glad to read this post and I am praying for you all. After keeping up with you all year, this is really the first time I feel you have turned a positive corner and I am so relieved.

I recently communicated with a woman who told my she suffered from ED (eating disorder). She told me she cannot go on a diet or exercise plan and the only possible way for her to continue is to work on self-acceptance regardless of her weight. I wondered how she would ever find a stable weight with that attitude, and she told me, "I won't."

I'm still trying to work out what she was trying to say, but it certainly seems like a very mind-bending issue for the person suffering.

Your attitude, on the other hand is the best I've read from you all year.

Good wishes and please give your son a hug from me. He made this lady in San Diego happy and so has more accomplishments than he knows. {{{{{{{Sharon}}}}}}}}}}

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LAURANCE 2/3/2014 9:25PM

  Oh my! Usually anorexia is a problem for young girls, but here is a young man with this affliction.

I certainly hope he's turned the corner now and that there will be a happy outcome to this story!
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_RAEVEN_ 2/3/2014 8:50PM

    Your son is very lucky to have you for his mom. I'm so glad that his blood work came back normal and that you found a psychiatrist who can click with him. Saving our children from themselves is one of the hardest battles to fight. My son was a drug addict and it was years of hell but thankfully he turned around.
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DIANEDOESSMILES 2/3/2014 8:43PM

    Hon, you have me again in tears,, for my GD who I helped to raise,, I LOVE SO VERY MUCH,, would EASILY give my life for without ? is also anorexic.

It started when she was 16,,,, I had done ALL I COULD to AVOID THIS !! I knew she was heavy of course,, it wasn't "bad" but, with the media,, unless ur PERFECT ,, we all know how "That goes". She mostly lived at my house,,,, she told me she'd do this at her Moms house when she went to visit,,,, I do not know,, and strongly suspected she did also at mine. Once she told me,,,, I became so aware of ALL she was doing. This and also cutting. She had been wearing sweaters in the summer time,,, and is ALWAYS HOT even in the winter,,, so I KNEW as this happened what was happening,, for I ALSO had been a cutter,, it took me FOREVER to stop.

This FINALLY climaxed when she tried to commit suicide , it was one of my worse days, and yet, happiest days,,, for it meant that NOW it was FINALLY OUT in the LIGHT !!! I called her Mom,,, told her we NEEDED to go hosp with GD FAST !! We did so,, my GD did NOT her Mom to know,,, out of both ANGER and wanting to PROTECT her. The suicide attempt she did at home,,, than she drove over to my house (I DID NOT KNOW THIS of course !) in a very bad shape !! I was BEYOND FRIGHTENED !!! The hosp gave her choices,, of being hospitalized,, she did NOT want this,, or having to be at my house,,, on a one to one basis, with a therapist and counselor from school,, as well as a crisis worker coming to my house daily. I felt this was MUCH better than her "learning" more things in a teen unit,,, as you do,, as I HAD DONE !

It worked a little, but first she got worse,, much worse,,,, ending up in a crisis center for teens during the summer. That was the BEST !!! She than saw where she was headed,, another gal was also anxeroxic,,,it hit my GD like a TON of bricks. She started to help out little kids there from age 7 who were also struggling with this,,,, and learned thru them,, that she WANTED to get better. She was quite thin at this point.

I am happy to say that now 2 yrs later,, she's BACK to her heaviness, but NORMAL weight for her. She STILL HATES to eat, but does,,, knowing its just nourishment for her body,, that she NEEDs to. I am grateful for this,,, she also recently got married to the most wonderful young man,, who has helped her soo much with her self esteem,, and of course me always telling her,, "your fine hon, you know those models in ads are air brushed,,, look around,,, see ur normal sweetie,,, I will always love you no matter what" and many of her friends have/do so,,, and best of all her so ever supportive H !!! ALSO her relationship with God helps A LOT !

I want to wish ur son a recovery of that of my GD hon,, so in the end,, though he may not as she has not,,, really accepted "eating", but knowing they NEED to for the nourishment,, and also that he gain some lacking self esteem,,,, as you said,, the media !! For her also,,,it was to do with neglect from her father who saw her maybe 10 times as she grew up,, whle "promising" he'd be there for everything,, really messes a kid UP !! GRRR to her Mom eating as if her life depended on every morsel she can find,, going into her mouth. She is about 350 lbs now,,, and I am so careful to NOT call her "Fat" for enough people do that by just the way they GLARE at this terrificly loving person, whom they are JUDGING , but DO NOT KNOW !! When my GD was 6 months old,, her Mom lost a sickly son who was only 2 1/2 ,,,, I've MADE her go into therapy,, about 1 1/2 yr ago,, and also my GD I had remain in therapy til she was soo sick of it,,,, it was time for her to leave.

I AM SO PROUD of my fam.

I KNOW you are ALSO !!

HUGS Sweetie,,, it's sooo scary !! WISH YOU THE BEST as I cry again,, for ALL we've been thru !

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 2/3/2014 8:41PM

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NEW_PARADIGM 2/3/2014 8:34PM

    What a gift he has in such a dedicated mom! What a gift that you share your story here, too. Thank you. Very best to all of you as he continues to find his balance.
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DELIA38961 2/3/2014 7:59PM

    Wow what a powerful and horrific ordeal you and yoyr son went through ..it is very angering to me that media does focus so much on the perfect size the perfect weight the perfect body that it drives people to desperate measures to achieve this so called perfect body image . I am so glad that your son is finally moving in the right direction toregain a hhealthy life. Thank you for sharing your story and best wishes to your son :)

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SABLENESS 2/3/2014 7:55PM

    Glad you and son survived it. Thanks for the report. I continue to pray that he stays on a healthier path.
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MJREIMERS 2/3/2014 7:53PM

    emoticon friend! You know that I completely understand! We've talked and you know my situation. Just know that I am here for you anytime! You have my phone number, call if you EVER need to. It helps talking to others. I may not have been in the same boat, but I'm sure our ships passed in the night!!

Congrats on getting through this year and prayers for his continuing recovery!

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SLIMMERJESSE 2/3/2014 7:52PM

    Wow, I'm speechless. I wonder what started it a year ago? So glad things are better now. Wishing you many wonderful days ahead.

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WONDERWISH1 2/3/2014 7:52PM

    As someone who struggles with similar thoughts and issues, I know how much of a hell it can be. I can say that he is incredibly lucky to have all that support. And I`m also happy to hear that something finally clicked for him. The media is a certain culprit, but it`s also the people around us- school, work, friends and so forth that can expect a person to "wear thin"... literally. Sometimes, we feel the need to take control of the one thing we can- what goes in and out of our bodies. It is a long struggle, but I`m wishing all of you nothing but the best. Don`t give up. emoticon

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Veggie Cheese...

Saturday, February 01, 2014

A couple of Sparkers asked about veggie cheese. I have used this brand for as long as I can remember.



It comes in all different flavors. I especially like pepperjack and provolone and their parmesan cheese.

You can find it in the vegetable section of most grocery stores.

  
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JAXMOMMY 2/3/2014 4:29PM

    Hey, could you give me that brand name? I've tried some and didn't like it at all. But, I'm always willing to give other brands a try before I decide I don't like something. One question... Is it all soy?

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MBTEPP 2/3/2014 2:03PM

    I have used this veggie cheese, but so hard to pass up the real thing.

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ISLENAA 2/3/2014 9:51AM

  I've been eating this cheese for years and love the cheddar flavor.

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FUSIONFITNESS3 2/2/2014 9:40PM

    Never heard of this product. Wondering is we have it up here in Canada. I'll have to look for it.
Maria

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SHERYLP461 2/2/2014 9:03AM

    I liked the flavor of this cheese, but the texture really put me off.

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2DAWN4 2/2/2014 12:28AM

    Thanks for posting! I will have to try them out. My love of cheese is what has stopped me from going vegan. I have been a vegetarian for many years now and can't imagine going back to eating meat!

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ARNETTELEE 2/1/2014 4:36PM

  Used to buy these but now hubby gets a reaction from these. He can't have cheese, but not even these suit his body.

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 2/1/2014 4:24PM

    I've gotten interested lately in fermenting vegetables. Did your class / expert talk about that at all?

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