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I Want To See You Be Brave!

Saturday, January 18, 2014

Today is the first day of the Winter 5% Spark Challenge.

1. Fitness Minutes are crucial. Make sure you get them in every day, no matter what - no excuses!!
2. Track your food and stay in your suggested calorie range.

It is an 8 week challenge. We can all do this. We will take it day by day and week by week. Following the 2 steps above will get us there!

When the 8 weeks are done, we are all going to be so happy that we did!!


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MESEATURTLE 1/20/2014 11:50AM

    Thank u ! I need to start looking at my food ! Thanks for the reminder !! Will def start tracking now ! I know it's the only way to reach my goal !

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ABETTERBETTY 1/19/2014 11:30PM

    Getting started is my biggest challenge. Once I start working out, I can go longer than 10 minutes. The hardest phase is the think phase.

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NEW_PARADIGM 1/19/2014 11:41AM

    Thanks! emoticon

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KICKINGKILOS 1/19/2014 10:28AM

    Am I too late to enroll? I will be true(I sc***d up today)

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DOGLADY13 1/19/2014 9:17AM

    Woot! I'm terrible at following challenges, but I'll report in on how I'm doing. With the 100% committed for 90 days, I should do just fine.

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LIZALOT 1/19/2014 5:14AM

    just what i needed to hear today! off for a run then will report back. thanks for the pep talk.

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INFLATED 1/18/2014 11:54PM

    This is a great motivational blog. Make a promise to yourself and keep the promise. emoticon

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SHERYLP461 1/18/2014 11:42PM

    Eercise is my tough spot when I don't have my hiking partner around, she is coming back Monday, yea. Thanks for the inspiration needed it today!

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BROWNSUGAR2828 1/18/2014 10:46PM

    Thanks! I didn't do so well on the first day. I will do my best from now on!

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PANFRIEDTROUT 1/18/2014 7:29PM

    thanks for posting this blog ... I especially like the top photo because so often I feel the exact opposite.

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Shooting Stars ROCK!

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SABLENESS 1/18/2014 7:02PM

    Thanks for the pep talk. I'm taking it to heart! emoticon

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Setting Boundaries...

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Yesterday I pondered on affirmation #2.
'The universe if conspiring to help me get everything I want".

I received great feedback and suggestions from all of my Sparkbuds.

I have to say, my Sparkbuddy - BOILHAM - explained it in the best way I could personally understand it...
"About the universe thing. The universe needs to be in balance. Without balance, the universe will collapse. If -you- are out of balance, he forces of the universe wants you to regain your balance. Striving for a strong state when coming from a weaker state will balance itself out to increase your strength".

Now, for those who do not know BOILHAM, he is one of the most inspiring Sparkfriends I have on SparkPeople. He is diligent on his exercise - currently training for his first triathlon and he is a "mature" individual. If you are not Sparkfriends with Boilham, I highly suggest it. He is very inspiring.

So, anyway, today's fatloser session was extremely interesting. Siebold asked...

Am I behaving like an adult or child in regard to my dieting?
Do I whine if I want a food?
Do I want all the food now?
Am I emotionally immature when it comes to food?

Yikes! I know what he is talking about! Yes, yes, and hell - yes!

It is time to analyze when I do this and set boundaries. I know how to do this -- I have been working in Early Childhood Education for 20+ years!

Holy crap! Ugh!

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/18/2014 3:10PM

    Well answered! And balance is a good thing... universe loves balance. When we over train, it forces us to take the needed rest, etc. And totally agree about BOILHAM being an inspiring Spark Friend. I have so many, including YOU!

Spark on!

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BOILHAM 1/18/2014 2:46PM

    Thanks for the shout-out on this blog. I am also a bit surprised and humbled whenever anyone tells me a inspire them. I don't fancy myself a great athlete, but I do consider myself to be stubborn and diligent. It's mostly just being stubborn that leads to my small successes. LOL.

It's a two way street, though. I feel the need to continue to grow and train harder, in a large part by not wanting to let down, but rather encourage, my spark friends. Especially those with limitations (in my case, being older and starting later) and maybe not the perfect athlete.

Glad you are keeping your inner child under control! :)

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SHERYLP461 1/17/2014 8:19AM

    Me too! I have found that while "dieting" I am always thinking of food, ut when I focus on getting "healthy" I have a different perspective. It is more of a balanced way of looking at it.

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SABLENESS 1/16/2014 9:40PM

    Ouch! The shoe fits.

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SHARON10002 1/16/2014 6:38PM

    I am right there beside you on this one - especially when it comes to cookies;-)

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JAXMOMMY 1/16/2014 12:36PM

    Holy crap indeed! Me too, me too, and me too! Never considered it, but yes I am immature when it comes to my eating! I have not checked the site out yet, but hope to get to it today! Thanks for sharing!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/16/2014 11:55AM

    You are right about BOILHAM! emoticon

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SMITTY4RL 1/16/2014 8:14AM

    I feel the same way about eating--that I make choices because I'm immature. But seeing it here in black and white has given me pause--in a good way. I can see it now, before it was covered up. Great blog and 'food' for thought. P.S. And what BOILHAM said? Yes!

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STRIVERONE 1/15/2014 10:50PM

    Can't comment on today's self-evaluation, but you're right about BOILHAM. :)

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DOGLADY13 1/15/2014 10:46PM

    Even Cookie Monster now knows that you can't only eat cookies. LOL

If I weren't falling asleep as I type this, I'd dig up a youtube video.

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Make sure I am not getting in my own way!!...

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

"Make sure I am not getting in
my own way!!"

That is the line that stuck out at me today as I watched
today's session. How true is that! I am the only one standing in my way of eating healthy. I have any resource I need at my disposal, though, at times, I sabotage myself! I love looking at it this way.

Siebold also discussed the importance of vision boards. I have that covered!!

I have my medals and running bib tags and pictures on the walls in my exercise room, HM stickers all over my office, and motivational running quotes on my monitors and cell phone. I have motivational quotes and pictures posted on my sparkpage. I do look at them often for inspiration.

The importance of self talk was reiterated.
It was highly suggested to read the following several times during the day:

1. I have the ability to handle anything that life throws at me.

2. The universe is conspiring to help me get everything I want.

3. I can achieve anything I focus on with persistence.

I totally agree with number 1. As many of you know, I came extremely close to losing my son to anorexia last year. His illness dragged on for 11 months and he almost died 4 times. I know I can handle anything that life throws at me after that experience!

Number 2 is going to have to take more thought.

Number three is a definite thumbs up, persistance is definitely key to losing weight!

It's not enough to read the above off of index cards during the day, I have to believe it.

Lots to think about!!

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POSITIVE41 1/19/2014 6:54AM

    Great blog - thanks for sharing!

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SHARON10002 1/16/2014 6:36PM

    It's my belief that #2 and #3 actually go hand in hand. Our minds are more powerful than we can imagine. At MOST we only use about 10% of our brain power.

I would say that the word God and universe are synonymous. If you approach it this way, of course God wants you to have everything you desire. He only wants you to be happy. Can you believe that premise? So if He wants you to be happy of course He will work that into His plan for you. That should help you wrap your head around the #2 statement.

#3 is us doing our part. I believe that we create our own reality based on what we need and what we desire. Now sometimes, this is not always a "conscious" decision on our part. But if this is the case, then this directly ties in and makes #2 true. Here's an example of focus: Let's suppose you have a very bad toothache. It hurts constantly, but you can't get into the dentist until tomorrow. The simple fact that you are focusing your attention on it and how painful it is just serves to make it hurt more. Conversely, affirmations are used to help us fine tune our focus in a more positive direction, and enables us to focus our minds so that #2 can occur.

That's my 2 cents worth . . . hope it helps you.

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SABLENESS 1/15/2014 9:51PM

    Good one! And congrats on the treadmill! emoticon

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JAXMOMMY 1/15/2014 11:56AM

    Wonderful food for thought there! I'll have to ponder that universe statement too! Isn't it funny how we can handle anything life throws at us even when we are pretty sure we can't! Thanks for sharing your session. Very interesting and helpful!

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BOILHAM 1/15/2014 11:01AM

    About the universe thing. The universe needs to be in balance. Without balance, the universe will collapse. If -you- are out of balance,the forces of the universe wants you to regain your balance. Striving for a strong state when coming from a weaker state will balance itself out to increase your strength.

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SHERYLP461 1/15/2014 9:10AM

    Wonderful! I agree with all of your points. Sometimes we do get in our own way, it is a challenge. Self doubt is a game stopper, it has been said what make our own reality

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WATERMELLEN 1/15/2014 8:05AM

    Terrific summary.

Love the idea of your vision boards which build upon your OWN success, not "Hollywood perfection" type images . . . yay you, nice twist.

Universe "conspiring"?? Kinda fun to reverse the internal paranoia of fear/scarcity and see the whole world instead as "on my side". Makes victimhood kinda difficult to sustain!

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MLH148 1/15/2014 7:00AM

    Thanks foe writing this- inspiring! And why would the universe NOT want you to succeed?

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    I like that you have all your NSV's to see.

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INFLATED 1/15/2014 12:48AM

    I would change #2 to Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
The good, the bad, the ugly, God is working all things for my good.

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JUST_TRI_IT 1/15/2014 12:47AM

    My take on #2 is that we can choose to look at the glass half full or half empty. ... Maybe?

I agree ... We can sure stand right in the middle of the door between our success and our frustrations. The focus to get out of the way is quite a challenge!

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DOGLADY13 1/14/2014 11:22PM

    I am a firm believer in Siebold's phrase "the universe is conspiring to help me get everything I want." It's hard for me to explain why I believe it to be true, but I think it is basically a good karma thing. If we put the effort into being positive, do the work we need to do the reach our goals, obstacles fall away and opportunities rush in. I've seen it over and over in my own life and in the many years I have worked in the nonprofit world.

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GRAMMIEOFTWO 1/14/2014 10:34PM

  I am going to make a vision board. I think that is a great idea and I know it will help me on my journey.

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 1/14/2014 10:19PM

    One step, one day at a CAN do it....and you are well on your way!

Shooting Stars ROCK!

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WONDERGALE 1/14/2014 10:19PM

    I'm not sure about number 2 either. But I believe 1 & 3. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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JMALLONEE 1/14/2014 10:18PM

    This is my problem... I keep doubting myself and find I find i lose motivation in doing so.

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YOURRIDICULOUS 1/14/2014 10:17PM

  Your positive attitude is inspirational!

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Do The Work, Get The Results...

Monday, January 13, 2014

"Keep a promise I made to myself".

This phrase stood out to me during today's fatloser coaching session.
I keep promises I make to others all the time - why should I go back on one I made to myself?

My promise to myself is that I will make healthy choices. I will treat my body with respect. I have made my decision. I will be mentally tough.

This means...

1. I will stay 100% compliant.

2. I will eat for health instead of pleasure.

3. I will enjoy exercising because it makes me feel good.

The session suggests thinking about the above 3 affirmations all during the day. I tried thinking about #3 as I worked out on the treadmill tonight. I honestly didn't love the exercise until I was finished! It was hard and quite grueling!!

Anyway, I am going to make a vision board with the above three pictures on it and post them at my desk and my kitchen and my treadmill.

Stay strong!

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WATERMELLEN 1/14/2014 8:20PM

    Oh yeah: exercise always is most enjoyable for me too when I've finished it. I never really expect to WANT to exercise in advance!!

Nice work!!

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JAXMOMMY 1/14/2014 7:39PM

    So, apparently I am coming into your blogs too late.... What are your Loser sessions? Are they actual meetings you go to daily or something online? They sound very informative and helpful. Why is it we can keep promises we make to others and rarely ourselves? Same reasons I guess we would talk ugly to ourselves and never to others! Sounds like you are on a great plan!

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SMITTY4RL 1/14/2014 6:32PM

    I like the idea of making promises to yourself--I mean why not? I would find the 100% compliance a pretty hard nut to crack, but that's just me. You rock! emoticon

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MLH148 1/14/2014 4:16PM

    Great ideas and the vision board will be a great reminder.
Not sure about 100% but it is a goal.
I'm going to have to check out

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SHARON10002 1/14/2014 3:26PM

    emoticon emoticon . I need to concentrate on these things, too. I do not enjoy exercise, but I ALWAYS feel better when I am finished and proud of myself for taking the initiative, getting my rear in gear, and doing it.

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SHERYLP461 1/14/2014 8:42AM

    I too love the quote "keep the promise I made to myself" If we don't keep those we will find it impossible to keep others. You have a new start and you are making the most of it I know you will keep these promises. I too like and feel good about exercise when it is over. Being outside helps a lot, our county have preserves and parks everywhere, this gives me ample places to hike and walk, which is my January step to a better me.

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CHEMCHIC2006 1/14/2014 8:11AM

    I never enjoy exercise as I do it.. but I always feel like a rock star after. Just remember that feeling and push harder!

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INFLATED 1/14/2014 12:53AM

    I looked back on last year's blogs and had only posted a little over 20 times that I exercised. Sometimes I exercise but forget to time it, but this was for all of 2013. So I am half the way to what I did all year long last year. One of the reasons for my failure to lose, no commitment.

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MWWENSIN 1/14/2014 12:36AM

    I would rephrase 1 and 2 to make them positive affirmations 2) i will eat healthy because it gives me pleasure - dieting while tough to do is not meant to be a punishment - it is done to lead us to a better place - we give up simple pleasures for long term results

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MBTEPP 1/14/2014 12:13AM

    "Keep a promise I made to myself" Great Mantra!

I like to remind myself to "Eat to live, and not live to eat."

You are doing great!


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DOGLADY13 1/13/2014 10:28PM

    I didn't blog about it today, but I totally tuned into the comment about keeping a promise to myself, too. I thought the same as you. I always keep my promises to others. I don't make them easily. So why do I consistently break my promises to myself? Yep. Totally there with you.

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FUSIONFITNESS3 1/13/2014 9:34PM

    I've visited the fatloser site and signed up for the 21 free coaching sessions. I am determined to set aside enough time each day to make the sessions worthwhile by having the time to honestly answer each of the questions.
This idea of keeping a promise to myself sure hits home too. It reminds me of how early on at Spark I learned how it's important to me to keep appointments with others but how quickly I would give up appointments for myself at the gym/pool. It turned around my thinking about the now scheduled appointments at the gym/pool which I put into my day timer daily. I'm looking forward to reaching this session because I can use some work in this area.
Thanks so much for recommending the to me.

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Got A Plan??...

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Today's Fatloser coaching session focused on planning. "Preparation is necessary for survival".

I will act on whatever I am feeling, so I need to have a plan to meet challenges that can de-rail my goal.

I thought about my training plan for my upcoming Half Marathon. I researched different plans, reviewed my nutritional needs, read articles at the Runner's World web site and took into account suggestions from my running friends. I have given myself enough time to get through the training I picked to realistically achieve my goal of earning a new PR.

I need to treat my food diet the same way. I track all my food and am staying in the recommended calorie range, but I still have to "tweak" the nutrients.

So today I spent two hours at the market reading snack labels. I need to add fiber and protein to my diet, while staying in a lower calorie range. I found several different options, all are individually packed. It is more expensive not buying bulk, but I know I have a problem with portion control so this works better for me.

During the coaching session, Siebold suggested practicing what to say when one is out with friends/family and they may be pushing unhealthy food choices. That normally doesn't happen to me, I have always eaten strange stuff compared to everyone else. But, I decided to say "I am training for the Delaware Half Marathon and have to eat healthy".

So, today my husband and I helped my younger son move into his townhouse. (We are now kid free again - yippee!) We all had an early breakfast and by 2:30 were done moving his stuff in and all were hungry.
So we hopped in my husband's truck (my son's two roommates included) and the typical conversation started over where to go to for lunch. My son suggested Mexican - my husband said "no" he had that yesterday (I thought thank God!), my husband brings up a cheese steak - pizza place (I gave him a "ewww, no" look) then one of my friends brings up Red Robin. My son pipes in "my mom can't eat anything there" (he is looking out for me). His friend asked me why...and I say..."I am training for the Delaware Half Marathon". The boys all-knowingly say "Oh". But I do tell them I can get something at Red Robin. So, I sit down, grab the menu, grab my phone and figure out what to get. Turns out they not only have Gardenburger on multi-grain buns, but I could sub it for a boca vegan burger which saved me another 30 calories. I told the waiter to hold the Dijon sauce, add jalapenos and lettuce and I subbed steamed broccoli for the fries, added a fresh fruit cup and I was set :)

Another thing that today's session covered was planning to still do exercise no matter how busy I am during the day. I thought of how I have used that excuse in the past. My training right now is about 35 mins long. I have to make sure I fit it in every day. When I am on vacation next week in Florida, I plan on running every day. I plan on biking too.

So, tonight after moving my son and getting some housework done, I hopped on my treadmill and did my HM training. I then did a 20 minute yoga workout I found on YouTube. -- NO EXCUSES

So, remember...

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WATERMELLEN 1/14/2014 8:22PM

    Great preparation including prep on the fly at the restaurant with your phone. Like the fact that you were prepared to "stick up" for yourself, asking for substitutions etc. Yeah!!

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JUST_TRI_IT 1/14/2014 7:50AM

    With this kind of preparedness, you are going to rock your diet and the marathon!

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MBTEPP 1/14/2014 12:08AM

    Every little success gets you closer to your goal! emoticon

Stay Strong!

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FUSIONFITNESS3 1/13/2014 10:11PM

    You're learning lots.

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JAXMOMMY 1/13/2014 6:57PM

    Awesome! Great planning and great choices! AS you know I'm a sucker for the Mexican food too! Glad Hubby got you out of that one! But, most places do have grilled chicken salads and salsa is a great dressing! I just need to remember to order that way! HeeHee! Be proud!

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MARGARITTM 1/13/2014 9:31AM

    Can't wait for the race report!

Tough running outside in most of the country Florida sounds great!

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ONMYMEDS 1/13/2014 9:14AM

    Nice job. Good luck on your HM. I'll be looking forward to the race report.


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EDENZMOM 1/13/2014 8:54AM

    you really know what you want, and you're sticking to it.
Good job! Im even looking forward to your race!

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SABLENESS 1/13/2014 6:51AM

    Way to go! I'm telling myself, "I'm tired, I don't want to, and I don't have time are not acceptable excuses." Only "I'm sick" or in the middle of an emergency will do.

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PMRUNNER 1/13/2014 5:45AM

    Great plan, keep up the training and focus! Many blessings!

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DOGLADY13 1/13/2014 4:42AM

    You had an excellent day! The discipline required for mental toughness will be a huge help on marathon day. It is the 3rd leg of your training: nutrition, exercise and mental toughness. You own this!

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INFLATED 1/13/2014 12:37AM

    I am training for the Delaware Half Marathon and have to eat healthy" is a great idea!

I have hoarding tendencies. Once I get something, I have a hard time letting it go. I have forced myself when I buy clothes or shoes, for every item I buy, 2 items of clothing or pairs of shoes must leave the house permanently.

I saved newspapers and boxes that things came in from the store to use as kindling in the wood stove. Since we aren't using it, we got rid of three big boxes of paper/cardboard tonight.

The thing about keeping stuff is that it steals your time cleaning it and taking care of it and you might not even use it. I follow to help with these tendencies and our son was pleased with how much we tossed tonight.

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PANFRIEDTROUT 1/13/2014 12:23AM

    thanks for writing and good for you for not only having a plan but following thru on it.

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MWWENSIN 1/12/2014 11:05PM

    Running in Florida should be alot easier and you can run outside the natural way. Good luck on that half.

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