I have been very busy! I only got two runs in last week. I did get into PT twice. I did get lots of walks in with Roxy and have been eating right. I had an eval Friday and my strength and flexibility measurements have improved considerably.
Friday I head back to California for two weeks. I am taking Roxy with me this time. My husband rented an apartment for us so we will be out of my brother's way. We are going to use aerobeds and a folding table and chairs to eat at. It's going to be quite primitive but it will work. The complex has a fitness center, pool and lots of activities. It is pet friendly so Roxy should be happy. My son still wants to live out there. This should give him the opportunity to start making friends. We rented it for three months so we will see what happens.
My son is getting neurotherapy 4 days per week. He sits in front of a computer screen for two hours per day with a one hour break in between. He presses a button whenever he sees a blue light while electrodes are attached to his head. Sounds pretty boring but he is doing it. He now has one week done - 9 to go. I pray that he doesn't give up. He also sees a therapist once per week. I asked my husband to change that to 3 times per week. He will also start seeing a nutritionist this week. I want to make sure he understands how important this all is to his body.
My husband will fly home next Monday so we can have the weekend together. We are planning to go to Temecula on a wine tasting tour. We talk and text throughout the day. I have crammed a month of work (home and business) into two weeks! I have been going nonstop. I spent Saturday pouring through all the medical bills and insurance claims. I wrote them all on a spread sheet and paid all that were through the whole insurance process. I am so thankful that I chose the lower deductible! My son's first hospital visit took care of it. Today I am working on stuff for our mortgage refinance. We started it right before we knew we would be going back and forth to California. Bad timing! When I get back to California I won't have much to do so I will have more time to run and work out. It's strange going from one extreme to the other.
I thank God that we have the means to be able to do all of this!
I managed to get to PT yesterday. I have three left - will be done next Thursday. I run almost everyday. I am on a training plan for the Delaware HM in mid May. My hips feel a lot looser when I run and my leg doesn't hurt anymore. My knee pinches a little. I definitely have improved. It is so good to be running again!!
My son really liked the therapist. He admitted to purging at the first session! He is going to do neurotherapy for the next ten weeks. He goes five days a week. My husband and I are going to take turns going out two weeks at a time. We will overlap so we see eachother. After a month, we will see how my son is doing - we may see how he does on his own for a week. He thinks he is ok to do it by himself now but we aren't comfortable with it. My brother is out there, but he is going through his own stuff with his divorce so we are not throwing this at him.
I am getting caught up and then moving ahead at work before I head back out to California next Friday. Today I get my hair done and am seeing a therapist in the afternoon to help me help my son and make sure I don't get PTSD from this nightmare! This weekend I am going to clean my house. It doesn't need much but I always find it destressing to clean and dusting hasn't been done in a three weeks.
I am also planning on getting outside and running 6.5 miles this weekend.
My husband flew in to San Diego Friday. We went sight seeing Saturday and Sunday. My son uses a template to make sure he was eating all the food groups for breakfast, lunch and dinner and two food groups for his three snacks. He is loving the nutrition side of it and is eating very well. This morning he actually ordered an egg white omelet with broccoli, feta cheese, spinach and onion with an English muffin and fresh fruit cup!
He still doesn't want to go to the 10 hr day treatment center for eating disorders. He wants to go to a therapist 1 on 1. We found a place that does neurotherapy. My husband is going to take my son to check it out tomorrow. (I came home to Maryland tonight).
My husband took my son to get blood work today to make sure his body chemistry was on track. He said my son now weighs 133 lbs!! He is up 29 lbs in a week and a half! My husband said my son kept eating good after he saw that weight. Yayyyy! My son is supposed to weigh 149 lbs. I told my husband it is his turn to keep it going in that direction.
I am welcoming this break. I have never gone through anything like that before and never want to again. Every one in the hospital kept remarking on how strong I was. But, I really wasn't. I had to put up a front to get him through it. Have you ever read Footprints In The Sand? Jesus was carrying me through. Wednesday I am going to meet with a Eating Disorder therapist for parents. I don't want to end up with PTSD or a breakdown.
Anyway, I have my Roxy back and I am going to enjoy this positive moment in time.
Thanks again for all of your prayers and support. It has helped my family tremendously.
Yesterday did not end well. My brother and I went to pick my son up at 7 PM. My son flew out the door and said he wasn't going back. He said people in the group had serious issues. One girl was talking about killing herself, another talked about sexual abuse and another about drinking alcohol and taking sleeping pills.
He had his phone out on the way home to my brothers trying to book a flight back to Maryland. After 1/2 hour we got him calmed down enough to talk. We got him to agree to go to a psychiatrist who specializes in eating disorders - waiting for her call back now. He was originally supposed to go to her first. We are hoping she can get him to go back.
The place he was at didn't warn me ahead of time. I called his main therapist there (he only saw for the first time yesterday). She said she didn't know. She said some people shared things in group yesterday that normally weren't shared. My son said all the staff was nice but he didn't like group. He also said he was bored. He brought home a workbook. I am going to see if I can start getting him to do it. I have to wonder if his feelings about gaining weight fall into this decision. I am not sure because we went out to eat after all this happened and he had two rolls with butter, mussels, cheese and fruit.
So, needless to say, I am back to very little sleep. I feel sick to my stomach and my nerves are on high alert again.
My son got out of the hospital yesterday and started intensive day treatment for his eating disorder today. I drop him off at 9 and pick him up at 7. He eats all meals and two snacks there. He eats his 9 pm snack with us. He has weekends off and also this Good Friday.
It is the first day I have had by myself in about one month! It feels very strange and as irritable as he has been, I miss him. After I dropped him off, I took care of work stuff over the phone and then went to Marshall's. I didn't bring many clothes to San Diego and the sweaters are too hot. I bought some shirts, a dress for Easter, a couple skirts and a jacket. I am a size 6 so somehow I am maintaining my weight. I do need to do some crunches, but I am not feeling it. I just like to run. I picked my son up a laundry basket and some bathroom supplies. Last night we went to Costco. He picked out good foods, some he would not have eaten before.
I have told him more than once how proud I am of his efforts. He went from 106 to 124 lbs in 5 days. It was all fluids - that is how dehydrated he was! Now he has to gain fat and muscle - that is going to be the tough part. At 124 he thinks he has a belly! He also keeps trying to measure himself. He puts his hands on his sides and touches his fingers together in front of his belly button. My brother figured it out. I have seen him do it twice and asked him what he is doing. The therapist said it is common.
He is going to get lots of attention while in treatment. My brother and I are going to a caregiver support meeting tomorrow night. My husband will go next week when we trade off. He is coming Friday night - we are going to do fun stuff with our son this weekend - thank God!
I set up am appointment with a therapist who works with parents of kids with eating disorders next Wednesday at home. I don't want to end up with any issues of what I had to go through the past month later.
Thanks again for you continued support and prayers. I really appreciate all of you!!!