I am not doing well at all. All my son's tests came back negative. He is totally denying anorexia/bullimia. But, we are fairly certain that is what it is. He is down to 110 lbs. he checked himself out of the hospital this afternoon. I told his girlfriend he needed to stay there - she gave him a ride home (he is too weak to drive or even walk that far). He is barely speaking to me (answers texts with one word) and will not speak at all to husband. When the Dr asked my son last night if he ever threw up food my son looked the Dr in the eye and said "no". My husband said that was not true and now my son won't speak to him. My husband is completely crushed, but I am so proud of him. It had to be said.
My husband and I called a support line. We can hire a lawyer to prove my son isn't thinking correctly and make him go to a treatment center. My son was talking about going to John Hopkins next. I researched and they have an eating disorder clinic. They can't see my son unless he approves, but if he is down there at least we will have a head start.
Me? I have been crying all day. I had a hard time keeping it in during my mammogram this morning and didn't go to work. I can't handle them questioning me right now. I am going to go in tomorrow when no one is there.
I also am having a real hard time researching eating disorders. Most info is directed at females or losing weight. My Facebook, Spark, apps - everything on losing weight! No wonder many people are underweight and having issues!
I feel like my son is going to die and I can't stop it! I never thought I would have to think about him on life support, talk to him about a will, where to bury him...it is too much!
Came home from vacation to my son who is a lot worse. He has been eating and drinking a lot - still lost 5 more pounds! He now weighs 110 and he is 5'8"! He looks awful. He wouldnt go back to the hospital so yesterday he went to a kidney dr and got an ultrasound done. The kidney dr thinks his kidney probs are secondary to something else. This morning I took him to get lots of blood work done and now we are waiting for him to get a CAT scan of his stomach and bowel. I told him after this - if it's clear - we are going to John Hopkins hospital. His vision is blurry if it's bright, he can barely walk ( had to drive a cart around grocery store), his fingers and toes are tingling, his upper back hurts and his chest is bothering him. It is taking everything I have not to cry in front of him right now! I have gone over CPR in my head several times in case he collapses - can't believe I have to imagine this!
I am wondering if it is Lyme disease - it takes about three days for that test to come back. He's also got a glucose test and thyroid test.
So...I am totally stressed out...which means I have no appetite. At some point I have to get to work to get payroll ready for tomorrow. My husband is there now - I think we are going to switch at 3:30 or I am going to have to go in tonight.
Anyway, that is what is going on at the moment! I hope you are having a better week.
My son's ultrasound of his heart came back fine. Now he just has to eat more! He doesn't live with us, so it is all about prayer. I did buy him a lot of muscle milk and one of his friends who is into body building has reached out to him. my son is listening to him. I think he might be having girlfriend issues which will add to his stress. She does not understand what is going on with him. She has a really cute five year old - I worry that the responsibility is too overwhelming for him. One of our friends who dated then married someone with a child is going to talk to him.
My husband and I went out Saturday and Sunday night with friends. It helped a lot to get our minds off of it. We are going to Florida next week to see my parents in Punta Gorda then to Siesta Key.
I am so out of shape from not running! I have been going to PT. today I got a massage. My IT band is so tight I thought I was going to scream during the massage! Its pulling my knee cap to the side, so the PT is working in moving it back too. I have a couple more weeks before I can run again. I am tempted but don't want to start over. So, I will wait. I have gained 8 pounds ... All of this and the added stress too!
Tomorrow I am gonna bring Roxy to work with me. I haven't had a lot of time to play with her. She is a definite destressor in my life!
Well, my son got out of the hospital yesterday and is on his way back as I write this. They injected him with too much fluid while he was in. His ankles and knees are swelling up. I haven't gotten sleep all week from worrying and constant checking of my phone during the night. Today he looked better, then tonight he calls and tells me the above. His girlfriend wants to take him, so, here I sit, not knowing what is going on.
My husband went to bed. I don't know how he can do that! And, I have to be at CPR refresher training at 8 AM!!
I am hoping they give him a diuretic and send him home. Keep your fingers crossed and please keep him in your prayers!!
Last night my 24 year old son had to go to the emergency room due to the bad stomach bug that is going around. He got to the emergency room (with his girlfriend) at 7 pm. He had chest pains along with the nausea. He waited until 4 AM to get a bed in the ER! They found fluid around his heart and that his kidneys weren't working properly...all from the virus!
Last night I thought he went, got fluids and went home. I was surprised when his girlfriend texted me at 7 this morning! So we have both been here all day. His blood pressure is real low - 91/47. The good news is he got a lecture from the Dr. He is 5'8 and weighs 115 pounds - his bmi is 17!! He has always been on the small side but he is way too skinny. We have been getting on him about his weight - he always gets mad at us. Hopefully he will start eating more now. He is going to get a physical next!!
So, I have been here all day. I had a really nice salad, broccoli, white beans, pink grapefruit for lunch and hummus for snack. I had cottage cheese and a peanut butter nutrisystem bar (I always keep one in my pocketbook in case) for dinner. And I am drinking lots of water.
My bff's sister works in the ER tonight - she is going to come check on him for me. I am going to go home later tonight when his girlfriend gets back. I told him to take her out to a real nice restaurant when this is done!!