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Monday, June 11, 2012

Well, as some of you know, my brother is going through a nasty divorce. He's been married for twenty years. They started discussing it last August and signed papers to separate and start divorce proceedings in April. All was going amicably until mid april when she turned their 14 and 18 year old against him. She is making things up for lots of reasons that I will skip out. My brother came to my house last week (doesn't live near me). He looked awful and is hardly sleeping. He hasn't seen his kids in one month! We talked a lot and I let him do all the talking during our 8 mile run. He is home now and is calling me a lot. It's gotten quite wicked. I don't understand how someone could be married to someone for 20 years and then be so mean.

Anyway, after he left my husband and I visited my parents. We stayed the weekend to participate in a 5k near their house too. My parents are really upset about my brother so that's all we discussed.

This morning I was happy to go to work for a mental break! Then my BFF called and told me her mother is dying and she needs to rush up to Delaware from Texas. I am going to pick her up at the Philadelphia airport and drive her down to lower Delaware later tonight. Around 11 I should be at my parents, stay over and drive up to work in the morning.

Today I also went back to the foot doctor. The bottom of my foot was looking worse. He gave me novacaine and pulled the pin out! It was quite tiny and looked like plastic. It took him no more than 30 secs! I am so relieved that its finally done. So now I am soaking my foot, then I have to pack, eat dinner (nights like this I am glad I still have nutrisystem dinners!) and hit the road in an hour.

Needless to say, I am tired out. As I re-read this, I am going to pack running clothes and run at the beach before going to work. (just re-read this...running sounded good but i forgot about the hole in my foot -- ugh!) My parents are leaving early tomorrow morning to visit my brother for a week so I will get some time there by myself before I go in to work. It may sound selfish but I will need to recharge!!

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KAREN_NY 6/28/2012 8:10PM

    Wow - your family seems to really need you now, so recharging sounds perfectly sensible. I love that your healing has gone so well that you almost forgot about your foot in anticipation of running on the beach.

((HUGS)). Praying for peace at heart for your family.

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INFLATED 6/16/2012 7:36AM

    Our minds need to recharge just as much as our bodies do.

My family compared me to my daughter's mother-in-law and I have been fighting depression over that ever since. Sticks and stones would be better than being broken by words.

I hope your brother doesn't sink into depression. I don't know why, but going through a divorce seems to set off the worst in some couples.
I am glad you were/are there for your brother. Sometimes we just need a sympathetic ear to listen to our problems.

Take care of that foot so it can heal up without problems.

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RIVADERCHI 6/12/2012 12:29AM

    Hi R.M.! Hope you made it safely and will get a good nite's sleep. Man, that is alot of stress and drama to deal with, but I bet you will handle it well. Take it easy on your foot! All you can do is be there and offer a sympathetic ear. As far as your brother's kids--they're old enough to figure out what's going on and I'm sure they will come around. Good luck to all! P.S. Donuts--soul food/heaven on earth. Wish they made a whole wheat one, tho! emoticon emoticon

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    It definitely does not sound selfish to need time to recharge. That's a lot to have to handle. I'm actually amazed you found time to blog in the midst of such a crazy day! I feel very sad for your brother and his family, and hope that your parents' visit will be helpful for him.

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Univ of Delaware Alumni 5K Review with Mascot Pic...

Saturday, June 02, 2012

It was a fabulous morning - the weather was perfect for running. It cooled down a lot last night after the thunderstorms.

I drove down to Newark and found free parking, so I was off to a good start!

The race started at 9 AM, I got there at 8 AM, so after I picked up my racing bib, I went to the raceshirt table. The lady started apologizing like crazy because she didn't have any "smalls" left - I hadn't asked for my size. I really wanted to run around and hug her! She made my day. I am still not used to being a "small". I said it was "ok", took the large - held it up and it looked like a dress on me - oh well, new pj's!

I walked around Main Street then jogged a little bit near the finish line. I have learned that this little ritual helps me when I start; my legs don't feel tight. It also helps me stay calm.
I talked to the Mayor of Newark a little bit before the race. He knows my parents real well, and lived down the street from us when I was in my teens.

The beginning of the race was slow. There was a lot of runners mushed together, not sure why - there was only 350 today. Most of the run was flat with one sort of steep incline, the rest in bits and pieces. My foot felt great the whole time.

At the end, I found myself with a new PR of 26.24! I am still in shock. I never thought in a million years I would be able to run that fast. I shaved 53 seconds off my record in March, which tells me I still have room to go faster! ...I love competing with myself!

Anyway, here is a picture of me with the University of Delaware mascot, appropriately named "YouDee"...

I am pretty sweaty in this one, not sure why I didn't get it taken before the race!

P.S. If you ever are driving through Delaware, Newark is a great place to stop. It recently received the Best Main Street in the United States, righteously so. Main Street is filled with cute shops and great restaurants. The University of Delaware campus is intertwined all through it. After visiting several colleges with my son, I can tell you it is one of the most gorgeous campuses out there.

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    Congratulations on the great run and on the compliment from the t-shirt lady! It's still crazy to me that you're setting PRs when you had foot surgery less than a year ago. You're amazing!!

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    Congratulations on the great run and on the compliment from the t-shirt lady! It's still crazy to me that you're setting PRs when you had foot surgery less than a year ago. You're amazing!!

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INFLATED 6/3/2012 2:10AM

    WOOT WOOT!!! You need some wings to put on your tennis shoes!

You look great with YouDee. My daughter had a Tee shirt that said, "Fast girls have good times." There is some innuendo in the saying, but you did great!

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RIVADERCHI 6/3/2012 12:49AM

    Woo Hoo! Run, RoxyzMom, Run! Like the wind! Awesome! Congrats on your PR! That marathon relay must have made this one seem like a piece of cake! Glad you had fun and you look great! Triumphant! Keep up the good work! Did you get a trophy?? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KAREN_NY 6/2/2012 5:08PM

    Go Blue Hens! :) And GO YOU!!!! WOOHOOO!!!

PS - Got your note. I'm familiar w/the blue hens because I took my daughter to visit UD last summer, on the college search. :) It wasn't a good match for her, but it was a fun side trip. Nice people on campus too.

Comment edited on: 6/2/2012 7:10:07 PM

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GODSBEST 6/2/2012 4:56PM

    Congratulations on your run and setting a personal best !!

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Friday, June 01, 2012

So, my youngest son moved out (partially) yesterday - his body went but he forgot all the crap he left in his room! Hoping he works on it a little bit today in between jobs.

My brother is coming next week and staying at my place. He is going through a nasty divorce. He lives in CA so I plan on catching up on everything that is going on while he is here. I will be running back and forth from work and home a lot. It's a big week at work, or I would have taken the whole week off.

Tomorrow I am going to run my third 5k of the season. It is an University of Delaware alumni 5k run (during alumni weekend). Tonight we are going out with friends for dinner, I will be having a light supper with maybe one glass of wine and lots of water with lemon. I want to get a good night sleep before the race.

I was planning on taking today off from running since I ran all week - that was until Roxy took off on me outside! Lately, she will hang out back with us without the leash. She is 4 1/2 years old, so I have been quite excited about this. My husband and I were on the side yard, I unhooked her leash and she totally took off up the road, then into the woods. She never looked back. She is very small for her breed, weighing in at 12 pounds (Boston Terriers go as high as 35 pounds), but she is solid muscle and can run really fast! It took us about 20 minutes to find the little booger, I kept hearing dogs barking - we have lots of big ones around here - and imagining her getting torn apart by one! My husband went down the road the other way and found a little girl holding her - said she was behind her house - she has a german shepherd!

When I went into the house she sat back away from me, looking guilty as sin. I scolded her, then gave her a bath in the sink. There is a lot of poison ivy and ticks where she was running. Now, she is sleeping; still knows she is in trouble.

As I was screaming her name and running through yards, I was thinking how terrible it would be to lose my dog the first day my son moved out. Ugh!

So, now I am going back to cleaning. This was a nice break! I hope you have a great weekend!


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    emoticon to you! We always had dogs while I was a kid and I clearly remember the stress of one of them taking off unexpectedly. I'm glad your little dear is safe!
I hope this week with your brother has gotten off to a good start. I'm sure he has a lot of stress to unload and is thankful for the break you're providing.
Hopefully I'll be reading your race report in a few minutes. I really got behind on my friend feed over the last week!

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RIVADERCHI 6/3/2012 12:23AM

    OMG, how stressful was that!?!?! Glad you caught her--do you think she just wanted to have "fun?" She won't do that again if she knows she's going to get a bath if she does! Good psychology! Bad girl! emoticon emoticon

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INFLATED 6/1/2012 10:01PM

    I am glad you found Roxy!

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SABLENESS 6/1/2012 7:17PM

    So glad you were able to recapture your little escapee before she got into any trouble. A 12 lb Boston IS a little scrap, like my tiny 7 lb older cat. The kitten at almost 8 months is bigger and a lot heavier. Thanks be, Roxy is safe, and mom isn't worrying about her. Have a great race tomorrow! emoticon

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BLUE42DOWN 6/1/2012 3:52PM

    I'm so glad you were able to find her AND before anything serious happened.

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Pondering about my foot...

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Many of you know I had a bunionectomy in October and that the dissolving pin the dr put in was too long and almost sticking out of the bottom of my foot. The dr kept saying it would dissolve in two weeks. Well, almost 9 months later it is still there!

So I called his office yesterday and said I needed a surgery date (he melts the metal back - take 5 mins tops, and of course, stitches). The nurse said I would have to come in and see him again first. I told her I already did several times, and did not think I should pay $40. again for the same thing, she said I would have to. I told her to tell the dr what's going on and call me back. She called back and said the dr said I would have to pay it and I told her I wanted him to call me. She called back today and said that he said he didn't need to see me and that he would do the surgery.

This brings me to my point- if a dr messes up - on my case didn't cut the pin to the right size before inserting it into my foot, shouldn't he pay all the costs to fix it? Why should we and the insurance pay for it? My husband and I and several friends were talking about this and it is correct. I may bring it up with my insurance company after my surgery.

Anyway, it's just something to ponder on.

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NANCY_JW 8/24/2012 8:46PM

  I need to have this surgery and this doesn't sound good at all!

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KAREN_NY 5/31/2012 8:39PM

    I agree you should not be charged for him correcting his mistake, but you might not get that without threatening a lawsuit... depends on how reasonable his practice is.

A tricky one... Maybe you could first ask his accounting office what their terms and reimbursement rates are in a scenario where the surgery is for the only purpose of correcting his mistake -- ask them if they think insurance will cover it. That puts them on notice that you're taking this up... then talk to the dr. in person. ??

There might be state law about this too ??

I'd make insurance the last people I tell, because you don't want to be stuck paying if they deny the claim.

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RIVADERCHI 5/31/2012 4:55PM

    Hhhmmmm. I never thought about something like this. First, I think he must have done a good job the first time since you healed well and are back running. Is this considered a possible side-effect of having the surgery? I know every year you have to pay your deductible again, but this sounds like it is a complication of the first surgery, but not necessarily his fault. Good luck figuring it out--hope this doesn't put you out of commission for too long! emoticon emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 5/31/2012 7:49AM

    Thanks for your comments and warnings. I did go for a second opinion a couple months ago. The other doctor wasn't alarmed and said it could take one year for the pin to dissolve. He said it wouldn't hurt my arch but now it's moving and bothering me when I wear regular shoes or flip flops.

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BLUE42DOWN 5/31/2012 3:07AM

    I'd definitely try contacting the insurance company directly and express the concerns about the situation. If they want to try to fight having to pay it, they have the legal staff to know how to address it. If they want a second opinion, best to get it before the surgery. (In fact, a second opinion that can provide evidence if there's any issue with it having been done improperly before might help considerably.)

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INFLATED 5/31/2012 1:59AM

    I would think he should have to. A co-worker at Big Lots had the same surgery and have to have it done over because the pin moved. She opted for a different doctor.

The thing to be careful of is to make sure that you don't have to pay the bill. When your insurance finds out that this happened, I think they will refuse to pay it. You don't want to have any complications from the second try and then be left to pay for it.

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Last kid out...

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

My youngest son is moving out tomorrow. My husband and I will be on our own! Several people have asked me if I am going to go through "empty nest syndrome". I don't think I will. This is the second time he has moved out. The last time was 2 years ago when he went away to college in Long Island, NY which was about 3 hours away. The only thing that got me was dropping him off at the train station and watching the train pull away. I learned to never walk him up to the train! This time he will live in an apartment 15 mins away and work part time for me, so I am not feeling bad. Plus he is 21 years old and it's time. I honestly feel that I did a fairly good job as a parent if he can do this, and he needs to mature.

So, I now look at how this will affect me and my habits. Now it will be me and my husband. We are in our late 40's. As tempting as it will be to eat out all the time, I am going to have to be the one to promote eating dinners at home during the week. We always go out on the weekends so I know that will not change. We also live on the water, so it's like we are on vacation every day. That means wine and beer and being lazy. I am going to have to make sure we do that in moderation so we don't end up with addiction problems!! Also the
high calorie intake!! And company with snacks, etc! Lots to think about!!

Thank God we still work!

So, I have a lot to think about so we both stay in line! How come the female is always the one who has to think about these things?

All I know is that I have worked to hard to lose weight and keep it off to go backwards now! I am glad I have the hobby of running to keep me focused, on a schedule, and in shape. Alm the races I am signed up for in the future really
help keep me on the straight and narrow - along with you guys, of course ;)

So, after all of this, I guess with the last kid moving out, it's all about keeping ourselves in line, out of trouble, in shape and happy!!

I can do this!!

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KAREN_NY 5/31/2012 8:41PM

    You're so cute.... why IS it the women who have to think of these things? lol! and... like being on vacation every day! love that!

Adventure & good spirit to you!

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RIVADERCHI 5/31/2012 4:47PM

    Hi R.M.! I love your attitude! You are really enjoying life to the max! Don't feel guilty for the pleasures (food/drink)--you work it off! And you work so that you can enjoy it! Life is good! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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