Sunday, October 26, 2014
My son from California called me at 1:30 am crying. His best friend's dad texted him and told him Mike was back in the hospital and was dying. Mike has been fighting cancer for 8 years - since high school. He is 25 now. Needless to say, it was a pretty much sleepless night. My son asked me to go see Mike today. Mike's dad sent my son the information.
My hubby didn't want to go - said it "wasn't his thing". I told him it wasn't "my thing" either, but it is life. I went up to Philly by myself.
Mike is in a hospice room at Penn. When I went in, his Aunt, Uncle, sister and her boyfriend were there. He is clearly dying. His Aunt told me that 3 weeks ago he was great, enjoyed a vacation in the Poconos with his family. He had attended the US open (loves tennis). He caught pneumonia and ended up in Penn. He conquered pneumonia and then got a funky infection, swelling his feet. The test meds he was on to get himself ready for a bone marrow transplant had stopped working. They found close matches for him in China (he is half Asian). Only 1/3 of the people who have his type of lymphoma make it. Mike decided he was done.
Within 3 days of no medications, the cancer has totally consumed him. As his Aunt said, he is so brave to make this decision. Hospice has him as comfortable as could be, he slept the whole time I was there.
It was so hard to see him that way. He is way too young for all of this. And, they were so gracious for my son's friendship with him. They knew how sick my son was last year - I told them Mike helped him through it. I shared funny things I remembered about Mike when he visited our house. Mike and my son both LOVE food. They posted about it constantly on facebook and ate out a lot when my son lived in Maryland. His family didn't know Mike started a facebook page. I brought counseling into the conversation. I shared how much it helped me when my son was close to death. I hope that helps them in some small way.
So, now we wait. My son is going to fly home for Mike's funeral. He said he feels guilty that he is not here now. I tried to reinsure him that he should not feel that way. I talked to him about keeping his weight up, how Mike's memory is going to live on with him, spiritual beliefs and that going to a counselor can help my son through this. The only people my son has lost is his grandfathers close to 20 years ago and here it is his best friend. They texted back and forth constantly - this is going to be such a big loss to my son.
And then tonight the most beautiful sunset dropped on the river...
Update: Mike passed away at 3:30 this morning.
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Last week I didn't gain any weight, and I didn't lose any weight.
Why did I not lose any weight when I exercised and stayed in my calorie range? All I can think of is my glass of red wine (or two) with dinner...
And my weekend...
Friday night was awesome. Hubby and I were invited to our neighbor's for dinner Friday night. The hubby of the household is an awesome cook. We had pork tenderloin sautéed in apple slices, onion slices and apple cider.
We also enjoyed fresh butternut ravioli with buttered sauce with fresh sage...
I brought a zucchini/tomato/garlic/fat free mozzarella/fresh basil bake.
The couple we ate dinner with are stick thin. The hubby served our plates in perfect portion size. The flavors and tastes were totally amazing. My hubby - who doesn't like squash - loved the whole meal. The problem was the wine...
Saturday morning we took the boat to Chesapeake City, MD for an overnighter. Fall has raised it's eyebrow...
We made it!...
We did a lot of walking. Roxy went with us. A newspaper took at least 30 pictures of her. She was sporting a pink fur coat :) We always get a lot of compliments concerning her and her behavior. She is 7 years old but looks like a puppy at 14 lbs! She is very calm for a boston terrier. I swear it's all the exercise she gets! Plus I read and practice Cesar Milan's book - just sayin'
Anyway, a lot of friends met up with us. We did lots of shopping, hung on our boat and our friend's boat then went to dinner - with Roxy in tow. She was pretty worn out by that point, here she is - sleeping by my chair...
We had a great night, but I did drink a lot more wine!!
Sunday night we were back home, I made my soup for the week...
and cleaned the house. And I got another walk in with Roxy. I met friends out to chat at a restaurant, and had a small side salad.
Monday I made spaghetti squash (from the local farmer) for the first time ever...
I added "I Can't Believe It's Not Butter", garlic pepper, and parm cheese. Hubby thought it was too plain, I am gonna dress it up more next time!
We enjoyed this sunset...
Tonight I made Schwan's Cheesy Cod and homemade Spark inspired potato wedges and fresh broccoli for dinner.
So -- what did I learn? Watch the wine! Darn it! I simply love to enjoy a glass with my dinner!
And I will leave you with this (a friend posted it on FB)
Have a fabulous week!!
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Last week we focused on our calcium intake. I was stunned that I did not achieve my daily allowance. I take a One-A-Day Woman's 50+ and "assumed" that it had more than enough so I would not have to worry about osteoporosis. I am going to go back to the drug store and re-evaluate my vitamin!!
I stayed in calorie range everyday and lost 1 pound. My hubby talked me into going out to dinner too many times last week. I told him we are not doing that this week. I have been getting a lot of exercise, but know that food is my number 1 factor in losing weight. I have control of what food goes in my mouth at home, never sure of all of the ingredients when we are out.
I did awesome with breakfast and lunches. I enjoyed my homemade 11 bean soup with smoked ham and grilled chicken cubes. I froze the rest of the batch.
This week I made a 29 bean soup. I added pot roast I brought home in my doggy bag from a really good restaurant last night. I added tomato, tyme, and peppers from my garden, along with onion. I put the soup in 1 1/3 cup microwave containers. They are ready for the work week. I still have homemade minestrone soup in my freezer. I will be grabbing a bag or two of that as well to mix them up this week.
I also made 3 bean chili with extra lean ground beef for dinner. My husband loved it. He will be taking it to lunch this week.
My freezer is stocked with individually wrapped portions - courtesy of Schwan's, and I have lots of yummy veggies (primarily broccoli) from my local farmer for the week. The only dinner I have to pay close attention in Tuesday night, when we go out with neighbors to dinner at a local restaurant. I will be getting a salad and bringing bottled water.
Yesterday I jarred jalapenos from my garden. I love the colors. Here are some pictures:
Fresh garlic and oregano and Pepper Picante EVO...
Now they sit three weeks. Four will be given out as Christmas gifts.
Last week, I spent two full days in the attic at my work, sorting through 20 years worth of accounting paperwork. I will be back up there tomorrow. It is involving a lot of lifting as well, and this week I will be carrying a lot of boxes down very steep stairs and out to a truck. I will be burning lots of calories and working on muscle mass.
I did stop hoola hooping. My left upper back began aching and it got worse and worse -- to the point of affecting my sleep. Around day 5, it occurred to me it was from hoola hooping!! I was leaning on one side to hoop!! Ugh!
So now I am on to push-ups!!
I hope you have a fantastic week!!
Sunday, October 05, 2014
The second week of the Fall challenge got off to a shaky start. I battled bronchitis most of the week. I won! I am feeling a lot better now. I made and ate Split Pea Soup and Minestrone Soup every day for lunch and/or dinner. I also enjoyed my local farmer's eggplant with tomatoes from my garden:
I didn't get in as many exercise minutes that I had planned and didn't run. As the week progressed, I gained energy, lost the cough and slowly increased my walking. Today I vacuumed, mopped, scrubbed and dusted and also got two nice walks in with Roxy. She didn't want to walk the second round - literally wouldn't move - so I carried her. I was carrying an extra 13 pounds, figured I was burning more calories!!
Here is some pictures of our walk:
My little girl looking at me like "hurry up, Mom!"
The leaves on our trees have not really started to change color. The trees budded later last Spring - maybe because of the long winter (?). I think that's why they are delayed in turning.
I did lose 2 more pounds last week. I started out on a role, then went out Saturday night and gained 1 back today. I am hoping it was salt. I always seem to do really good until I go out to a restaurant. Red wine doesn't help either!
I do have all of our meals lined up for the week - we will be eating at home.
I am really liking Schwan's. I love their individual portions. Today I made a huge pot of eleven bean soup. I added a little bit of chicken, smoked ham, my garden tomatoes, onion, garlic and spices. It smells heavenly. I am going to be taking it to work for lunch this week, and volley it with minestrone that I froze last week. I got a plan ! I also want to stop at the local Y and see if I can buy a 1 month membership to use the pool. I notice several of my Sparkbuddies collecting exercise minutes from swimming, and it has peaked my interest.
I thought you may want to see some interesting pictures, not related to the challenge. Saturday morning we had an unusually high tide. I am wondering if the Blood Moon had something to do with it. Full moons bring high tides.
This was taken off of my deck:
My neighbor walking on water!!
Piers under water:
I love living out here. I get to see Mother Nature at work everyday!
I hope you have a fantastic week!
Wednesday, October 01, 2014
Earlier this week, I saw this post and picture on Chris Powell's (Extreme Weight Loss) Facebook Page.
Chris wrote "Such a powerful image. We are all the same underneath it all! Body fat is just a 'blanket of energy' covering our bones, organs, and muscles. When we eat less energy (food) and move (exercise), the blanket of energy get smaller!!"
Even a week later -- I keep going back to this picture in my head.
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