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I Can Do ANYTHING for a Day!

Saturday, October 30, 2010

My journey is not only about making lifestyle's also about the QUALITY of my life! The ability to make choices is my power...& gives me control! I figure I can do ANYTHING for a day! So, just for today, I choose to...

Be HAPPY...not sad!
Smile more...frown less!
Be HEALTHY...& eat well!
Be fit by taking the time for exercise!
Let go of the guilt...& not worry!
Be PROactive...not REactive!
Drink water...not soda!
Walk & move my body...& not sit idle!
Be positive & optimistic...not negative & pessimistic!
See only the good in others...& not be critical!
Be open-minded...& not judge!
See the glass is half full...not half empty!
Set limits...& ease my stress!
Eat healthy...& take care of me!
Listen less!
Be tolerant... & not rigid!
Accept...& not reject!
Approve...not condemn!
Rest my body...not exhaust it!
Do in moderation...not in extremes!
Take care of me...& be good to my body!
Be flexible...not obstinate!
Be kind...not cruel!
Extend a hand to lift someone up!
Find my joy!

I can do ANYTHING for just one day! How about you? What can YOU do today?

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LINDABENEDICT 11/2/2010 7:19PM

    LOVE IT !!!!!!

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VERONICAS_GOALS 11/2/2010 6:39PM

    You always know what to write or say. THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH emoticon emoticon

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DGFOWLER 11/2/2010 4:07PM

    You are so encouraging Rose.. thank you from the bottom of my heart for always making me feel special. You are appreciated more then you will ever know. Donna

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BLUEROSE 11/1/2010 8:22PM

    Say Thank you, Rose!!! emoticon

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MARISABELLES 11/1/2010 10:34AM

    O, so you did find the recipe for happiness! emoticon
And you are so generously sharing it with us, you're such a great emoticon
Now I understand better the "déja-vu" feeling I get when I read yours comments : we really are very much alike!
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... and may I suggest a last one I'm particularly found of ?
Be grateful for the abundance in my life


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VEHAMILTON1 10/31/2010 8:34PM

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emoticon Just a shout out to say Hi! I enjoyed your blog.

I sent you a "Flower Power" goodie wishing you a great week!

Thank you for sharing!

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MERRY40 10/31/2010 8:22PM

    Excellent list, Rose. These are all things that I wish I can do more of, but as you said, it's good to look at these from the perspective of one day at a time! It makes them seem much more attainable. God bless!
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INASENSE1 10/31/2010 5:00PM

    Such a positive list. I feel as though I should print it out & paste it on the fridge!

Thanks for sharing!

Today, I can eat right & keep a happy demeanor!

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JOANNS4 10/31/2010 9:54AM

    You are confirming what my slogan is One Day At A Time. I like your rules so much and will be trying hard to live by them on most days. Thank you for posting this. emoticon

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DEVORA4 10/31/2010 7:47AM

  This is exactly what I do! Then the next day I say the same thing.

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ATREAT4ME 10/30/2010 2:13PM

    Awesome post, Rose. I love it. And there is so much in it.

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SHERYLDS 10/30/2010 1:58PM

    emoticon you stopped me from sneaking a treat. emoticon

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1BEARWIFE 10/30/2010 12:26PM

    Super blog! Today I intend to stay on the healthy side of the street, too!

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WINFIELD28 10/30/2010 11:09AM

    Great blog post, again Rose! You're right on!
You know me...I'm all about one step at a time, one day at a time. That's how I'm accomplishing and reaching my goals. It doesn't serve me well to look too far into the future when the only place I have control is right here, where I am today!
I always love your lists! I can come back and refer to them often during the week and they always continue to motivate me!
Thank you, dear friend for sharing again!
Have a wonderful weekend!

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COOLMAMA11 10/30/2010 11:03AM

    Love this blog, and yes we can do this, one day at a time...

Hugs Elaine emoticon

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JUSTA123 10/30/2010 10:58AM

    Exactly one day at a time! One foot in front of the other, and we will do it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DIONALLEN32266 10/30/2010 10:53AM

    Just for today, I choose to follow your example. This has inspired me, and I thank you!!


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A BIG Thank You & Progress Reports & Updates!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Hello Everyone! emoticon

Wow! I just realized it's been a while since I've blogged! Time does have a way of passing quickly, now doesn't it!

I would like to begin by giving a big THANK YOU to everyone that's stopped by my blogs to read, contemplate, & leave commentary. I am still slowly responding if you haven't heard from me, you will! I must say though, I was so overwhelmed with the outpour of congratulations & warm wishes from so many of you in the SparkPeople community! From the bottom of my heart, you are all appreciated for your support, your good will wishes, & words of encouragement! I must say, I can never repay such kindness! I also deeply appreciate many of you for sharing your life experiences, & I was touched by your compassion. It's now been 2 1/2 months since I've joined SparkPeople...& I can honestly say, my world will NEVER be the same!

Now, for progress reports & updates! emoticon

1. I've lost a total of 23.2 lbs to date! emoticon

2. I'm walking an hour or more daily w/pedometer readings 15,000+ or more!

3. My hubby has lost 9 lbs to date! emoticon

4. I've lowered my daily calorie range to 1000-1350 so as to maintain a 1-2 pound loss per week. I'm struggling a bit with this...with the hardest category being the carbs! Oh, how I LOVE my carbs, my friends!!! I'll have to watch closely on this one!

5. I've begun the Official 28-day Bootcamp Workout Challenge! I'm currently on Week 2-Day 2 of the challenge. Well, let me just say this...I AM finding it quite challenging! In OH SO MANY WAYS! Let me also say that I've been known to MODIFY a position or two...& let's leave it at that! emoticon

6. Yes, I'm drinking all my emoticon!!

7. I'm enjoying life! I'm active, I'm happy! And life is good in my world today!

I wish you all great success in achieving your goals! May you live your life one healthy & happy day at a time! Don't burden yourself with negativity & bitterness. It does nothing to help get you where you want to go! Keep reaching for the stars, my friends! The sky's the limit!!!

Be happy! Be healthy! Be fit! emoticon Rose

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KIMBANN 11/12/2010 10:10AM

    Congratulations on your fantastic progress! emoticon

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  Congrats on your progress so far. Keep it up!

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    Awesome!!!! emoticon

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MERRY40 10/29/2010 10:02PM

    Congratulations on your awesome success! With your positive attitude and determination, you're bound to continue on this healthy road and achieve your goals! It is difficult to lower one's calorie range, but I, too, found it necessary to achieve my desired results. Great job!
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1BEARWIFE 10/28/2010 9:01PM

    Hi Rose *(and hubby)

You guys are doing just terrific!! Keep up the good work. We need encouraging reports from folks like you! emoticon emoticon

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LAURAWILLBEFIT 10/28/2010 9:07AM

    Rose you are doing Awesome!
I'm so happy for you and also your Hubby!
Way to go and keep up the great work!

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JEREMY723 10/28/2010 7:28AM

    You're doing great and have the right attitude. Great for you....and your husband!

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COOLMAMA11 10/28/2010 7:20AM

    emoticonWhat an uplifting blog, love your positive attitude, makes me want to get down to business, and achieve! Congrats on your weight loss, you are doing sooo great!

Hugs Elaine emoticon

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COMPUCATHY 10/28/2010 6:53AM

    You are doing WONDERFUL! I'm so happy for you. Your ticker is moving right on. You're already past the 1/4-way mark...EXCELLENT! I love having Sparkers who are ahead of me in this race and who are calling out the "come on, we can do it." You're one of those wonderful Sparkers! Right behind you, sis! Keep up the good work! Keep sparking! emoticon emoticon

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COOKWITHME65 10/28/2010 2:28AM

    You are doing just fantastic Rose. emoticon to both your husband and you on your weight loss. Keep up the great work.

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MOODY9 10/28/2010 2:16AM


Your blogs and messages are always a bright part of my day. I'm so happy for your success. You are doing an amazing job!


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DEVORA4 10/27/2010 11:15PM

  Yours is the kind of blog I enjoy the most. emoticonand loads of emoticonYou are inspiring. debby

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SHELLEY147 10/27/2010 10:06PM

    What an awesome blog! You're doing so many wonderful things for yourself!! CONGRATS on all your success...and continued success!! emoticon

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ONEGREATCAT 10/27/2010 9:42PM

    Very powerful blog! Yes, you can feel the happiness in your voice. Super great job on the pounds lost, and having your hubby join you, is an added blessing!

I always look forward to hearing from are always so upbeat!

KEEP SPARKING ROSE!! emoticon emoticon

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55TUCKER 10/27/2010 9:37PM

    emoticon Rose, you are inspiring and I am glad to see your hubby is getting the added benefit too. Keep up the positive blogging right along with your new lifestyle.

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DBUCK10 10/27/2010 9:29PM


Your hard work and dedication to taking care of you is evident in your 23.2 lbs lost!!! You go girl~you are totally rocking it! It is an awesome feeling now~it will be even sweeter when you reach the final goal!!! I too have found the positive changes we make in our lifes, overflow to others who are in lifes!!! Great job!

Paying it Forward,

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BGOOCH56 10/27/2010 8:29PM

    Good Job Rose for as much as we have supported you, you have made it by my page to say congrats and hello, so you have been sparking as well. Look forward to getting to know you better through this journey.

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WINFIELD28 10/27/2010 8:20PM

    Look forward to and love your blog entries!
You are doing so well! And your husband has lost 9 pounds! That is fantastic. Tell him I said he is doing a great job too. You are such an inspiration! You will reach ALL your goals...sooner than later at the rate you are going!
I love your positive attitude!
I feel we have to strive each day to get, stay and be positive. It just doesn't happen automatically - atleast not for me. You are one person that keeps me positive and reminds me to keep working hard and that it's worth everything we put into it!
Here's to your continued successes!!!!
I'm so glad you are my Spark Friend!
Have a wonderful evening!
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NURSE_FAWN 10/27/2010 8:20PM

    Your blog made my day. The joy jumped from you to me! LOL Congratulations on your weight loss and the same to your husband. Thanks for this inspiring message. emoticon emoticon

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SMILESRME 10/27/2010 8:11PM

    Yeah for you Rose! So glad that you are feeling empowered by your fine accomplishments. Even your hubby is getting into the groove with you! Congrats.

Joy! Julia : )

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20 Little Secrets to Losing 20 Pounds in 2 Months!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

As of today, I've officially lost 21.8 lbs! I've been asked by several members to share how I did it. Well, let me begin by saying that there is NO magic to losing the weight. It takes perseverance & determination on anyone's part to be successful. I must say it got easier as the days progressed. Oh, I've had my bad days...but overall, it's been a totally awesome experience!


1. Track everything you eat & keep within your calorie range.
2. Drink 8-10 glasses of water each day.
3. Veggies should always be the most abundant food on your dinner plate!
4. Use smaller plates at dinner time. Simple, but it works!
5. Measure & weigh everything & adhere to serving sizes for portion control.
6. Use spray butter instead of margarine.
7. Forgo the coffee creamer & drink the coffee black.
8. No sodas of any kind, including diet.
9. Walk 30-60 minutes daily-7 days a week
10. Use a pedometer & walk a minimum of 10,000 steps daily!
11. Eat some type of fish twice a week & limit beef to 1-2 times a month.
12. Veggies, veggies, & more veggies! Raw, steamed, grilled, & sautéed!
13. Pack you lunch w/portable foods when you're out & about!
14. Plan ahead when eating out...& take home 1/2 of your entrée.
15. Log on to SparkPeople daily & stay connected!
16. Keep bowls of fruits & vegetables on the counter & in frig. for easy access
17. Switch to turkey products for your burgers & sausages!
18. Use dabs of olive oil to sauté with & drizzle on veggies for grilling.
19. Focus on getting as many super foods into your diet as possible!
20.Use an all veggie soup to ward off hunger (no meat, legumes, or grains).

As the saying goes..."I've only just begun!" And I have a long long way to go, my friends...but I can tell you this! I WILL achieve my goals & I will be at goal weight by next summer! You can count on it!

Thanks to all my fabulous friends on SparkPeople!!!
Special thanks to my SP buddy!...Gena! You rock lady!!!
BIG thank you to Veronica!...You're an AWESOME lady, neighbor!!!
Thank you Monica...for ALWAYS believing in me!
And thank you Erin!... who's about to be a new mom any minute!!!

emoticon Rose

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ANGIESDIET2 11/11/2010 4:39PM

  Great tips for keeping everyone on track with meeting their individual goals. Keep up the great work.

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XELADNAJT 11/3/2010 7:30AM

    Great post and advice!

Congrats to you!!!!

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MARIO432 11/1/2010 11:06PM

    Great advice.

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VIRGO_QUEEN 10/29/2010 11:22PM

    Congrats! And thanks for the tips!

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ZAR_LIVINGFIT 10/29/2010 4:36PM

    Awesome job! And your blog is definitely spot on!

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DANIE11ECINCY 10/28/2010 8:15PM

    More veggies, Less 'saturated fat-filled' meat, always good advice!! Awesome blog :)

Congrats on all your success!!

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STFY31 10/28/2010 1:14PM

    Thanks for the motivation! I love seeing that it CAN happen!

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KIMJEWKES 10/27/2010 3:24PM

    Congratulations!! You definitely have some excellent tips in there!

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GINGERBEME1 10/27/2010 7:34AM

    emoticon thanks for sharing.

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    Great Post! Congratulations to you on the Weight Loss!
I think I'm doing most of these too. So, hoping to post something similar soon :)

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RUNNING_LUCY 10/27/2010 12:46AM

    Thanks for the tips -- one of the most important - 15. Log on to SparkPeople daily & stay connected! I found I lost my spark this summer when I stopped logging in consistently.

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YESWEDID 10/26/2010 11:19PM

    i think i lost 1 lb by actively reading your blog. Thanks!

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SACMOM3 10/26/2010 6:50PM

    emoticon Thanks for the tips!

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PAMCLARK55 10/26/2010 6:04PM

    Thank you so much for the inspiration! Congratulations and keep up the awesome work!

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KIM_30 10/26/2010 3:38PM

    WOW! Good for you :) Thanks for the "tips"

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VBA2009 10/26/2010 2:44PM

    emoticon on your weight loss! Thanks for the list!

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ACTINGDARLING 10/26/2010 2:34PM

    Great List! I'm thinking I do most of that stuff which is great too!

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SLINSLEY1 10/26/2010 12:59PM

    Way to go!!!!! Thanks for the great info :)

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SMILESRME 10/26/2010 12:13PM

    What a positive, uplifting blog. With that kind of attitude and dedication, I have no doubt you will make your goal. Thanks!! Julia ; )

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LOLO2CHAMP 10/26/2010 10:50AM

  Thanks for sharing

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NICOLEK2112 10/26/2010 9:30AM

  Great info!

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JILLIANWILLIAN 10/26/2010 9:04AM

    Thanks for sharing Rose. I enjoy your blogs.


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APPLEADAY2010 10/26/2010 8:22AM

    Well done and thanks for sharing! xx emoticon

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CIERAPOET 10/26/2010 2:15AM

    Congratulations for the weight loss. You will meet your goals by next year or before. It's great to get here and be about the business at hand. Thanks for the list. I'm ready to lose 30lbs by the end of the year and I'm going to work even harder to do it. Thanks for your motivation! Happy losing!
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LOVE_LIVIN 10/25/2010 11:38PM

  Congrats and thanks for sharing! Keep it up emoticon emoticon

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SASSACAIA 10/25/2010 11:20PM

    Awesome list! Thanks for the tips!

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BLOOMING52 10/25/2010 11:15PM

    Great suggestions. Thank you.

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TWISTEDSTEELE 10/25/2010 11:09PM

    this is tight emoticon

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BARBEWIT 10/25/2010 10:57PM

    Your tips are fabulous! Makes me want to " step up a notch" and improve what I have been doing already.
Congrats on the weight loss!!

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MRS_ROEHL 10/25/2010 10:31PM

  Keep up the good work. I just wanted to let you know, you and everyone like you inspire me. The tips that you gave, are great. emoticon

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ILOVEROSES 10/25/2010 10:02PM

    Great tips and thanks for sharing! emoticon

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DORISJ8 10/25/2010 9:43PM

Your article has helped me to stay on track. Great work!

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HONEYBEE62301 10/25/2010 9:31PM

  Thank you so much for sharing your little secrets
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MARYBE4 10/25/2010 8:29PM

    Great tips


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LOISINOLA 10/25/2010 7:55PM

  You inspire me to do better with my on weight lost.

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TAMNTN 10/25/2010 7:11PM

    Great reminders! You are definitely on the right track...keep it up! Keep on Sparking! :)

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MARYCARMEL1 10/25/2010 7:06PM

    Great straight forward advice!

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SUNSHINE6859 10/25/2010 6:39PM

    Congrats on the weight loss. The tips are great, maybe they will help me get it into high gear! Thanks.

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CARLYANN6 10/25/2010 6:07PM

    Awesome tips! I really enjoyed reading this

Thanks amd congradulations on your success!

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SARI328 10/25/2010 6:01PM

    Great list! Congrats on your success so far! :)

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    Great attitude. You're really spreading the SPark!

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CMOORESTARS 10/25/2010 3:43PM

    Awesome tips, and I love your attitude, keep it up Rose!

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1BEARWIFE 10/25/2010 2:57PM

    FABULOUS blog and plan!! I'm happy Cat posted it on our team page so I could read it!!!! And Congratulations on being voted "the most popular blog post". THAT in itself is a great honor!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHATTEREDTALES 10/25/2010 2:40PM

    These are great tips, thanks for sharing! And congrats!

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    emoticon emoticon Great job!

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Be Part of the Solution!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

One of my most favorite sayings is: "If you're not part of the solution, then you're part of the problem!" I decided to share MY interpretation of this saying as it applies to the lifestyle changes I'm currently undertaking:

1. I'm responsible for taking care of my physical health & well-being! This means getting my medical/dental/visual check ups & annual screenings. And follow up w/my physician for any & all health care issues.

2. I'm responsible for keeping my body in good working order! This means exercising routinely & getting enough sleep. I can't function if my body's not rested or in good condition!

3. I'm responsible for making ME a priority! If I can't take care of my own basic needs---how do I intend to care for others!

4. I need to take responsibility for what I put in my mouth - I can't blame my eating on anyone or any one thing!

5. I'm responsible for taking care of me! I can't blame NOT taking care of myself on not having enough time or money. STOP making excuses & START taking care of you! You are worth it!

6. I'm responsible for my own happiness...& no one elses. My happiness does not depend on others!

7. There's no excuse for not caring about my appearance! I will dress with confidence! I will carry myself with dignity & I will hold my head up high! I am worthy! I will pamper myself w/the little things that make me happy. I am deserving!

8. The sky's the limit! I won't set limits on what I can achieve! I can accomplish anything I set my mind to! I will STEP UP to meet my expectations! ...& others will too!

9. I see myself as having accomplished my goals! In my mind's eye...I am there!

10. No one can make me feel ANYTHING!-I'm responsible for how I react/respond to situations & circumstances. I own my feelings & emotions!

11. I won't go looking for an easy way out! There is NO magic for losing the weight! I must eat less & exercise more. Only I possess the power to control my destiny!

12. I'm responsible for feeding myself POSITIVE messages!

13. I'm responsible for LOVING & believing in myself..."I can do it" is the voice I hear!

14. I believe in something greater than myself!

15. Be in problem-solving mode-& stop blaming others! It's a senseless use of energy...& life's too short!

16. Stop dwelling on the past---it's also a senseless use of energy & does NOTHING to make me feel better. Deal with the feelings once & for all... & then, leave them behind!

17. If I don't like something about myself...then change it! Otherwise, learn to love yourself just the way you are! You are a beautiful person!

18. Know when to say no! Set limits & keep to them!

AM I PERFECT? ---HECK NO! Why do you think I came up w/this list! I DO want to be part of the solution...& not be part of the problem any longer!

You can too! emoticon

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DLSHANKS 10/27/2010 1:21AM

    Awsome blog...are you a friend of Bill W.'s ? Your blog sounds a lot like the way I live life my life...and that is where I learned to really begin to live, and take responsibility for "me". Anyway, I can really relate to your way of thinking! Thanks!


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BARBEWIT 10/25/2010 11:00PM

    What an awesome post. You must be an amazing person!

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BWILLB147 10/24/2010 8:26PM

    Great post ..Thanks for sharing!!

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HOTCHICA17 10/24/2010 1:18PM

    Super post! Thank you Rose. I am just a 2-weeker on Spark and need all the help I can muster.

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NIKKIC_34 10/24/2010 2:37AM

    Great post. We sometimes forget to take care of ourselves.

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BARBARACT 10/23/2010 8:57PM

    Another awesome post! I totally agree with that saying as well!
You are so motivation and inspirational!!!


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MUSICJUNKEE 10/23/2010 4:25PM

  Great list! I especially agree with number nine, they say seeing yourself once you have reached your goal is a great motivator and turns you attitude into a can do mind set.

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STORMIE62 10/23/2010 2:56PM

    wow, did I already say wow. You have summed it up so well. Thank you for the great blog post.

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ONEGREATCAT 10/22/2010 11:53AM

    Rose - you are SO GOOD! Wonderful blog.

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VEHAMILTON1 10/20/2010 5:46PM


I needed to hear this today!

Thank you,

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LAURAWILLBEFIT 10/20/2010 9:01AM

    emoticon blog, and its all so true!

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MARISABELLES 10/20/2010 6:58AM

    OMG, we're so alike ! I too use those statements - they keep me sane. I would suggest a 19 point : Even if I am the only expert on what I need to do in my life, I will keep on listening and taking care of others, because it contributes to my well-being as well.
Posting that blog show exactly that you do care about others and about sharing.
Thanks for that, it's really inspiring! emoticon

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WOMANCHEF 10/20/2010 6:56AM

    Great blog! Thanks Rose - you really nailed it on the head.

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COOKWITHME65 10/20/2010 6:40AM

    Great post Rose!

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LILLYPILLY24 10/20/2010 2:58AM

    No victim mentality here - I agree with others, it's all about personal accountability and responsibility. Great blog, Rose - thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

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HEATHERL219 10/20/2010 2:11AM

    Great list!!

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DEVORA4 10/20/2010 1:50AM

  This was an inspired blog which I intend to print outy for my special notebook of such awesome blogs. I will vote for this blog. It deserves an award. emoticon

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REMODELINGPAT 10/19/2010 11:05PM

    emoticonI've been thinking along those lines as well. Hope you don't mind if I copy this and post it where I can see it! emoticon



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COMPUCATHY 10/19/2010 10:45PM

    Amen! Good list! We all need to be part of the solution...and want to be part of the solution! So let's do it! Life is short...we need to grab opportunities and make a great life happen! Keep sparking! emoticon emoticon

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ATREAT4ME 10/19/2010 9:34PM

    Excellent solution statements. I love them! Thank you for sharing them.

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RIGBY31 10/19/2010 8:10PM

    1 - 18... you nailed it! Well written, it's a keeper! Thanks

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WINFIELD28 10/19/2010 8:05PM

    Thanks so much Rose for sharing your insight and your life with all of us!
Each point made me stop and think and evaluate where I am on that matter.
#7 Made me stop and re-read it. I am even going back again now to re- read it.
That one really hit me.
What I keep hearing as I read is 'personal responsibility and personal accountability.'
Stop blaming others and making excuses!
If it is to be, it's up to me!
Thanks for another wonderful blog post! I learn something new each time I read your blogs.
Thanks again for the motivation I have come to rely on - when I read your insightful words!!!

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I don't want to end up like my Mother!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

I'm sorry, but I don't! Don't get me wrong, I loved my mother. She was a remarkable woman who raised 5 children. I was the oldest & since I became a nurse, I was the one that looked after her in those last few years of her life. She had a multitude of health issues, including some of the biggies: Diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, osteoporosis, Alzheimer's, & breast cancer. She ended up on large amount of insulin daily & took 16+ pills a day. She would never follow a recommended diabetic diet, wouldn't exercise, & was grossly overweight. She would do things like toast & butter a whole loaf of bread & set it on the table in the morning & snack on it until it was all gone. She would stash cookies, cakes, & candy in hiding places all over the house. In stacks of towels, we would find packages of cookies or snack cakes. I'm not kidding!

Today, I was flooded with memories of my mother & her strange obsession with food. What started this today was:

A coworker brought in a box of Dunkin Donuts to share with all the nurses in our department. It was an innocent enough gesture...& I don't believe there was any malicious intent on her part to sabotage my weight loss efforts. Well, somehow that box of donuts ended up right next to MY desk! So, I politely asked "Who brought the donuts?" She smiled as her eyes glistened, & she says "Oh, I did!" Now, let me just say that I don't know this nurse very well, as she just started w/our department not long ago...she's nice enough, I mean...she's overweight, as am I, & so I knew I had to be polite & thank her for bringing them, but I informed her I would not be having any donuts. Now I wish that would have been the end of it, but oh no...I went into the whole spiel about my mom....& how I don't want to end up like her. I mean...the WHOLE story. I even threw in that my younger brother has already fallen in step w/my mom...that he's almost 400 lbs, is a diabetic & is on tons of insulin, has heart disease, hypertension, & is on disability because he has so many health issues. Well, this poor woman just looked at me & apologized for having brought them in! I immediately felt badly, I mean none of my past has anything really to do w/the stupid box of donuts. But, it DID trigger my memories...& my fears!

And no, I did NOT eat a donut today!

But I DID eat within my calorie range today....& I DID walk an hour w/my husband after work. And, I will NOT end up like my mother!

Thanks for listening my SP are truly appreciated!

emoticon Rose

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MOODY9 10/28/2010 2:28AM

    I also meant to say that I love the part of you telling the girl your life story over the box of donuts! We've all been there.

Where I used to work was in the Oil & Gas industry, in other words an old school man's world. Our rep from Colombia was in town and treating me like the office secretary. It was driving me nuts. Someone had brought in a cheesecake which I had avoided all day until he pushed me to the point of throwing in the towel and having one. Right as he walks in I'm cutting the piece and his eyes get big, he dramatically backs up and throws his hands in the are and goes "whoaaaaa". I took it as "WHOA do you really need THAT big of a piece of cheesecake??". He walked right out of the room just as I threw the plate down and said some choice words to my officemate. It wasn't about the cheesecake. It was about his attitude me as a female in the workplace along with my own insecurities about not really needing the cheesecake. But from that point on instead of saying someone went crazy or postal or got upset we would say "he/she went cheesecake". It became a good office joke. And he also quit treating me like his personal admin. You'd think it would take more than a crazy emotional woman to scare a guy from Colombia. emoticon

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MOODY9 10/28/2010 2:23AM

    Oh Rose I can so relate to this story. My mom has struggled with weight since she had my sister and I. And she is a total closet eater. When we go out as a family (typically when everyone splurges) she will pick at lettuce to show how well she is eating. But we all know she isn't hiding what is going on. When everyone is at work she digs into her stash. And on top of it she is a big smoker and drinker. The worst part is she is also a breast cancer survivor.

It's hard not for me to take it personally. I've asked her why she doesn't want to live as long as possible to be with us. But addiction is a tough thing and runs deep in my family. For that reason I don't smoke, rarely drink (now that I'm passed my wild college and early 20 days) and will continue to fight the battle against food. I tend to be a glutton in every sense of my life. I find a song I like and play it over and over until I can't take it anymore. I find a healthy food I like and eat it every day until I'm bored with it. But something I read in The Spark stuck with me: Balance, Moderation and Consistency. I try to apply those three things to EVERYTHING I do.

Sorry - this comment took a weird turn away from my point. My point was your blog really touched me and I can totally relate. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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ANNVAS 10/26/2010 11:53AM

  I had a similar epiphany, but it was my husband that I didn't want to be like. My husband loves food, the richer the better and of course large portions or go back for seconds. I fell right into his habits.

Then I realized I didn't have to eat the way he does. My first step was to cut my portions in half. Then I started slipping in lighter foods.

It is a struggle. This weekend he wanted broccoli cheese soup, I made it but used half & half instead of heavy cream. He was not totally pleased. But did like it.

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ANDI571 10/26/2010 11:33AM

    Good for you on passing up the donuts. That's a weakness for me, I love them.

I used to explain why I wasn't eating things too, but found if I just say, I don't think I will have any right now, they don't pay attention to the fact that I am not eating something. But let them know you are watching your weight, and they go for the juggler.

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LJCANNON 10/26/2010 9:38AM

    emoticonAre you sure we are not related? Except for the fact that Mom does not have Diabetes (she IS Hypoglycemic, though), and does not have Alzheimers, I could have written this Blog. Right down to the fact that I became a Nurse and I am the primary caregiver for Mom who does not drive and has a "Social Life" that consists of multiple Dr appts.
It was seeing her in a wheelchair at a concert and realizing that in a short time we would be needing to bring 2 wheelchairs~~one for Me~~that sent me to Curves and started me on this incredible Journey.
emoticonSometimes something like that Donut Box just will set you off. I have to trust that maybe it happened because that co-worker NEEDED to hear your story.

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DUPSTER 10/26/2010 9:24AM

  I worry too about ending up like my mom. She was never as heavy as me, maybe got up to 170 or so, but dieted down to 130 or so, and then within a few months, had a sudden heart attack and died at the age of 65. Scares me to death. She had "gotten healthy" in her last years, quit smoking, lost the excess weight, and walked and cycled for exercise every day. So what hope is there for me? A bad heart is sometimes just a bad heart, my grandmother had a stroke and died at 62. I will be 60 in January. I'm working on getting healthy, having lost 122 lbs. in the last 15 months, but I know sometimes that isn't enough. I've had all the tests, everything seems fine, but my family history is not good.

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HONEYBEE62301 10/25/2010 9:49PM

  speaking of Moms,I sure miss my skinny little Mommy
the most dhe weightedwas 109 lbs when she was prego with my youngest sister at delevery time.
A wonderful women emoticon emoticon to her

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ESPARROW 10/24/2010 7:58PM

    Hi Rose,

On September 30, my mom passed away. She didn't have a weight problem like I do but she had been a smoker for over seventy years. She died from complications associated with COPD and the quality of the last years of her life was dreadful. Although her mind was still clear, she was completely immobile.

A long, long time ago I decided not to pattern my life after my mother's for a variety of reasons but over the years as I have made peace with myself, I have realized how much I have learned from her--both from her mistakes and from her successes.

I miss my mother every day. But I have made a commitment to do with overeating what she was not able to do with smoking. I want the quality of the rest of my life to reflect health, joy, enthusiasm, and meaning. I'm grateful that Spark People is still here to provide the resources and framework for all of us to support each other as we become healthier and can live our lives more fully.

I know that you will reach your goal!

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DGFOWLER 10/24/2010 11:57AM

    Rose I consider myself blessed. I do not have the health problems the rest of my family have and I feel it is because I am busy all of the time. I have held a full time job since I was 17 yrs old. I may be overweight, but do not have diabetes, high blood pressure etc.. you get the picture.

I do however have bad knees. One is replaced already and I know it is due to my weight. My other knee is starting to give me problems, that is why my exercise does not take a back seat anymore. I bike daily and have exceeded my monthly goal already. I am going blind in one eye but that is d/t muscular degeneration, nothing more, nothing less.

So good for you for opening up to those around you. Sometimes when they don't know they do not make healthy decisions either. our work place actually just got rid of our snack bar (YEAH) and only have a pop machine now.. I don't drink pop, so not a problem for me.

But sometimes it starts with just informing others about our own goals..

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AMARILYNH 10/23/2010 8:26PM

    Oh wow - this brought back such memories!! Only I'm the youngest, not the oldest, and of 9, not 5. I too loved my mom more than I can say, she too had diabetes, and I'm working very hard to make sure her outcome isn't mine!! Good job!

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ADDICTEDFOODIE 10/23/2010 6:18PM

    Are we sisters? sounds like the same house I was brought up in. You're doing great!

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ONEGREATCAT 10/22/2010 12:14PM

    Wow, Rose, I've been missing out on a lot of your great blogs!

Overall, my parents were in pretty good health until the very end. Mom was 89 and Dad 91 when they passed away. Their eating habits were not, however, all that good.

I'm trying to be as healthy as I can because:

1. Dad was diabetic (controlled with meds).I have to be careful.
2. Mom was overweight, but she didn't suffer any side effects until the very end.
3. My brother died at age 63 of a massive heart attack. He didn't take care of his blood pressure as well as he should have.
4. The remainder of my immediate relatives are already deceased (but not for health reasons): My husband, my children.

I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF because I don't want my nephews to "fall heir" to caring for me.

So I will "pass" on the donuts and will continue to be encouraged by my dear sparkfriends, such as you.

WTG Rose! (And don't feel bad - you may have just given the new worker a "wake-up call" that she needed as well).

emoticon Gwen

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DEBSGTNDOWN 10/22/2010 10:29AM

    Good for you!! My mom has been yo-yo'ing all her life. She always stashed the candy in places my sisters and I would find. She's been warned for years about her sugar addiction and is now going through health issues because of it. She's not obese, but is certainly not healthy. But! I'm the one with health issues. High cholesterol, high potassium levels, osteoarthritis ....I don't want to be like my mom, and I can't continue to be like my old me :) Here's to those of us who can and will do better :)

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GOROSIEO 10/21/2010 8:10AM

    Just for the record I DO want to end up like my mother, who weighed the same when she died at 94 that she did when she graduated from high school. She probably weighed 115 lbs at 5'4". She was a disciplined eater. NEVER snacked. She came from a generation that did not snack. There were no snack foods. But when she sat down to eat, she REALLY ate. She also came from an era of no processed foods so she made just about everything. She never drove, so she walked everywhere. I guess she was use to being the right weight so she was active and moved a lot.

So you'd think with a mom like that....

Glad you are working so hard at breaking the trend in your family.

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LILLYPILLY24 10/19/2010 3:46AM

    Funny how memories can be stirred and we then just blurt it all out regardless of the situation. Good for you breaking the cycle ... and resisting the donuts!! You are already SO different from your Mum - no worries there! You're an inspiration, Rose!

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COMPUCATHY 10/18/2010 9:14PM

    Don't worry, Rose. You are not going to end up like your mother. You are here...with the SP's...and none of us are going down that road. We're using the logical mind and disecting the truth and learning the right way to eat and lose weight. And you are right here in the thick of it...with a bunch of SP's swimming the right way. You're caught in our flow and we will not let you go! Keep sparking! emoticon emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 10/18/2010 3:05AM

    I understand what you mean. I do not want to be my like my mother either, and I don't want my kids to have to care for me the way I did for her because of her health issues that all stemmed from her unhealthy lifestyle. I loved my mom and am glad I did my best to take care of her till the end, but she suffered for many years from diabetes, a couple of heart attachs, congestive heart failure, and osteoporosis that crippled and twisted her back badly and left her in constant severe pain. She needed more and more help especially the last 10 or 12 years of her life. Like I said, I'm glad I could help her but I don't want my children to have to revolved their life around me for several years because of the choices I made. It wasn't until a couple of months after her death, a little over a year and a half ago, that I really started working on getting healthy. On top of the bad eating habits that contributed to many of her problems, she would say she couldn't do any exercise because it hurt too much. About 10 years ago they tried to do physical therapy to strengthen the back and core muscles to help reduce some of the effects of osteoporosis and she did it one day and said it was too hard. They couldn't stop the bone deterioration, and didn't have the drugs that they do now to help slow it, but if she could have worked at strengthening the muscles around the bones I think there's a good chance she wouldn't have ended up as crippled and twised and in a wheelchair because of it. She lived to be 80 years old, but she was "old" in her 50's because she had the idea that she had diabetes and had had one heart attack by then and couldn't do anything. She was upset that she couldn't get disability for those two reasons. I've known many people who have had a mild heart attack like her, and have diabetes, but live very active lives. I'm 55 and refuse to be old yet!
We don't have to be like our moms though, which is the good thing. We may have some things we can't avoid, and my kids may end up taking care of me for some other reason I can't help, but we can do the best we can to live a much healthier life with a better chance of a good quality of life. We have the power to change! I'm with you!

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BGOOCH56 10/17/2010 9:22PM

    I have now read several things on your page and I would like to be your SP friend. I find you very inspiring. thank you

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PEGGYJEAN13 10/16/2010 7:43PM

    You revealed; more than you probably wanted to but now your reasons are out and no one can argue that you have a great reason to decline the nonhealthy stuff. Maybe it will make her think about her choices also.

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LUBAML 10/16/2010 3:46PM

    We are on the same page. And I don't want my kids and grandchildren to say something like that for me one day! You are doing good to take care of yourself! emoticonLuba

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TURTLETALK 10/15/2010 4:25PM

    What a strong reflection of your emotional ties to food. My mother was never serously overweight but she was chronically ill all of my life then died when I was a young mother. When she was ill she was very, very thin. During the healthier times she was slightly over weight. I sometimes think that I associate thin with "sick" and that guides some of my eating issues. You did a great job of thinking through those emotions and sticking to your eating goals. Hang tough!

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--BECCA-- 10/15/2010 2:22PM

    I am in the same boat.... My mother has diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, etc and is on a ton of medication. It just helps me to keep working at this...get myself on track and avoid all of the health problems that both my mother and my grandmother have. Get motivation anywhere you can!! I'm sure if your mother could see you now she would appreciate the changes you have made and the fact that she, in some ways, inspired you to become a healthier version of yourself!!! emoticon

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BADASSBLONDIE 10/15/2010 2:08PM

    Your mother sounds like my grandmother (and possibly my mother's future, but I'm working hard to change that).

We won't end up like them.

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JBMT08 10/15/2010 7:50AM

    Stay strong girl! Those donuts taste like oil and grease didnt miss out on anything! emoticon

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MRSTOWNS62610 10/15/2010 7:48AM

    GOOD FOR YOU! Stay strong! It's okay to love your mother and not want to be like her at the same time! You go girl!

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KAHOLLIDAY 10/15/2010 7:46AM

  good for you! Although the donuts had nothing directly to do with your mother, it is a very valid feeling and fear and Im proud of you for recognizing it and proactively avoiding that condition!! I can't resist donuts when someone brings them in anymore... :-( so good for you!!


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WOMANCHEF 10/15/2010 7:30AM

    Good for you for not eating the donuts. We all have emotions attached to how we eat - today was your day to let it out. The good news is that your coworker will probably never bring in donuts again. I live in fear of becoming my mom too but for a lot of different reasons. We will not because we are on a healthy journey that they could never have imagined for themselves. emoticon

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APIRLRAIN888 10/15/2010 4:11AM

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AKELAZ 10/15/2010 2:01AM

    Seems to me the donuts were a lesson both to you and to your colleague. She will put this day behind her and so will you but I guess there will be a lingering memory in both cases. You have done nothing but good today - in fact you do so much good here on Spark - great blogs - attention to all Sparkers who cross your path - and inspiring progress. Be proud! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WARRIORGIRL9 10/15/2010 12:30AM

    Not ending up like my mother is one of my biggest motivators. She's so over weight, walks with a walker, complains constantly about this pain and that pain, is diabetic,..... I so do not want to end up like that.SP has really helped me not crave those sweets.
Good for you...passing on the donuts.

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TAFFIN2000 10/14/2010 11:23PM

    That is wonderful that you resisted such a temptation, especially under the emotional circumstances. Don't feel too bad about going on about your family members. Who knows, maybe the depth of emotions may have left the other nurse something to think about...she may end up your spark buddy some day!

Great job on resisting and walking!

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ATREAT4ME 10/14/2010 11:11PM

    Weight loss seems to be such a multi-faceted journey. When I stop and think about it, I have to remind myself of course there are goofy associations; of course the oddest things are going to trigger memories and emotions. And, sometimes both will simply pour out of us. In these tender moments, I have to remind myself
* that I've been eating my whole life; there's 45-years worth of stuff associated with eating.
* even if I don't talk about it, weight loss is a public event. Folks WILL notice. Some will say something (hopefully nice, but maybe not!) and I'll react.
* there are moment-by-moment decisions and sometimes, I have to remind myself what I decided.
* I am human. I'm going to share too much or not enough; make mistakes; leave out something I should've included; eat something I should've left out.

But everyday we learn. And it sounds like today you were to spend sometime with the things your mother taught you to avoid -- illness and not caring for yourself. What you described sounds like an affirmation, of sorts, of the decisions you've made and the lifestyle you're leading.

As for your co-worker, time will show her what a beautiful person you are and soon she'll forget all about the doughnuts. You are a wonderful person and she'll see that too!

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RIGBY31 10/14/2010 9:46PM

    You're on a journey and some people come across your path for a reason. The donuts landed in the middle of your path, you needed to deal with it for yourself. And you know what, after she felt bad for you, perhaps you did her a favor, too. By listing your issues, maybe it gave her an opportunity to do a self check. Whatever happened, you're a brave, strong woman. Celebrate!!

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DEVORA4 10/14/2010 9:43PM

  I am confident that you will Not have your mom's health issues. You are on the right pathway for your journey. Bravo!~ "A minute on the lips, a year on the hips." This is my motto. emoticon

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CSMARTIE 10/14/2010 9:32PM

    I have to give it to you for being honest about your feelings - but I bet that girl felt bad. Maybe you can bring in something healthy and make it up to her:)

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LOSING107 10/14/2010 9:20PM

    Good for you for not eating one. No worries, you decide your fate, and you're obviously deciding to have a better life!

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BARBARACT 10/14/2010 8:40PM

    You won't wind up like your Mom! You are doing wonderfully!

As for the donuts, good for you and not having one. I think everyone has some sort of trigger, so don't feel bad. Plus, if you want into such detail with a coworker maybe that was just something that had to come out of you. Maybe it was just building inside and you just didn't know it and just needed to get it out.

On the plus side, I bet she won't be bringing anymore donuts so you won't have to worry about it! :)


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HEALTHYASHLEY 10/14/2010 8:40PM

    I wrote a very similar blog today about coworkers bringing in food and people flipped out. I even got attacked by someone pretty viciously. I am glad to see that I am not the only one who feels it is ok to not want food given to me at the office! You are already not going to be like her just because you care enough to be here. You make your destiny

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COOKWITHME65 10/14/2010 8:27PM

    Rose what a great bog entry. Yes your right. YOU WILL NOT END UP LIKE YOUR MOTHER. You are doing every thing possible to live a heathy happy life. You go girl!

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WINFIELD28 10/14/2010 8:12PM

You are not going to end up with the health issues that your mother had to suffer with...because you ARE taking care of yourself. You are AWARE of what these diseases do the people's bodies - you're a nurse by profession - you won't let that be YOUR outcome. Food can trigger so many memories...pleasant and not so pleasant. I am sorry that your mother had to go through what she did. I hope that your brother can improve his health...may you be an example to him.
A donut isn't worth it! Today you realized why it isn't worth it, again!
You WILL get healthier and stay that way and NOT have to worry about the illnesses your mother had to live with. You are doing such a super job! 'Thanks for always being a good example to others. I appreciate your stories and lessons!

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SYDNEY_DE 10/14/2010 7:52PM

    I'm very impressed that you were able to resist. If you keep up the good work, you won't turn out like your mom.

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