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Christmas musings and plans

Friday, December 18, 2009

As I sat in my comfortable chair by the fire this morning it hit me that in one week it will be Christmas. Even though my two daughter's families won't be with us this year, all three of my sons (and one expecting daughter in law) will be! I am so thankful for that.

I am thinking I need to make a to do list and plan the meals for the next 10 days. I haven't made any treats of any kind and to be honest, I'm afraid to! I am going to have to make some things. I was trying to think of the traditional treats that my kids like that I DON'T like. Uh, that came up as a big, "there are none."

I need to make some calls to encourage some friends who are having big challenges with their adult kids.

At this stage I'm usually in hyper mode trying to get everything done before Christmas. I haven't been that way this year. My thoughts each morning are more about what kind of exercise will I do and when will I do it? I am glad about that change, but realize there are some expectations my family has on me and I need to get busy to fulfill those.

I will pray that the Lord will give me the strength to bypass the temptations that will be all around me for Christmas. I have to remember how satisfying it is to chose to not partake. The rewards are great when you get on the scale the next day or two.

My goal is to lose a total of 102. I'm almost at 40 pounds lost since April '08 and I want to reach that goal by next Christmas. It will take continued focus, meaningful choices in food and exercise.

The benefits of the weight I've lost and the increased fitness activity are more energy, need less sleep, stronger body and I look better overall. I'm trying to get up the nerve to post a picture!
I have never liked having my picture taken, but it may be a motivating factor to continue to lose.
Hope to do that in the next month.

Have a great sparkie day everyone! I love my sparkie friends and this great family called Spark People that has made a huge difference in my life!!
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ALEXSGIRL1 12/18/2009 8:51AM

    emoticon emoticon40 pounds is excellent. glad your family will be home for the holidays. you are doing great thinking of what exercises to do every day instead of what cookies to eat. try to put the healthiest food in your body every day and you will feel fine. emoticon

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RITAROSE 12/18/2009 8:09AM

  Haha, Thanks Sunny for brightening my day! Yes, I do wish we lived close so I could take you up on your offer, my husband and boys would especially like that! To your point of me being blessed, you are so right and I'm realizing that more and more as I go through this journey!! Thanks for being such bright spot in my life! Your name fits you perfectly! Sunny, have a wonderful week before and a Merry Christmas too! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 12/18/2009 7:52AM

    We love you too and think you are doing an awesome job with the weight loss.

How blessed you are to be having so much of your family with you for the holidays. I am also blessed as all three of our sons will be home.

Take it one step at a time and you will be ready in no time. Wish I lived close, I would make some snickerdoodles and some rice crispy treats.

Hugs, Sunny

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Can I stop obsessing about my lack of weight loss to be a blessing to others today?

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

I have been yo-yo-ing with one pound for about 2 weeks! Up one day, down in two, up the next, you get the idea. I'm very frustrated by this as I'm within my eating plan and my exercise is very good. There should be a weight loss!!

Yesterday a friend from church, same age as I am lost her 3 year battle with cancer, it was expected, but it made me sad. I am happy for her to be in heaven with no pain, sitting at Jesus' feet, but I will miss her. I think about her grandchildren who are very small. They will hardly remember her.

All of that made me think about how very self centered I am. I keep obsessing about my pound!! Today I am going to stop thinking about it so much and instead, make every effort as I can to be a blessing to others. Can I lighten someone's load with an action? a kind word, a smile, a joke, a prayer?

When I consider how selfish I am it shames me! I pray that my eyes could be turned to others today, especially in this season when so many are hurting. emoticon

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BETHHARRIS 12/17/2009 4:19PM

    emoticon Sorry to hear about your friend's passing. Sometimes you just have to focus on what you can do that's positive and good instead of all the details of what you can't do. Take care of you! emoticon

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SUNNY332 12/17/2009 8:10AM

    Hang in there, it will all even out eventually. I have found in the past that when this happens, it is usually water weight doing this. How is your sodium intake and are you drinking enough water.

Don't worry about being obsessive about it. It is good thing to obsess about.

Take care and have a Terrific Thursday.

Hugs, Sunny

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FREDDY1232 12/16/2009 12:44PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there and you will see a permanent weight loss. I was on a platue for quite a while. I finally broke it but it took a good month. Don't get discouraged..good Luck

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WHITEBULL1221 12/15/2009 6:10PM


You are doing an awesome job. You have been a great help and support to me through this journey we started together a mere 5 months ago. Like you always tell me......baby steps and it will come. The weight didn't just come on over night and it will take a while for it to decide to go away. Remember....not gaining is a victory all in itself. I am sorry to hear of your loss.....may she be at peace in heaven with God and the angels. Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon

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WOODSYGIRL 12/15/2009 1:27PM

    Rita, I really liked this and is comes at the perfect time for me (as God's Word often does). I've been struggling with the same 5 pounds for about 2 months now, and the more I obsess on it, the worse I feel. You're right about being a blessing to others in action, deed or word. I'm meeting some Bible study friends today for lunch and everyone is going through a lot right now. I think I'm going to sit back and let them talk and save my problems for a different day. I just want to be there for them and truly focus in on them, instead of me. Thank you for the reminder that the world truly does not revolve around me...and I'm thankful for that.
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HAPPY1049 12/15/2009 11:53AM

    I have the feeling that now that you're not concentrating on that pound, it'll go away.
Reaching out to others to help them is such a wonderful thing to do. May God help and bless you.

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BZYBOYSMOM 12/15/2009 9:47AM

    God bless you my friend!

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DEBBIEKAY1 12/15/2009 8:49AM

    Wow! I can relate I am so sorry about your friend, but I have to admit I wish I was sitting at Jesus feet with her!

As long as you are working your plan you will lose.
I bet if you measure you will see you have lost inches
Our bodies are strange like that. They want to hold unto every ounce LOL

Be a blessing today. You already have with me!

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HEALTHQUESTER 12/15/2009 8:06AM

    While it is good to turn our focus outward and helps us gain perspective, please don't beat yourself up for behaving in a completely normal way (focusing on your weightloss) ! You need to focus on it to some extent in order to help it happen!

But shifting your perspective may just melt that nasty little bugger away for good!

I'm sorry to hear of your loss with your fiend's death. emoticon

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Sad, sad, sad

Tuesday, December 08, 2009

For months my husband and I have been planning on having all of our 5 children and their spouses home for Christmas, all but our teenager are spread all over the USA. At Thanksgiving we found out that our daughter, son in law, and new granddaughter can't get leave from the Air Force as my son in law is in special training. We were very sad about that, but kept saying that our other daughter, son in law and 15 month old granddaughter were still coming from Dallas along with our two sons and one daughter in law from VA and WA. Last night my daughter told me that because of some unforseen financial challenges they will not be able to come either! I'm so incredibly sad today. We hardly ever can all get together and this was a chance for my kids to meet their nieces. I am sorry to vent, it's just so hard.

The one bright spot was that after the difficult visit with my daughter, I thought those thoughts I've had on countless occasions, "What should I eat to make me feel better?" I recognized the thought and told myself that food was not the answer. Instead I went to bed before I changed my mind. For me, that is a victory. I've been working hard at unplugging the emotional tie to eating and am glad that when I had a big challenge I was able to do that.

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DIXIEDD 12/11/2009 6:24PM

    Oh Rita I know how you feel. It's heartbreaking when we don't get to see our family. Good job on passing the food. You did the right thing by going to bed. Resist the temptation to eat. Maybe you can have all your children home another time. I know it won't be the same as if it were Christmas but you would all be together.

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BESSHAILE 12/9/2009 9:25AM

    Oh how sad. I hope another full family gathering can be arranged soon.

but be proud because you really did make the most wonderful loving choice for yourself when you chose to sleep - a healthy activity - to deal with an emotional issue. Congratulations.

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MICHELLERI 12/8/2009 8:38PM

    I'm so sorry for for your disappointment. It's a big one. But, really congratulate yourself on NOT turning to food. It's what we do, and what we are learning to do differently. You made the right choice. Big victory for you.


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MICHCLEARY 12/8/2009 8:17PM

    Good step to not do the emotional eating thing. Sorry to hear that it your plans will not be what you thought. Maybe you can all plan for a summer holiday instead, and you will have all that time to get in even better shape!

Keep making healthy choices!

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WHITEBULL1221 12/8/2009 7:08PM


I know not having every one physically together for the holiday is a "bummer" but you all we be together in spirit. I know that doesn't help much. Just remember what you told me around Thanksgiving when I said I was down because my family is excluding me and my husband from their festivities again this year........You are strong and can make it through this. I am so proud of you for not returning to your old ways of food....that is a GIANT step forward on this journey.

Keep your chin up and know that no matter what, you will all be together for the holidays in your heart. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Rita, I now know how my mom felt. I was military for years and never got to spend any holidays with her and dad.

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MARYMAC45 12/8/2009 12:41PM

    Sorry your plans did not work out, but great that it did not get into an emotional spiral. Perhaps next year will be the lucky one. Good luck and have a great holiday season anyway.

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VICKY63 12/8/2009 12:33PM

    I feel your pain, I am the wife of a military man who because of our distance during durations of our military moves Were unable to be home with mom and dad for so many years. I do know one thing though, as a daughter even though I wasn't able to be there and I know my parents missed me so much and their grandchildren .. Its been 18 yrs away and only a visit possible every three years or so. I know how i felt when i got that call from mom or gave one to her. It made the distance seem less far. If you have an Instant Messenger and can attach a Cam to it have your children do the same thing. Its an Amazing way to be together When its not possible. I hope you the best ever Christmas With Your Family (Close in Your Heart's) I will say a prayer for you all to. Be Blessed Today You may not have them with you, BUT you have them !!! hugs to you ! emoticon emoticon
Great Job One Day At A Time :)

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JANETELIZABETH1 12/8/2009 12:31PM

    Oh isn't it hard when we have it all worked out but it doesn't come to pass.
I'm sure there will be other times you will all get together as a family and I hope that will not be too far in the future.

Well done you for that victory in your eating habits!
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EMSSBEARS 12/8/2009 12:20PM

    So sorry to hear about your family not getting together at the holiday. I hope that things will work out to where they can all come together soon I will be praying for you.
Congratulations on passing the food test though - good job- way to go girl.

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HAPPY1049 12/8/2009 12:06PM

    I am glad that you were able to overcome the emotional need to eat. It is sooooo hard to do.
I am sorry that your family can not be all together for Christmas. Our family is the same way. So I do understand how you feel. Try to think only of the good things, and you will brighten up. Love and hugs.

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MAMA2GRACEE 12/8/2009 9:04AM

    i am so sorry to hear that! it can still be a special day! maybe you could all do a conference call and be with each other on the phone for a little while!

stay strong!

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VIRGOKAT1 12/8/2009 9:01AM

    keep your chin up, and know that you aren't alone... i too have family spread over the country and won't be able to see them over the holidays as planned. take joy in the fact that even thought you can't touch your family over the holidays with today's technology you can still see them with the help of web cams and such, and remember the phone.... speaker phone always makes for a good conversation in my house... the phone sits in the middle of the room with the missing member and we all talk, granted it's not the same but it does help. good luck to you all, i hope you have a great holiday. stay well, kat

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    emoticon sorry your family can't get together. emoticon for denying the emotional eating urge!

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Tuesday, December 01, 2009

The first day of December is upon us! After getting on the scale this morning to discover a small loss since Saturday I realized that my fears about the holidays are unfounded as long as I continue to work the plan! I pray that we will all stay focused this month! It's okay to say no to foods that would sabatoge our eating plans. Just say, "No Thank You!" emoticon

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HAPPY1049 12/2/2009 9:17PM

    That is a great attitude to have, and hopefully I can do that.

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EMSSBEARS 12/1/2009 4:42PM

    Congratulations on the holiday weight loss, keep up the good work.

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SUNNY332 12/1/2009 9:26AM

    Good for you Ritarose.

Continue with Confidence.

Hugs, Sunny

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WHITEBULL1221 12/1/2009 7:47AM

    Congrats on the weight loss. I got on the scale at the gym last night (the one in the ladies locker room that always seems to hate me and weight me more). If it is correct, I am almost at my weightloss goal for the month of Dec and we are barely in there. I am keeping my fingers crossed that the scale didn't lie lol emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 12/1/2009 7:10AM

    I agree! I am super-committed to continue losing during December, with just a few planned "off the program" days. There is no reason it has to be a month-long orgy of terrible eating!

Keep up the good work, I'll be checking on you!!!!!



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Turkey, Sugar and Butter

Monday, November 30, 2009

What is the connection between my daughter's 21 # turkey, a 10 # bag of sugar and 4 pounds of butter you wonder? That's my visual picture of the weight I've shed! I like it and I can't wait to add more to it! What is your visual?

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    I have lost the weight of my 35 pound 4 year old. or 7 5# bags of sugar.

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WHITEBULL1221 11/30/2009 8:39PM

    I like the visual....although I haven't quite lost that much... I have lost the 21 # turkey though.....now to work on the sugar. LOL emoticon

Great job Rita. Keep up the great work. Together we can do anything!!!!!!!!!!!! Guess I am going to have to step up my weight loss a little to keep up with you lol

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RITAROSE 11/30/2009 7:02PM

  Hahahaa I love the responses, thanks for the smiles! So glad we are all headed in the right direction--- emoticon emoticon

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LYN-EDWY 11/30/2009 6:47PM

    33 pounds of ice cream and cheesecake!!! emoticon emoticon

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HAPPY1049 11/30/2009 4:59PM

    I have never visualized how muchweight I have lost. Let's see-- it would be 20 pounds of potatoes. Not bad!

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FREDDY1232 11/30/2009 3:50PM

    I like your analogy. I too have lost 35 pounds..A 21 pound turkey, 10 pounds of sugar and 4 pounds of butter..Wow!
Thanks for pointing that out! Good Luck to you on your weight loss and congratulations on losing that 35 pounds!! emoticon

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HILARYMM 11/30/2009 2:30PM

    Nice visual! Congrats on your weight loss!

My visual was easy. My weight set has plates that load on to dumbbells. I was doing my bench presses and realized that the 32 pounds I was pressing were equivalent to the weight I lost.

I then showed my family members how heavy it was, and was really pleased that it was gone.

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