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Sad, sad, sad

Tuesday, December 08, 2009

For months my husband and I have been planning on having all of our 5 children and their spouses home for Christmas, all but our teenager are spread all over the USA. At Thanksgiving we found out that our daughter, son in law, and new granddaughter can't get leave from the Air Force as my son in law is in special training. We were very sad about that, but kept saying that our other daughter, son in law and 15 month old granddaughter were still coming from Dallas along with our two sons and one daughter in law from VA and WA. Last night my daughter told me that because of some unforseen financial challenges they will not be able to come either! I'm so incredibly sad today. We hardly ever can all get together and this was a chance for my kids to meet their nieces. I am sorry to vent, it's just so hard.

The one bright spot was that after the difficult visit with my daughter, I thought those thoughts I've had on countless occasions, "What should I eat to make me feel better?" I recognized the thought and told myself that food was not the answer. Instead I went to bed before I changed my mind. For me, that is a victory. I've been working hard at unplugging the emotional tie to eating and am glad that when I had a big challenge I was able to do that.

I hope you all have a successful sparky day! emoticon

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DIXIEDD 12/11/2009 6:24PM

    Oh Rita I know how you feel. It's heartbreaking when we don't get to see our family. Good job on passing the food. You did the right thing by going to bed. Resist the temptation to eat. Maybe you can have all your children home another time. I know it won't be the same as if it were Christmas but you would all be together.

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BESSHAILE 12/9/2009 9:25AM

    Oh how sad. I hope another full family gathering can be arranged soon.

but be proud because you really did make the most wonderful loving choice for yourself when you chose to sleep - a healthy activity - to deal with an emotional issue. Congratulations.

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MICHELLERI 12/8/2009 8:38PM

    I'm so sorry for for your disappointment. It's a big one. But, really congratulate yourself on NOT turning to food. It's what we do, and what we are learning to do differently. You made the right choice. Big victory for you.


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MICHCLEARY 12/8/2009 8:17PM

    Good step to not do the emotional eating thing. Sorry to hear that it your plans will not be what you thought. Maybe you can all plan for a summer holiday instead, and you will have all that time to get in even better shape!

Keep making healthy choices!

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WHITEBULL1221 12/8/2009 7:08PM


I know not having every one physically together for the holiday is a "bummer" but you all we be together in spirit. I know that doesn't help much. Just remember what you told me around Thanksgiving when I said I was down because my family is excluding me and my husband from their festivities again this year........You are strong and can make it through this. I am so proud of you for not returning to your old ways of food....that is a GIANT step forward on this journey.

Keep your chin up and know that no matter what, you will all be together for the holidays in your heart. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Rita, I now know how my mom felt. I was military for years and never got to spend any holidays with her and dad.

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MARYMAC45 12/8/2009 12:41PM

    Sorry your plans did not work out, but great that it did not get into an emotional spiral. Perhaps next year will be the lucky one. Good luck and have a great holiday season anyway.

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VICKY63 12/8/2009 12:33PM

    I feel your pain, I am the wife of a military man who because of our distance during durations of our military moves Were unable to be home with mom and dad for so many years. I do know one thing though, as a daughter even though I wasn't able to be there and I know my parents missed me so much and their grandchildren .. Its been 18 yrs away and only a visit possible every three years or so. I know how i felt when i got that call from mom or gave one to her. It made the distance seem less far. If you have an Instant Messenger and can attach a Cam to it have your children do the same thing. Its an Amazing way to be together When its not possible. I hope you the best ever Christmas With Your Family (Close in Your Heart's) I will say a prayer for you all to. Be Blessed Today You may not have them with you, BUT you have them !!! hugs to you ! emoticon emoticon
Great Job One Day At A Time :)

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JANETELIZABETH1 12/8/2009 12:31PM

    Oh isn't it hard when we have it all worked out but it doesn't come to pass.
I'm sure there will be other times you will all get together as a family and I hope that will not be too far in the future.

Well done you for that victory in your eating habits!
Janet emoticon

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EMSSBEARS 12/8/2009 12:20PM

    So sorry to hear about your family not getting together at the holiday. I hope that things will work out to where they can all come together soon I will be praying for you.
Congratulations on passing the food test though - good job- way to go girl.

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HAPPY1049 12/8/2009 12:06PM

    I am glad that you were able to overcome the emotional need to eat. It is sooooo hard to do.
I am sorry that your family can not be all together for Christmas. Our family is the same way. So I do understand how you feel. Try to think only of the good things, and you will brighten up. Love and hugs.

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MAMA2GRACEE 12/8/2009 9:04AM

    i am so sorry to hear that! it can still be a special day! maybe you could all do a conference call and be with each other on the phone for a little while!

stay strong!

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VIRGOKAT1 12/8/2009 9:01AM

    keep your chin up, and know that you aren't alone... i too have family spread over the country and won't be able to see them over the holidays as planned. take joy in the fact that even thought you can't touch your family over the holidays with today's technology you can still see them with the help of web cams and such, and remember the phone.... speaker phone always makes for a good conversation in my house... the phone sits in the middle of the room with the missing member and we all talk, granted it's not the same but it does help. good luck to you all, i hope you have a great holiday. stay well, kat

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    emoticon sorry your family can't get together. emoticon for denying the emotional eating urge!

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Tuesday, December 01, 2009

The first day of December is upon us! After getting on the scale this morning to discover a small loss since Saturday I realized that my fears about the holidays are unfounded as long as I continue to work the plan! I pray that we will all stay focused this month! It's okay to say no to foods that would sabatoge our eating plans. Just say, "No Thank You!" emoticon

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HAPPY1049 12/2/2009 9:17PM

    That is a great attitude to have, and hopefully I can do that.

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EMSSBEARS 12/1/2009 4:42PM

    Congratulations on the holiday weight loss, keep up the good work.

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SUNNY332 12/1/2009 9:26AM

    Good for you Ritarose.

Continue with Confidence.

Hugs, Sunny

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WHITEBULL1221 12/1/2009 7:47AM

    Congrats on the weight loss. I got on the scale at the gym last night (the one in the ladies locker room that always seems to hate me and weight me more). If it is correct, I am almost at my weightloss goal for the month of Dec and we are barely in there. I am keeping my fingers crossed that the scale didn't lie lol emoticon

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TRAVELGRRL 12/1/2009 7:10AM

    I agree! I am super-committed to continue losing during December, with just a few planned "off the program" days. There is no reason it has to be a month-long orgy of terrible eating!

Keep up the good work, I'll be checking on you!!!!!



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Turkey, Sugar and Butter

Monday, November 30, 2009

What is the connection between my daughter's 21 # turkey, a 10 # bag of sugar and 4 pounds of butter you wonder? That's my visual picture of the weight I've shed! I like it and I can't wait to add more to it! What is your visual?

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    I have lost the weight of my 35 pound 4 year old. or 7 5# bags of sugar.

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WHITEBULL1221 11/30/2009 8:39PM

    I like the visual....although I haven't quite lost that much... I have lost the 21 # turkey though.....now to work on the sugar. LOL emoticon

Great job Rita. Keep up the great work. Together we can do anything!!!!!!!!!!!! Guess I am going to have to step up my weight loss a little to keep up with you lol

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RITAROSE 11/30/2009 7:02PM

  Hahahaa I love the responses, thanks for the smiles! So glad we are all headed in the right direction--- emoticon emoticon

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LYN-EDWY 11/30/2009 6:47PM

    33 pounds of ice cream and cheesecake!!! emoticon emoticon

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HAPPY1049 11/30/2009 4:59PM

    I have never visualized how muchweight I have lost. Let's see-- it would be 20 pounds of potatoes. Not bad!

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FREDDY1232 11/30/2009 3:50PM

    I like your analogy. I too have lost 35 pounds..A 21 pound turkey, 10 pounds of sugar and 4 pounds of butter..Wow!
Thanks for pointing that out! Good Luck to you on your weight loss and congratulations on losing that 35 pounds!! emoticon

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HILARYMM 11/30/2009 2:30PM

    Nice visual! Congrats on your weight loss!

My visual was easy. My weight set has plates that load on to dumbbells. I was doing my bench presses and realized that the 32 pounds I was pressing were equivalent to the weight I lost.

I then showed my family members how heavy it was, and was really pleased that it was gone.

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Test time

Saturday, November 28, 2009

We just got home from our trip to NE to visit our daughter, son-in-law and dear little granddaughter for several days. I am so excited that I stayed within the parameters of my plan the whole time. This morning I weighed myself for the first time in a week and I am down 3#! WOW! I don't know what I expected, but this is great!

I love Christmastime and all that goes with it. I am praying that I will not squeeze out my exercise time, that I will stick to the eating plan and enjoy those I love without the extra food!

For me, it's important to write these goals down and come back to visit them on January 1 to see if I had success or not. I need to keep losing weight during the holidays.

Spark people has provided so much encouragement through the sparkies that have written their own blogs and comments and so much good information regarding diet and exercise as a lifestyle. I have a full heart of gratitude for this tremendous blessing in my life.

THANK YOU to all who have helped keep my on the right road! May we all be strong and make wise choices in this challenging time when food is pushed on us at every turn!
Make it a great day everyone!

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TRAVELGRRL 11/29/2009 7:45PM

    I am so glad you got to enjoy your family this weekend. Really, you've said it so well -- the holidays are fun but about so much more than food. Keep spending time on Sparkpeople to keep you focused and motivated! I know this is my strategy!!!!

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Thanksgiving Week!

Monday, November 23, 2009

Here I sit in my daughter and son in law's home in NE early on the Monday before Thanksgiving wondering how I will fare this week where I'm not in control of the food being prepared and served? We've been here since Saturday night and so far my plan is in place, right where I want it to be. We went to the grocery store where I purchased a lot of good food that I can eat, veggies especially. We will be going places and doing different things, the schedule will be very different from our normal one so there will be challenges. I am so thankful for the blessing of Spark People where I've received so much encouragement and training. emoticon

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MUSTARDSMA 11/23/2009 8:58PM

    I understand how you feel. My husband wants to do all the cooking, which is great, but he likes to use high-calorie ingredients. I've asked him to take it easy, so I can eat a little bit of everything, so we'll see.

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CELETA 11/23/2009 1:00PM

    Good Luck, you will make the week and will have a good time doing it. Hope you have a Great Thanksgiving. emoticon

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HAPPY1049 11/23/2009 12:53PM

    I'm hoping that your whole week will be right where you want and need it to be. I commend you for trying when it's so hard. Good luck!

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FREDDY1232 11/23/2009 12:15PM

    Good Luck Ritarose. I will be eating at my daughter's and I know it will be different than being home. It will be a challenge to be sure. Hang in there and we will do this together! emoticon

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COUNCIMA 11/23/2009 8:49AM

  Hang in there RITAROSE! You can do it.

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SJK1997 11/23/2009 8:29AM

  You go RITAROSE! My fingers are crossed for you.

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