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“Skinny dream” burst by weight loss realities

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

I just read an article by the above title that points out something I’ve been guilty of in the past: expecting weight loss to solve problems that were not weight-related. If you’re unhappy, you won’t necessarily become a happy person by losing weight. If you’re beautiful and thin like Lady Di was, it doesn’t mean your husband will love you.

Who you are as a person will not change because you lose weight. There’s a myth about what it means to be thin, and if we buy into it, the disappointment we’ll feel by our reality at goal weight can cause us to regain the weight. (I’ve fallen into that trap.)

Losing weight will not make you happy or rich or successful or necessarily beautiful. That’s not to say it isn’t worth it! But, don’t wait to be at some “ideal weight” to live your life! Nothing “magical” will happen when you reach your goal weight. You’ll still be you. Do you like you? Do you know who you are and what your values are? What dreams and goals are you working on RIGHT NOW? If you don’t “have a life” now, don’t expect it to automatically happen when you get to goal. Start NOW to be the person you want to be. Don’t wait! Nothing “magic” happens at goal weight. As this article points out, you’ll just be a smaller you.

Maligne Lake (from my trip to the Canadian Rockies in 2007)

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55WALKER 8/20/2010 6:53AM

    Thank you for this blog. I spent years spinning my wheels trying to lose weight with not much luck. Then I decided just to get a life and the weight started falling off. Go figure. lol

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SHERWOODCYCLER 7/31/2010 12:33PM

    Ah....thanks for sharing that picture...and for a thoughtful blog.

My daughter is running a 125k race in the Canadian Rockies (the Canadian Death Race) today...just started 2 1/2 hours ago...and for some reason I stumbled on your blog with photo of the Rockies.

I have found recently that running makes me happy. Truly. I like hearing my breath as I jog. And many other simple things. Losing weight hasn't changed who I am (and I still have to figure out who I am and what I want) but it has made me happier because it is easier for me to move. And I find joy in that.

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MARENAMOO 7/31/2010 12:28PM

    Absolutely right!! That is why the emotional growth that comes from interacting with the people on spark is so crucial to the physical weight loss. We are discovering who we are, what we want from life, how to get more from life etc. We are building self-confidence, testing our limits, building mental and physical endurance. As we open ourselves up - we can be open to new experiences and opportunities that can enrich our lives. That way we can live our lives more fully - at goal or not.

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MESEATURTLE 7/30/2010 9:52AM

    Very nicely said... Very thought provoking!

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SUSIEMILO 7/30/2010 9:45AM

    Well said, and so true.
It's not something we think about often, because from advertisements, it makes it seem like everything we ever wanted is available to thin people. They only pick thin models, the movie stars are thin, we see thin people getting the respect we feel we deserve, etc.
So it seems like "thin is the ultimate goal" so that we too can have everything we ever wanted.
Although I still want to be thin, as I've gotten older I'm realizing that life can be lived right now. I can do anything I want, and how people treat me depends (mostly) on me.
But I do still want to be thin... a thinner version of ME.
Great blog - thanks for posting that.

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KANSASROSE67 7/29/2010 12:44PM

    Great are absolutely right!

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ANDI571 7/29/2010 12:41PM

    I have a cousin (who is always miserable) asked me after I lost the weight before how it felt. I told her it felt really good, but people who liked me, still did, and those who didn't, still didn't. I was the same person, just thinner. Definitely, words of wisdom.

I love that picture, it is beautiful.

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/29/2010 5:23AM

    You are of course, right - but losing weight woul not only mean a thinner me, it would also mean a healthier me and a me that could do mpre things as I would be able to move freely...

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BAGGYPANTS5 7/29/2010 3:39AM

    That's what I want, a thinner me! You're right, though.
Love the picture.

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THE_BUNNYO 7/29/2010 12:15AM

    Realizing that is the first step on this journey.... remember - you are loved by God just as your are... doesn't mean He will stop there though... He has wonderful plans for you... For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:10-12

And he will give you your heart's deepish wishes... Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:3-5

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DEBRITA01 7/29/2010 12:07AM

    Great blog....the time to start living your life is now, not 5 or 10 pounds from now! Thanks for sharing...and the photo is absolutely gorgeous!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/28/2010 11:00PM

    Very interesting, and oh, so true. We do somehow manage to believe the "if onlys". If only I lost weight. If only I had a better hairstyle. If only I were younger (or older). If only, if only, if only. And all the while time marches on and we miss our own lives.

Thanks for this blog. It hit home with me, and I realize that I'm "banking" on everything being just wonderful once I lose the weight. But I'll still have the same issues and annoyances and I'll still be me. So along with diet and exercise, I guess it IS time for me to start working on other areas in my life too.

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 7/28/2010 10:39PM

    Everything you said is right spot on. It took me years to realize this and now there is a lot less heartache when I don't expect too much of myself or others. It may sound stupid, but it works for me NOT to have any expectations.

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Hike up Mount Pinacle

Monday, July 26, 2010

Today, my sister and I hiked up Mount Pinacle, in Barnston. What a great way to spend the first day of my vacation! This is the type of hiking I’ve been longing to get back to. The weather was ideal, with low humidity and windy enough to keep the bugs away. The 8 km trail to the 2,182 foot summit of Mount Pinacle starts off with a pleasant hike through the woods, and then you start climbing up some pretty rugged terrain. It was challenging (at least for me)! I admit that I sometimes wondered how smart it was for two women our age to be attempting this hike. I sure did appreciate my hiking poles!

I was pleased to see that I wasn’t that tired when we reached the summit. In fact, I was surprised we’d already arrived. I’m getting fitter. I had climbed Mount Pinacle a couple years ago (photo on my Sparkpage), but I was completely exhausted by the time we got to the top.

My goal is to climb Mount Chauve this Fall, a mountain I've never succeeded in climbing all the way to the summit. Today was another step toward that goal.

The sheer rock face is well-suited to Peregrine Falcons & rock climbers.
(we did NOT climb up the rock face!) emoticon)

It was very, very windy at the summit!

We sure did appreciate our poles and trees to grab on to.

View from about 1/4 of the way back down.

Back down to the "easy hike" in the woods at the foot of the mount.

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JUST_TRI_IT 7/28/2010 9:17AM

    I love it when you take us on your trails up and down mountains. What a superb hike! Your views are stunning. I need to find this on the map now :)

What a lovely photo of you emoticon

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SHAPNUP 7/27/2010 8:15AM

    emoticon That's a great vacation! Beautiful scenery and a good physical challenge.
emoticon on your progress!

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NEXTYEAR 7/27/2010 7:33AM

    Fantastic pictures! You really rock! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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APRILLSCOTT 7/27/2010 3:19AM

    You have done so good at hiking even the rugged terrain didn't stop you! You are making all kinds of progress and it is wonderful! These pictures are beautiful, as the scenery always is magnificent! Thanks for sharing and I loved the picture of you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BAGGYPANTS5 7/27/2010 2:30AM

    Well done. It's good to know that you're progressing in the fitness department. Love the pics.

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ANDI571 7/26/2010 11:19PM

    You are doing so good at progressing on your hikes. My walking has taken a hit with this heat, and I am afraid I will lose the progress I have made.

It was gorgeous today, low humidity, and we got busy and didn't walk. That wasn't good.

I love your pictures, keep them coming.

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THE_BUNNYO 7/26/2010 9:44PM

    Amazing there girl - you are so inspirational!! :)

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DEBRITA01 7/26/2010 9:11PM

    What a feat...amazing! You inspire me to challenge myself although I don't think I'm ready to hike up any mountains anytime soon.

You are getting stronger and building your endurance. Your pride and satisfaction shows in your gorgeous smile...I like that photo, it says a lot.

Good luck as you face your next challenge...each step is getting you closer!

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MARENAMOO 7/26/2010 8:42PM

    I love not only the pictures of your beautiful scenery but also how each time you make a little more progress. It is just lovely to see your strength, endurance and stamina increasing. I am glad that the conditions were good there - we just had a break in the weather after so long and it is gorgeous.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/26/2010 8:03PM

    You simply amaze me. Congratulations on the climbing and good luck in getting ready for the next big adventure!

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This afternoon's walk

Sunday, July 25, 2010

There were dark clouds in the sky and a lovely, cool breeze when I headed out for my walk at the local park this afternoon. I tried to call my sister, but couldn't reach her so I went all by my lonesome. emoticon

As I was walking on the regular path, I saw a trail heading out into the woods to my right. It NEEDED to be explored! emoticon I thought that it would be a really short trail that led nowhere, but I followed that trail for about 1/2 hour and still hadn't reached the end of it. By then, though, I was getting more and more concerned by the fact that I was walking completely alone. I was starting to be afraid to get lost, or worse. So I headed back to "safety". But you can bet my sister and I will be exploring that trail together soon!

This photo was taken when I visited my son and his fiancee on the West Coast in 2007.
It's the first time I can wear those shorts again. emoticon

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JUST_TRI_IT 7/28/2010 9:15AM

    Good for you on taking that walk! (and those shorts.. woohoo!) I know that feeling of not being sure how far to walk on a path alone. Trust your gut on that one.

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ACROSONIC 7/26/2010 12:19PM

    Hope you'll post when you manage the whole trail! You're right to be careful. I know here, where we have a high crime rate, those trails are often used by teens up to no good. Take a friend and a cell phone!

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BAGGYPANTS5 7/26/2010 3:22AM

    I don't understand why it's so dangerous to walk alone. I do it all the time here except for the dog. What are the dangers?
Well done on the shorts. You need more sun on those legs!

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 7/26/2010 3:13AM

    Good for you and I must say, the legs are not looking bad either! I think I could do shorts if they stretched my legs on some kind of strange machine. I buy shorts all the time but I am so short that they look like culottes on me.

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DEBRITA01 7/25/2010 8:48PM

    You were wise to turn back and wait for your walking buddy before exploring new territory. Let us know how it turns out once you do...

Look at you...fitting into your shorts again! Way to go~
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NEXTYEAR 7/25/2010 7:56PM

    Glad you made it back safely! WooHoo for getting back into those skinnier day shorts! Summer is great for losing inches. Have a lot of fun finding the end of the trail.

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HOPERISING 7/25/2010 7:11PM

    Woohoo on exploring new trails! Sounds so fun!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/25/2010 7:06PM

    The walk sounds very nice. But fitting into those shorts again sounds even nicer! Good job!

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LJCANNON 7/25/2010 6:40PM

    All those walks have put you back in those shorts!! I bet you look awesome, and feel even better. And, like Marenamoo said it is good to have the motivation AND endurance to explore new Paths.

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IAMANDARAMA 7/25/2010 6:00PM

    Take care out there - especially when you're on your own. Get your sis phoned, so you can explore together soon and make sure you take mobiles etc I wonder why you hadn't seen the track before. Curiouser and curiouser.


Congrats on the shorts too

x x

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MARENAMOO 7/25/2010 5:42PM

    What does Robert Frost say - "The Road not Taken". You have your path partly taken. You need to explore it further and see what it has to tell you.

I am so proud that you went out on your own and enjoyed a walk - way to go. And doesn't just feel good to be motivated to walk, to explore new paths, to have the endurance to do both - and, and - wear shorts that you haven't worn in 3 years. It is happening - it is really happening! Woohoo!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 7/25/2010 5:18PM

    Woo-hoo on wearing the shorts again! And I hope you get a companion to finish your exploration... sounds like fun.

emoticon Who knows, the moon might be down that way! emoticon

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Why I gained the weight back

Sunday, July 18, 2010

In 2004, I reached an all-time high weight of 243 lbs. I felt awful and not surprisingly developped diabetes and high-blood pressure. I decided to make a priority of my health and went on a diet. I lost 64 pounds during the following year. I felt so much better at 179 lbs! But then the scale stopped moving and I got discouraged. Over the next two years, I put a lot of the weight back on. I weighed 216,5 lbs. when I had a heart attack on January 30th 2010.

When I had started regaining the weight, and after a severe scolding from my doctor, I sat down to analyze what was happening. I'd like to share my reflection with you. Unfortunately, I did not get my act together again at that time. Knowing is not enough, we have to ACT on what we know!

Notes from August 11th, 2006:

"Since I’ve started gaining weight again, I found that I needed to step back and reflect on what I've been doing wrong.

1- I've stopped planning and stocking my frig with cut-up veggies and fruits. When I come home from work tired, stressed and hungry, I tend to reach for what's readily available. If there are salad greens and prepared veggies in the frig, I'll reach for those, otherwise I'll reach for whatever is there.

2- I spent 2 weeks away from home during my vacation, so I bought lots of prepared foods. I also bought desserts I normally would not buy. Since sugar is addictive, I've begun to crave sweets and eating more and more of them. When I don't eat any, I hardly miss them, but when I do, I tend to eat too much.

3- Self deception: Sometimes I don't buy prepared salad greens because they cost too much. Then I'll buy a dessert that costs even more than the greens.

4- I've stopped wearing my pedometer. I know it's all in my head, but when I don't wear my pedometer, I walk a lot less. I know it's stupid, but it's almost as if the steps don't 'count'.

5-Careless choices, like buying the regular, hi-cal, hi-fat version of a product rather than the lo-cal, lo-fat option.

Sometimes I feel like a juggler trying to keep a dozen plates spinning on the end of sticks, running from one to the other to keep the plates spinning so they won't fall off. I feel that my weight-control issue is like one of those plates. Sometimes it's hard to give it the attention it needs. That's why adequate preparation and having the right foods readily available is VITAL to achieving success. Now, where have I heard THAT before?"

Photo taken on vacation with my son in 2007. I weighed 179 lbs.
Today, I weigh 180,5 lbs. I am determined that this time, I'm going to maintain the loss.

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SUSIEMILO 7/30/2010 9:52AM

    Excellent blog.
You're a VERY pretty woman.
I'm proud of you for sticking to your mission now, and your success. Stay strong - you're doing great!

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CHRISTURTLE 7/21/2010 6:53PM

    Your blog really gave me food for thought. I've spent the last 10 minutes thinking about my self-sabotaging habits. Not too bad in the food area, although I constantly promise myself I'm going to plan my meals a week ahead then find myself just entering on my chart what it is I've just eaten or am about to eat. Not good enough I know, and I waste such a lot of time trying to juggle the minor components of my dinner to fit into my allowances. Has to change.
Exercise is the thing I have my greatest problems with. I've never been one to rush into exercise but for the most part when I do a little exercise I feel great afterwards and promise myself it will become a regular thing in my days. Never happens really.
I'm thinking that because when I was forced to give up work because of severe arthritis in my knees and needed to go through a series of examinations, referrals and interviews to be granted my disability support pension I am all too fast to use that as an excuse for not exercising. Sure there are days when the pain has been too severe to do anything but the bare essentials (getting out of bed, showering, feeding the animals, feeding myself, then lying on the couch...) but most days I find myself thinking 'nah, it will only hurt afterwards' when in reality I know I always feel better and generally my knees are less painful and stiff.
Thanks to reading this wonderful blog of your's I have come to realise these things I'd not even been aware of, and now when I find myself feeling that way I am going to give myself a good talking to. Soon as I finish my first mug of tea for the day I am going to get on my cardio twister for 15 minutes, then after lunch I will walk to the nursing home to see dad, take the dogs for their usual walk after I return home and try to fit in another 2 15 minute cardio twister sessions in before bed.
Great work, thank you! I'm sure I'm not the only person who will read this blog and take a good hard look at their own self defeating thoughts.

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BUGGYS 7/19/2010 2:00PM

    I am so glad you are okay after your heart attack and that with everything that SP has taught you, you have forged ahead and regained your sense of self and purpose. Heart disease is in my family and I want to live a healthy lifestyle so I don't have a heart attack! You are on the road to true recovery and we are all right there with you!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/19/2010 1:02PM

    Thanks for sharing your very honest thoughts with us. Very insightful. And you're right. Knowing is not enough -- we have to ACT on what we know. So glad you figured it out and are happy with your weight. I have a feeling you'll be very successful in maintaining it.

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ANDI571 7/19/2010 11:50AM

    I am so glad that you are back on track. I hate to know you had a heart attack to regain your knowledge of what needed to be done.

I think of you often, and it helps keep me on track. I don't want to become a statistic on another woman having a heart attack because of not taking care of herself.

I am so proud of your accomplishments in such a short time. emoticon

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PENNYAN45 7/19/2010 10:20AM

    What a good idea to read what your wrote back then! It gives you valuable insights into what you should do to prevent it from happening again.

Your writing has been a good reminder for all of us. Preparing ahead - and feeling accountable makes all the difference.

This time will be different for you!


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NEXTYEAR 7/19/2010 9:48AM

    I'm so glad you found the tools you need to make reaching your goals possible. Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 7/19/2010 7:37AM

    Some of those points could be applied to my story as well. We know what to do. Acting on it, remaining motivated is the key. What I'll probably never figure out is why it takes such huge warning signals to push some of us back onto the program.

I'm with you... let's encourage one another to stay the course... it's not just length of life we're talking here, it's also quality of life. And we're worth it!

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BAGGYPANTS5 7/19/2010 3:12AM

    It's interesting to look back at what we wrote a while ago, and good to be able to learn from it. I was the same weight in 2007 too, and I'm determined not to yo-yo up again this time.

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/19/2010 12:41AM

    Good points there! Thank you and I hope you will coninue to succeed!

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HOPERISING 7/18/2010 9:32PM

    i'm glad you took the time to reflect on the "why"... i know that staying self-aware will help keep you on the narrow path!

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JUST_TRI_IT 7/18/2010 9:04PM

    Man oh man.. the preparation does make a huge difference, doesn't it! A heart attack just this year? OH my. I am glad you are determined this time to keep of the weight.... and keep up all your walking!

Glad you are here with us!!

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THE_BUNNYO 7/18/2010 8:35PM

    Nice to see you have put time and effort into thinking about all this.... true failure isn't falling - it is failing to get back up...
Insanity - doing the same thing again and expecting different results... if we want to change our weight - we have to change our planning...

Great attitude!!!

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You may have noticed I've gained over 30 lbs.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Some wonderful SparkFriends have been leaving encouraging messages on my page, congratulating me on a 60 or 70 lb. weight loss. I wish! emoticon I've lost 33,5 lbs. since I started SparkPeople at the beginning of March 2010. When my SparkPage was in "set-up" mode, I could clearly see 33,5 lbs. lost. But when my SparkPage was in "normal" mode, where everyone can see it, it was written 33,5 kilos. I asked how to fix it on the technical message board. I've now corrected the information, but by doing so, I "gained" over 30 lbs. emoticon

I'm very pleased with the 33,5 lb. loss. Of course, I'd like it to be more, but what's most important to me is keeping it off. I'm trying to develop habits that I hope will enable me to do just that.

I miss hiking! emoticon But the deerfly are so bad right now. They don't just sting, they bite. We don't usually have them until August, but because of the extra hot Summer, they're already out and biting. We've chosen to stay out of the woods for now. But I did go for a walk after supper, and got in a total of over 12,500 steps today. emoticon

At the Saint-Catherine bog in late June

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ANDI571 7/17/2010 6:54PM

    You have lost 134 sticks of butter. Not bad my dear. Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon

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APRILLSCOTT 7/17/2010 6:50PM

I hate that you can not get out and hike! I hate even more those biting bugs that you have! Please take cover and take care! I want to thank you for the peppers goodie. I am sorry it took me so long to get by! Busy is not the word!!!

I got my electric bill this month and it made my mouth drop it was $263.00 the highest it has ever been! I still feel blessed as others are having to pay even higher ones from $300-$400! But you know what it was worth every air conditioned penny! emoticon

So I know what you mean about the weather change! emoticon emoticon

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NEXTYEAR 7/17/2010 3:26PM

    Beautiful Bog Walk.

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ONEKIDSMOM 7/17/2010 8:35AM

    33.5 is nothing to sneeze at! You're doing great. Have you tried Avon's Skin So Soft? Does it do anything for the deer flies? I sent tree tubes to my son in Iraq and he says it does the job on the sand flies there!

emoticon emoticon Besides, don't turtles eat flies?

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HOPERISING 7/17/2010 8:26AM

    Boooooo deerflies! They are such nastly little buggers. I hate the way they buzz around, they are so persistant, and they have this way of getting stuck in my hair that makes me insane. And their bites are SO painful! But they make these fly-jackets and hoods... something you might want to consider if you want to keep hiking during fly-season. I have never gotten the jacket part, just the hood to wear over a baseball hat. I know I look goofy, but it works!

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MARENAMOO 7/17/2010 7:27AM


Trust me - the lifelong habits that you are building are the basis of a future of health. It is so much better focusing on how to be healthy than how to lose fast. The weight will come off in its own time but the skills and habits will last forever. Now you need to find some sort of alternative exercise. Everyone loves the Leslie Sansone DVD's. I am sure you can find some used inexpensive ones on Ebay or amazon. Even youtube has snippets of some if you want to try them out.

Of course the rest of us have to wait awhile for your beautiful pictures of your hikes. But you can be doing in home training for your return to the trails.

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FITKAT2010 7/17/2010 5:35AM

    Find alternative methods of continuing your exercise. Have you tried indoor exercise DVDs? I'm an exclusive indoor exerciser and love it!

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BAGGYPANTS5 7/17/2010 3:34AM

    33 pounds is really good. Shame about the hiking. We don't get biting flies too much here. They are bad in Scotland in August.

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AHAPPYLIFE 7/17/2010 2:51AM

    33.5 # is totally awesome - Congratulations on your success. Remember slow and steady will keep you healthy!

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